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Q: I have no job or car and it costs 15 dollars one way to go into the nearest town. Which means if it would cost 600$ a month to go to work. I'm trying to save up to move into the city so I can go to work without spending most of my paycheck. What can I do?
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It can be tough when you live in a rural environment. But, there are certainly things you can do to make some cash and save it up.
If you are computer savvy, you can sign up with a site like Fiverr.com or Google Helpouts and each money by doing little jobs or helping people learn a skill you can share with them.
Another option is to sell things you don't need or want anymore. You can sell stuff on Craigslist, Ebay or even through Amazon.com as a third-party seller.
Recycle old in cartridges. Sending these in to a company Like Ecycle can make you a few bucks.
See if your neighbors could use your help with any work around the house. Busy people who don't always have time for things and the elderly might be very appreciative of the services your can provide to help make their lives easier.
There are lots of things you can do, just invest a little time reaching the topic and find out for yourself.
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Q: (sorry for my english)
Hi i am 14 year old female. I weigh somewhere between 120 to 130 pounds and am 5'2 or 5'3. I want to lose weight badly as i am very self concious and i just hate how i look. I barely ever leave the house and i do not like jogging or anything but i can do exercise in the house. Im just not sure what exercises to do to help me lose weight fastest.
Im starting to eat healthy and cut down on sugar intake. I drink lots and lots of water aswell. I want to lose weight very badly im just not sure what exercises to do
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First off, I commend you on wanting to lose weight in the regard that is is a way to better your overall health. However, I also feel like there might be a little more to your self image issues.
While the tips I will be sharing below should help you to some degree in your weight loss journey, please be aware that sometimes it doesn't matter how a person loos or what kind of transformation they make, the self consciousness is on the inside.
It's not healthy to lose too quickly and if you do you are likely to put it back on. The key is to go at a reasonable, steady pace.
1. Drop sugary drinks from your diet, like soda and juices (once in a while is OK) and replace them with low calorie or calorie free options. Honestly, plain old water is the best. This alone will be very helpful.
2. Minimize the cars you eat and when you do eat them, tr to stick to darker carbs like wheat and whole gain breads.
3. Eat small meals with snacks in between, these should be high in protein to help increase metabolism.
4. Don't eat after say 8:30 or 9:00 p.m. At that point your metabolism has slowed for the day and you're just going to make things harder.
As far as exercises go, crunches, light weights and just simple things like taking the stairs instead of an elevator can be a big help.
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Q: I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
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Considering that I work with models in my photography ventures, I might have some insight that I hope will help.
Clearly the guy is a sleaze and and jerk. But that in and of itself has no impact in the legal system. However, you should very much have the law on your side.
While I don't know where you are located and the specific laws in your region, I can give you some general advice on the subject.
First off, you or the photographer (if there was one) who took the pictures own the copyright. This is even the case with him buying the pics from you. You only give up copyright through a specific contract. Therefore, to publish them on the Internet without your or the photographer's permission would be copyright infringement for which he can be sued.
In another note, blackmail itself is illegal in most places. That being the case you can probably contact the police. You can give them all the info you have on the guy. If you have his real name great, if not, usernames, phone number, email address and a record of your online correspondence may be very helpful.
Good luck.
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Q: I'm a 14 year old girl and I moved a few months ago. I've always been such a good girl. A quiet, rule following, sweet, helpful teacher's pet. Exactly what every mother wants out of her little girl. And that's how my reputation is at school is too, the nice girl, the smart girl, the goody two shoes. I'm described as "cute" or "adorable" never "pretty" or "hot". I once accidently dropped a weight on my foot in gym and I let the f word slip by accident and everyone turned and gasped. If it had been anyone else no one would've cared, but I was a good girl so it was a big thing. I hurt someone's feelings on accident once and I cried and apologized to her whole family because I felt so bad. But ever since I've moved, I've cared less. I feel like I don't want my squeaky clean image anymore. I want to be cool. And that's exactly what's happening: I'm getting snafu and sarcastic and distancing myself from my friends because I don't care anymore. But I don't really want this, I don't know what I want. I feel so conflicted. What do I do?????
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You are at a stage in your life in which children are moving toward adulthood and in the process are trying to really discover who they are as a person. Sure, some people have this experience later in life but it's pretty common for younger people in their teens and 20s.
