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Hey, I'm Rachel but most people call me Riley (long story).I don't really know what to say about myself..I'm a pretty laid back person once you get to know me. I'd like to think that I have a good sense of humor, but sometimes my dorkiness shines through. I enjoy doing anything where I can creatively express myself; drawing, dancing, painting, photography, singing, and writing take up a big chunk of my time. I'm obsessed with music...my taste is pretty eclectic. I also love helping people with their problems..most of my friends say that they wouldn't go to anyone else for advice but me. So if you ever need help, just ask! :)

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The first time you make out, is it 'scary'? I know that sounds weird, but I would imagine it would be that way. How do you know when someone's about to kiss you? Can they usually tell if you've never made out before? Help! :)

Since most everyone has answered if it's scary or not, I guess I'll answer the second question. There's a couple of ways to figure out if a person wants to kiss your or not. The number one give away is when they start glancing down at your mouth for a moment or two. Also, the person will probably be trying to make any kind of contact with you..most likely touching your arm lightly or getting pretty close to you. If you can read people well enough you'll eventually see that they have a certain expression on their face whenever they want to kiss you as well. Good luck! (btw, i didn't think it was scary)

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In what situation should you ask someone out? Should you hope for them to be your lifelong partner? Should you simply hope for a few fun months? Should you go for it only because you're desperate? Does every relationship need to be meaningful and long-lasting?

I ask because I'm uncertain whether to ask someone out, of course. I find him attractive and he can be pretty funny, but I don't think it'd last for a long time. I think the things pushing me towards him are my desperation for a relationship and the fact that he is pretty attractive, but otherwise there is no amazing spark. Are those good enough grounds to initiate a relationship?

I think to every relationship there should be a foundation of trust and communication. If you can trust him, have a great time with him, and you find him attractive I think you should go for it. Sometimes that dim spark egnites into a fiery inferno when you're going out with the person. One word of caution though; don't go into a relationship thinking about how long it will last. You need to be in the moment when it comes to this...otherwise it'll be over before you know it. And besides, you're a teenager, allow yourself to just go out and have fun. Let your emotions flow and try not to be too serious about the relationship in the beginning (most guys freak out about commitment).

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