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Q: Her name is lisa mines lilaigh.She promised that she would not leave us (kayla and maggie)no matter what.Then shes been ditching us for evero ne even people she dont know! what do i do? I also told her we were going to the heart dance without her cause i've got there frienship but were still friends.Plus all i need is maggie and kayla right?....................

Honestly hun any friend thats gona leave you isnt worth it..

I learned the hard way.

Just tell her I dont need a friend that isnt gona be there for me.. ask if she can find time for you guys

Q: 14/f...so there was this guy who went to my school for the past 2 years but didn't come back this year. i liked him soooo much it was crazy and i flirted with him all the time. he liked me for part of the year last year and then stopped. everytime i think i'm over him i find myself liking him again. then, this year, at my friend's party, he was there but he didn't talk to me the whole time but we kept looking at each other and i found out he had a girlfriend. it was so awkward and ever since then even talking online is awkward and i don't know what to do because i want to be friends with him still even though i know it will never go farther than that but i feel like we can't talk anymore. what should i do??

hun dont be afraid to talk to him cause you dont weana lose him

Q: Dose anyone know what the odds are of getting pregant by the put out method? Cuz he didn't cum in me but i didn't know what the odds are of getting pregant by per-cum or whatever it's called. ~Thanks

you willl get pregnant if you keep doing that. You could even be pregnant right now. The reason is that there is always some cum at the tip of the penis and right when he even touches your vagina the sperm could go in you and find an egg.

Hope i helped

Q: Ok so this guy started to like me but i didnt like him...he started to like me the very first day we met and then the second day i started to like him he found out by my friend!!! And well he asked me out and i said yes!!! Do you think i should have waited or did i do the right thing?
Thanks in help!!!

If you like him then heck girl go for it! but if you want to take things slow then just tell him. I hope things work out for you

Love maddie

Q: In what situation should you ask someone out? Should you hope for them to be your lifelong partner? Should you simply hope for a few fun months? Should you go for it only because you're desperate? Does every relationship need to be meaningful and long-lasting?

I ask because I'm uncertain whether to ask someone out, of course. I find him attractive and he can be pretty funny, but I don't think it'd last for a long time. I think the things pushing me towards him are my desperation for a relationship and the fact that he is pretty attractive, but otherwise there is no amazing spark. Are those good enough grounds to initiate a relationship?

well I think that desperation is really hard cause ive been there before. and going out with a guy because of desperation only hurts you. I think you should try and find little sparks here and there before you ask him out. Like hang out with him and see where things spark. If there are a fiew sparks then try it out but dont do it just because your desperate.. do it cause you like him

good luck

Q: so tonight i was at a big party type thing..and i notice this guy kind of looking at me from the corner of his eye and purposely turning it seemed to look at me. i picked it up that he was doing it..but i thought nothing of it until later..he started doing "laps" around me when i was talkng to my friends. he went from one part of the room where everyone was all the way to where i was with my friends *it wasnt nearly as crowded..* he did this a couple times! my friends thinks he likes me..when they told him to talk to me he said he was shy. where do i go from here? we dont really talk so help me out from the beginning pleaseee!! this is just new for me because usually the guy likes one of my friends..i happen to have very pretty friends..ok thanks to anyone who tries :)

Congrats girl im happy for you! I think you should make the first move ;) not a drastic move but just walk up to him and start talken.. maybe say.. I heard you were shy so i thought id talk to you.. You dont have to say that it might be to forward for you. But I deff think you should go up and talk to him! You guys might end up being together!

Good luck girlie

Q: My boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year when 8th grade started. He just suddenly stopped talking to me, and never seemed to notice I was there.

I didn't think anything of it at first, but it became a problem, because my love for him just grew....Can you help me?

well hun i think that maybe if he has a sn then IM him and ask him why he just stopped talking to you.. And if worse comes to worse ask him if you can still be friends for now..

If not then hun move on you sound like a great girl and i bet you could get so much better

god luck hun

Q: ok i'm 13 yrs old and a little bit emberessed to sayt this but here i go...my boy feind wants to finger me and i'm kinda scared and i just don't kno what to do..i mena i want to but i'm just askin muh self questions leik will it hurt wll i cry ..what should i do please help ..thnxx

well hun if you really feel you are ready for it then tell him.. ive never been fingerd before so go easy.. and just kinda breath and maybe think of something that will make it feel better and not worse!
Hope i helped

Q: Is it normal to not be able to get over the guy you lost your virginity to? I lost mine to an asshole who completely used me as a bet and lied about how he was a virgin and "wanted to loose his virginity to me too" I can't get over him. It's making me depressed and I don't know if I'm overreacting or what?