I think that perhaps you consciously or unconsciously looked at moving as a chance to start over and possibly reinvent yourself. That's fine by the way, many people have those chapters in their lives, sometimes more than once.
It's also OK to have a bit of a rebellious side. But they key is, to use on of my favorite life philosophies, to keep everything in moderation.
Don't feel it is necessary to go from one extreme to the other. This can be a big problem emotionally, physically and mentally. Take for example Miley Cyrus who went from a clean cut girl to a wild woman with outrageous sexual conduct and substance abuse issues. Or Taylor Momsen, who went from the cute little girl in "The Grinch" to a wild and crazy lead singer of a Goth metal band.
Don't worry about what others thing, just be you. It may take you a little while to figure out just who that is but eventually you will come into your own and be the person you truly are.
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Q: Hi, I'm female, fifteen, and I've been in band for four years now. When I was younger, I used to be able to fall asleep to music, especially classical, but since I've gained a deeper understanding of what I'm hearing, I can't anymore. I'm tangled up in the sound, picking the music, chords, apart. It's an exciting thing for me. Lots of the time, I'll hear something that totally enthralls me, I get super excited. I tense up, clench and unclench my fists, and take in a really sharp breath, sometimes it's a sharp gasp. And I feel like I can Physically feel the music. It's the most amazing feeling ever. I started trying to figure out what it was and I think It's almost like sexual excitement, but without the "lusty" feeling. What is this and why do I experience this? And, would anyone know if it's normal to hear music you've never heard before in your dreams? Thanks in advance! :D
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While I'm not a musician I am an artist of sorts with a lot of friends who are musicians ranging from singers to drummers and guitarists.
I don't know if there is any technical term for what you seem to be experiencing but I can pretty confidently assure you that it's normal for anyone you has a deep passion for the arts, or anything else for that matter.
I'm sure at one point or another you've heard the term "renaissance." While it pertains to specific time periods in history as they pertain to art and literature, another definition is - "any similar revival in the world of art and learning." So in a way, you're kind of having your own personal renaissance. Pretty cool huh.
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Q: So, my current laptop is basically dead, and we think there's really nothing we can do, so now I am looking for a new one.
I will be using this laptop mostly for school (reports, online resources, etc.), e-mail, web browsing, and gaming (Yeah, I'm sort of a nerd so I would like it to be a good computer for gaming). I might also want to have a 2-in-1 laptop and tablet.
My budget is about $250-$400, so any suggestions in that price range?
I would also like to know if anyone has had experience with intel Pentium? I have found some 2-in-1 laptop/tablets I like for $350, but my brother says intel Pentium isn't any good. Any thoughts? The brand is HP, is that a good brand?
Thanks for reading, any suggestions?
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For basic needs and even some gaming, I think there are quite a few options out there in your price range.
First off, if you are willing to take a refurbished or used model, you're going to have a lot more options. If not, you will still find some but just not as much variety.
As far as HP goes, in my personal experience with a number of HP products, they tend to be cheap for a reason. I would probably try to avoid them.
I've also recently used some Lenovo products and I would stay way from those as well.
I have a Toshiba and as far as I know they have always been ranked among the top laptop brands. I would certainly recommend this brand to you, specifically something in the satellite series.
While I don't personally have that much knowledge about 2-in-1 models, I think they can be very convenient and light weight but you may lose some of the power for gaming and you certainly will miss out on the screen size.
Here are a few suggestions:
http://www.amazon.com/Toshiba-Satellite-C55-B5202-16-inch-Processor/dp/B00KYY3KR2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408837074&sr=8-1&keywords=toshiba+laptops
http://www.amazon.com/Toshiba-Satellite-C55-B5298-15-6-Inch-Laptop/dp/B00KF4980Y/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1408837074&sr=8-2&keywords=toshiba+laptops
http://www.amazon.com/Toshiba-Satellite-C55D-B5212-15-6-Laptop/dp/B00LMN0TNC/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1408837074&sr=8-3&keywords=toshiba+laptops
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Q: I'm a 15 year old girl and I feel like I don't eat enough food. When I eat, I eat healthy non-processed food (my mom has a fruit and veggie garden) it's just that my portions are so small. I usually skip breakfast so I can make my bus that comes at 6:30 (I don't want to get up any earlier than I already do to get breakfast, so I don't). Then around lunch time I'm not really hungry so I'll have some carrot sticks and maybe a sandwich. Then when I get home my mom makes me eat dinner, but I sort of have a loss of appetite sometimes and only have about half of my plate. Part of the problem could be that I drink a lot of water and it sort if suppresses the urge to eat. And most of my time after school is spent on homework (all of the teachers say "this worksheet will only take half an hour", but if we have half an hour of homework in all of our classes.....) for the record, I'm not anorexic, I love my body. How to I get a better appetite and how can my habits effect me in the future?
