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Q: Ok whns the next movie on?

i'm not sure. they may be discontinuing the show since she's pregnant. I don't know if they'll be starting up again once the baby is born... but yeaa.. i hated the way it ended... after all those years of waiting lool

Q: I have stretch marks on my breasts. And I've had them for a little while now.
They're really ugly, and look red on occasion.
Anyway, my boyfriend and I getting more involved, and I don't want him to see my breasts.
I've let him touch them, thankfuly it's been dark.
Anywho, I was wondering if there's anything I can do to make them go away, that works.
Like to cover it up or something, or even a cream that can erase them (but I don't really want to spend all the money and have it not work.)
Any remedies, or am I stuck feeling insecure?

I've used cocoa butter before and it really helps. You can find it at your local pharmacy or the drug store

Q: well i started talkin to this guy that told me him and his girlfriend that broke up .. and well he told me he couldnt call because his ex had his cell and wouldnt give it back.. so i said ok.. well he keeps sayin he really wants to talk to me tellin me im beautiful and stuff well so i looked up her myspace and his and he said that is Ex was livin in denial about them breakin up.. so she changed his password on myspace.. so on her myspace and his it still says they are together!
well and he told me he would come by 2day and give me my xmas and bday gifts and he stood me up
so he tells me we are datin and at the game tomarrow he will talk to me and everything but his ex will be there so idk if i should talk to him or not. Please anwser my Question..

these are the type of guys i like to call man-hors. whether or not he's telling the truth, honestly, I don't know. But, you deserve someone who doesn't give you so many problems and issues. Brush him off and chances are that if he thinks you don't care about him, he'll probably be even more interested and he'll respect you more because he knows that he cannot play with you like this. trust me. I hope I helped.

Q: well .. i really like this boy but the problem is he has a girlfriend. i know i shouldnt interfere but i just cant help it i really like him. and recently ive started seeing a lot of him and its just making me like him even more. but this weekend i was out with him, and we ended up kissing, and he told me stuff like he fancies me.. and keeps talkin about when hes single whats going to happen with us and stuff.. but its doing my head in because how long does that mean, i am prepared to wait for him.. but i dont wanna if hes going to stay with her.

when i was with him.. his girlfriend was also ringing.. and he was ignoring her calls answould say things like.. ahh i hope shes trying to finish me.

before i hooked up with him that night.. i hooked up with another lad.. and he was realy mad with me about it.. bt weve talked about it now and were ok!

please help me its doing my head in.. does he actually mean it .. or is he just playing with my head?

the first thing i want you to understand is that you are worth much more than this, because he is treating you like a mistress. but, he probably finds security in that girl because she's probably never done anything to him, but if he's doing this to her, you have to be aware that he could do the same thing to you, and you wouldn't like it if he were with someone else and ignoring your calls. i'm not saying you have to turn him down but let him know that you want his respect and that you are not going to be interested in dating him until he is fully committed to you, and by doing this he will also be aware that you are trustworthy and that you won't be cheating on him either

Q: ok, so lately i've been working out a lot. I run three miles in the morning and then do the elyptical for an hour (600 calories) plus some free weights. I eat about 1000 calories a day. Do you think this is too much? I feel like it isn't, but my mom is starting to act like she thinks i'm over doing it. I'm not overweight, 5'5" and 130, i'm in good shape, like i'm athletic, i just want to lose that "baby fat" around my stomach and arms. Should I keep going at this pace, and what should I tell my mom, because she's gonna think i'm anorexic if I keep turning down chocolate icecream!

well, if you don't feel like it's enough, it's probably not. i don't think 1000 calories is very healthy if your doing doing that much work. i think 1800 is a good amount, because you don't want to faint in the middle of all of this, and you're already feeling like it's not enough, so that's a sign your body isnt happy. a lot of people don't know that anorexia is more of a mental disease, about obsession with food and calories, and eventually they may get skinny like that, but it's really all in their head because most of the girls who are anorexic weren't even overweight to begin with. so, don't sweat it, and tell you're mom your nto anorexic, just that you want to eat more healthy, and it's ok to have chocolate icecream every once in a while, and try even frozen yogurt every once in a while if you just want to be healthy. but, such low calories are not healthy, especially since your doing all this work. good luck!

