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......no i dont have her #, im not one of those chic who likes ot talk on the phone..... (link)
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Okay, so talking to her is a non possiblity. It does sound that you aren't on the fence though. It's just a matter of you being comfortable with your feelings then. It sounds that at some point in your life that you want to feel another woman's touch. There is this one survey/poll site I've been on where people answer real questions. It isn't like "what sort of vegetable are you?" But some of deals with relationship and sexual thoughts and practices. Off the top of my head, about 50 percent of girls have had a sexual experience with a girl and I think it was around 75 percent fantasize about other girls. Believe me, you aren't the only girl thinking what you think. Some of your straight girl friends are thinking the same thing. Nobody wants to ever be the first person to say things or to admit. Your top priority right now is to be true to you. You do seem that you have accepted what you feel. You aren't thinking improperly. It's not like you are trying to feel what you feel. From a few specials I've seen on tv, I'll give you the nuts and bolts reason why you do feel what you feel. All people are the same gender when conceived. That's why guys have nipples. Basically, we all get two messages. The first says "okay, this child will be a girl or boy". That comes from the chromosones. The second message comes from the mothers hormones. The mix of testosterone and estrogen sort of determines our makeup as far as self image and attraction. People that want to be the opposite gender are thought to have a strange level of testosterone at a pivotal point of development. All I mean is this. It wasn't your choice. It is who you are. When it comes to God, and believe me, I believe in God, sins are about a matter of having free will and doing the wrong thing. In your case, did you really have a choice? I say no. I think this is who you are meant to be. You were given these thoughts and feelings. Maybe this is actually a blessing. Maybe you were given the chance to have joy in things others cannot have it in. Sexuality in the US is very behind in the times. In the 1800's, we went thru the victorian times and basically what happened is a bunch of stodgy white guys got together and made up all of these proper repressive rules. Homosexuality, lesbianism and being promiscious was not so highly frowned upon. It was common practice to go to brothel prior to this time. People are repressed here. Some of those thoughts back then still exist. It's not quite the same in other countries. I know your worries about God. Your relationship with God is personal. I cannot tell you what is wanted and nobody else can including family or friends. But I know this much, nobody knows you better than God. God knows if you have faith and God knows how much love you have. There are things in the Bible about male homosexuality but nothing about females. I learned that from a show on the history channel. But even with all of that, I don't know if it is that we aren't supposed to have any same sex moments or if it is meant that we should have someone we can have children with. It's possible maybe that we should be able to have kids. I don't know if you can hide what you think. If I like a girl I feel like everyone knows. Then when I ask them out or tell them , they had no clue. So, if you are like me, you are probably paranoid. People don't pay that much attention. The very worst is people may think you are touchy feely for now.
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i really wish some of your hepful info would have come a bit sooner or any other of the advice ?s i asked to other people cuz my friend, the bi one moved. i feel desserted left alone as if ive been shut out of society with the normal people, even though nobody knows, yet. while she was here i started to let myself become more open to my feelings, cuz i figured i would tell her sometime , or maybe she would just have figured it out, but she didnt. no im stuck without her and i cant push these feelings dwon anymore, they keep risin to the surface. to answer some of your questions when i think of girls its like when a guy thinks about them....its the way they walk they way they wear there clothes how they show off their skin, and the way the girls smell; sweet, adn beautiful, sometimes when me and my friends sit together i have to fight for control not to reach out to someone adn not kiss and feel up them..... i go to church and they say this is wrong but i dont see how i can control my emotions because ive had these feels for girls since i started to like people: guys and girls! is there anyhting i can do to make these specific feels become more subtle, when i was homeschooled it was easier but now that im in public skool im around girls all the time adn the halls are so crowded everyones touchin everyonelse adn......ugh....... its just sooooooo hard! (link)
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do u have the bi friends number or anything? how far away is she now? i copied the rest of your emailto answer it more fully when u answer
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In movies, when they have sex scenes, do the actors/actresses actually have sex with eachother? and do they use a condom or anything when doing it? How does that work? (link)
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Generally speaking they do not have sex. They will either work truly nude or they will wear crotch patches. There are several movies where there was allegedly sex or sex acts. The rumor was it was just easier to shoot it with them doing it. They are mostly a little older but the ones I know of are "Angel Heart", "Wild Orchids", and "Jade". There was sort of an independant movie a couple of years ago called "Brown Bunny" with Chloe Sevigny it it where she performs oral sex on a guy. But as a rule, in movies they normally don't actually engage in sex.