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Each and every person's body is different. So, there is no, one size fits all answer to how much or how little a person's body may need to take in so that it can be healthy an run effectively.
My main concern is that as a general rule, I would not skip breakfast on a regular basis. I understand that you don't want to get up any earlier, and who could blame you, 6:30 is pretty early to catch the bus. However, maybe you could either do some things the night before (like getting your clothes together or even bathing) to avoid having to do them in the morning and you can use that extra time to eat. Another option is to have something you can take with you so you may be able to eat it at the bus stop or have one of those breakfast shakes while on the go.
As far as a good way to build your appetite goes, engage in physical activities like exercise or sports.
If you are really concerned about this, you can also ask your doctor if you are in the proper weight range for your age and height. They should be able to tell you.
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Q: will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
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Well, I have my opinions on the religious aspect of your question but those are just opinions and I'm not sure any of us can honestly answer that question with accuracy. That being the case I am only going to address the rest of your concerns.
This is coming from both a place of sympathy as well as one of tough love.
There is nothing, I repeat, nothing worth taking your own life.
Ok, you where driving with a suspended licence. Sure that's a crime but even if there is jail time involved I'm sure the sentence is pretty minimal and it's not like you'd be in with people convicted of major crimes like murder or rape.
You're in a wheelchair. Ok, so are millions of other people and they survive. Many of them thrive as professionals, athletes, entertainers and more. There's no reason you can't do the same.
I could be wrong but I hope I'm right in that I think if you already had your mind made up, there would have been no reason for you to post this question in the first place. I think you have you mind made up, but about the fact that you want someone to help you out and get you through this tough time.
While it is your responsibility to own up to what you did and take whatever legal penalty comes your way, I can't imagine any reason why that would make you loose everything. Sure, it might be bad for a while but even so it's an opportunity for personal growth.
Please see a professional counselor and hang in there, you can make it through this.
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Q: I've dealt with anxiety and depression my whole life. I'm a teenager at the moment. Anyways I take meds, but they aren't helping. I have an appointment with my doctor at the end of the month, but I want to see if there's any natural ways to help improve it a little.
I've felt Depersonalization for 2 years now and it's ruining my life. It's caused by anxiety, so I know that it will be decreased if my anxiety is aswell. How can I get rid of this terrible disorder I have,? I just can't function anymore.
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While I never like to so that I know how you feel as that I believe all of our experiences are unique, I can tell you for sure that I can relate.
First off, meds can be helpful despite not being natural. Perhaps you may need to look into another drug or a higher dosage.
I'm glad to hear you do meet with a doctor as well. So many people with similar problems are very reluctant to seek professional help due to fear or the stigma that they think may come with it.
With all that being said, there are certainly some more natural things you can try that may be helpful. In fact, many of them wouldn't require taking anything at all.
The act of meditation can help bring about lower levels of anxiety. In a similar way, if you are religious, praying can have the same effect. Setting aside time to listen to calming music seems to be of benefit for some people too.
Thinking a little more outside the box, self-hypnosis or listening to recordings with subliminal positive messages can have an impact. This guy will make you one:
http://www.fiverr.com/jimidurso/create-silent-subliminal-recordings
Exercise can help too:
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/07/17/3-tips-for-using-exercise-to-shrink-anxiety/
Last but not least, as I always do for people having these sort of issues, I recommend reading the book "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns.
Stay strong.
