Hey My name's gen. :] My goal in life is not to have an average of a 5 rating all the time.
I'm an overrall nice person, but when it comes to advice, I will be blunt if necessary. I will be harsh if necessary. Just because I can't stand being mean to someone but the fact that I don't know who you are, I can be mean with the answer if I want to. :)
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and the other day on the phone, randomly he goes, i wish i could see you, and hug you every second of the day.
is that sweet or just plain weird?
THANKSOMUCH! (link)
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Girl, that is totally sweet and adorable.
I don't know how your mind works, but there should be other guys like that in the world, so there would be less emo-crycry-my-boyfriend-doesnt-show-affection-for-me-let-me-die girls in the world :)
I love when my boyfriend says stuff like that randomly, it's the cutest thing. ^_^
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im 16/f and im home alone
and im scared cuz i got drunk and i don't want my rents to know. and im dizzy what should i do? (link)
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Drink lots of water. And breath mints to cover up yo breath. Don't freak out O_o
You're home alone, anyways.
You'll be sober within 2 hours mannnn.
Or pass out lolllll. :D
But you can just say you was sleepy.
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ok..ima 15 yr old boy with a twin sister..i asked a question before..and it has been getting worse. I said that she had been "watching me". And when I walked passed her room, when she thought i was sleeping and she had her door opened a little bit. She was naked and touching herself "down there" and watching a video either she made or had one of her friends video taping her touching me while I was sleeping. i was naked and my thing was on there. This is the weirdest thing that has happened to me and im completely creeped out by her cause she has seen me naked. i don't even want to go by her...WHAT DO I DO??? (link)
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Ok, that is beyond weird, babe.
She's 15 and probably knows a lot about sex or whatever, so I don't think she's confused or "exploring" anything. Tell your parents, this little "Ooh play with my nakey brother!" is getting out of hand.
This reminds me in 5th grade, my old bestfriend told me she had seen a movie where the sister fell in love with her brother. Except yours is sexual. And awkward. >_<
Anyways, defently tell your parents about it.. You might seem embarrased or nervous about it, but it's the best thing to do. I don't know if she deserves therapy or anything, but you'll figure it out.
Best of luck o__o.
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me 16/f
him 16/f
ok so i have a guy friend and we're not best friends but i think he likes me.these are the things he does.
-hugs me randomly
-challenges me at sports
-pulled me onto his lap in a hot tub
-compliments me
-teases me a little
and when i flirt he flirts back but when we were talking in a small group of our friends he says he's enjoying the freedom of not being in a relationship. he's been in an on again off again relationship for a year.
so does he like me or am i just a summer flirt buddy? (link)
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He sounds like a summer flirt buddy. Lol.
It sounds like he does like you..But maybe he's enjoying the freedom from his last finally-official break-up.
Just give it some time, maybe he'll grow to like you more and will be ready for another relationship. Until then, keep flirtin' ;) And since you aint in a relationship, FLIRRTT WIT DEM OTHER BOYS. ;D Bahaha.
Anyways, just let it progress.
On the same hand, guys can and do have a tendency to lead girls on when they don't want shit.
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Why do most people hate cheerleaders?
I don't understand it at all.
please help me! (link)
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Most people hate cheerleaders basically from what they see in the movies. They're sterotyped as the slutty, snobby girls who get the captain of the football team. Making every other girl feel inferior to them, because they "rule the school." In reality, not ALL cheerleaders are like this. Every school has bitches, and maybe they just happen to be cheerleaders at the time, too. People are still people though.
I'm friends with some cheerleaders here, and they are most defently not stuck-up or bratty.
People just need to get over themselves and realize that the movies don't really explain reality.
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Ok, So I became friends with this girl "Sara" recently, and I'd say we're pretty much best friends now. I've really, really liked this guy "Joe" for over two years. Anyways, Sara always hangs out with him. She'll call him and ask for rides to parties (which, I'm not really a Partier). And in gym class[I'm in the 11th grade btw, and he just graduated] she would always do stuff to get him to react to her with some comment. I don't think he likes her though. Many others agree that she flirts with him..A LOT. We even went to the movies with Joe and his friend, hoping I'd get a chance to hang out with him [so she said], and she sat by him AND talked to him the whole time. She claims she doesn't like him and that she's "IN LOVE" with my long time[like whole life] friend "Chad" [he just "does stuff" with her/uses her], but sometimes I doubt her truth about Joe. She's VERY flirty and loves attention from boys (not to be mean, but it's true.)So can someone PLEASE give me there's opinion and advice!?. Sorry again it's so long. (link)
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Well, there could be a chance that she DOES like him and she's just very scared to tell you, but if you confronted her so many times, maybe not. She would've given up and told you by now.
Maybe she's just boy-crazy and despite the non-crushness on him, she likes attention from every boy she see's. Wether or not, it's a crush of yours. I know some girls like that over here.
You should defently try to get some alone time with Joe though! Step up YOUR game, and go get YO MANN. :)) Because once he's taken [with you of course], she can't do that flirty shit anymore.
