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What makes him not just wake up and go to the bathroom? My brother doesn't just pee in his bed, he has peed in my moms bed and the couch in the living room. He just wakes up in the middle of the night and goes to sleep wherever.And hes peeing everywhere. Could he be peeing in the bed cause he has asthma?

Sometimes people have to wake him up to go to the restroom and sometimes he drinks water before he goes to sleep. sometimes he doesnt and he still pees in the bed.

he drank some water last night and he just peed

20/F I stopped wetting the bed at about 13 years old. Before that, my mom tried everything to get me to stop. From alarms in my underwear (haha) to placebo medication. In time, I'm sure his muscles will develop so that he will be able to control it, but for now, he muscles may just be under-developed.

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Okay so i am a belimic and my mom lives poor just me and my mom and we live in a trailer park im am 13 and a girl in the 6th grade. And My mom thinks that i am beautiful but Alittle bit over weight and so that is why i am a belimic. And she is doing whatever she can to make me a model. She is an achohalic so doesnt really know or remember alot so she sleeps alot and her abusive boyfriend is the one in charge. He always hits me and make me end up crying under my bed as he looks for me. And i think that i am transgender and i hate hOw my mom makes me look so pretty. I have no chance of standing up fOr my self or telling anyone because i will get beat up. People think that just because i am taken away from them that i will be fine but somehow they always have a way to find me. I know this because it has happend before. So please i need help. Thanks

I'm so sorry to hear that you are having a tough time. I don't think you should tell your mom because she could make matters worse. Isn't there a teacher or guidance counselor at school that you can talk to? What about other family members? Hope things get better for ya

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i recently developed an over-eating disorder.
im not over weight or anything like that but i hav been crash dieting ALL year and doing starvation diets so now i over-eat like crazy.

I NEED TO STOP.
its not healthy and im gaining weight.

how do i stop and start a normal, healhty diet?

i want to start a good diet tomorrow.
i want to loose 10-15 pounds.

HELP

The reason you're over-eating is to compensate for your under-eating phases. Do your best to stop restricting. When you give your body the food it needs and when it needs it, it won't want to "hoard" food.

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well im gonna be a greaser for something at school and i don know what i should use for my hair so please help me out

Use Vaseline or baby oil. Either one will make your hair really greasy!

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I am thinking about doing the Master Cleanse (also known as the Lemonade Diet). I was wondering if anybody who has done the cleanse could share their insight on the whole experience (was it worth it, did you loose a lot of weight, did the weight stay off/come off quickly).

I am 20 years old, 5'4 and about 130 pounds. I am trying to shed some extra weight that I put on at school this year. I have been eating very healthily- no junk food at all, and running 1.5-2 miles each day, but the scale does not seem to be budging (i know, i know - patience). But I am frustrated so I wanted to use the cleanse as a good jump start.

I would really appreciate any advice/insight you could share!
Thanks!

If you have been eating healthily, why would you need to do a cleanse? When you go days without food, you starve your muscles. By the time you get off the cleanse, you will have lost more muscle than fat. I would suggest eating 500 calories less each day if you really want to lose weight.

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Hey guys i want to put some post its on my bathroom mirror with little inspirational sayings or something to do with positive thinking. Just little reminders. So far i have "positive attitude creates positive results" "Where there is no struggle there is no strength" and "obstacles are what you see when you lose sight of your goal" Does anybody have any other suggestions.. Your help is greatly appreciated and i do rate :)

"Attitude is everything"
"I am substantial"
"If not now, when?"

Hope these help!

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i'm a teen girl i eat a lot and i eat food thats bad for me. it taste great and i don't wanna give it up; i'm skinny but i think i could end up fat if i keep eating like this. i tried eating less but i went back to my old way of eating within a few days. should i change my diet?

You should definitely try. This doesn't mean give up the foods you love. You can have the foods you truly enjoy, but have less of them. Make room for fruits, vegetables, whole grains and low fat dairy products.

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What is the best way for me to show my girl friend that she means the world to me and that i fully trust her and love her with all of my heart?