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im the kinda girl that has alot of friends but no real best friend.
and ive always been against preps & cheerleaders
but my school very small 300 people
we have only 2 cheerleaders and i was thinking of joining as long as i dont change who i am.
do you think me becomming a cheerleader will change me so that my friends & boyfriend wont like me anymore. (link)
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There is nothing wrong with cheerleading. Yes, sometimes the people that are cheerleaders are irritating. You will find though that just as often they are great people. If you think that you would like it, then by all means give it a shot. When I was in school, I played football. To people that didn't know me, I didn't fit the mold of someone that would be involved in sports. It was one of the best experiences of my life. I made friends and really I earned a lot of respect. It made me a better person and it did teach me much about life. You don't have to change who you are if you don't want to. You may change a little though. For me, I had a little more purpose with my day. I felt like I was giving a little bit of myself to my school and teammates. The sacrifice is very rewarding to be honest. The other cheerleaders may rub off on you a little bit and you may pick up new sayings. You may have your own inside jokes and such. In this way, you will change. Change is not always bad. It is good to be around new people or new types of people. Even if it is a negative experience, you will learn a bit about yourself. Your friends are probably not very school spirited so you may be questioned of your decision. I think they would come around though. Your boyfriend may get jealous of the time you put in also. If this is something you have wondered about, you should try it. You can always do it awhile and walk away from it. This is your life. Don't miss out on something you want to do because of friends or a boyfriend. The worst thing that could happen is it isn't for you. It is enough of an interest for you to wonder. I say you do it. It is nice to walk away from school and know you were part of something. You can either be living life or watching it go by. If you have the drive, by all means live it.
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It is bad to like my boss? He is 7 years older than me but i don't act my age, i act more his age. He has a girlfriend so nothing would ever happen but i still like him. Does that make me wrong?
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Don't worry about that at all. What you are going through is very normal. Age doesn't always make a difference with attraction or with connections. You can't help who you like. You don't seem to like you truly want anything to happen here. Just enjoy the company and have fun when around him. There is nothing wrong here.
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okay so i really need help.
i really like this guy.
weve been friends since the beginning of Freshmen year.
but over the past couple of months ive started to see him as more than a friend. well i talked to a couple of my close friends about what to do. They told me to tell him, all he could do was say no. that he didnt see me as nothing but a friend. sooo i told him this past friday night. i typed 4 paragraphs about how great he was, how he deserved better than someone he was talking to that screwed him over, big time, and telling him that i really liked him. well all i got in return was "your so fn sweet and cool" then today when i walk into 5th he grabs me and gives me this huge hug, then i go sit down to do my bell ringer and he comes by me and starts hitting a bunch of keys. (He sits infront of me, in keyboarding) after that he messes my hair up. then he leaves to go donate blood 15 mins after 5th started and he stairs at me the whole time hes walking to the door/out it.
soo yeahh does this mean he likes me as more than a friend??...wouldnt he have told me??....am i not good enough for him???...why hasnt he told me anything, whyd he leave me hangin and then today do all that?...should i ask him if he likes me as more than a friend?? or just wait and see??
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I think he likes you. Was he touchy feely with you before your paragraphs? A guy touching a girl is normally a sign of attraction. The hugs and the hair touching sound like more than friendly gestures. It's a little bit hard to tell of course. Look for signs like him always making a point in saying "goodbye" to you. If he shows at places where he knows you will be or always seeming to be leaving the room at the same moment as you. Things like this show an interest.