Q: Hi,

I'm worried about my height. I'm not really WORRIED...im just confused.

ok, so both my mom AND dad are 5'8..ok? but i'm only 5'2. I dont know if this helps but I'm 14 & I got my first period two weeks ago. My foot size is a 9..and thats about it.

haha, so do you think there's a chance of me growing?

thanks.

yeah, there's definatley time for you to grow. the doctors always say you finish growing like two years after your first period, but i know people who have grown after that. so, trust me, you have nothing to worry about

Q: Ok..my cousin's cousin. How is that person related to me, 2nd cousin? Or not even related at all?

that's called you're cousin twice removed

Q: Hi im f/15

i way 110 and im 5 feet. i am a skinny girl just my stomich pops out. like u would thinkim relly skinnny but if u see my stomich in a tight shirt its kinda of gross. like it pop out.

i looooooooove carbs!! is there a diet or soemhting i can do that includes carbs? or what can i do to loose 5-10 pounds?

i go to the gym a lot

thank u

well, i don't think that you need to lose weight. what probably happends to you is that u retain liquid and cutting out certain ingredients in any diet is very bad because once you start eating them again, you will gain all the weight back fast. i think that what may be happening is that you have a lot of sodium and there is a lot of salt in some things that you wouldn't expect, so look at the sodium content in the nutrients facts and try to eat things that are low sodium if you just want to feel like you have a flatter tummy. but, be careful, you don't want to dehydrate, so you do need some sodium, and sodium is necessary. so, don't take it completely out of your diet either. just, try eating things that say "low sodium" and don't forget to drink lots of water!

Q: Hey, my boyfriend is coming to visit me in 2 weeks, i have given head before but with him it's different, i'm in love with him and i really wanna make it amazing for him, any tips? Like what do i do with my hands to make it feel better? Stuff like that

thanks for the help

well, since you asked me this question personally, i didn't want you to think i was rude and reject it, but the truth is that i'm the wrong person to ask. i'm not very familiar in this field. i am very sorry, but i didn't want to be rude and reject the question. i really just don't know

Q: My boyfriend of 6 months asked me if he could kiss my bare butt all over. I looked at him for a second or two and I started laughing. I asked him if he was kidding and he said he was serious. He said he can tell I have a nice butt and he always wanted to kiss my butt. I told that I would think about it and let him know.

I thought I would ask you what I should do.

What should i do? I picture him in my mind kissing my butt and I giggle out loud thinking it might be cool to have him kiss my butt.

Well, lmao, I can see how this is funny, but he's obviously serious. well, I think that first of all, you should think about any silly fantasies that you may have of him, if any, and share them with him. It may help you feel better and everyone does have those weird fantasies that sometimes we just don't understand why. The decision is up to you tho, because you shouldn't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with, and if you decide to let this take place, I think it should happen gradually and kind of just fall into it, because maybe you're just embarassed picturing an awkward situation where it's planned. hope i helped

Q: i have to get in a bathing suit the day after tomorrow and i need to look as skinny as possible. i know i cant loose a significant amount of weight or anything like that but any tips on how to look as skinny as possible would be good =)

thanks,
sarah

well, if you don't eat carbs, you'll feel your stomach is a little bit flatter. so, you can eat protein along with vegetables. it's just for a few days..... i know carbs are good, and today, try to eat dinner before six o clock because its easier to burn the calories... also try to run for atleast 30 minutes today and 30 minutes before you get into the bathing suit. You'll feel good when working out if you eat protein. You should do some weights if you want, but don't do any weights before you put on the bathing suit, because your muscles will look swollen. also, do 300 every day..... i know it sounds like a lot, but you'll see, it'll help!!

Q: how do you know if your pleasuring a girl when you have sex?

there are different types of girls, that's why it's difficult to tell. But, it depends on her personality. If she's more of an extrovert, and likes to show her feelings more openly than, probably what the other colomnists said is true, but if she is more of an introvert, and prefers to keep her feelings more toward herself, she may stay quiet and be a little more affectionate. Some people are like that. Let me see how I can explain this. You know when you are really, really exited about something, you get that feeling in your stomach and in your chest, and then when you tell someone, it kind of becomes more mild, well some girls are like that, and they prefer to keep all those feelings to themselves. So, don't be offended if she's not acting like all the stuff you see on tv, people have different ways of showing their affection

hope i helped!!