Being thoughtful is something every girl can appreciate. For instance, say that she's telling you about how her last hair tie broke, go to the store and surprise her with a new pack. The little things mean so much. I promise!

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Hello i'm a 20 year old female. I'm about 5'7 and currently weigh now almost 180lbs. Just 3 months ago i weighted 140lbs. I still look like i weigh that i tell people how much i weigh and they dont believe me. I'm not stressed, i'm eating decently healthy. The past month i noticed i was gaining weight so i eliminated any sugary beverages and drink mainly water and have even tried sticking to a low fat diet. But still i'm gaining weight and i just dont understand why. I dont go to the gym and work out but i do get a decent amount of exercise. I take the dogs for a daily 30-45 min walk plus my job requires me to constantly be on my feet. I dont have insurance right now and i only go to the doctors if absolutely needed. Any suggestions on whats going on and what i can do to lose the extra weight? Thanks so much! I do rate

Personally, I feel like low-fat dieting is what is keeping us as a nation, fat. Fat will not make you fat. Excess carbs do. Bring fat back into your diet and add protein.

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I am female, 16 and have my permit. I want my licence so bad, I want to go out and do things without my parents. Now, I'm not afraid to drive as much as I'm afraid that I'll get hurt or worse, hurt someone else. I don't know why, but I think about that and I feel like I never want to get my licence. But I want to be able to drive on my own I just have a big fear holding me back and I don't know how to get rid of it! Any ideas to help me get over this fear and just go do it, just go out and drive? Thanks

Personally, I feel safer knowing that I'm in control of the car and not sitting in the passenger sear putting my life in someone else's hands. Trust yourself.

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How do I quit eating junk food?

If possible, keep it out of the house so that it's not readily available.

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So, this is a long one.

I had a guy track me down on Facebook and send me a long message about how I tortured and bullied him in school.

But most of what he said I don't remember, and a lot it couldn’t have happened. I had a rather severe anxiety disorder throughout my early teens, a few years are just emotional blurs to me, but some of things he claimed I did - like speak up in class to embarrass him, or make up a nasty song about him - it’s really near impossible for me to have done. I didn’t speak in class. I started to cry or throw up when I had to make presentations. I wouldn’t speak aloud to people who weren’t my friends. I stayed inside at recess and shelved books in the library... What I DO remember is coming home violently crying because of what this boy had a habit of taking things from me and flushing them down the toilet - to the point that my mother called the school, and had my desk moved away from his.

In high school we never had a single class together and were in different academic streams. But in grade 11, he tried to make himself useful to the drama club, the rest of the stage crew holding a meeting on how to politely kick him for his incompetence and arrogance. I defended him. Sure, he’s was a bit of an ass, but he was obviously trying to be useful; we should try and create tasks for him. But the senior stage manager decided to ask him to leave. I wasn't there, and we never spoke of it.

I haven’t responded to him. I didn’t know what to say. Maybe he is confusing me with someone else as well. It doesn’t seem worth it to argue with him and tell him he has a whole bunch of it dead wrong. Maybe I should message him and say like "I’m sorry you had a tough..." What do you think?

I wouldn't go into a long winded response for someone like this. Clearly, he is very disturbed considering he tracked you down and after all these years he decided to make contact. If you must say something, say "I think you have me confused with someone else". Leave it at that.

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Ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs already we have 2 kids together. He treats me like im a piece of garbage and i dont understand why I put up with it.
Im a smart person i got my AA and now im working on my teaching degree. Im the one that works and takes care of our kids while his lazy ass sits around and does nothing yet he has the nerve to call me nasty names to tell me im ugly, fat, and worthless... I know i deserve better i just had my son 2 months ago and im not fat i have a pouch but that will go away with some exercise im 5'4" and i weigh 155. I think im a beautiful person inside and outside. I just cant understand why he treats me the way he does I do everything for him. I go out of my way to try and keep him happy I even go to the extent of taking my kids in the mornings on my days off out to visit my mother or run errans just so he can sleep and not start insulting me.
I come from a great family my parents always helped eachother out and they would do anything for me. Its sad that even after all the things that he has said and done to me I still love him and Im trying to make it work between us. I love myself too I know im not ugly im a good person i just dont understand why he is such a nasty person and why i put up with it?