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So about 3 weeks ago i met a guy through a friend and i guess we both liked eachother from the first time we saw eachother... so 2 weeks ago i went to a club and saw him there but nothing really happened between us all we did was speak he told me he liked me and wanted to get to know me.. alhtough i did want to go further i really liked the guy and decided to wait. Last friday however we all went out .. a group of us to a club (him included) and everyone could tell something was going to happen that night between us even i did.. . So anyway that night we made out basicaly the whole night and although he went out with his friends he was always keepin on eye on me and making sure i was ok. and reasuring me if it was ok for him to be with his friends. so at the end of the night we held hands and seemed like things progressed he took me home although it was out if his way and then we kissed more in his car. So its Tuesady today and i havent heard anything from him like he hasnt sent me any text messages or anything... so i really dont know where we stand... do u think he was playing with me? or that he is taking it easy.. or waiting for me to call?? should i be the one to iniciate things or will that look desperate? i only hope it wasnt a one night thing cause i like the guy!!
many thanks for taking the time to read :D (link)
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I think more than likely he was waiting to call. I think he probably didn't want to seem too eager. When you wrote this, you were already a little bit worried and excited he hasn't called yet. I think he hasn't called so you will be excited when he finally does.
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me and this guy have been hooking up since like feb now and the two of us like each other we decided that a relationship wasn't something either of us wanted so we kept to just hooking up.
Recently i found out that he done stuff with one of my close friends while going out with one of my best mates which really hurt and i got really annoyed about it and when i confronted them about it they lied. But a friend told me that they were lyin so i told them i knew they were lying and she said sorry but he fell out with me. He started saying stuff about how he can't trust me. now he has started talking to me and everythings okay but i still have very strong feelings for him but but so does my friend.
I don't no wether to back off or tell her i like him and let her decide what she wants me to do. I'm just soo confused because i don't know if he still likes me that way and when we talk about what happens he jst blanks it because he doesn't want to talk. But at a party a few nights ago he hardly spoke to me and when he left he came and gave me a kiss on the cheek which meant alot too me
sorry its long but lifes complicated right now lol (link)
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You don't back away, you run away. The guy said he can't trust you because you ruined his fun. You really weren't interested in a relationship with this guy until you found about about him being with your friends. It seems you are more interesting in "winning" than really having a relationship. If you didn't want the guy when he was all yours you shouldn't want him now. You really should walk away. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be friends with him. You just need to cut him off though. This really is a mess. You may lose a couple of friends and the guy. I think if you walk away if nothing else it gives you control of the situation. If he can hook up with you whenever he wants, why would he pursue you? He has what he wants. The guy has cheated on one of your friends. He just doesn't seem like much of a catch to be honest. Surely you can do better. I do apologize about my harshness. I mean no ill will. Being direct seemed to make the most sense. I hope I was of some help. :)
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I have been going out with him for about 3 months. I feel obligated to him. I feel that I can't leave him, but I want to. I see him at school, so that would be weird. He makes me so so mad, then so happy. I just want to not do this anymore. He is not confident in himself, so he uses me as a feel-good agent in his life. I don't want to do that. It's so draining and I don't have time and energy to do that!
How can I break-up with him so his feelings are not too hurt?
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What I would do is this. I'd just tell him that you can't go around propping him up. He has to do that himself. He has to be the one to find confidence. It is too draining on you and sadly it makes you resent him. Tell him that you know most guys need a pat on the back sometime but you have given far more than what you feel is necessary. I think if you are honest here, it gives him that chance to fix this before you hate him. More than likely, you will break up with him shortly anyhow. But it gives him a chance and gives you a clear conscience. If he doesn't adjust, you just tell him that what he needs and what you can give aren'te the same. I think it's honest. I think it does give him a last chance. I also think it gives you a guilt free way out.