Q: Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?

Help.

i denfinatley think so, but i think that the same way you are shy about asking him questions, he's shy around you too. there's people who can be themselves when they hide behind things like the computer, or the phone, but they're just find it easier to talk than to act sometimes. I hope this helps. What you can do is you can talk to him one day and conquer your fears because maybe if you break the ice, he'll feel a little bit better and he won't feel awkward of nervous because he knows you brought it up...... like let's say he said something random the other night about somebody froms school, just gradually ask him, "so, did everything go alright with johnny..??" you see what i'm saying?? good luck

Q: OK so i know it's so hard to tell what guys are thinking or anything but i need help ok so a while back there was this new guy at school Tye and i could see alot of girls thought he was cute and were flirting with him and i didnt think i would like him but then the more more i told myself that the more i liked him now he started going out with this girl and my friend Dakota liked him and well he told Dakota that he broke up with the girl he was going out with and asked Dakota out then later that day she found out he didnt break up with that girl so they didnt go out really so then him and another friend of mine Korinne asked him out and they went out but then she kinda cheated on him with a girl cause she's bi and then she broke up with him then that same day like an hour or two later another friend of mine asked him out and so they started going out and still are so i guess my question is does this guy like me cause i mean i really really dont think he does not to mention he sounds like a player to me but we went on this feildtrip and so i talked to him a little bit then and i still talk to him everyday pretty much and this might sound really stupid but you know those energy drinks MONSTER well i started bringing my frineds one everyday for like 3 days it was only 3 friends the guy and two friends and so the day my friend Korinne broke up with him he asked me if i was mad at him for some reason and of course i said know cause i wasnt and then there was this dance friday night and at school he asked me if i was going and he didnt ask anyone else he asked me if i was going cause he wanted me to bring him a MONSTER so yeah and he flirts with like all my friends and me so i think he just wants me to bring him MONSTER so what does anyone else think ??? i dont een really want to like him cause like all my friends like him or liked him or have gone out with him so i think it's kinda weird that i like him but i cant really help it can i? PLEASE HELP thanks in advance

you're rght. you can't really help it. my mom always tells me that there's ittle things that sometimes turn you off about other people. and when you find someone who has nothing that turns you off. it's kind of true though, because when you really like someone, nothing about them could ever really be wrong, because you love the persons flaws too. so, no you can't help it. in terms of him liking you, it's hard to tell with players. because the thing is, that players, when they really really like a girl, they don't treat her like the rest of the girls they have. they try to treat her differently and sometimes they go through the friends first because they're not stable in the head lmao. so, i think you should sit back, and maybe play a little bit of hard to get, because he's so use to having every girl he wants and that's how you can get his attention

ps i think it's a good idea!!

Q: what is street smart and is it possible to be street smart in the suburbs

Well street smarts is like being aware of you're surroundings. People who live on the streets tend to be a little more street smart than others because they hav to be aware of their surroundings more even when they sleep. However it is necessary even if u don't live on the street because people can screw you left and right pardon my language. But I know it, however it is something you are either born with or a skill you aquire. Unfotunatley tou cannot teach yourself to be street smart. Its just a matter of being aware of you're surroundings and learning how to defend yourself and the right way to do it too. If you need any more information you can go to www.urbandictionary.com and to answer you're question yes you can be street smart in the suburbs

Q: so last i was talking online to my friend "bob" and he was like hey call "jack" he wants to talk to you..i like jack..or i did...aand but i told him i was too tired to push buttons my phone and hes like well he really wants to talk to you. so to get the point i called bob's cell phone instead of jack because i thought bob was lying to me. so i called and bob answered and he handed the phone to jack but jack threw it back at bob..?? i don't really get why he did that? does he not like m that much that he doesn't want to talk to me? i've only known him a week a two and don't talk to him that much. and i don't thik hes really that shy...any thoughts on why he did this cause now i feel like crap not wanting to be talked to.

don't worry about it, hun. guys are weird and they do things like that, they're so immature. some of them. jack probably just got mad at bob for telling you that he wanted to talk to you. They get shy too, even if they don't come off as shy, you know? Don't pay attention to it or don't let it bother you

xoxo

Q: okay so last year i was like pretty popular with a bunch of friends. and this one girl, lets call her layne, we were like best friends. She would steal my sayings and my ideas and use them as her own. Shes a MEAN GIRL..mainly REGINA GEORGE. b/c if she knows you like someone & she likes him too, she gets him ALWAYS. She does this thing..its called flirting...and i cant do that. I've tried to hard to understand & ive tried it, but boys just like her the most. ANYYWAY

