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I am a teen who has been through tough break ups all the way to being threatened about my life. I just love helping erebody else. Its one thing if an adult trys to understand a teen. But it is another thing if a teen trys to understand the Teen. (us teens lay it down like it is, you feel me?)
You got anything on yo mind let it out, even if its embarassing, cause I have people asking the same type of Whateva, u kno what I'm sayin?
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How do you stop asking all the time "what did you mean by that" or "do you really think that" when an innocent remark was made to them? For example: (1) How would Rebecca not ask "do you really think that" when Rebecca brought up the weight, her mother did not, which made her mother say what she did; (2) How do I not say to my mom "what did you mean by that" when my mom made an innocent remark that she will not buy the salmon any more because it was expensive and I didnt finish it (it was a small piece); (3) And with the Jewelry how do I not say "do you really think that" when my mom never says anything about it unless I bring it up.
maybe its just a habit I mean everytime I hear things that are random, or what I don't wish to hear I'll be like "huh huh, what what, wait a minute, and repeat what they said haha I kno its whack, but hey its a habit that now I still haven't stopped. You have control over what you want to say and want you don't "wish" to say. You can figure it out.
PS. Or just talk to ya mom . If you feel like she doesn't care make her care, and listen to you
my uncle did something that i thought i could never forgive him for and well i said i hated him and a while back he tried to say hello and i ignored him, now i just found out he has possible bone cancer and well i feel so bad, like i dont want to hate him but i cant forget what he's done. i feel like the worst person in the world because he's still the man i grew up with inside and i still kinda love him but i dunno, all i know is i dont want him to die. am i a terrible person
No, you are no where near terrible the fact that you pity your uncle after anger over whatever he has done to you, proves you as a wonderful person. I'm not going to force you to tell me what had happened between u and him but I would like you to take time to think if he is worth making peace with, despite what he's done to u. Think about why u were so angry with him and talk to him. That;s the only way the guilt will go away, by forgiving him so you don't have to opress yourself evry step of the way. I'll pray for your uncle if you want me too. Take care
PS. oh yea still kinda love him is a good thing you got heart gurl, you really do
Basically, I have a pretty big nose. There is not a bump, however it's just very wide.
I was wondering if anyone knew how to apply make up so that I can make it look smaller?
I will send a pic to whoever thinks they can help me.
You should always apply make up to wear the nose joins to theheeks. ya know the sides of the nostrols. But remember not to put to much or you'll make it obvious that you are trying to hide something, causes there are some b***ches out there that like to crash people out. Then apply it above the lip and slightly below the nose to give it a shortening touch. If none of this work I suggest you get MAC coverup products. Their stuff always work
Okay im looking to go on a diet. like not one where you dont eat and stuff but like a programmed one like theres the atkins diet cranberry juice diet grapefruit diet. i love to eat fruit and i searched google for diferent diets and i didnt get any good ones i dont like that whole slimfast diet or south beach diet i like ones where i dont have to buy there food. can someone please tell me some or send links i rate high. =]
Try the atkins diet, it worked for jessica simpson, maybe it can work for you. Let me tell ya dieting is tough. Food today still calls me. But if you can handlle it like evrybody else is capable of go for it. Just make sure what you are doing is for you and nobody else.
Or Try weight watchers, curves, and even set up an appointment with a nutritionist when it come to dieting they know exactly what to do. Good Luck. I'll low carb diet with you
This women I used to date some time ago has recently asked me to basically show her attention again even though she has a boyfriend, I think she wants to make her current boyfriend jealous. It was recently her birthday and she had wanted to know if i was going to do what I had done before which is send her flowers, I have no clue what she wants from me seeing how she has a boyfriend atleast that's what she says
It is either she has a boyfriend that has cheated on her, or she wants to make you s=think that you are trying to help her make somebody else jealous when she could be just try'na put you back in that relationship again. You need to find time when the both of you are alone. Let her know what's up, and get her to tell you what's up. Let her know you don't like to feel used or a last resort to her. She should understand. Good luck
What should I get for my 19 year old boyfriend?? I got him a $25 dollar gift card to Best Buy cause I know he likes electronics... i'm 17 by the way. Anyway, yeah what should I get him?? Or haha not to sound like a whore, but I would go to even farther lengths if you know what I mean *wink wink* haha. We haven't had sex with each other yet and we're both not virgins so idk you help me to decide ^_^
Gurl you are active. Trust me you don't sound like nno whore. When there's no gift to give your man you give him the Ciara goodie bag. Buy him handcuffs, and a whip if you feel like giving him the goodie "wink wink" bag. Or you can always settle for a regular gift like a camera, ipod, Computer, or even a portable DVD player. That's all you need my "active" friend. Oh yea be sure to use protection. Things spread fast. Good luck on your special night wit yo man. keep it real.
there is this boy at my school who really likes me. and alot of people keep coming up to me and asking me do i go out with him. the problem is that one of my friends told me that he has a girlfriend. what i don't understand is how he has a girlfriend and flirts with me everyday?!! my friend said that she would ask him if he broke up with her, but she never got the chance. i was wondering if i should just back off before i know if he still has a girlfriend? because i'm not trying to fight over some boy who is coming on to me.