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So, as you might predict, i like a boy.
And we flirt nonstop, and are both ridiculously attracted to each other. Thing is though, the way we flirt is a blatantly sexual--- though kind of joking--- way. Like, we're all over each other, but we laugh about it. We haven't kissed or anything, though we've gotten close to it. My worry is that he just wants to hook up or whatever, when I'm thinking more along the lines of seriously dating him. This guy is king of mixed messages, and I'm having trouble telling whether he thinks of me only in a sexual way, or as a potential girlfriend.
How do I make him think of me as a prospective gf? And how do I tell what he's thinking about me, short of reading his mind?
Answers from guys would be great, but all are appreciated.
(because advicenators told me i should: i'm 16 and a sophomore in high school) (link)
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When he brings up the sexual stuff, just change the subject. See if he will actually talk and not just go back to sex talk. If he gets frustrated then that is all he wants. You can't tell if a guy wants a relationship. You can tell if he only wants sex sometimes. If you keep changing the subject on him and he tells you all of a sudden that he has something to do, well he is just a horndog. Maybe you should talk to other guys in front of him. If he cares, then he probably is actually interested. Let's say there are other guys around, does he sort of block them off so he is closest to you? Things like this are signs of interest. It is hard to tell a guy's intentions. If you are unsure, assume all they want is sex. That is more often the case after all.
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im 16/f. i've been really lonely, and single, for a long time now, and since i'm too shy too go up to guys, i've decided to finally take action, while taking another approach. i recently created an account on espinthebottle.com, but i've been debating on wether or not i should post pictures. since my teachers are young and most of them go on dating sites, i'm scared that they, or anyone else that lives nearby who might know me, will by some chance come across me. i'd be humiliated. will anyone else who has an account, or any expertise at all on the site give me some advice [i have other questions about it]. thanXx in advance. (link)
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Online sites like that really aren't looked down upon by younger people. If you are worried about it being a dating site, there are lots of other social sites out there that are listed more as networking sites than dating ones. Almost all such sites, are more often used as daitng type sites anyhow. I would give this tip though. Do not put up things like "Are there any honest guys left?". Any headlines that make you come across as if you are jaded, will scare both good and bad guys away. You are lonely and new to the dating sites. Be careful, when new to it, it is very very easy to believe someone is perfect. Talk to lots of different guys and try to not focus on one right away. It will let you know that alot sound very good at first. I think it will also help you to not fall for the first nice guy that comes along. Newbies fall in love very easily. But these sites are a wonderful way to make some great friends. It helps with confidence and also helps develop some social skills. Don't worry about teachers seeing you on. They wouldn't think any more about that than if they saw you at the mall.
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i like tihs guy, and i think im totally his type, we're friends , but hes kinda obsessed in getting his exgirlfriend back :S eventhough shes already dating other people ..but stills dates him!!! =S and everytime i told him about this like its not worth it its like shes kissing other guys and the next day she wants you to be there for her and he gets kinda unconfortable and avoids talking about this ...how do you convince someone to get over someone else :S but not that direct cause everytime i talk aboyut that ( i dont do it usually just like 2 times i've done that ) he gets unconfortable and stop talking for a while... i want him to move on, but i dont want to push him away with any comments :S (link)
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The guy is clinging to the ex in an unrealistic way. Sadly, it happens alot. If he will sit back and be okay with her kissing other guys, then he will allow almost anything. The best way for him to get over the girl is to find another. Luckily, you are there and wanting him. Your problem right now is just getting through to him. Honestly, I don't think words are going to do it. I know girls like to sit back and let guys make the moves and I generally wouldn't suggest leaving your comfort zone. I think what you should do is just get him alone and at some point lean in and just kiss him. I don't mean a little kiss. I mean a real one. A kiss so that he knows somebody has passion for him and that somebody is you. That would leave little question what you think of him. He will either kiss back or not. If he does, I think you have him and nothing more needs said lol. If he does not, he may stop and say something like "Why did you just kiss me?". You have that moment to say something like "I've wanted that and you for far too long and you just wouldn't open your eyes to see me here in front of you." If this guy is your friend, he surely has thought of this. Almost all guys desire their female friends to some extent. I honestly think it will open his eyes. I think at the very least it will give him lots to think about. I also think that when he knows how much you feel for him, he will realize how much more you want him than his ex.
