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Should I let go?
14/F
I've known my best friend for almost 2 years. She (was) my only friend because I'm homeschooled. However, we haven't spoken in almost 2 weeks. We had a pointless argument, called eachother names, etc. I keep waiting for a text from her. I tried texting her, but she changed her number. There's no other way to talk to her. Should I just let go of our friendship?
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First of all, I'm sorry to hear this. If shes anywhere around your age of 14, my first guess is that the pointless argument and her holding a grudge and not keeping contact could easily be due to the hormones of puberty. No female escapes this. All of us are affected to some degree or another and the most often affected is our feelings and emotions.
We are more easily irritated for no good reason at all, get upset and cry much more easily, can be weepy at the drop of a hat, or we can get very mean and angry and sometimes at worst case scenerio, a girls whole personality changes and/or she becomes really depressed. My guess is that hormones has a play in your situation with your friend.
Mom will understand this time in her past, I still remember how out of control and how 'not myself' I felt. Its not an easy time of life. Let your mom know what I said may be happening with you and your friend. If she has any contact with the other mom perhaps she could alert the other mom as to what is going on. However this isn't something that can be forced. For the most part, you'll have to wait for your friend to process through and get over it. 2 weeks isn't really odd when the emotions are going to still be out of control for a year or two, more like 2or 3if I remember right from raising 3 girls/ they were all 3 yrs apart and one would be on the tail end of hers while the next one was starting, and Oh the fighting and such that occurred between sisters! Some attack sisters or even mom without reason, while others attack friends or even female classmates and female teachers.
Don't give up on your friendship. It may be a long wait, but eventually she will recover and come around again. It will be lonely until then, but don't give up. My guess is this won't be a permanent break in friendship.
I recommend talking to your mom about it
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Good friendships can be hard to come by. Especially these days when we are living in an age of "cyber friendships" through things like Facebook that often do not hold the value of a traditional friendship.
That being the case, I wouldn't recommend giving up on this relationship just yet.
First off, you said yourself that the argument was pointless. No quality friendship is worth losing over something so insignificant.
Second, she changed he number so you can't text or call her. We'll, I would assume that if you guys had been best friends for the last two years, you must know where she lives. Stop by her home and try to catch up with her that way. If she isn't there, take a letter for her with you and leave it in her mailbox.
If you make the effort to keep the friendship going and she doesn't respond, there is nothing you can do, except know that you did your part.
Good luck.
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