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besides cd's and money what do you get a girl for her 15th birthday? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Her "last doll". Not a barbie... like a porcilen one or something. ...A car. L.O.L. Unless you can't afford it (and by that I mean affor the car... and still have a lot of money to go on with your nomal life). What every girl would like is a cute, funny birthday card with a poem (from you... actually write one) about what she means to you or how she's changed your life.
Take good care. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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this isnt the same guy thats been saying he wants to kill himself but i do have the same problem i go to your school but you probably wouldnt know me im just some loser that has friends that make fun of me.my family has turned thier backs on me and i cant seem to find a way out except to pull a trigger.
this is my cry for help can you please help me i will be very thankfull. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I can't relate to the sitiuation entirely but I can relate to the feeling. You feel like crap and everything is wrong and you look in the mirror and all you see is a screwed up mess and you think... it would be so eassy to end this. Going through the crap, however, os difficult. Well I'm going to therapy now... Anyway, what I did for myself was I got away from all my friends with "negative energy". I told them upfront "I don't like you" (its kind of funny now that I think of it). I walked away from those losers... they lived in an unrealistic world and didn't understand. I suggest you get rid your "negative" friends. Talking with someone helps too. You don't necessarily have to talk about why you want to pull the trigger... just talking. It helps you see someone actually listens. Oh, if you ever want to talk to me email me, OK? m0rbidme@yahoo.com or cath666@iamwasted.com If you don't, it's okay, l.o.l. I won't be offended. If you DO however, then I will welcome your messages anytime.
Oh, and therapy did help me.
I'm sorry I'm not much help. I do hope you get help. Please take care. my best wishes love. ~Blessed Be...
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ok im a girl who is a junior in high school and i have this friend who is a guy whos a freshmen in college....we'll call him mark...and we are really close, like almost like we're brother/sister...and like we talk about like people we like and everything like that and sometimes i seem to get annoyed because hes in college about 600 miles from where i live(he lives in the same city as me when hes not in college) and the girl he likes is in the city that im in right now. the reason i am getting annoyed is cuz he doesnt want to get over this girl even though there are girls at his college that he says he can see himself dating but he doesnt want to get over the other girl. what should i do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
There's not much you can do but be a good friend. Encourage him to go out with other girls... Tell him that he's a great guy and he could do better than that girl. Be nice to him... then wait for him to move on. There's nothing you can do to rush the process of moving on. Even if there was, it's not healthy to pressure something like that. Slowly he will move on and he will remember you were the good friend who gave him time and enoursaged him. You'll become better friiends. But he WILL move on... it's natural to have a hard time getting over someone at first.
I am sorry I cannot offer much help. Take good care. ~Blessed Be...
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My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I understand what kind of frustration you caused your mother by saying that. However mothers are not like us immature people (let's face it, most children and teenagers are not very mature when it comes to dealing with their anger and things of that relation). Your mother was probably just feeling frustrated or got angry at the thought of forgiving your father for what he did (which, by the way, was irresponsible). But I am sure she does not put any blame on you. She is not angry at you. It seemed like it because you mentioned she should forgive your father. Still, it would be nice to apologyze. Tell her you are sorry for what you said and tell her you love her and give her a hug. Then say something like "I'm going to clean my room" or "do my homework". L.O.L. It works. Although, still, mothers do not get angry at their children. Dissapointed, maybe.
My best wishes!!! ~Blessed Be...
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this is for my friend but i'll put in a point of view so its like 1st person so its like her typing it
So i like this guy who is desprate for a girlfriend. He would do just about anything. Anyway I really like him and I want to ask him out. He will say yes just because he is desprate. Do you think this is right? I want something real not a lie. I'll rate (well my friend will but w/e) so thanks. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
No it is not right. If someone is desperate for a boyfriend or a girlfriend they have issues. They are not happy with themselves. And they are immature. You should like a person by getting to know them, and then deciding if you want them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. Not the other way around. Anyone can do better than a desperate guy for a girlfriend.
