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i havent had sex and i dont masterbate, but i have a bump not alot, just one, on my pubic hair area. i dont know what it is or why its there but i noticed it the other day and its kinda iches. does anyone know what it is? (link)
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Hi,
This can be a pimple and probably is. You can get pimples on any part of the body. I want to point something out here folks do not assume you know anything about a problem like this or medical. We cannot and should not provide answers that appear to solve someone's problem.
Also, I am wondering if you are a wrong way wiper. Mom's teach daughter to wipe a certain way to avoid infection. Bumps etc can exists from not wiping right or being as clean. This is just one idea. Unless this bump becomes bigger, swollen, red or purple or extremely weird I would not worry about it. I would however tell your mother you are concerned as she will know that it's nothing likely.
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Okey... my hormones are finally kicking in...
never did I want a boyfriend as I want one now....
how can I get one? Is thee a spiecial way to act or dress or look or talk or something? (link)
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Just be yourself. This is all you need to do and all others expect. By talking, walking acting differently you will come across as either a ditz or phony. People can tell when someone is acting.
Also, you don't just get a boyfriend by think POOF there he is. You have to make and cultivate relationships with guys and one of them may turn into boyfriend material. What you want right now may not be what you need.
Boys your age are well not very bright and still kids trapped between manhood so the maturity level is not there. Wait 2-3 years if I were you as girls are ahead that far than boys intellectually.
Relationships unfold and cannot be forced. You want the right guy for you don't you? Ypou need to wait then and get to know a boy well enough to even think of him as a boyfriend. If you just latch on to the first guy you see you are going to get hurt.
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can you get stds or whatever from masterbating? i mean like are there any risks involed? thanks. (link)
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You absolutely 100% per cent cannot at all get an STD from this activity. There are no risks involved here. Unless you are doing this all day for hours on end there is no medical risk at all. It's a good thing you asked misinformation is far deadlier than facts.
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If someone come to your house to bitch at you can you call the cops on them? (link)
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You could only if they refuse to leave after been shown the door and asked to. You would call the police and press charges for harassment. It is a crime to do this sort of thing and charges can be laid. However, if they were just griping at you for something and then left on their way it is not reason to call the police. If they keep coming day after day with the same thing or look as though they will get physical yes, call the police but no for a neighbor showing up and bitching about something you did.
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whenever im home alone, or even at school with other people, i constantly act as if im being watched. if that makes sense. and at night while im laying in bed i pretend as if im somewhere else and that im not mearly a student, but that im a secret agent hiding out for the night, or that ive been evacuated from the state because i know too much and im in the white house. im 18 years old..wtf is wrong with me? what do i do?(female) (link)
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Send me a bigger note about this. This sounds like you are in hypomanic state but if not put on the right medication and diagnosed properly you might find it escalating into BiPolar.
How should I know? I was there with the same secret agent/white house delusions, feeling more important than anyone else, being super gifted and then drifting back to reality. I was hype manic first which is not dangerous until delusion consumes all of you.
This is common and you are not insane but look to be suffering from a mental illness. It's alright, 1000s of people have it if this is what you have (which it sounds a lot like) including famous people and it is the precursor for brilliance. Unfortunately, a few assholes in society cause us grief but you will be okay.
Because this is a serious problem you need to see the emergency team at your local hospital and tell them what you are THINKING number one, SEEING, FEELING etc. If your speech sudennly gets very rapid and thoughts do and you feel high march your ass over there pronto--you have to be checked out anyways.
I hate to scare you and do NOT because this is fucking dangerous to you NOT TO GO to the emergency room but you may wind up spending a few weeks in the hospital. Do not fret, all it means is they want to make sure you are no longer delusional and cannot get hurt or hurt yourself by not being in full control.
What likely will happen here is what happened to me. They will put you on a lithium program, give you an anti-psychotic like Serequel and a mood stabilizer like lamitcal. You have to notice if moods are shifting up and down too and if you feel weepy they need that info up front.
I CANNOT MAKE A DIAGNOSIS. I am NOT a doctor but judging from my own experiences I KNOW YOU ARE NOT WELL AND NEED HELP and 2 SOUND CLASSIC HYPOMANIC HEADED FOR BIPOLAR EPISODE. GET HELP FAST.
I am here if you need info on this disease. I have been there and felt the same things you did. As long as you can see them now as a BIG problem and delusions waivering back and forth you can ward off a major issue but getting treatment. Do not waste any time in going to the ER. If you do it will get worse and mean being hospitalized if it's BiPolar which it looks to be.
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Ok, my girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 3 weeks. Last night we went out to dinner and we made out under the star-blanketed sky at the beach. She called me later that night and sometime later she asked me If I had thought about having one last "night". What should I do? I want to. But I don't know if I should. (link)
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One word DON'T. It is that simple you get involved one more time, hearts get broken, and then you will not have her as a friend. She wants her cake and icecream. She needs to move on and so do you. Sleeping with her now would be a mistake you live to regret. She wants to hold onto the past here and is not over you. If you ever did get back together it would be disaster unless you solved what caused you to drif away to begin with.