You shouldn't send your firend he might take it the wrong way. like giving him the wrong hint. I'm sure you don't want him to think you don't like him, fo u? You should just ask yourself, and ask him as if your just a close friend who wants to know the sooner you know the quicker you can move on or get wit him
okayy. So is it possible for a guy 2 years older than you to like you. Last year we went to the same schoool, this year, we go to different schoools. Last year, he was like "well ill go out wtih you in like 3 years" just like randomly as im talking to him online. And at that point, i had no feelings for him so i thought it was kind of odd. then through the year, after talking to him, i really started to like him. And now that we dont go to the same schools, i barely talk to him. And i dont know if im wasting my time and should move on? Or if i should really consider going out with him. Last year some of his friends would be like yeah i think he likes you. But i always am like "no thats too good to be true" I just want to know some other peoples opinions on this. Thanks so muchh! :]
you must feel real deep on this boy. You should talk to him, and remind him about his quote. You kno when he said I'll go out wit u in 3 years." tell him that you believed he was serious and you want to be with him. I kno its hard I don't want to make this story like the love movies my mama watches from the 50's no way, no how ok. Just be friendly, and taek the news easily, whether it is good or bad. You don't want to sound desperate to him. ya kno. cause when you behave desperate around guys. it gives them the excuse to call us ladies,a S to the L to the U to the T. He said he would date you. I don't think he wasd bluffing, if you think he is move on. If ya heart is still there for him go for it. Your heart moves on when it is ready to move on. Don't rush ya self
Girl go on wit ya bad self hahaha googd luck
I have these librarians who think that I stole my own ID. They don't believe it is mine, and they have been saying a bunch of suspicious things when I scan my ID for a computer. They'll be like. "You must be a professional" "Don't forget YOUR Id card. Because I pick a certain computer, so they can stop staring at me. They walk all around me just to see if I'm doing something "inappropriate, just to give em a chance to bust me to the curve. Is it my fault I change hear styles. These ladies are buggin' What should I do?
PS. I am an excellent advice columnist check me out. Have dreams of Chris Brown? Girls at school that are buggin' like the librarians I gotta deal with holla at me I got yo back.
I know the same thing happens to me to tell you the truth it would be odd to just go upi to them and say can you please stop following me. They'd kicck u out. hahaha. Just play along. It will all come to an end
Ok so i was really close with my brothers girlfriend and she was really close with me. I am pretty much the reason why they stayed together for so long. Anyway, so my brother and her went of to collage and they told me they would always keep in touch with me. So one time my friend mentioned that there were no pop rocks by where her collage is (her favorte candy) so i decided to buy so pop rocks and send them to her 2 week ago! She still hasent called me back to say anything. it was 2-3 day delivery. it really hurts me that she nevered called to say anything, even though i called her about a billion times. She never even called back. So today i left her a kinda mean message but i feel bad. She was my best friend and now she dosent even return my calls! Please tell me if i was wrong to leave a nasty message
yea it was wrong to leave a message. It seems like you care about her too much to even play a little game with her emotions. Call her instead on your own. person to person. tell her how you feel. Then tell her that the only reason you had sent the note was because of frustration and the thought of losing her as a best best friend. I ain't tryna get all honeymoon french crap on u but boy u kno what i mean. open up. If it works out. after your done talking just listen to ya favorite jam, and continue on with your life.
You'll be fine.
By the way after all she is your brother's girl so try not to be too invading. If you have a majort crush on her you kno what to do.. don't sya you don't. Be confident you kno
i'm 14,live in NYC, never had a boy-freind of hooked up with a boy before.
Boys intimidate me but i want a bf cause i want someone who can understand me and hold me when im upset and love me, but that never seems like its ever gonna happan cause i get so nervous around them.
also every time i thik about hooking up with boys i start crying because i REALLY want to hook up with someone and every time i think about it a sense of despair comes over me and it feels like im NEVER gonna hook up with anyone
is it because i'm not likeable, or just not outgoing enough, what do boys find wrong with me.
ive read the answers to questions kinda like this one, on sites like this one and none of them ever help, they always make me feel worse instead of better.
dont tell me my first kiss is gonna come, just wait for it, cause it doesnt seem like thats ever going to happen to me.
advice on how to feel better about this and how to be less awkward around boys would be a great help.
thanks
I am also 14 live in IL and had never hooked either I am a little overweight, black chick, and at times I feel desperate to tell you the truth It is hard to find good answers in this case. Trust me I've tried . I'd say just try being as friendly with guys as you possibly can. Try to be more flirtaticious, not easy, but ya kno a little more attraction.