Please be careful and take care of yourselves. Like somebody who actually likes you... not somebody who would say yes to you as well as another girl who asked him if he wanted to be her boyfriend. Well my best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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i am a female and i am 13. i really like this kid evan(male, 13). and we were at a party a couple of weeks ago and he was like hugging me a lot and flirting with me. i didnt like him then but when i was upset because the boy i did like, david kissed my best friend and i started crying and then evan started telling me i could do better than him and hugging me really tight and close to him. now i like evan, and my friend asked him if he would ever go out with me and he said no, which really confussed me cause we were friends and we always flirted in the hall but he wouldnt go out with me now? we arent in the same class but i see him alot in the hallways, i dont get it.. what can i do to get him to like me? im going to a party saturday and i really want to impress him. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
...Maybe he just said that because he was shy or so yoru friend or his friends would not tease him about liking you or due to fear of rejection. OR he sees you as just a friend OR he likes you but doesn't want to ruin your friendship.
Anyway, I think the best you can do is be yourself. Oh, and be sweet and kind. And don't lead him to believe you like some other boy... It's almost Christmas so giving him some kind of small gift would be nice. As for the party... maybe you could ask him to a dance. Take a chance. That's the best you can do for yourself.
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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Hey people, I'm supposed to be doing a poll for the school paper. (it doesn't have to be school related, but it can be) what is a good idea for a poll? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Try... "Do Students Support Stem Cell Researh? a) Yes, will ll help people! b) No, it kills embryos! c)Undecided
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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you submited an abuse report, however the link was to answer question, which i cannot view becasue it was asked directly to you and not to the pool. please resubmit with a link to the question, and just in case a copy/paste of it. (link)
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I do apologyze for taking up your time ands thank you for taking notice. I would like to cancel the Abuse Report. I answered the question (I assume that is all it was) in an appropriate manner. I have not gotten any similar messages since. Again, I apologyze and thank you.
Cath
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My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
It's kind of a funny question. Not to be disrispectful or offensive but it's a very interesting question that happens to be a bit funny. But it's a good question that actually hasn't been asked on the site before. At least not that I know of.
Well first of let me just say neither one of you is right and neither one is wrong. An opinion CAN'T be wrong or right. Well it is right for the person who thought of it but for others it may seem wrong. I myself would rather donate my organs than have a funeral, l.o.l. I don't really think about it but... I probably would. Or I used to think that way... now that I remembered about it that I'm telling you I find it a little creepy, l.o.l. But I think its rewarding because I'd be helping others.
Anyway, now if your husband DOES die soon (hopefully he won't for a loooong time, thought) you can still have a ceremony or... a reunion and celebrate his life as if it were a funeral.
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I just recently moved out of my house and into my uncles house and he is a hardcore Christian man and believes that anything not christian is "of the devil", I myself am a follower of the old pagan type religions and he kind of found out and alwayz makes little jabs at me for not believing in god and tells me im going to hell and i dont know how to deal with it..if i tell him that i dont believe in god, he might kick me out of his house....what should i do...pretend not to believe what i do or tell him to stop? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
You don't believe in God? ...Okay... But do you worship Satan? If you are Pagan then he has even MORE reason to kick you out (I'm not agreeing with im, I'm just telling you the reality of what his points of view might be). Well neverless, it depends how strong you feel about your morals. If you feel stronger enough about being Pagan or if you feel stronger enough about NOT beliving in God then be honest. If you don't really care then tell him you moved in with him to observe why he is Christian. If you are strong about your morals and he kicks you out there are several places where you can find shelters.
My best wishes. Hope everything works for the best. ~Blessed Be...
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i have a friend that has recently become bi. she always tells me that i look hot, and she always comes around and slaps my ass. it's starting to bother me. what should i say to her? becuz i cant take it for much longer..! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well you are friends with someone because you like the way they are: meaning how they treat you as a friend and how they are as people. Just because she's bi doesn't mean you're a homophobe or anything if you start disliking her. People change... maybe she changed and became uncool. Don't feel guilty if you don't want to be friends any longer.
If you DO want to be friends tell her "can you NOT do that? It's annoying!" If she keeps disrispecting you then forget about her.
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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hey..im in 10th grade and i havent had a serious boyfriend since 8th grade. I hate being single. I want to meet someone great, and it doesnt look lke thats ever going to happen, especially in my school. It just gets kind of depressing, especially around this time of year. What if I dont have another bf until after high school!? I cant wait that long..what can i do? if anything?
