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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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Errrr, this is kind of embarrasing.
So I thought I was gonna have diarrhea saturday, so I took this pill that controls it. Turns out, maybe I was wrong.
Well I haven't been able to go since then.
Like, not at all.
It's a horrible feeling.
I've been trying to drink lots of water and eat fruits and vegetables..but it's not helping.
I don't want to tell my mom and I sure as hell don't want to go to the doctor.
I found some milk of magnesia but it expired a few years ago.
What can I do?
Fiber makes you go to the bathroom. Foods with high fibers is what doctors tell people who are constipated to eat. Look at the list of high fiber foods I'm going to send you:
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art49479.asp
Then pick some foods off that list and eat lots of it.
:)
So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help.
They tell you you can do whatever you want as long as you work really hard at it, then you do that.
Sounds to me you've already made your mind up. You want to keep your baby, then you keep your baby. You already have it set in your mind that you'll regret giving him/her away. Don't let your parents make you make a decision that you don't want to do in the first place AND something you will regret for your WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE.
Life is throwing curve balls at us ALL the time. You can't give away all your curve balls...
As far as stress goes, your mom and dad should know better! You need to sit them down and tell them this: Look, I'm having a baby. I messed up, but now I have to face the consequences and I'm willing to do so. Tell them you want to take care of this baby after its born, but in order to do so, ya gotta keep your self healthy AND SANE and stress free, and they need to chill out and face the facts. What's done is done. No point in making it harder that what it already is.
Hope everything goes well.
Just remind your parents that they still are your parents...and their job is to support you and be there no matter what.
My hair is constantly falling out. I'm pretty sure its due to stress even though I feel i've been alot less stress then usualy. It used to not be so bad but it keeps getting worse. The problem is my agency wants me to grow my hair out long but its physicaly impossible cause my hairs falling out and just getting shorter. What can I do to strangthen my hair and stop it from falling out!! please help
I'm not saying you do...
but sometimes people lose their hair due to having an eating disorder.
I noticed you talked about having agents. That right there tells me you have a stressful life. People, young girls like your self, who live lives like that a lot of the time develop eating disorders. And that's ok.
But if that is the case...
Message me. I can help.
If that's notttttt the case :)
I suggest changing your shampoo and your diet. Your probably not getting enough nutrients your body needs.
I've been having to take care of my parents for a couple of years now, its been easy before because they could do alot of things for themselves. Now, its not so easy. My mom's mind is getting worse by the day, she can't remember a whole lot and can't comprehend hardly anything that is not very easy to comprehend. She takes alot of pills daily that I have to lay out for her because she simply can't keep anything straight in her head. My dad is getting over lung cancer, now going through chemo and having a hard time with that, plus has now lost his eye site completely due to glaucoma. He always had a tiny bit of eyesite left, but this past weekend woke up saying it was gone. When I'm home its going to be ok because im here to constantly help with what they need, but I dont know what I'm gonna do during the day when I'm at work.
My mom tries to help him but ends up being more harm than good because her mind is like a young teen now. Her doctor says her poor memory and understanding of things is a combination of her age with a couple strokes shes had in her life. So they usually end up arguing when she tries to help because she doesnt fully comprehend stuff and he no longer has the patience. Plus she has a hole in her heart and is not suppose to lift anything over 3 pounds so I have to constantly watch out that shes not doing that.
Between the both of them I dont know what to do, I dont really have any outside family help. They do not want a "stranger" coming in helping while I'm gone and I've always told them I'd do everything in my power to not have that happen, so I just dont know what to do. Is there a system or program out there available to apply to that will let me be home with them for now out of work or any other suggestion at all?
Thanks alot,
Brandon
How weird. 20 minutes ago while I was just cleaning up after my grandfather's mess I was thinking about how no one on Adviceanators has ever had a question about elderly parents help and I got on here and it's the first question!
Well, I'm seventeen and was raised by my mom and grandpa (my mom's dad). About 4 years ago my grandpa started losing his memory as well due to dementia, a form of alzheimers. He's had heart surgery and now has a pace maker. Well, these past few months he has gotten SO much worse. He's been in and out of the hospital which has taken a lot on his body. He's 86 by the way. My mom and I are the ones who have always taken care of him, but after the last hospital incident we couldn't let him be home alone while I was off at school and she was at work during the day. We weren't quite sure what to do, but we were NOT going to put him in a nursing home.
Well, we have a family friend who took courses in nursing who doesn't exactly have a lot of money. So, my mom asked her to bath my grandpa every other day for money. This was a few years ago because he was at that stage where showering on his own took too much on him and my mom and I washing him would definitely of been way too awkward. Well, again after the last hospital incident and the question to what are we going to do while we're out during the day...we had no choice but to ask his bath lady to stay with him while we're gone. She did it, for more pay of course.