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The very worst that can happen is he would say "let's just be friends". the worst is you stay where you are right now.
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Hi, I'm David, I'm 20 and I'm from Australia. My boyfriend is 19.
I have been in a long term relationship with my partner for about 15 months now, and everything was going well. We were living between my place and his, spending about half the week at his place, and the end of the week/weekend with my parents at my place. We were together every day, slept together every night, talked via email or txt messages while we were at work or apart.
We've gone through a few things recently: Uni struggles/exams, I lost my job, he started working full time at a demanding summer job, I went overseas.. For a few weeks, since about the time he started his new job, he'd been a bit distant and not wanting to have sex. I asked several times if everything was OK, and he said it was, so I assumed he was just really tired from juggling uni stress, training as an elite athlete, two jobs and our relationship. I went overseas for about 10 days, and when I came back I could tell he was unhappy, he wasn't his usual bright self.
Over the weekend just gone, we were house sitting at his sister's place, and I asked him what was wrong and I kept asking because I said I wanted to know so I could help. He shed a few tears and told me that he didn't think he loved me anymore.
I got out of him that he doesn't think he loves me anymore, he doesn't love me the way he used to. He thinks the spark is gone, though he still cares about me.
On Monday we told my Mum, and she talked to both of us. He doesn't think working on it will help, but he's not sure. So we decided we'd break up and take a break. We moved all our stuff back to our own places. We had tickets to a concert Tuesday night, and we still went. The friend we went with said it was odd, because we were still symbiotic, and it didn't seem like anything was wrong, we were still talking and laughing and everything as usual, just we both looked a little sad.
He told me Tuesday night he had a little more hope we could work this out, but he said I shouldn't get my hopes up because he didn't want to break my heart again.
So my question is, will this break work? He says he still cares about me, but he's not sure he loves me. Will giving him time and space let him realise that he mightn't feel the same way about me as he used to because his love for me has changed, not gone away? (link)
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It sounds like your honeymoon so to speak is over. This will happen with all couples. There just gets a point where there isn't anything to talk about. I cannot say if it can be worked out. You two need to know how the spark is gone exactly. If it is sexual, that can be remedied to some extent. Also, it seems you two spent A LOT of time talking when you were apart. You need to have something to talk about when together. If you both have already shared that information, it is just going to be difficult to find new topics when together. You both know each other inside and out right now. There have to be things that neither of you has ever shared that could provide some spark. Let's say that you always wanted to try some extreme sport or maybe one of you has some kinky fantasy. There may be left to this that can excite one another. There may be a side to you that you have hidden from your bf. There may be a side he has hidden. I have heard from girls that sometimes they like one night stands because they can try things and they won't be judged for it. Perhaps you two love one another so much that you have hidden sides of yourselves. This doesn't just mean sexually. There is more than sex obviously. Maybe you two could do something silly, like maybe go to a store and play practical jokes on strangers. It sounds silly, but crazy little things like that could be refreshing. You asked if a little bit of space could work. Of course it could help. If you previously spent 7 days a week with one another, maybe each of you needs a night out. This would give you time away but also would give you plenty of time together. There is no guarantee that you two can become what you were. If he is willing to try, then there is hope. Maybe he just had second thoughts about things. His being distant is a bad sign though. Personally, every time I have been told I am distant, I had lost interest in who I was with. I think you do need to shock him a bit. I think that could go a long way. You seem to still have your bond. You seem to still have the ability to communicate. I think you still have all of the friend type aspects. I think he needs to remember just how exciting you can be. It may need to be more exciting than he has known to get his attention.