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Q: So I joined color guard a while ago and I am finally getting really good at it. I just started high school color guard with 7 other freshmen and I'm the second best freshman on our team. Yeah, SECOND. The first is my friend Jen. She is so perfect. She can spin a quad on a rifle already. She also is all of the upper classmen's favorite. Even my color guard partner likes her more than she likes me. I'm really jealous of this. So when band camp started this week, I always skipped my lunch hour and practiced drill and the work the whole time. I also came 1 1/2 hours early to practice rifle and other work. Plus I've been trying to learn really hard tosses like a 45 and scoop tosses. Plus when I get home, I practice for 2 hours. I just want to be good like Jen soon so when I'm a junior, I get to be co-captain, and my senior year team captain. The thing is, I'm not at all the type of jealous person. I'm the kind of person who worries about other before myself. I also ALWAYS say sorry. So this is kinda a weird feeling of being jealous at my friend. But I mean, she is better at everything than me. Besides guard, I do theater and I have done it for 3 years and this year I was supposed to get a good part. But no. Jen decided to try out for the first time this year and she got the MAIN ROLE. I got a lower role and I hated it. Plus, I have been doing competitive swimming since I was 8, I hold state records in my age group. But this year in summer gym, she beat my best time by 3 seconds and she has never swam competitively before. I get so mad. I work so much harder than her in color guard too. Like 10x harder. She doesn't practice unless she's with her color guard partner. But me, well I already said how much I do. I just want to be as good as her. It's so mean, but what do I do? I can't tell her because she will be mad at me and tell the rest of the team and they will all hate me. I'm so confused that it's hurting me inside. Please help.
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Jealousy is a terrible thing. It can cause a lot of harm for everyone involved. But, that is not to be confused with a healthy sense of competition. This is often a very positive thing as that it helps us strive to be the best that we can be at any given thing.
Since you are obviously into athletics, I'll use sports as an example. Let's take swimming. For a long time, Michael Phelps was the elite swimmer. Ryan Lochte can up to rival him and while being teammates and probably friends, they are also competitors. They drive each other to do better and become better.
Have you ever given any thought to the idea that maybe your friend Jen is driven by you? Maybe she feels like you do in that she thinks, whether she'll admit it or not, that you are really really good at things and wants to be like you? Sure, perhaps some things might come more natural for her and with less practice but that happens in life sometimes.
I suggest you keep up with your competitive spirit but don't let it consume you. The key is to be the best you can be and do the best you can do. Ultimately you are competing against yourself. Forget what others are doing and this will be a much more positive experience.
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Q: I. Have a lot of mental illness and I am so tired of surfing through my life is not sure that I can be able to live
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I truly feel for you my friend. And while nobody can ever really say they know how you feel with true accuracy, some people can at least relate. I would be one of them as that I have a combination of ADD and OCD and have battled bouts of depression.
I assure you, this isn't worth dying over. While I don't know your age, I would venture to guess you're not an older person so you have a lot of life ahead of you.
My suggestion would be to seek out the treatment of a mental health professional like a therapist or counselor. If you have already done so and that's not helping, perhaps you should try to find another one that can.
I've recommended this countess times but will do so again because it works, get a hold or the book "Feeling Good' by Dr. David Burns and read it. His insights and self-therapy methods are amazing.
Join a support group of people with similar conditions. If you don't want to join one in person or can't find one in your area, I'm sure you can find some online.
If you are religious, pray. There is scientific evidence that like meditation (which is another option) that it can change the functioning of your brain for the better.
Even self-hypnosis can help some people.
Last but not least, know that you are not alone. You surely have people that love and care about you and I am confident that you can make it through this pain and your struggles.
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Q: 14/F
I've known my best friend for almost 2 years. She (was) my only friend because I'm homeschooled. However, we haven't spoken in almost 2 weeks. We had a pointless argument, called eachother names, etc. I keep waiting for a text from her. I tried texting her, but she changed her number. There's no other way to talk to her. Should I just let go of our friendship?
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Good friendships can be hard to come by. Especially these days when we are living in an age of "cyber friendships" through things like Facebook that often do not hold the value of a traditional friendship.
That being the case, I wouldn't recommend giving up on this relationship just yet.
First off, you said yourself that the argument was pointless. No quality friendship is worth losing over something so insignificant.
Second, she changed he number so you can't text or call her. We'll, I would assume that if you guys had been best friends for the last two years, you must know where she lives. Stop by her home and try to catch up with her that way. If she isn't there, take a letter for her with you and leave it in her mailbox.
If you make the effort to keep the friendship going and she doesn't respond, there is nothing you can do, except know that you did your part.
Good luck.
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Q: I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep?
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I'm sorry to hear about your sleep troubles. I know that this can cause a lot of problems but am pretty sure I have a few ideas that might be helpful.