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There are a lot of really ugly girls at my school (( not to be mean to them becasue I think I'm ugly too )) that get really hott boyfriends, and some of them are juniors and seniors. I'm a freshman and I really want someone but I cant get anyone... ever... Can anyone help me? My friend Says I need to be more confident... HELP! (link)
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If you do not like yourself or your looks why expect anyone else to? Guys and for that matter anyone else can spot the person with self-image problems and they stay clear. You need to learn to like yourself and see you are not ugly and that your perception of self is screwing up everything.
Once you love yourself, get confident and enjoy things and let unfoldment happen you will find yourself with more than what you desired. Stop trying too hard also.
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help i just got my dog some shoes from pet's mart, and they're sooooo cute! and we just got them today, but she walks really funny and weird in them... like she lifts up her feet too high and walks slow, and doesn't really want to move... do you think she just needs to get used to them... and do you think that once she gets used to them she'll start walking normally? if you think she will, how long do you think it'll take? we only put it on her feet when she goes outside, and she goes outside like after every few hours or something.
please help i rate high!!!
P.S. also, if you have a dog that actually has shoes too, then tell me how your dog was walking at first, and if it ever got used to it, and all that stuff!!! please give me some details so i'll know exactly!!!! (link)
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The shoes are too lose from what you just wrote. If my dog was holding her paw up it means one of two things. She might be hurting her paw or is about to trip. If she/he trips you are screwed if the leg is injured. My advice dogs were never meant to wear shoes anyway but with those too lose and causing it problems walking do it a favor and take them back and cross the idea of shoes out. The animal is reacting as though it will trip over them so you need to take it away.
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What do guys look for in girls? (link)
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That question depends on the individual guy. No two guys will give the same answer. If it were me brains comes first. If I cannot have a good coversation with someone or the girl is well dumb as a post that would bother me personally.
I would want a woman who is strong and not one to back down. If I am in an argument for example I do not want someone backing down all the time. She also needs to know what she wants in life, is career minded, does not use drugs etc. Anyone who can drink themselves under the table on purpose are off my list.
I will admit it I like an attractive girl who takes care of herself but is not rail thin. Clean hair, nails etc and good appearance is key. I hate makeup on a woman period but if it has to be there go natural. I hate this black crap around the eyes like Avril does. Unlss auditioning to be the racoon that tips my garbage can over each morning avoid it.
I also need someone sweet, caring, compassionate, and who has a warped sense of humor and CAN BE HERSELF NOT AN ACTOR WITH ME. Girl's just seem to act around guys--be yourselves.
Compassion is big here. You have to have it. If you put down any minority, race, creed or guess what illness in a joke you're gone if it were me you were dating.
I think most guys just want a sweet girl and not someone superficial or stupid. Beauty comes second after brains and physicality with me. I hope it does with other guys.
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I had my period for two years not and it still doesnt come every month. Like when i do sports i never have it but over the summer i have. Is this normal? Im a 14/f. I asked my mom and she says its normal but my friends started last year and they have theirs every month. Do i need to get it chech or am I worring about nothing.
Thanks For the HELp (link)
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Calm down, relax, breathe and know you are fine. I hate the world normal. Who the hell is normal anyways? What is normal to one is not to another. Toss the word normal and the idea of it out of your heads nobody is that word. None that I meet anyway.
As far as your question goes when your friends got their periods do not matter. They all have different DNA and genetics than you do. Genes determine when you get your period and cycle.
For now, your cycle has not established itself as regular. You are on an irregular cycle. It will iron out eventually and is perfectly fine. Be sure to always have pads or tampons around and relax.
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what are a few good songs that females can sing to? as in like for karaokee er something?
thanks!! (link)
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Hi,
See CASA.ORG tons of suggestions for choirs all vocal with no instruments. You can even get the arrangements to choir material and contemporary, gospel or Christmas. They are worth looking into including any SATB arrangements. Most arrangements are by top groups in the a cappella scene.
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I am really shy around guys but I think I come off as standoffish. I don't mean to be shy...I just can't ever think of anything to say. Is this why guys don't like me? (link)
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If that is a reson why someone does not like you then to hell with them. You want someone who takes the time to figure out who you are as a person and see if they fit with you as a friend or boyfriend. Trust me a lot of guys like you but you have not stopped to smell the roses and let them approach. When you go out looking for what you want you never find what you needed was in front of you. Relax, love will find you.
I have the same problem around women myself. Once, you get me to talk and or I talk about something that is of mutual interest it works out. Figure out what interests you share and start talking but not non-stop chatter. I hate people that do not give others a chance to talk.
If you want to talk about shyness and more tips on how to get rid of it send something to my inbox. This letter is getting long but start joining groups, student council, anything, etc where you have to get comfortable with guys around you. We do not bite and over time you will get onto this better.
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My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.
Love,
Mel (link)
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This is the classic trying to cling onto someone who you cannot routine. It's also called a guilt trip. She is laying it on thicke with him. Sure she likes him a lot but she is building it up more so he will not go.