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Ok, so my name is Mandy and my boyfriend is Evan (not our real names). We've been going out for two years, so everyone knows we're like the "class sweethearts". But anyway...
Today in science I was flipping though my book (which stays in the desk and is used by whoever sits there each period), and on one page someone had written: "I love Evan Smith - and I'm not Mandy!" And then someone else wrote below it: "Me too! And I'm not Mandy either!"
Arggh! It made me soooo mad! So I wrote: "I love him too! and I AM Mandy!" (but then i crossed it out because I thought that sounded kinda rude, like haha I'm going out with him and you're not).
But anyway, I cant stop thinking about it. I mean, I know a lot of girls think my bf is cute and funny, and some probably have crushes on him... but they actually LOVE him?? Enough to write it in a book for anyone to see?? And what are the odds of it being two people who sit in the same seat (and MY seat, at that)? That must mean half the school is in love with him!
Now I know he really loves me, so I shouldn't let this bother me so much... but it really does. Because now I'm thinking that everyone I pass in the hall is secretly in love with my boyfriend, and behind their fake smile they're really glaring at me with jealousy. And I hate feeling so paranoid and suspicious! Ugghh.. what can I do to stop feeling so upset about this?
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I agree with the previous person. What are the odds that you just happen to use a book that 2 people scribbled into? It was there for you to see. It may have been meant as a joke. It may have been meant to be cruel. Whenever you have a great boyfriend, there will be other girls that like him. Sometimes, it may secretly be your best friends. All you can do is hope you are the one your bf loves. If you have that, you truly have it all. There are alot of petty people out there. Should you ever be single again, you may be the one liking some girls bf. You'll probably act with more class because of your experience. If you are really worried about this, maybe you can get a hall pass to see who else sits in your seat. You could probably find out from the teacher as well. If you just used the excuse that someone is vandalising school property, they pull out the seating charts for other periods. This could just be a friend having some fun with you. It is twisted but sometimes jokes are. You are the one that has him. You just have to keep that in mind. They can write whatever they want, but he is yours.
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i went out with this girl and she broke up with me..after we broke up she said she stilled cared about me but didnt want a tilte....couple weeks later she now goes out with a nother boy...he doesnt treat her like i did and is mean to her most of the time and she told me that she doesnt want me to move on from her as a gf...i dont want to wait that long i think about her alot and i tell her that dont no what to do...does she still like me?? (link)
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She probably lost interest because you were too nice. She probably likes the mean guy because he is a challenge. I wouldn't be trying to wait until they break up. What will happen is she will get treated like crap and it will end. She will be sad and come to you as a friend and then find another guy. Your best bet is to not show that you care. Be too busy for her. When she calls or says hi, be funny and everything and then say you have to go. You don't want to give in to any requests of hers. Make her work for your attention and your affection. Don't be mean. Just act like you are over her and you have found greener pastures. You are currently taking the wrong approach. If she wanted you, you would be together. Stop it. lol If you have female friends, make sure she sees you with them. If you have to, talk to other girls in front of her and ignore her. You want her to think she is easy to get over. Also it wll make you seem wanted. If you can, have lunch with girls. The prettier the better. You may even meet someone better in the process. There is a theory on dating and attraction called "the ladder theory". Look it up, it will give you lots of insight on how to interact with girls.
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i got my boyfriend a guitar for christmas
and i wanted to get a guitar pick customized cus i think thats..awesome :D
any ideas where i can do so? (link)
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Most music stores are family owned mom and pop type places so it's difficult to get those at most music stores. That is what I would guess. If where you live there is a Guitar Center (national store), there may be a chance. Your best bet would be online. The best place I know would be Musicians Friend. They have an online site. They have LOTS and LOTS of stuff. I do want to warn you though, guitar picks get lost REALLY easily. So try to not get mad if he looses it. Heavier picks are also normally easier for beginners to use also.