First off, let's address the issue of you constantly walking instead of sleeping for a long period of time. My guess is that this has to do with the environment in your bedroom. Are you hot or cold when you wake up? Maybe you need to adjust the temperature in your room. Another issue is that your mattress may need replaced. Depending upon the quality of the mattress, even really good ones are often only expected to last about a decade. Some cheaper ones are only intended to be used for a few years at most.
As far as getting to sleep in the first place, one old remedy is to drink a glass of warm milk before bed. I know some people who are real advocates of this practice.
Another is to read something that you don't find particularly interesting. This can cause you eyes to grow tried and help you get into a restful state.
Yet another thing you can try is having a little bit of ambient noise in the area when you are going to bed. This may sound silly but something with a soft hum or vibrating noise can help people relax and fall asleep. When my brother was a kid, the sound of the vacuum cleaner would put him out like a light - true story.
Last but not least, you might want to seek out natural tees like Yogi Bedtime Tea or Celestial Seasonings Sleepytime Extra Tea.
Checking in with you doctor is probably not a bad idea as well.
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Q: My co worker is hiv positive what exactley does that mean
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If your co-worker is HIV positive, it essentially means that he or she has acquired the Human Immunodeficiency Virus.
It used to be that people thought the virus could be spread through casual human contact and any number of other things but as research over the last several decades and experience has taught is, it is actually pretty difficult to transmit the disease. It can only be transmitted through direct contact between an infected person's bodily secretions or blood and another person's blood stream or bodily opening.
The virus used to come with a stigma but now we know that people of all different walks of life and lifestyles have become positive for HIV.
It also used to be basically a death sentence. However, with modern medicine and the right treatment, people can and do life long productive lives with this disease ultimately being a chronic and lifelong condition.
Ultimately, while it is a scary condition, so are things like diabetes, cancer and heart disease. There is no reason you or anyone should treat them as a pariah.
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Q: My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own.
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First off, I am truly sorry to hear about your situation. I honestly can't imagine how you must feel and what you go through on a daily basis. But nonetheless, I will try by best to help you out in some way.
As far a the job situation goes, I wouldn't quit. $150 per week is infinity better than nothing. However, I would keep an eye out for other opportunities.
Even with limited availability, there may be some ways to make some additional cash. For example, if the job you work at uses ink for printers and normally throws out empty cartridges, you can hold onto them and send them in for cash to a company like http://www.ecyclegroup.com/. Same goes for collecting sada cans from your co-workers and taking them to a recycling center for cash.
Make use of the talents you have and be creative. Here are some additional suggestions: http://www.dailyfinance.com/photos/25-unusual-ways-to-make-quick-money/#!fullscreen&slide=980290
I wouldn't recommend all of them and not all even apply to you but this may give you some ideas.
If you can sign up for market research studies in your area, they often take place outside of typical work hours and pay pretty good. Sometimes as much as $75-$150 per a few hours.
When it comes to the living situation, just because your mother says your not welcome to live with your grandma don't mean anything if it's your grandma's home and she's willing to take you in. Take to her yourself and see if she's OK with it.
Another option is to sign up with a site like Begslist at https://begslist.org/ in which people can donate to help you out. There is a category specifically for rent.
If worse comes to worse, seek out a local shelter. I'm sure that taking your income on it's own you would not be turned away.
Keep your head up. I know it's hard now but I really do believe things will get better.
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Q: You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre.
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Well, when it comes to hiring, each and every company and decision maker seems to have their own approach to things. Who's to say what may have been going through their heads.
Is is possible they had you as a second choice and thought they could talk you down on the salary.
It could also be that they had planned to hire from within all along but by law have to advertise the job as open.
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Q: M/15
If the fallowing offends you I dont care.
About a year ago I came out to my parents that I was an Atheist. Well they are young earth creationists(which means they take everything in the bible literaly.) so they did not take to kindly to it. They made fun of me for not beliveing in there god and the fact that they are so positive that I'll regret it when I find out I'll be wrong. Well I shook it off I'm very strong with my belifs and at another time after I let things cool down I asked them if it was necisary that I go to church. The gave me no other reasoning other than yes because thats what our family dose. So ive put up with it for along time and I don't think I can any more. All I do at their church is sit there and stare off into space. Its truly a waste of time for me. I know the religion is not for me ive read the whole bible 4 times. More than most believers and I cannot stand for what they belive in. Dose any one know any reason
that my parents would be like this and only give me such a bland reason for making me go?