What should he do? Be tactful first of all. Secondly, tell her that "I like you but I would rather be your friend right now than boyfriend. It is not working for us. You are only going to be unhappy in the end." Then let it go. If she cries reinforce it the same gentle way and stop taking her calls. She will get it. That hurts less.
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i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?
and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?
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Unless your mother is whacking the shit out of you all the time or endangering your life there is no way either of you will be seperated. She has a right to discipline you, spank you, etc. for discipline methods. Verbal abuse exists and I have no idea what she is or is not saying to you though.
To professionals it may not sound like verbal abuse. Have you ever said to her "I know you are angry but why are you saying those kind of things to me.? Odds are she is not THINKING before she says them.
If you feel this is serious which it could indeed be tell a teacher or a trusted adult. There is not a thing we can do to keep physical or verbal abuse from happening over here. You need a teacher, counselor, fellow adult to fix the situation for you and with you. Do not be scared to ask for help.
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when your writing a magazine title in a sentence what do you do? underline it or bold it or italicize it? thanks ! (link)
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You never make this your own creation. There is exactly one way to do it. Blame this on me if someone says differently. Being a journalist if I am to mention a magazine or a movie title for example it appears in italics like Amityville Horror. I have never once used anything other than italics to do so.
The way to really find out is write your paper in the library and see a copy of the Chicago Manual Of Style journalists use. It shows how to capatilize, list source documents, and whether names are capped or not of magazines, businesses, churches etc. When in doubt go with how newspapers do it and get that book in your possession.
If you are Canadian the book you need to view is the Canadian Press Style Guide and CP Caps and Spelling. Text books might also show you how to do it.
If I were you I would be crafty and call Time Magazine ask for Editorial and then ask them how it is capped, and whether underlined or not. Major articles and body of work are listed differently.
Send a note to Dangernerd. He has been in radio and would know for sure how it is done. Just a tip.
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ok well i really like this guy and he wants me to go over his house and i want to (hes been to my house before and lets say me n him kissed **a few times**)but everytime he hangs out with a girl something happens weather its just a kiss or sex. and i wouldnt have a problem with this but after i found out that he only likes me as a friend and that he likes my cousin things changed...a few weeks ago before i found out that he didnt like me or before i found out that he liked my cousin he told me he wanted to finger me and i said ok but now that he likes my cousin should i go over his house when i no something is gonna happen? (link)
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You are a smart girl being played for a fool and so is your cousin if she lets him into your life. He plays girls like a fiddle so you better get rid of him and tell your cousin to beware. He is out for one thing to get into your pants and into the pants of your cousin by using you to get to her. Kiss Him Goodbye with the kiss of death both of you.
Keep your pants firmly zipped up and if you need to feel the effects of fingering you know how to on your own. He's not worthy of being able to do something that intimate with you. You are being used as a piece of meat by him and better learn fast he's after your body and nothing else.
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I'm having a Halloween/ Birthday party today and I rented Amutiville Horror and Texas Chainsaw Massaccre. I was wondering are they really scary, like should I be watching the,? (i'm 13) (link)
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Kate,
Here you go with Amityville. http://www.koaa.com/features/reeltalk/review.asp?id=1273&ReviewID=1429
Here's Texas Chainsaw Massacre. http://www.koaa.com/features/reeltalk/review.asp?id=686&ReviewID=629
The problem is what someone else thinks of a movie may never be what you think of a movie. Everyone loves something different. Your friends might love Amityville while you hated it. It is all subjective.
In fact Roger Ebert wrote recently that thumbs up and thumbs down or stars, or picture of a bomb these days mean nothing unless you read the reviews and figure things out based on what you liked and what they said.
Is Amityville scary? Not in my opinion Will you like it? I am not sure but the 1974 original is more to what you are looking for. Texas Chainsaw Massacre again people did not like it but horror buffs did. You ought to talk to my brother.
Incidentally, I am doing a live chat for halloween on horror movies. Also, if you have friends over for Halloween buy several blank T160 (8 hour) tapes. Cinemax is having a marathon all day and all night of movies you can use at your party. Just a helpful tip.
While I am not advertising my show persay check out www.teentalknetwork.com and Reel Talk from the drop down list on October 19th. We're having Tommy The Clown from RIZE on about hip-hop dance and Battle Zone competitions. We have contests too.
I hope this helped you. If you really need to know what people thought of a movie it's simple go to Rottentomatoes.com type in the movie and all the reviews ever published on it are there. Now Red Tomatoes mean the movie is good and a Green one bad. If a movie hits 50% it just made it. Below 50% it's a bomb.
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okay so my dad is in the air force, and he listens to country music. he likes listening to war songs, since he is in the military.
ok so here my question:
the song "Letters From Home" [ya everyoen knwos that song=] ] there is a version with all the voices like the autual letters form home getting read off. so please, please someone let me know if they have any idea as to where to find this version of this song.
i also have limewire so any suggestions to what to type in/search is welcome.
THANKS SO MUCH.♥ (link)
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Go to HMV.Ca and click popular music and type in Letters From Home. This will show you all the versions of it and where to find it. You likely will know with it being a new version which one it is.
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