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Hi Sweetie,
l.o.l. ...Sorry. Yeah, at times we feel alone and... it sucks. There's lots of ways to meet guys. ...Going to concerts and flirting with starngers that look around your age (it's eassier to be crazy when you know that if you don't like them or they don't like you, you don't have nto see them anymore). Not a good idea? Well you can try something in the privacy of your own home or room or living room (l.o.l. sounds funny, I know). Go to www.MySpace.com and post your picture or something and look through the many guy profiles with their picture and start a friendship with them. ...A friendship with potential. Sounds weird, I know, cut its just a suggestion. I don't do that myself but I know tons of people who've done it and had a great relationship with someone they met online. Just remember: BE SAFE.
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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ok so theres this guy i like lets call him in "C" well the other night "C" asked me to pretend to be his gf for that night to piss this grl off that likes him n he doesnt like her the same way bcuz well shes sorta a nerd..and he said he'd break up wit me at the end of the night so i said yes but he never broke up wit me and that was like sunday night. so are we still goin out or what? bcuz hes always callin me his gf and stuff to his friends but i mean it was only for that 1 night so whats the deal? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I know the type. They are usually flirts (man whores). No offense to guy C. He may not be a... "flirt". However what you told me about him doesn't make him sound like a good guy. I think you can do better. Then again I don't know you.
Anyway. Answering your question now. What's the deal? the deal is you aren't his "real" girlfriend. At least not yet... Like I said, I think you can do better. But I don't know the guy either...
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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people keep telling my crush that we ((him and i)) should go out! he use to talk to me so much and now i feel like we don't talk as much as we use to! he is giving me mixed signals! what should i do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I'm afraid you only have two choices. The one I encourage you more to do if you really like this guy is make your move first. If he won't do it then you get yourself out of the doubt. Take a chance and you'll feel much better about your self and more confident in your love life overall. The second choice most people take is doing nothing. Many of these people end up in misery because they can't move on. Don't get too attached to him because he may never make his move. If he does it may not be too soon.
Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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15/f and my guy friend is getting me this really nice gift for christmas and i want to get him something, but im in a bad financial situation, so i can only get him something small.
i guess you could say he's leaning on the dorky side, hes into anime, football, wrestling, dresses kinda preppy, videogames, music but i dont know exactly what type...
so what can i get him that's generic? (dont say cd's, clothes, or any lame sports thing, or anime cause i have NO clue where to start)... anyway, thanks! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Does he have a gamecube? I'm not an expert on which video games are all cool and I'm defenetly not an expert in your friend's taste, but my male cousin (he's 13 years old though) has this game called Eternal Darkness and my 15yr old boy buddy wants this game for Christmas. I'm sure your friend would really like it too. It's for Gamecube... it should be somewhere between $12 to $20. I'm sure its not $20 because the game didn't just came out yesterday. Actually it may even be $9.99.
You know what would be a GREAT gift?! Get him a card (wait, don't give up on me yet! There IS a catch) and write on it a cute message and a poem.
My best wishes and happy holydays! ~Blessed Be...
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I have a secret admirer ( but my best friend knows who it is). What kind of thing can i have my friend say to this dude from me to let me know who he is? Any ideas? I REALLY want to know who he is, i dont want any dumb answers. Thanks! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Tell your friend to tell your secret admirer that you'll give him a chance or... that you want to get to know him... or send him a Christmas note or a gift (a small one).
Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I've always been a misfit. I mean an actual misfit. Not until recent have I felt I had a real friend not only liked me but I actually liked back and I actually fitted in with. I've never been able to relate to my "friends". I've never actually been able to connect with my "friends". In many levels I personally didn't consider them friends... just people I was supposed to socialize with and had taken a liking to me. ...Oddly people tend to like me more for that, the fact that I managed to stay myself.
I know what you mean by not wanting to be one of them just wanting NOT to be judged. I'm sorry to say that nothing can work for that. It's what "they" (the people that do that... its not just the "poupular" people) judge the small things. Things can't always be perfect because everyone has different thoughts on perfection.