Make the guy feel like you are not attracted to them though you are that's what they want to see. I told my best friend who is 15 and it had worked for her.
*If you feel so nervous that you want to control your blushing around mr.right. Close your lips and push your teeth together as hard as you can, making anything hidden expression stay hidden.
I know this may be another make you feel worse question but girl this is the best i can do , aight
ps. I heard the fellas are fionnnnng out in NYC is that true holla back at me.
Whenever I put my hair up [using a hair band] in something like a ponytail, it usually falls down soon after. How do you put your hair up and use your band to make it tight abnd sturdy, and so that it stay for a long period of time?
Hold your hair tight with the hardest hand and then bond tightly from then. It will hurt but when it gets lose it stays on.
A year ago I moved to a condo and i met this girl, for now i will call her C. And C was a nice girl, she was like my best friend for a while and then i met her friend, K. Shit happened, and then I got into a fight with K and then i got intoa fight with C. But then, i made up with C and K. Then C moved and it was just me and K. Me and K have become the best of friends, we're blood sisters, but K is a total slut, and C has changed into a little ho. She dresses like a slut and calls herself 'the playboy master' cause she loves playboy to death. Now me and C always get into fights and then im always the one that goes back to her and wants to become her friend again. Me and K get into fights too and stop talking, but we end up being friends again after a day. Now K is telling me to be the bigger person and be friends with C again cause shes 'so much fun'and shit. I really dont want to be C's friend again cause we're just gonna end up fighting again. So, should i listen to K and make up with C or should I just forget about C? I really need some advice on this.
Obviously u know what is right for you. Listen to your heart. I know it is hard wlaking around with people who like to be prettier than everybody else. They'd say stuff to me like: "Guys always want me" or " you know I'm gonna be prettier than you when we grow up, right) So I have kicked them to the curve after school changes they thought they had to change and become so damn arrogant so I'm like you treat like back up instead of a friend. Find somebody else. Sluts never go to far
Trust me on this one
what is a halloween costume that involves two girls? (something me and my freind can be together)
You both could be to different rappers, put the whole ghetto act into it to. be sure to wear a mask if you'll feel embarrassed
I am a 21 woman (living at college) and my neighbor at home is a 15 yr old boy and he got to talking to me about stuff, he calls quite a bit and that's fine, he doesn't really have people to talk to a lot because he's very popular in the high school so he has to maintain an image or whatever, you know how high school is, so he can't really open up to anybody. Anyway he calls me about stuff and I give advice whatever, he treats me like I'm his mom or something (his own mom was never in the picture really) so anyway his dad got re-married last spring and he was fine with the stepmom at first but after a while he started changing and he was calling late at night really upset. Finally he told me why, he said his stepmom's been coming in his room at night and doing stuff with him, I won't be graphic but you can probably figure it out. So I called CPS and they ended up dropping the case, and his dad thinks he was lying, but I know he's not. He's been able to keep his stepmom out of his room and is staying weekends with his aunt and uncle, but it just sucks that he has to go thru this and he's got a lot of trust issues now. Sorry to be so long but you kinda had to know the backstory in order to answer my question, which is how can I help him thru this, what do I say to him? All I've told him so far is that I believe him and I don't think it was his fault.
You are a very confident 21 year old woman holidng on to a young boy's life. Let him know you are there for him, and try to get him to try speaking up about it, without telling his father. I know it may seem to nosiy, but it is the right thing to do. He has not opened up to anybody but you. Your trust counts. Followyour heart on this one by calling the CPS you're smart. That means you know exactly what to do. I have also been molested as a child but had never told a person to this day this boy was a church member, and a very close family friend. He had grown up to become a gangster, hustlin' drugs, and such. Of course I will never forget what he did, and I also will never forget the people who were there for me to help me through it.
Hey! On friday teh 13th, some of my freinds are coming over for a scary movie night. The thing is, I don't know some good halloween movies. Does anyone know any good HALLOWEEN movies? I want movies that take place during halloween... but scary ones that don't take place then are good too! PG-13 would help!
You know you need ressurection, michael myers, texas chainsaw massacre, and most definitely Valentine. Valentine is really hard to guess who the damn killer is. Its really slow to get to the point but its aight. Good luck on ya hallow night
I got a new laptop today. A guy at my mom's work left it there when he moved, and he has been contacted for about a year to come get it. He didn't come back to get it and my mom's company has been sold, so she brought the laptop home for me! The only problem is that there is a password. We don't know the password.
Is there a way to completely erase everything on the laptop, password included?
Thank you.