Hun it is normal. people (especialy girls) get wicked attached to the first person they loose ther virginity to. Thats why all my friends always tell me NOT to loose my virginity yet because I get attached easly. But really you need to try your hardest to move on because what he did was not right and NO girl should have to go through that. Maybe buy a note book and just doodle and write how angry and hurt you are at him.. I doodle everything out that is bothering me and it helps me alot. If you ever wana talk about it feel free to email me

email - cravingbeauty_x3@hotmail.com

Goodluck hun

Q: Ok this could be long! I am in 8th grade and last year there was a kid in my class. EvEryone made fun of him and he was bipolar and had some mental problems. Well, yesterday 11/3. He attempted suicude for the second time. He jumped from the bak of a moving school bus and he is now in acoma. He broke his arm and probably his bak and neck too. He isn't dead though. ThEre was BLooD everywhere. The first time he tried to stab himself with scissors. I feel really bad because I was one to make fun of him. How can i make myself not feel so bad? ALl my freinds say im different since but im really scared for the kid. He seems like he could be nice. Plese help will rate. _-HeArtbreaker-__

hun what you need to do is write him a letter. Yes i know he is in acoma but his family will know people care it will make them feel tons better and when he comes out of acoma he will see it and you could be saving him just by showing you care. Bring the letter to the hospital and go in his room and see him!

Q: Hmm... I guess this question may have been aked quite a lot but here it goes. I am currently a freshmen, and there is this very cute junior at my school. I see him every other day during lunch and he's always staring at me, and it's obvious that he's talking about me with his friends. Plus I know one of his friends and he has told me that the guy likes me. The problem is he never approaches me. Do you think I should try to make a move or play it cool and wait for him to say something?

I think you should go for it girl! Maybe go up and sit at his table during lunch and just be like "hey can i sit here?" And if not just walk by and say hey.. be really flirty but not to obvious..
Go for it girl!

good luck

Q: my life at home is hell all i get from my sis is abuse all me n my bro do is ague and fight my mum wont talk 2 me she never speaks 2 me about anythink never asks me if im alright never tells me she loves me never just asks hows my day been always sends me out the room and speaks 2 my sisters friends wont ever talk 2 me about anythink blames me for everythink buys my sis everythink always talks 2 her lets my bro off with everythink if i do what my bro does i will get smacked for it but if my bro does it then its ok(MY BRO CANT COMPRAMISE WITH ME MY SIS CANT BE NICE TO ME AND MY MUM CANT COMMUNICATE WITH ME ) H.E.L.P PPPPLLLLLEEEEAAAASSSSEEE

Hun I used to be just like that. my sis beat me and so did my dad. this may be hard to hear but you NEED to tell somebody go to a councler and tell them. YOur family needs to get help really badly. Mine got help and we are doing alot better..

If you ever need to talk heres where you can reach me

email - pink_lip_gloss91@hotmail.com
aim - fliirtatii0usz

Q: is there any ways i can get motivated to write? i don't know.. my boyfriend told me..that my writing would get graded an F. umm yea. that really hurt..and now it's bothering me. i know my grammer sucks...but that really messed me up..now my authors block is lasting longer than usual.

hun. I know you want to listen to your boyfriend cause he is the one that is suposed to care for you most but he doesnt know what he is talkin about. I bet you are a great righter.

here are some ways to help

1)make a list of random words and then start writing about something and use all the words in the story.

2)write about something very deer to your heart. Those are the things that usualy get me my best grades.

3)just start writing a story dont even plain it out or anything just start writing (but have it make sense) and maybe you will get something good

Trust me grammer isnt everything. I stink at spelling but i have had my work published! you CAN do it..

