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When should you go out with someone?
In what situation should you ask someone out? Should you hope for them to be your lifelong partner? Should you simply hope for a few fun months? Should you go for it only because you're desperate? Does every relationship need to be meaningful and long-lasting?
I ask because I'm uncertain whether to ask someone out, of course. I find him attractive and he can be pretty funny, but I don't think it'd last for a long time. I think the things pushing me towards him are my desperation for a relationship and the fact that he is pretty attractive, but otherwise there is no amazing spark. Are those good enough grounds to initiate a relationship?
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wel a relationship isnt alway meant ot last forever, just treat each one as an exspiriance and have fun with it. as long as ya both like each other theres no reason to not go out
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Yes, all you need for a relationship to work is mutual attraction and someone you can have fun with. If it doesnt work then you can always have them as the hot guy i went out with.. And then later if you date someone really ugly who makes you feel like poo you can always look back and realise that at some point you went out with a hot guy.. Alternatively you can stay single and wait for that special someone but if you do i advise you learn the words to 'some day my prince will come' from cinderella
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It seems to me like you worry too much... just let it go however it goes. Ask him out. You can't be waiting around and hoping all your life so go for it and see what happens from there.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo <3
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I think to every relationship there should be a foundation of trust and communication. If you can trust him, have a great time with him, and you find him attractive I think you should go for it. Sometimes that dim spark egnites into a fiery inferno when you're going out with the person. One word of caution though; don't go into a relationship thinking about how long it will last. You need to be in the moment when it comes to this...otherwise it'll be over before you know it. And besides, you're a teenager, allow yourself to just go out and have fun. Let your emotions flow and try not to be too serious about the relationship in the beginning (most guys freak out about commitment).
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well I think that desperation is really hard cause ive been there before. and going out with a guy because of desperation only hurts you. I think you should try and find little sparks here and there before you ask him out. Like hang out with him and see where things spark. If there are a fiew sparks then try it out but dont do it just because your desperate.. do it cause you like him
good luck
<3maddie
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i wouldnt ask them out thinking "hey this could be the love of my life, blah blah" just go up to them and ask if they would like to catch a movie, play, etc..
id keep the mindset that, hey i might like this person so ill see if they wanna do something and see what happens.
no, every relationship does not have to be meaningful and long-lasting. a part of life and love is figuring out what you like/dont like, and you find that out by dating people and seeing what catches your fancy or doesnt.
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Yes. It may be grand to find that one person the first time, but sometimes it's important to have prior relationships. I kind of regret not dating for fun when I was younger. When I did start dating I didn't know what to do, what to say, or anything. That can compromise a relationship that could have lasted otherwise. You need to get involved with people and learn about relationships so that you can understand what they're really about before it becomes important to know. It's great that you're thinking like this. Since you doubt the relationship would last and you're admitting this to yourself it will be easy for you to prevent yourself from doing things that you may regret. In other words, you can keep yourself from getting hurt. YES, definitely go out with him, you'll have a great time and learn some stuff, but DON'T have sex with him. You can make out and touch or whatever you want, that's actually a good idea so you can learn and practice, but no intercourse. It causes so many complications in relationships and is the source of so much regret for so many people. Don't tell him you love him if you don't and when the relationship is about to end, let it end peacefully and mutually if at all possible. Think of it as prepping for the right guy. You'll both have a great time together and just as long as you don't give this guy any wrong impressions you wouldn't be using him and it's perfectly okay to date him. "Meaningless" short-term relationships are important, if he were to date you, he probably wouldn't expect it to last either, especially since you are probably still young. Good luck!
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