For you to realize your worth is a great thing. Now, act on it. Prove to yourself and your kids that you are aware of your worth. This means parting ways with your boyfriend. He sounds like a toxic person to be around and I don't feel that it would be worth it to "work things out". He sounds like a vicious individual.

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I'm a 32/female. I work as a server and worked til midnight on Thursday. I drank alot of caffeine while working so I thought I would stop on the way home and get a drink and order some food for my boyfriend who i live with. I ended up drinking 3 beers and got some wings for him and talked to this girl who said she had just moved here from LA and had no girl friends here. When i got home it was almost 2:00 in the morning and when I walked in the cushions were gone off the couch, the tv was gone, computer was gone, mattress gone. My phone had been dead so i put it on the charger and called my boyfriend. When he answered he called me a whore and said i had been out whoring around. I said first of all dont ever call me a whore, and that i had gotten him some food and had money for him as he had said he was broke before. He called me a liar and this made me very angry. I have never cheated on him. I have since been able to get him to bring back the tv and computer but have been sleeping on the box spring with no mattress and thinking what should I do? I do love him very much so this has really hurt me. None of my friends or family like him which makes me feel even more sorry for him. I guess I will move out the first of May. He will not take my calls except once to tell me he loved me and hated this sitution yesterday morning. What should I do? ANY ADVICE?!!!

I'm curious...why does your family dislike him? He must have acted immaturely like this before. I can't understand why a grown individual would act in such a way. This leads me to believe that he has a lot of growing up to do. Do you intend to be the one to "raise" him?

-Thanks for the feedback! You are very strong and wise for being so willing to walk away from this situation when most people would stoop to his level. I admire your courage and wish you luck!

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my question is i am having a talent show in 4 weeks it is a particapon grade lol i am in need of some help and am not afraid to be silly

I think it would be really funny if you read a song as poetry. Something such as "Oops I Did it Again" by Britney Spears. Be all dramatic. It'll be hilarious! :)

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I'm 19 and female,I've been working and and eating healthy so I can lose some weight, but my period started yesterday so I was craving more food than usual,

Breakfast:10:00am
2 whole wheat bread
1 tbs of peanut butter
1 scrambled eggs
handful of cherios with no milk

lunch:11:40am
1 piece of ribeye steak
a plate of roasted pork (no skin)

snack:1:00pm
an apple

snack #2: 3:20pm
southwestern wrap from the cafe (the size is 1/3 of the burrito)
(including honey wheat tortilla,tomatoes,lettuce,chipotle sauce,black beans)
drink:
mulberry hot tea

pre- workout snack:5:00

banana oatmeal with medium size of banana
1 small cup of strawberry

workout:2 hours and 30 minutes


after workout:10:00

footlong subway:black forest ham with all the vegetables and jalapeno (no sauce included)


Did I overeat for the day? I'm trying to lose weight.

Personally, I think you ate too much. Also you're putting too much focus on the wrong foods. Eat more protein and less bread.

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what color of under shirt goes well underneath a yellow shirt?

White.
No black, though. Black and yellow together look like "bee" colors.

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I need to loose weight really quick. I already do soo much physical activity so working out is totally not an option. I am a 13 year old girl. Is anorexia a bad idea? Bullemia? please help.

Not only is it bad for your health to have an eating disorder, but it won't give you the body you would want. Sure, you would lose weight, but most of the weight is in muscle. Your body will hold on to fat and you may end up weighing less, but the fat will make you look flabby.

An eating disorder is not the answer.

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I just watched the Asians in the Library video by that UCLA girl and I just feel so sad, depressed, and suicidal now. Why do people have to be like this?

I just saw that video yesterday and I agree, it's sick, but don't let it devastate you. A majority of the population aren't like her. If you read her YouTube comments you'll see how angry viewers are because they don't share her point of view.

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How can you stop loosing hair wile being anorexic

I'm not sure you can. You need seek out help for your eating disorder not your hair loss.

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