We're lucky enough to have a family friend like that who would take the job. Maybe you, or another family member knows of someone who could stay with your parents while your gone, or even make a schedule with your other relatives for someone new to check up on them every hour or so throughout the day since they have a problem with a stranger coming in.
Those strangers aren't bad choices though. If you want to think about having professional help come in, call your local hospital and explain to them your situation and they can give you a few numbers to call of people who do this for a living.
Another thing, I know taking care of the people who once took care of you is quite hard and anyone who does, I have a lot of respect for. Taking care of elderly people is harder than taking care of a baby sometimes. A baby might be helpless, but elderly people are sometimes helpless, yet can't accept it, so on to of being helpless, ya got a stubborn parent! haha :)
Hope everything works out
Okay!!
My friend, I really love him. I told him that... and at that time... he had a girl friend. He said that he liked me as a friend nothing more. Now, his girl friend broke up with him. I think he's really upset. I told him that I am sorry about everything. I told him he can call me if he wants someone to talk to. I REALLY care about him. I want to date him... but... I don't think he'll say yes. What SHOULD I do?? PLEASE ANYONE HELP!
Everything takes time, but sometimes things just aren't meant to be and that's ok because someday someone will show you WHY it wasn't meant to be with anyone else. If you really care, then you need to know you CAN NOT rush things like that. Right now he doesn't feel the same way. You best bet is to understand that and back off of that for a while. Look for another possible boyfriend.
okay, well me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday. but today he came to my house with his mom and they talked to my mom, but they never really said it was over. i really want to stay with him, and we broke up because he THOUGHT i was cheating on him, and he didnt have any proof. so i think he might take me back. not only that he still calls my dad is father-in-law and he is still making plans with us. for example, he's coming tomorrow to drop his sister off, and monday he's going with my dad to this auto shop. so i dont know if he really is serious about leaving me. but there is something bothering me, he's going to his ex girlfriends house tommorow, but he never really liked her... but i dont know what he would be doing there.. i dont know what to do!
You call his ass up right now and you ask him why in the world is he going over to his ex's house when he's still comin around yours?!
i smoked pot with my friend and one of her friends i didn't like it but we are gonna do it again. should i do it or not???
No. You didn't like it. Why do something you don't even like doing? Because you want to be cool...
Understandable.
But these kids aren't cool. Their more or less losers.
Don't get into pot. It ruins a lot of lives.
i have this new boyfriend, who i've been dating for a month. but recently my ex texted me, and i saved his number in my phone under a girls name. so that i could text constantly while i was with my boyfriend and he wouldnt think it was suspicious. well yesterday we went to the movies and my ex asked me back out, and my current boyfriend read it and dumped me. he said he knew it was a guy, even though i called the girl who's name i used, and i told her to help me out. but he doesnt believe me and he broke up with me and he called me a hoe. he gave me a ring in the beggining and he even took that away. he doesnt really have proof that i cheated on him though.. do you think that he might come back to me? i really need help cause i love him alot and i messed up big time.
A big thing in relationships is honestly. I big thing about growing up is admitting when your wrong AND taking the punishment that comes along with it.
You know you did wrong, but your trying to cover it up. WRONG thing to do. If you really think you love him then the right thing to do is admit to him what you did. Come clean about EVERYTHING and then tell him you want to work on the relationship.
im 19 female and this will be the first time i take this test. i know what the doctor will do and it'll be a bit painful. i know what they are looking for and all that but i want to know if i should go clean shaven to the doctor? ive never had a doctor check me down their.
im also getting a physical done. what is that for and what will the doctor do?
Go however you usually ...wear it haha
If you shave it completely, then do so.
IF you don't shave at all, that's ok, too.
Ohkay. So. I really need help here. I honestly dont know what to do.
Me and my boyfriend dated for a while before, (11 months) and we barely talked when we weren't together. But then he started talking to me again, and told me he still reaalllyyy liked me. Now we are dating again, and have been for over a month now.
The thing is, that i just figured out like last week that when we were dating before, (at the end, while we didnt talk as much and fought a lot)he told one of my really good friends that he liked her, and when he did he was trying to be all cute about it with her too. I just found this out a little bit ago and we settled all of that. but now im really concerned about something, he has a really good "best friend" that he always hangs out with, and stuff, and he told me that he liked her before, (while we werent dating or even talking) but the only reason he didnt date her was because they were 'too good of friends at the time'. He's ditched me one or twice for her, and she always get him to call her and stuff. Even today it seemed like i was partictly invisible, we were with other people, but him and i would be standing right beside eachother, and he doesnt even say anything. It seemed like he thinks that he HAS to hang out with me, not wants to.