If you want you can reach me and ill help you think of some things

email - pink_lip_gloss91@hotmail.com
aim - fliirtatii0usz

goodluck

Q: so i got my hair cut today and i wanted it to my shoulders, she cut it to the bottom of my ears instead and i hate it, i think it looks so bad. is there anything i can do to make it look better?
and please dont tell me to grow it out, thats common sense

alright hun I have a fiew things
1)pig tails look super cute with short hair
2)maybe put it in a messy pony tail
3)wear earings do your makeup nice and dress well it will take the attention away from your hair
4)when you shower after you put your shampoo through take the tips of your fingers and missage your hole head slowly. Starting from the front moving your way towards the back. Make sure to do each section of hair! This helps make your hair grow faster.

this happend to me before and it really does stink. I wanted to sue the people. But its not as bad as it seems

If you need more help hit me up
email - pink_lip_gloss91@hotmail.com
aim - fliirtatii0usz

Goodluck hun

Q: Ok I still have feelings for my Ex Boyfriend but I dont know if this means he likes me:

1. He comes and stands beside/or around me when we have a break at school
2.He Takes Up For Me
3.He play fights with me
4.He Walks Me to my bus EVERYDAY
5.When I come in late he always seems happy to see me!

So Does this Mean anything. PLEASE Be Honest! Thanks A Bunch

Honey its obvious he is still head over heals inlove with you

Q: Well, this is kind of confusing. My best guy friend (bob) have been friends since third grade. We can tell each other everything and we laugh all the time with each other. I have liked him on and off a lot. When I like him I try to tell myself "it will never work, and if we broke up would we be able to be friends"? Well he stayed the night (slept downstairs) and my friend Kaitlyn was over too. We kind of flirt a lot, you know push each other around, just that kind of stuff. Well I think we both like each other, it would be lying to say we didn't. DO you think it would be stupid to go out and ruin our friendship

Going out with your friend doesnt always ruin your friendship. I have gone out with many guys and we have been close friends after.. if you guys do go out just simply tell him.. If things dont work I sitll want to be friends

Q: I've had a girlfriend for about 5½ yrs now and I really love her and all and I want to move our realonship up a bit and I don't know how. I was thinking about making love to her when it was the right time for her but im just afraid she won't be happy with my size. Were both virgins and I really don't want to hurt her. Do you think moving our realonship up a bit is worth a shot?
Also do you think 11 inches will really hurt a girl badly, especially if shes a virgin?

Please Be Nice I Rate 5's

THis is really odd for meh to answer to but i just want to help lol.. Well to be honest yes 11 inches would hurt her so I suggest you finger her first so she will loosen up.

Q: My boyfriends' ex is pregnant, she isn't trying to break us up or anything. She stays out of my way and I stay out of hers. I love my boyfriend very much, do you think that the baby could break us up or make us closer. Please help. Should I talk to the ex or just leave things as are.

I think you should try to become friends with the ex that way things wont be strange between you to and you can stay with your boyfriend bet allow him to see his baby.

Q: ok, well, my bf's friend asked me if i would make out with my bf and i said i would. you see my bf had never made out with anyone before. so when we went to the movies with him and our friends something happend. all the guys were calling him a wuss bc he has never made out before and stuff. so anyway in the middle of the movie he turns to me and says "look, i love you but i dont want to mess anything up so can i kiss you?" and i was like...um...yea ok. so he was like.."lets do it then". i felt REALLY werid. so then everyone came and sat by us so we kinda stoped talking or doing anything. so then about...i would say 10 mins past and he said "ok, i know this is gonna be akward but im sorry". so out of no where he starts to make out with me. and im not saying it was bad but it felt werid. so after 3 seconds i pulled back and said "this feels weird". and he said sorry and stoped talking. so now i feel bad. i mean, i want him to kiss me bc he wants to and bc he likes me. not bc his buddies are making fun of him! so the question is...should i tell him why i pulled away? and was it bad for me to pull away? sould i say sorry? im so confused so I BEG OF YOU! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!! theres some 5's involed : ).

You were perfectly right for pulling away. I mean I bet he really does love you alot and doesnt mind doing stuff with you but peer pressure can be hard on guys aswell as girls. And you pulling away wasnt bad it was just saying exactly how you felt. I think you should tell your bf that you pulled away cause you felt he was doing it because his friends wanted him to. Then he will understand! hope i helped
If anything else just post
Love maddie

Q: Ok...So, I go to conciling and im on Medication. But, I still don't feel happy. I'm always down and I never want to do anything. I like being alone, always. And I try to change myself but it just keeps getting worse. Yes, I cut, But im really not a bad person. My family is dieing to get me to change and be like one of my friends. They told me that they wished I was like her....Any advice on how to change my ways and make my parents proud??

Hey I thik it would be easyer for meh to talk to you and help you if you had a messanger.. My AIM is b00tiiEfuLlx0 but if you dont have aim my email is pink_lip_gloss91@hotmail.com

bio

I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.