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I dont know who to tell my mom is to scary
Okay so i am a belimic and my mom lives poor just me and my mom and we live in a trailer park im am 13 and a girl in the 6th grade. And My mom thinks that i am beautiful but Alittle bit over weight and so that is why i am a belimic. And she is doing whatever she can to make me a model. She is an achohalic so doesnt really know or remember alot so she sleeps alot and her abusive boyfriend is the one in charge. He always hits me and make me end up crying under my bed as he looks for me. And i think that i am transgender and i hate hOw my mom makes me look so pretty. I have no chance of standing up fOr my self or telling anyone because i will get beat up. People think that just because i am taken away from them that i will be fine but somehow they always have a way to find me. I know this because it has happend before. So please i need help. Thanks
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Stop being belimic. That doesn't help you, only makes your physical health worse. I was in a position like your own. You need to tell anyone you can about your situation. Anyone who cares about you. Your friends, teachers, whoever. You are the only one that can make a change. You don't have to listen to your mother, look at her. Look at her situation. Is she right in doing what she does? Then why is she right about what she says about you? You need to do everything in your power to get out of that place. Do not worry about them coming and finding you. What exactly happened when you were taken away? How did they find you? If you can explain that I may be able to help you further.
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I really hope you will listin to me when I tell you this Stop being belimic you don't have to be skinny nor a model you don't have to listin to your mom shes mest up shes wrong and you don't want to be like that. so what if your a little over weight that don't matter I don't know if yoour upset about being a little over weight because you don't state this in your question but you don't have to be supppper skinny it's unhealthy but anyway you say that you have no chance of standing up for yourself well not to be mean or harsh but your wrong you can you say they find you but you need to go to the police your mom and her boyfriend is wrong! sometime if you can ever go out of the house or like when you get to school ask to use the phone and call the police or tell the office people and let them call the police because let me tell you if you tell the police your mom may find you but she ain't gonna be getting you! trust me you'll be safe with them and you won't get beat up either the police woun't let that happen and trust me the police woun't give you back either because what they did or should I say do to you is totally wrong so trust me on this and I realllly HOPE you will take my advice on this and do it. Also try to be not be belimic if you can help it. P.s. like if you get put in a foster home or whatever a family member something like that they can find you but they can't have you if somehow they got ahold of you that would be kidnapping and they would go to jail. S PLEEASE take my advice and call the police you will be safe with them p.s. (again haha) not trying to preach to you but you can also pray to God he is aways there for you and will help you. Good luck(: I hope I helped!! I will be praying for you!(: sorry if I was harsh I don't mean to!
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I'm sorry this is happening to you. No child should have to live with the abuse you are telling us about is happening to you.
There are ways for you to protect yourself from further abuse though it does involve telling the right people. IF school has not been dismissed for the summer than you need to tell a trusted teacher or your principal. There are laws to protect you and once you tell them what has been happening to you; by law the must take the appropriate action.
IF school has been dismissed for the summer you have two other choices you can make. The first is you may always call 911. If you are fearful of having the police come to your home, then go to the nearest fire station. Fire stations are safe havens for children and women. If the sire station is unmanned there will be a phone box on the front of the station. This phone is directly connected to either the area 911 center or the fire dispatch. Tell them you are in trouble and fear for your safety. Fire fighters will be sent to care for and protect you while the appropriate people are called to come and help you.
Once the police and child services agencies verify that you are an abuse child, I have no reason to believe you are not and it will not take them long to make the verification. Your mothers boyfriend will be either ordered out of your home or taken to jail. Family services will help your mother deal with her alcoholism while seeing to it you are properly cared for.
Other than reporting the abuse the only thing you may want to do is contact al ateen. This is an organization that will through others in similar situations help you learn how to deal with an alcoholic parent. Call 888-425-2666 to find a meeting group near you.
Now as to being transgender. Your 13 years old and while you may eventually decide you are transgender; right now I would advise against putting a label on your sexuality. It will only harm you to do so. You are just now starting to figure out who you are as a person in general and what your sexuality is. Give yourself time to grow and mature, to figure out just who you are and what you will be. This includes your sexuality.
As for the bulimia: This is not good. You are doing yourself tremendous harm. Being a bit over weight at your age may not really be unhealthy as your body is changing. Given as you say your mom is an alcoholic I am suspect of her judgement in this respect. Bulimia is untreated can kill you.
You need to make whoever you tell about the abuse that you are also bulimic. Social services must also be told of this so they can see to it that you get the proper help.
Big changes are happening right now. Not only is there a huge chemical change going on within you but your body is changing as well. You are going from little girl, or tomboy to a young women. These changes take time not only to adapt to but to completely finish. You have at minimum 5 years left for your body to complete its makeover of the little girl to women.
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Awww I am sorry, you have to go through all this. Since your mom is an alcoholic, I don't think your mom could be around to help or be there emotionally to help you. Is there anyone else you can ask for help?? Like a good friend you can trust, a school counselor, or anyone else you really trust?? My advice is go to someone you really trust to talk about your problems. At the last resort you should go get yourself away from them. Because if you are hit and your mom is an alcoholic you would be taken away.
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I'm so sorry to hear that you are having a tough time. I don't think you should tell your mom because she could make matters worse. Isn't there a teacher or guidance counselor at school that you can talk to? What about other family members? Hope things get better for ya <3
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