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FIghting with my grandma because I'm skinny?
Okay, so I'm male, 5'7, 105-110 lbs, 14 years old, and my grandma just will not stop talking about it. This morning I was getting food and she started making more food and saying I had to eat it all, and I said I wasn't that hungry. She got mad and said I had to eat it because she knew I never ate anything and she threatened to call some fake organization she made up and tell them I'm not eating.
I finally did snap and get really mad. I pounded my fist on the table and yelled, "I DO eat!" She sat there and watched me eat, and when I left she accused me of going to throw it up. WTF? I'm not bulimic.
Now she's ignoring me and saying that she's just the warden. I said "I love you." to her and she just laughed. What do I do? :(
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Being that you are only 14 and weigh what you do at your height, my first guess is that that probably have a rather high level of metabolism. A lot of people are skinny at your age.
Taking you at your would that you do eat and are not bulimic, I can only guess that your height to weight ratio will become more regulated over time.
As far as grandma goes, this seems to be a rather common occurrence. Thing about it, many of our grandparents grew up in or just after the depression era and sometimes really didn't have much to eat. They grew up, or where brought up, to feel that they have to eat a lot to stay healthy and strong.
I'm sure she means well but as some older folks tend to do on occasion, she seems to be going overboard.
My suggestion is to humor her from time to time but in general stick with what you are doing.
One more thing though, you may want to just check with your doctor when you have a routine appointment and see what he or she has to say about your weight. It's better to be safe than sorry in that some people have conditions that cause them to remain thin and those conditions can potentially cause problems.
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If by chance your grandmother is looking at the same height and weight chart I am. Then according to this national chart depending on your Skeletal frame size you are anywhere from 20 to 40 pounds underweight.
That chart is based on a National average. Meaning that is the average between the lowest and highest within each frame size. The person whose advice or opinion really counts is your doctor. What does your doctor say about your weight? When was the last time you had a complete physical?
If it has been more than a year or if you have not had a physical since your period started it is a good idea to have one. Physicals are generally painless even the female part of the exam. The blood draw is about the most painful part and that last only a second or two.
During the physical ask your doctor how she or he feels about your weight. If your doctor is not concerned ask the doctor to talk to grandma. I would hope grandma would listen to the doctor, after all the doctor went to medical school and should know about these things.
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I'm a 21 year old female and I have always heard comments about my weight. I'm 5'3 and 95 pounds, and I'm pretty sure I've been this size since I was 12. People constantly say things like "eat a cheeseburger once in a while" or something about how bony I am. Here's the thing: your weight does not concern anybody else. If you eat plenty to fill you up and are making fairly good choices when it comes to what you eat, then you are fine. I know that my grandma grew up in a time when being super skinny was NOT what they saw on the cover of a magazine like you do today. She thinks that I try to be thin on purpose so that I can look like a stick-thin super model... When really I just have a fast metabolism. Some people really just don't understand how that works. They don't understand that people can stay thin naturally.
If you want to gain weight to appease her, the only healthy way to do that is through gaining muscle. Plus, fatty terrible foods won't make you gain weight if your body is not designed to do so anyway. I used to eat junk food all the time and never gained a pound. However, I did start gaining weight when I built muscle. I do that by eating a lot of protein and weight lifting. Every morning I make a shake that consists of 2 scoops of chocolate protein powder, a big scoop of peanut butter, a banana, and a drizzle of chocolate syrup blended with ice. Snack on nuts throughout the day. Some other foods with protein are red meat, eggs, and avocados.
In order to resolve the issue with your grandma though, there needs to be a change in her, not you. Only change your body of YOU are unhappy with it. If you're happy, all you can do is explain that to her. Tell her that there are millions of people who have a fast acting metabolism and simply don't gain weight. Tell her that you're comfortable with your body so you'd have no reason to starve yourself or make yourself throw up. Tell her that it would not be healthy for you to make yourself eat more than you can handle and by discussing your weight in a negative manner will only bring about negative self-images.
Sorry for such a long response but I hope I helped!
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Alright so I'm your age and I have a similar issue. Unassuming that you live with your grandmother. If she can be reasonable then try to talk to her calmly the next time she accuses you of not eating/being bullemic. Now I'm not suggesting one if those sit down and have a corny heart to heart, just the next time she accuses you just say something like this: "I do eat enough to fill me up and I would never throw up my food, I just wouldn't do that to my body. I'm still growing, I'll probably gain a little more weight over the next few years." You could also point out that if you threw up your food then your teeth would start rotting (the acid in puke wears down the enamel on your teeth), and that you would also be very weak. You could also make a bit of a compromise, you'll eat healthier foods that will help you gain weight, but you'll choose your own portion sizes. Foods/drinks like milk, thick soups, and bread will help you put on weight. You can also try weight lifting to try to get a bit of muscle.
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