This year i only have two good friends. Compare that to last year. Last year everyone wanted to be around me and stuff. YOU KNOW?

is there any advice that helps me get better friends or anything? I want to be fun to be around and i want to have people who want to be around me.

i hate to tell you this but you have to be a hypocritte if you want a lot of friends. Like, be excessively nice. But, the thing is, the ones that are really you're friends will love you for who you are, not who you are acting like. But, if you just want a lot of people to be around, not just a small group of friends, than yes, that's my advice to you. if you want close friends, than they have to like you for who you are. Like there is this girl that I'm friends with, and she's one way around me and one way around others. But, that's because she's really good friends with me, and she acts like a hypocritte around others. But, even though, I guess you could say we're friends, I get really really mad at her, for being the way she is. I just don't tell her. I'm sorry if this advice wasn't useful. But, I hope it helped somehow

xoxo

Q: 16/f

okay well me and my bf have been going out for 8 months and day before yesterday i spent the night with my friend but he thought i was going to cheat on him or lie to him about something well, later on that nite i told my bf that i was gonna get ymy phone charger from him then go back to her house well instead me and my friends went to a party. my bf found out this was around 2 in the morning well my bf found out but played it off like he had no idea but there was a couple guys there that knew him and called him but after the party i went over to his house and spent the nite over there and talked well we're still together but he is still a little wierd around and i understand he cant trust me anymore but someone help how should i get things to the way they were before.. i rate high!!

there is really no other way than just to tell him that you're sorry about what happened and that you'll make it up to him. Ask him how you could make it up to him?? that's a tough one though, because i don't really knwo him, so i can't tell you what would make him react, but you know him better, what would make him react? just think about that and ask him what you could do to make it better

xoxo

Q: so i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for his birthday. we both splurged for christmas soo i spent around $250 on him then. im not made of money lol especially since i spent all that and havent been workin alot lately soo i dont know what to get him thats reasonably cheap [maybe $30-45 max] but is still good. im thinkin about makin him a cake and i cant do the picture of us in a frame deal [my computer wont print the pics right]. he'll be 17 and hes not into sports but he plays guitar and is just learning to play the keyboard and he likes the Fender brand [i already got him a Fender hoodie & shirt for christmas] and he likes funny stuff like the stupid/"guy" humor kind of thing. any ideas? btw concert tickets are not an option k thanx. 16f.

well if he likes music, maybe you can get him something music related, like you can buy the books of guitars, like guitar songs, so that he can learn to play them. ?? idk where you live, so I don't know if the gyms do this but at the gym I go to, they give you a free three day pass to the gym. They might like that, so if they do, that could be an idea. orrr there's this pillow that I got for christmas, that's called iDream. If he has an mp3 player or an iPod he can plug it and listen to music while he goes to sleep. You can seal the present with a nice cologne, maybe, and then write him something nice. Put a CD in there. Spray teh card or the gift with your perfume ;)

well i hope I helped and I hope I gave you some good ideas. xoxo

Q: please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?

ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID)

i can see how this can be shocking. but, i think that right now she needs you. If you just don't feel comfortable hanging out with her, than don't. Like, if you think that she's into drugs, I can understand why you don't want to get into that. But, you should try to steer her in the right direction. My best friend, even though it wasn't this bad, was becoming a slut, but, like, really. It was getting really bad because she started doing things like infront of parents and stuff, and i didn't want to be her friend anymore because she just wasn't being a friend herself, but we tried to do a lot to help her because we didn't want her to be a slut or continue doing what she was doing, so she started becoming a little less sluty. So, I guess what she needed was a friend, you know? Try helping her out a little, and talk to her, tell her all of these things that she's doing and ask her what is wrong, because she must not normally be like this if you are worried, so first talk to her, and then you can make the choice of whether or not you still want to be friends with her after what she says. I know that the situation with my friend wasn't as bad as yours, but I hope my example helped. the best of luck with you and you're friend. xoxo

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I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!