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i'm 15 and have a boyfriend of a year and 2 months. i love my boyfriend but i also love it when other guys look at me. like, i have no intention of thinking of them in romantic ways, or even knowing the person, i just like being looked at. is that wrong? (link)
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Naw, not really.
As long as there are no feelings, there's nothing wrong with liking attention. :P
It's more like a self-confidence boost.
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me and my best friends bro started dating and i accedently broke his necklace and he broke up with me an i love him every time i call my bff he ansers and i cant breath but weve been broken up for 2 months i say im sorry over and over again but he wont forgive me what do i do? (link)
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Dude, get over him.
What kinda guy breaks up with his girl over a NECKLACE?
A dickwad, that's what.
Look for a new boy, babe.
Go to the mall with friends and go boy-scoping ;) Heh. As wrong as that sounds.
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ok i just got my first boyfriend the 21st and im 13 years old and everytime we see eachother he brings a condom. but i dont know if i should. and plus im prudeee. help me outt (link)
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Uhm. -Le Cough.-
I understand wanting to carry around protection "just in case." But it's only been a week, babe.. That isn't necessary at all. And you're 13, nonetheless. Tell your boy he is NOT going to be getting any soon. And to keep his snake IN HIS CAGE, if you know what I mean. :)
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i love you genn :]] (link)
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I LOVE YOU MORE!
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14/f, if it matters (:
i want to find songs like these;
When I Go Down - Relient K
Save Us - Cartel
Gravity - John Mayer
my friend died last friday, her funeral is thursday, and i'm supposed to make a CD of songs like that,
like, rock-ish, but slow songs, and sad.
thanks in advance for any help (link)
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Slipped Away- Avril Lavigne.
That's a great song.. I listened to it all the time when my friend died past October. =/
Say What You Will- Dahmait[sp,sorry] Doyle
Dreaming of You- Selena
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My boyfriend is like a "nerd". It's hard to to explain why, but believe me, he is.
When I first started going out with him, I knew that he'd be very prude because he went out with my best friend a year ago, and they went out for 7 months, and he never even attempted to kiss her.
One year later, I went out with him, [ still am ]. He tried kissing me on the first day, and tried making out with me on the second.
First of all, why do you think hes like this?
Today is our second month aniversery [ haha . ]
At the pool today, he grabbed me and started rubbing me aginst him, and he was REALLY HARD. & He grabbed my butt. He was bascily like grinding me. I loved it, but I mean, do you think this is too fast? I don't want to show that im easy, cause i'm not. Im 13, and this is my first boyfriend.
He asked me if I liked it, and I just said yes. Could I have said something differnt? Whenever he does something "new" he always asks that, and I just say "yes". What else could I say.
Thank you so much for all your help. (link)
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Maybe his relationship with your bestfriend was his first, so he was nervous to do anything with your bestfriend because he'd be new at it. And now that he's "experienced" or whatever, he didn't have a problem with you. Or it could be the fact that he's more comfortable with you.
As for the grabbing, his "being happy", grinding, rubby dub dub, I don't know. It doesn't seem like anything too big, people grind in dances too. You just happen to be at the pool. But it's only your 2nd month, I suggest making him wait for anything else that's new. And I'm not saying this is going to happen to you, but some guys like to do everything with a girl, then leave them. It's happened to girls I know, so yeah. >_< So I suggest making him wait for anything more, heh.
And for him questioning you, well, you can't lie and say it doesn't feel great! If it does, it does. If it doesn't, sorry to break his heart, but you better tell the fool it doesn't or he'll keep doing it.
=))
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girls when your making out what are you supposed to do with your hands?
put them around the guys neck i need help im going to makeout tommorow at a party with a really cute guy. (link)
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Lmao, I love how the make-out session is planned. :]
Anyways, you can put them anywhere that's comfortable..
Around the neck is fine.
On his face, but don't grab hard. O.o
If you wanna GET IT ON ;)
Then the chest and getting lower is fine.
If you don't plan on it though, keep yo hands UP.
Dont get him excited lolllll. =)
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I afraid of my boyfriends friends and he asked me if i wanted to go to a drive through with them and him. which makes me the only girl. and i said no thanks and he told me that we could make out the whole time. i trusted him. so i went and he went to get food and his friends started rapeing me and they told me if i screamed they would sufficate me so i didnt and i regret not screaming but i was so scared. my boyfriend was gone for like a half an hour which i thought was odd. and then they saw him coming so they got off me. i started crying and they made up an excuse why i was crying and he told them lets just go home. so the next day i told him and i couldnt stop crying he told me they didnt rape me and i was exagerating they were probaly just ticking me or osmething. i was going to tell my mom or someone but now im sure as hell nhot going to because if he doesnt believe me they wont either. im really scared and depressed and i cant stop crying what should i do? thanks. (link)
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That's just terrible and cruel.