You'll do much more by being yourself because people will ACTUALLY admire you. If you try to be "liked" even if only not to be judged people will STILL critizise you. I'm telling you this to motive you. This IS my opinion.
My best wishes, sweetie!!! ~Blessed Be...
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I went out with this boy a couple times and then we sorta had a secret relationship but he didnt want to tell anyone..he said he didnt want anything bad to happen. then right before are date he just like broke it off and was yelling at me all this stuff how he was never serious and everything. im so confused if i should be friends with him now and i just feel horrible i dont know wat to do please help.sorry if thats kinda long (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
It IS confusing. You went out... the relationship was secret... ne day he justs gets mad sat you and breaks up with you... Maybe someone found out or something.
Either way. I'm not sure he'd want to be friends. First I doubt he'll even PRETEND to be friends. Second, if he really wanted to be friends he wouldn't had reacted that way. Well if he does offer don't let him be your friend. He doesn't deserve that privilage. What should you do? Well sort out your feelings first. Find out just what confuses you and think about it. I know the "whole thing" is confusing but there's always a core of confusion.
After you've thought a lot and you're "mourned for your loss" (itn was obviously his loss but I mean after you're let your feelings out for the break up) give yourself time to get up on your feet again. Be independent and know yourself as a person. Meanwhile also get to know other guys as just friends. Its important to be friends with guys before a relationship. There will be more respect and understandment and the relationship will be stronger.
My best wishes sweetie. ~Blessed Be...
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ahh i bite my nails!!! its a really bad habit! i do it when im not paying attention anyone have any tips for stopping? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Not only have I been through that but I know someone that has too so I have 2 advices to give you.
1-What worked for me was the idea that I had to take good care of my nails to get a manicure (I had never gotten one before. I got a few in the past year but I lost interest in them. I just buy black or blood red nail polish and do my nails myself with the taking-care-of-my-nails idea in my subconscious.)
2-A guy I know claims he stopped biting his nails by first pointing out the reason of his issue. Being nervous. He solved it by caring a pen with him so that way whenever he felt the need to "bite his nails" he would use the pen instead since what he needed to do was use his hands. It helped him a lot.
Good luck with this. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I feel lately that I am a fake Christian. I say I believe in Jesus, God, etc., but I just am not very knowledgable about Christianity on the whole. All I know is, when I'm talking to God, or the few times I go to church, I am very happy, because I do know that God and Jesus love me. And my family - they all believe and everything, we're just not the most religious people, I guess. But I realize that we need to truly accept Jesus into our hearts in order to enter Heaven, and I don't even feel truly like I've done that yet. I've never brought it up with my family, but I really want all of us to get to know God and Jesus so that I can expect to meet them in Heaven, because this is kind of a priority. But how do I do this without basically saying, "Okay, here we go, we are going to believe in this whether you like it or not"? I know that sometimes people get kind of offended because they think I force my ideas about religion upon them... Sorry for the long question - I rate! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I can relate it a bit... I don't feel a fake Catholic but I feel that ever since my crisis (although it ended) I'm not there yet. For a while I searched for a religion... I realized I DO want to be Catholic and I DO believe... but there's a step in between realizing it IS what I want to be and CONSIDERING MYSELF CATHOLIC. That's analyzing. I have to analyze the "what does it mean to me? What do I believe in? What do I not believe in? What matters to me?" Keep in mind everyone has a different idea of their religion. Two people can be of one religion and have slightly different ideas. Example: Two people can be Christian. One belives going to church every day and reading the Bible means Christinaity. The ohter believes that as long as you don't sin and you believe in God in your heart you are Christian.
Technically you ARE Christian because you DO believe in God. I'm Christian too... except I'm Catholic. (Or I will be once I get some religion meditating time.) Anyway, you have to decide what Christinianity means to YOU. About your family... bring God closer slowly. You can do this by asking your parents questions about God or telling them to tell you a Bible story or something. Ask them how they know they are Christians. Encourage them to go to church more often, maybe. Encourage prayer. Maybe you can all pray together before going to sleep.
I'm sorry I'm no help. I do send my best wishes. And may you find what you are looking for. ~Blessed Be...
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