Alright when you first press the on button. There should be a logo for the computer brand, such as dell, gateway, toshiba, sony or whatever, as quickly as u can try pressing F12 on the keyboard. Then a dark screen with options will come on. Slect Boot Setup. That's where you can tap in and correct system security and such. If that doesn't work this guy must really have this joint wired. Call the commpany of the computer.
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I don't usually get zits (just one or two during my time of the month) so I usually don't waste my money on expensive products. I usually just scrub my face with a bar of soap when I'm in the shower. It seems like it works pretty well but I heard it isn't healthy for my skin. Is this true? If it is, do you have any product reccomendations?
Another skin problem I have is dry or flaky skin. It normally isn't a problem for me, but in the past few days it has been. This morning, I used my sister's face wash with exfoliating beads. And another thing I did was put on oil-free moisturizer before my makeup. However, by the end of the school day you could see the flaky skin. It looks so gross. Could I have excema(sp?)? Do you have any product reccomendations?
I am very well known for many products having my skin completely dried up. You should first of all check with your doctor about your skin, and what is good fro your skin, and what is bad. Listening commercials will not do you any good in this case. They are usually for the smallest symtoms. I know you wanted a suggestion. Not to be rude it depends on the tone of your skin. For light white skin I'd suggest Neutrogena, for the latino mid skin, use clean and clear, or for the dark black skiin use Olay regenerist. I understand where you're coming from i do the same everyday.
well the guy i like went to a different school and i never saw him again since than. things were never good between us and i know he liked me but i always kinda turned him down (because i always got nervous when he talked to me and said things i dont wanna say. especally when he told me he loved me he was like: i love you and i tried to be your friend but you where so mean and than i was like: yeah i know i love beeing mean.)) I DONT KNOW WHY I SAID THAT. it was like another person was talking but not me.i apologized and he said it's okay but we never talked so much after that but he still looked at me alot , gave me high five and talked to me but only sometimes. so anyway he went to a differnet school now and i love him soooo much. he is all i can think about and the school is not the same without him. everything sucks now. i feel like there is nothing good in my life anymore. i miss him so much. and the sad thing is that i dont have many friends. just one , but she lives far away and also goes to a different school and one who is in 5th grade (i'm in 8th grade by the way the boy i like is in 9th grade ) so i feel so terrible and as i was saying i love him very much and now he's just gone...
it hurts so badly
please help
oh yeah and dont tell me what kinda idiot i was because i know that myself
thx
girl, I just think you in denial. You know you love this guy but when you go in front of him the ego turns on. I'm not tryna go old skool on ya, But its like Helga's crush over hey Arnold. He as the freahman he is, has decided to confront his feelings about u, but you weren't ready for him. He must be so fine, you can't handle the heat from Him. I say you call him take him to a place, for just the two of you to hangout. Talk about old times.
And say
"Blank, I have loved u for a long time, the fact that I have rejected u when you had step up to me killed me, and when you left to High School it had killed me even more. It may not seem that I don't love you as much as I do but that's not true. I want us to be more than friends, I really do."
Then go on from there. I am not tryna make this a dramatic shanaynay like seen, but honey this is what you need.
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Ahh! Okay, so this guy and I are in a constant power struggle, even over who calls whom and when. It's driving me crazy and I want him to stop fighting me. I refuse to back down completely, but I feel like I won't ever see him if I don't let him have his way most of the time.
Like...tonight I wanted to go somewhere with him and he left me hanging for about an hour without saying if he wanted to go or not, then said no he had other plans, but that we could possibly meet up somewhere afterwards. BUT he wanted me to like, go there and call him at a certain time, otherwise he'd just stay where he was longer, or go home.
Now the stubborn part of me is going "Duh, if you comply he's getting his way and he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger." But the other part of me is going "but you wanna see him, so just comply this once..."
I'm thinking I might play along for awhile - let him think he has me where he wants me, then completely reject him and see what he does.
Any thoughts on any of this?
It depends on how sensitive he is. Some guys would react like "why the heck didn't you let me know, you had a problem with me", and other guys would be like "Baby, you should of told me earlier, I would of changed, I want this to work". By the way you have described your man. I'm guessing he will be like the first quote. Try to let it out as soon as possible. Don't wait too long. You don't know yet if he is the kind of guy that snaps when you play games wit him. So tell it like it is. Start out like this:
"Blank, I feel like I care about you more than you care about me.
He'll be like I care about you , why would you think this or whatever
* Be sure to use a soft tone when you say this:
"Let me finish, You expect me to do whatever you want, and sacrifice everything for you, but when it comes to my needs, its the oh I have other plans attitude. Its pulling me over the edge. If you want to have a relationship with me you will need to respect me the way I respect you. Do you understand where I'm going here? I can't have us fighting all the damn time. I love to respect you. Just respect me. That's all I'm asking"
That should work. If it doesn't he may have taken it the wrong way or he needs smetime to cool off. Give him a little time then call back.
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