Your boyfriend's a fucking dick for thinking that you are over-exaggerating something as serious as rape. People don't JOKE about that. Anyone would know that. I don't know if it was planned or if your boyfriend just doesn't want to deal with the fact that his friends raped you, but dump your boyfriend immediatley. As soon as you get the chance, because that isn't very boyfriend-like. Hell, that isn't even FRIEND-LIKE. You should tell your mom as soon as possible too, so you can get checked out by the doctor for anything. And get a lawyer and sue the boys who did that to you. They don't deserve to get away with something like that. No one should get away with that. Don't be afraid or nervous to tell your mother, it could've happened to anyone. But it's worse to keep it in, and it's better to do the doctor examinations immediatley, I heard there's more proof for the case, the earlier you get checked too?
But yeah, good luck with everything.
Sorry that had to happen to you. =/
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I was having a phone sex with this one guy and he hung up on me. does that mean i sucked that bad. thanks. (link)
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LOL, oh dear.
You could have. ((Dont get me wrong))
But there are other possibilites to:
-connection lost
-someone walked in
-accidently hung up
And plus, it probably would have been humiliating for him to call back!
I mean, can you imagine that?
Him: "Uhh.. Sorry about that. My phone hung up. Soo, where were we? Touching ourselves? Talking dirty? Okay, continue."
Talk about awkward, babe. :)
Don't worry about it so much now, just wait 'till you talk to him and see what's up.
If he hung up on you because you were that bad, I'm sorry O_O
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Ok, I have an average rating of 5 on my advice column, and I've been rated 18 times. Not saying that I mind, but you always see people on here being accused of "sugar-coating" the advice they give. I personally always despised sugarcoaters, but this got me thinking, what if I am one? In real life, I am a superduper nice person, sometimes I let people walk all over me, so I guess it would make sense if I am a little bit too nice when giving advice.
This has really been bothering me. I am not sure what to do, but I don't really have the heart to bitch at someone (sorry for the language), but at the same time I don't want to be considered a sugarcoater. I want my ratings to be fair and not high because I was being nice, but high because I gave good advice.
Any feedback about this would be very much appreciated =) (link)
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I'm generally a nice person too. +the letting people walk over me. They usually don't, but they have the ability to.
Anywho.
That's why I love the anonymousness.
If I don't know who it is, I can be as blunt as possible! =) And it's giving me the courage to tell my friends what I really think about their situations as well. Instead of "giving them what they want to hear" as well.
Fuck it if people call you a "sugarcoater" or whatever. As long as you give the best advice you can, SO BE IT. They just needa deal. :)
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is it bad to think about someone all the time that you cant have and you know that. (link)
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This is a yes and no answer. Depending.
Unfortunatly, I've learned there are always some people you just CAN'T GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. And a lot of people want what, or who, they can't have. And it sucks.
But at the same time, why waste your time? I say go to a club and find a hott gangster :)
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14/F
Hey.
One of my best friends has just started smoking pot and it's been freaking me out. She doesn't do it on a regular basis yet, but she hangs out with kids who are full-fledged potheads.
We've been friends for a really long time and I care about her a lot...I don't want her to do anything stupid. I don't harbor any delusions about the dangers of weed; I know it won't kill her, but I just don't want her to get in too deep or something. I love her, but she doesn't always have the best judgment...
So my question is: would it be out of line for me to confront her about it, or should I just mind my own business?
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. (link)
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If it's making you so concerned, you should confront her about it.
On her part: You are supposed to accept her decision.
On your part: She should be willing to listen to what you have to say.
Not all people who try drugs become addicted [trust me on that], but some still do. And the ones that do become addicted are the ones that ultimatly change. They start acting differently and all they wanna do is get high. And it stops being fun to hangout with them anymore.
So just tell her how you feel and how you don't want her to become a crack-head because it might change your friendship. :(
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can anybody help me find some good latino/spanish/other/hispanic films?
here are some ive watched:
- quincenera
- valentino
- valentin
- like water for chocolate
- frida (link)
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SELENA!
selena
selena
selena
SELLLLLEEEEENNAAAA
that movie's amazing:))
or how about Spanglish. haha
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why is it bad to bottle your feelings up? but why do some people bottle up their feelings? (link)
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I know I bottle up my feelings. Lol.
In my case, I just don't like sharing my problems with anyone really. >_<
It's not the fact that I don't trust them, like if a friend asks me a question, I'll answer with 100% truthfulness.
It also depends what kind of feelings you bottle up. For example, if it's anger towards a friend or someone, you'll probably end up thinking about it at one point and the feelings would have already built up greatly, and you might end up yelling at your friend or whoever the person is. Same with sadness, except instead of the yelling it will be sobbing uncontrollably. And another one for example, is "love" or crushes, rather. I've experienced this one many times. When the feelings for another builds up greatly, and by the time you're ready to give your feelings, it's already too late. Your crush has a girlfriend, someone you know has a crush on him so he's "off limits" now, or he's just over you.
There are a lot of cases in which bottling up is bad.. But sometimes it also can just avoid the things you dont want to confront.
>_<
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