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Let me preface this by saying that this is coming from someone who does believe in a higher power.
It takes all kinds of people for the world to go around. While I may not agree with them, I try not to judge them and to respect their opinions. But to me, belief is not about whether or not you attend services or conform to a specific doctrine, it's about whether or not you live your life with an emphasis on specific actions, like forgiveness, compassion, mercy and love.
I know it's hard but your should try to realize that your parents are essentially doing the same thing you are, sticking to their guns on personal beliefs. Clearly you have conviction in your ideas and so do they. How could you really expect them to do anything differently? I certainly do not think your parents should be making fun of you though.
All in all, I think you need to to find some common ground. perhaps a good place to start is something that is expressed in both religious and secular society, the golden rule. Work on things from there and if it still remains a problem that isn't moving toward a solution, I would suggest seeking the advice of a counselor or therapist.
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Q: Okay, so I'm male, 5'7, 105-110 lbs, 14 years old, and my grandma just will not stop talking about it. This morning I was getting food and she started making more food and saying I had to eat it all, and I said I wasn't that hungry. She got mad and said I had to eat it because she knew I never ate anything and she threatened to call some fake organization she made up and tell them I'm not eating.
I finally did snap and get really mad. I pounded my fist on the table and yelled, "I DO eat!" She sat there and watched me eat, and when I left she accused me of going to throw it up. WTF? I'm not bulimic.
Now she's ignoring me and saying that she's just the warden. I said "I love you." to her and she just laughed. What do I do? :(
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Being that you are only 14 and weigh what you do at your height, my first guess is that that probably have a rather high level of metabolism. A lot of people are skinny at your age.
Taking you at your would that you do eat and are not bulimic, I can only guess that your height to weight ratio will become more regulated over time.
As far as grandma goes, this seems to be a rather common occurrence. Thing about it, many of our grandparents grew up in or just after the depression era and sometimes really didn't have much to eat. They grew up, or where brought up, to feel that they have to eat a lot to stay healthy and strong.
I'm sure she means well but as some older folks tend to do on occasion, she seems to be going overboard.
My suggestion is to humor her from time to time but in general stick with what you are doing.
One more thing though, you may want to just check with your doctor when you have a routine appointment and see what he or she has to say about your weight. It's better to be safe than sorry in that some people have conditions that cause them to remain thin and those conditions can potentially cause problems.
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Q: So I'm on a diet and I was wondering if it would be ok to drink black tea. I usually add a teaspoon or two of sugar with a splash of milk. I was thinking about just having a cup in the morning along with my breakfast. Will this affect my weight loss? I'm not really concerned with the amount if calories, it's more will the sugar and milk affect my diet?
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First off, I think the way to go is more in making a lifestyle change than a diet per see. What I mean is to think of your eating as a habit you will continue to keep rather than something you only plan to do for a short time. This is much more conducive to success.
But to your question, tea is fine. as far as adding milk or sugar, the key is moderation. And, if you still aren't sure, you can always substitute a low calorie sweetener like Splenda or an all-natural one like stevia for the sugar and a low-fat milk in place of whole milk. When it comes to the milk, I'd recommend 1% but you can also go with skim if you want but my personal opinion on that is that it isn't very good tasting as that it's basically white water.
Another healthier option but with a little more calories is to add honey in place of the sugar or milk.
Good luck with your weight loss.
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Q: I work in a unique environment. The company I work for has a partnership with another company. I work for company X, but company Y pays my salary. I report to managers with both companies. I have two concerns. One is that I don't have a good working relationship with my company X manager. Also, after coming to work, I found out company X hasn't given a raise in six years. The job itself is fine, and it is near my hometown. I have a job offer that would take me out of the area. I would get a 10% salary increase. And I would not report to multiple managers. It would require relocation. I am absolutely torn. What things should I consider in making the decision to stay or go?
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It has been said that changing jobs is one of life's great stresses. And having had some complicated working situations myself, I can at least relate on some level.
On the surface, it does sound like the job offer that is on the table might be the way to go. However, it is never a good idea to jump into anything without considering all factors.
First off, how important is it that you live where you do now? Moving is another big stessor and two major life changes at once could be a huge challenge. The new company is willing to pay to 10% higher right away but I'd investigate their reputation as an employer and see if you can get any info on what they do when it comes to raises.
All in all, do your homework and go with what feels right.
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