Too add to all that, this 'best friend' has wanted to cheat on her ex before, while they were dating, and my borfriend is on and off. Somtimes he treats me sooo well, then other days he treats me not as well. He says he trys to do his best to make our relsationship work, but it doesnt always seem like it.
what do i do? :\
please help.!
I'm definitely one who's all about communication in relationships. Talk things out before you decide to end it but not this time. You need to get rid of that boy. I'm tellin ya, any boy who has a best friend of the opposite sex definitely has a thing for them. ALWAYS. She doesn't seem like she plays a very innocent role either. She's probably provoking him to cheat on you anyway.
When you love someone, you don't ignore them when your out with other people either.
I am 15, he is 17. We met through a friend but not in person. He lives in Arizona, I live on the east coast. We have not been talking long but we like eachother a lot and this summer he is supposed to come up to the east coast to visit family and he said he would come and see me too. Is meeting in person a good idea? I might be able to see him a few times in the summer, but not a lot because its a very long drive from where he would be. How far is too far to go physically if we meet eachother for the first time?
Planning things out like that is almost setting yourself up for a failing relationship/friendship. No matter what a guy says, boys lose ALL RESPECT for girls who "put out" on the first date. Guys like ladies. Act like one.
i'm not sure if this has anything to do with it, but yesterday i was shaving (with a bad razor...) & i got 6 cuts in total on my legs. they stopped bleeding, so this is why i'm not too sure if they have anything to do with this.
i woke up this morning with this orange like color on my legs. they're like streaks, and at first i thought it was dry blood, so i went to shower. none of it came off.
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2ihmjw4&s=5
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=kednqb&s=5
anybody help meeeee :/ i'm really upset because i have to wear a dress to a party tomorrow... so is there any way to clear this up a little? or tell me what it is? thanks :)
It's from that bad razor.
But maybe you could wear pantyhoes to cover it up?
Foundation and stuff could get everywhere...which could be more embarrassing than having those marks on your legs. =/
A few months ago my school had its winter formal and i was going to go with a friend of mine but the guy she wanted to go with asked her and i was totally ok with that. Her younger sister wanted to go to the dance so i went with her instead, she's in my grade and goes to a different school in town. That's how I met her, and after that i've hung out with her a few times and went to her schools formal, we went as friends.
To some it up, I really like her but I don't exactly know when or how would be a good way to ask her out. I just need a few suggestions on some different methods.
Write it on her drive way in side walk chalk! :)
Well, you could get some spray paint and write it in the snow ;) haha
Dear Andrea,
I am from the Philippines. :]
I'm having this problem at school.
My old friends suddenly got mad at me for some reason. I tried asking them why but they just won't tell. I'm starting to feel they're insecure about me. Or I did something wrong. (But as far as I know, I never did anything to offend them or anything.)
I tried to make friends with them again, even if I don't know their purpose of being mad. But they keep saying they can never forgive me. I don't understand them.
What should I do?
I really want to retain back our friendship.
xoxo,
Ida
Hi Ida :)
Well, I'm assuming you recently made some new friends, considering you referred to these people as "old friends".
If this is the case, their probably jealous because they miss you and feel replaced. When people make friends with a new group of people, they get excited. It's change, that's exciting. But a lot of the time they focus on these new friendships and loose track of the old. It's understandable. It's also understandable that your old friends are sad about it.
Again, IF the whole "making new friends" IS the case, here is what I would do in your situation:
I would write a letter to all of them explaining to them that you think the reason they've all been upset with you is because you've made them feel like they've been replaced, which your sorry you did, but those weren't your intentions. Then explain how you just got so caught up in the excitement of new people, that you lost track of other important things in your life. Then tell them how much their friendship means to you and you wouldn't be who you are today without them. Remind them how much you care :)
I hope I helped!
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=436738672
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Hey i babysit 1 infant baby and she crys ALL THE TIME !! its a pain.. ive tried everything.. i feds her her bottle gave her a nap, Changed her diaper.. changed her clothes took her out for some fresh air let her crawl around. WUT MORE COULD I DO!!?? Please helppp!
Signed,
wut do i do!?
Put the tv on. Or some music. While your holding her, dance around with her.
Movement and sound make them shut up :) haha
22/F
I have been suffering for 5 years with something called Ovarian Failure. Also, all my hormones, estrogen, estadiol levels, my neurotransmitters seratonin, neuroponephrine, cortisol are all depleted/gone basically. I wake up every morning fealing dead inside and i have been trying numerous hormone treatments that just arent working. what can I do? I need to find a cure because i am giving up and i just need an answer, a treatment, a cure.
Hi. First, I'd like to say I'm sorry you have to suffer with this :[
I'm not exactly sure how your dealing with your situation. If your taking hormone treatments, I'm assuming your obviously seeing a doctor and getting prescribed these hormones. Although, if it doesn't seem to be helping, and your starting to lose hope...then theres a problem with your doctor.