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He said he got me back by acting like a jerk every time i pranked him! I mean thats smooth but i know i really hurt his feelings and he just doesnt want to admit it. But he seems to be fine. I mean how do i prove that hes not fine, he already went and asked another girl out and i didnt even think he was done with this one! She said no, but i mean one girl at a time, last time i talked to him, he wasnt even over this girl, he claimed he would "never love again" (link)
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well if he is gonna be that way, i'd no longer worry about his feelings lol
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Thanks for answering my question about putting distortion on my guitar, I checked to see the kind of amps I have so if you know anything about putting distortion on them let me know. :)
The fender guitar amp says frontman 15g on the back, and I also have a peavey rage 158. (link)
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i only know about the frontman. my friend has one. from what i recall the closest you can get is to fiddle with the gain. but that would be the closest you could get. i do suggest getting a pedal with it. there are distortion pedals coupled wiht other effects. this is good because straight distortion isn't normally as interresting as when joined by something else. i dont know anything about the peavey rage amp. i'll look online to see if i can find anything. if you wanted a rough idea what pedals cost check out either guitarcenter or musicians friend online. it will only give you an idea of what's out there and approximate cost.
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I recently got Diagnosed (sp?) with an std that I wont ever be able to get rid of. I was wondering if you guys new of any sites online where people can talk about these things.
Sense I found out I have felt completely hopeless and I just feel like giving up but I cant do that to my parents.
So it would be really helpfull if you guys could give me a couple sites..
Please and thanks
i rate high!
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I can only imagine you are going through shock right now. This is NOT the end of the world. While trying to help another person on here I had stumbled across a mind boggling stat. Of people in their twenties 11 percent of guys and between 25-30 percent of girls have herpes. Basically that means someone you work with has it or several people in every class you have will get it. That being said, you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with you. There is no major flaw with you no matter which std you have. You will get through this. I know you worry what people will think if they know. I've met a few people online that have admitted having one thing or another. I had never had anyone ever admit having an std before. What my thought was this "Wow, this person thought enough of me and my health to tell me." The God's honest truth is I had so much respect for them for letting me know. I never held it against them and truthfully I thought so much more of them as people and it actually made me more interested in them. I cannot say everyone else will feel the same but surely some will. I have enclosed a link which seems to be exactly what you are looking for. It is a free social site/community where people can get advice or help with stds.
I do not know how good it is but it seems well done
http://www.positivefriends.com/
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What are some tips that would help me to just walk up to a random guy and flirt with him?
I have a huge fear of being rejected, but I really want to feel at ease talking with random guys.
Would I ask for their number, give them mine, etc?
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Flirting and asking someone out are two different things. I will try to answer both for you. Don't look at things as attempting to flirt. It will just be easiest if you first worry about smiling and saying "hi" or "hello" to strange guys. Smiling is important. It puts people at ease. If you are comfortable with that then you are on your way. You should try to find a reason to be talking to these guys. You could pretend you need directions, you could like a guys shirt, you may notice he has an accent or anything. It's an excuse to be talking to them. If you need to use the same excuse everytime it's okay. It's the only time they will be aware of you doing it anyhow. If you can get into a conversation with them, make sure to ask them questions. What I mean is, asking questions shows interest. It also helps conversation flow a bit more. If you are comfortable with this, if they say something funny you would want to brush your hand against their arm. I don't mean some big touch. A "you're so funny" touch is all I mean. Guys really really notice when a girl touches them. Girls don't normally touch someone unless they are flirting or are very comfortable. You asked about asking for their number. Most girls will leave it to the guy to ask for a number. You can do it either way. Personally, if you are comfortable with it I'd say to ask for theirs. Someone has to take the chance. Why ask "what if"? I hope I was a little bit of help for you.
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