From what I read, this condition is known to come along with lots of other problems, too, sadly. :[ If your feeling weak all the time, you may need to get checked to see if your body is lacking more than what you and your doctor are aware of.
Heres a support group. It's always nice knowing there ARE people who deal with issues just like yours.
http://www.pofsupport.org/
Weird, but ive always wondered. Does gravity not exists for bugs like ants..or do they just have sticky feet or what?
Gravity affects EVERYTHING on earth. So yes, that includes bugs.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while, and we've had oral a lot, but when it comes to full on sex, it just wont go in. =| i dont know why! im pretty sure im too tight, but what should i do, we have condoms and everything, but it just wont go in.. i donno, maybe we arent trying hard enough, but we are usually just in the mood, and really want to, but it wont work?! (yes i realize this is pretty embrassing, but i really dont care, i dont get awkward, or embrassed)
Go to Walgreen or Walmart and get some KY lube!
:)
well, heres the situation. it is long because i am kind of an emotional wreck right now haha sorry. well, it all started 2 weeks ago when my ex decided he wanted to take a break. everything seemed to be going fine. i mean sure we had the occasional fight every now and then. but thats normal. then out of nowhere he just said he couldnt handle a relationship rite now. or he wasnt mature enough for the committment. i told him i was upset but i went along with the whole break thing. we got in a few fights while on the break because i said i would always love him. he said, "thats what i need a break from. the compliments, the i love yous, the i care u dont? i just need a break from all of that". so i tried to give him his space on this break but i was heart broken. he said he thought it was what we needed and it would be better if we didnt talk. so we didnt talk at all. then he asked me to come over. i said ok. we talked a little about the problems and we solved some things. then we started kissing...... he stopped and looked at me and said,"i dont want to send you mixed signals but i still want to be on this break" it had been a week so i was like ok thats fine. i was just so happy at this point because i hadnt hugged him in a week. so we talked some more and wen i went to hug him he shook his head. i hugged him anyway n he stood there but didnt put his arms out. i muttered something kind of rude and smiled as i walked out of the door. he smirked. this is kind of how we are in fights. well we started to talk a little bit and then yesterday, he told me that he doesnt want to date anyone right now. so this break turned into a break up. we talked about why the relationship wouldnt work and some things he said were
the mutual feeling of no compromise
his jealousy and temper
that we are too much the same
and the biggest one is that he says he doesnt think i speak my mind. he thinks that i change for what i think he wants and that i wont say something because im afraid of how he will react. he says he just wants me to be myself.
well i undersand all this. i feel like we could work out the compromising thing. i think that his jealousy and anger can be fixed and it really doesnt even effect the relationship. i didnt see how us being the same really has anything to do with it. other that the fact we are both stubborn obnoxious sarcastic assholes sometimes. the last one i do understand. i think that is the main reason, i get what he is saying because i think that sometimes i do say things because i think thats what he wants to hear. he says he just wants me to be completely honest with him about everything and i completely understand this now. i feel like i can totally start speaking my mind to him and i told him this. but he said it was too late. he didnt think it could be fixed. this really upset me because i know that i can just be myself around him and i realize now that i need to tell him exactly how i feel and not worry about what he will think. i know the relationship could be fixed because i love him more than anything and im willing to do absolutely anything to get back together with him. but he doesnt think the relationship will work. actually, he is convinced that it wont work. how can i make him understand this and want to be in a relationship with me again? i dont know what do do.
p.s he used to be a player.
we started out as best friends.
i am 18, he is 17.
we are both in love. well i am. he doesnt seem to be acting much liike he cares right now.
we text alot.
live right next to eachother.
arent the best at expressing our feelings somtimes.
he has ALOT of insecurities.
doesnt believe that i love him,
never has believed it. he has lied before in the relationship and never 4gave himself.
feels bad about himself.
have been dating for 6 months.
means the world to me.
please help me get him back.
thank you so much.
Your doing exactly what he said he doesn't want. He doesn't want you to say things just because you feel it's what he wants to hear.
Thing about what I'm saying before you automatically get pissed off at me because this probably isn't what YOU want to hear.
He told you a big reason why he doesn't want to be with you anymore is because he feels you'll say anything to be with him, and that's not an honest relationship.
First thing you do is say you'll change and start being honest with him...In other words, you completely proved him right.
Don't blame yourself for why this didn't work out. He must have had issues, too and you named them. Bad temper and jealous issues. Then you said these issues didn't have an effect on the relationship. The heck they didn't! Don't think of him as a saint and he could do no wrong. Relationships are not only loving someone, even their flaws, but ya gotta have tough love in there somewhere and that means when your boyfriend is acted like an asshole, you let him know.
You should try getting your mind off of him and start moving on. Maybe he'll realize he does love you, but if not, it is not meant to be AND THAT'S OK!