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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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my cousin: 14/m
me: 15/f
my cousin and i are pretty close in age, which is probably why we get along so well. we're seriously like brother and sister and we are like the best of friends. but, lately he's been acting kind of weird. he use to be kind of gangsta. i don't mean like seriously. he doesn't have a lot of piercings or is a pimp or anything like that. he just talks gangsta, loves rap, wears normal clothes. haha. we were always laughing and making jokes and i could seriously tell him almost everything. he was always at my house. so, naturally, me and my cousin were like best friends.
then, all of the sudden, he started acting really weird. like, totally not like him. i can understand that he loves starwars. ok. i get that that's normal. it's normal to also have a couple of postars or even be like obsessed with it. cause, i know guys can be like that. kind of like how their obsessed with sports. i get that it's normal that when ur a little kid to think that you're a character in the movie or something. i use to think that when i was a little kid too and i'm sure other little kids have too. but i don't think that it's healthy for a thirteen year old boy or a fourteen year old boy to strongly believe that he is a jedi. and he is totally serious about this. he really thinks that he's a jedi. he also said that he was going to go to disney world during star wars week or something like that and go in a black cloak that was being made for him and that he's a jedi. i'm sorry but it's really freaking me out.
he never comes over anymore. and when i'm going to go out and i call him to see if he wants to come with us, he says that he's with his other cousin and that he is going to watch wrestling. since when? since when does he watch wrestling and hang out with his other cousin? i'm not jealous. if i were, i would just write that that's the problem. i don't mind him spending some time with his other cousin. in fact, i think it's normal being it that his other cousin is a guy and they have guy time. but, I don't think that's a reason to blow me off EVERY time i invite him somewhere and when i try to talk to him and ask him what's wrong, he says nothing and that he's just changed
i really miss hanging out with my cousin. i'm an only child so u know how it goes. he always wanted to go to dances at my school and stuff, and now when i call him to take him, he says he doesn't want to go. that he's not into that stuff. i really want my cousin back, my old cousin. what can i do? he won't tell what's wrong. i don't know how to get through to him? sometimes. he has moments where he'll be like is old self and then we start cracking up and then other times he just looks really nervous.
does anyone have any ideas? please? he's not just my cousin, he's my best friend. and i'd really like to have my real cousin back
I honestly have no idea why the change in him happened. Don't ask him what's wrong and wait for answers, make him tell you. Whenever you see him in person, sit down with him and talk to him seriosly. "Say, you've been acting really different lately and even though you think it isn't a big deal, it is. I want my cousin back and my best friend." Just say something like that. If he doesn't tell you anything, maybe he just needs some space. Seems kind of lame but maybe that's the problem. He probablly has other things to worry about that he doesn't want you to know. Just accept him for who he is now and be there for him no matter what.
well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do?
They aren't that mature if they're doing those things. Kissing is common and normal but if they stick their hands down boy's pants and such all the time, it's kind of slutty. Even though you want to fit it, don't change who you are. Just because they do those type of things doesn't mean you have to so you can fit it. Be yourself and they will like you. Have fun and know your limits. If they don't like you for who you are, they're not worth it and those are the people you shouldn't look up to. You will meet plenty of other people in your new school, no worries about that.
Is there any sites that explain how to do stuff better like hand jobs and more?
Yes, Google.. or just watch porn. It's not bad so don't be ashamed.
When I masturbate, I dont do it the same way as sex really is. I do it up and down instead of in and out. Will this be a problem during sex? PLEASE HELP!
No it won't be a problem. There are many ways to masturbate and have sex so don't worry about it.
When having sex, do all girls give blowjobs? I think thats horribly disgusting just swallowing cum like that. Do guys expect it?
Not all girls do give blowjobs but some don't for the same reason. Guy do expect it but even if you do give head, you don't have to swallow the cum. It's the girls choice. Only do what you're comftrable with.
Well, ever since i've learned about sex, i've promised to stay a virgin until i got married. But...now i'm not so sure, its like, i still want to stay a virgin, but then again,...i dont..And i dont know what to do, please help me!
If you are in love with someone and you feel like you're ready to have sex, then be it. Don't just have sex with anyone you go out with. When it's the right person, you'll know when it's the right time.
does anybody know where i can get these shoes??
http://i6.tinypic.com/242fkee.png
thanx
Target, Wal Mart, Pac Sun, & Charlotte Russe.
im a girl. my hair is shoulder lenght and its thick, and i tried t give myself a mohawh and it didnt work out right. do you know how i can do one so it looks good. if theres a site or sompthing that tells me how. thanks.
See, not everyone can do the mohawk hairstyle. People with shorter and thinner hair can do it but since you have thick hair, you would have to get it done at a solon. I don't know any other way.
heyy [=. First of all I wanted to say I love your advice; and your column.
but, I'm about to go to my boyfriends house tommorow, and we're finally going to be alone. Can you give me any tips on what to do to turn him on a little bit? Thanks ♥
I think I'm kind of late on answering this question.. Sorry. Tease him and it'll turn him on.
Hey i wanted to know if you could get pregnant from sucking dick then swollowing the spermm or whateverrrr pleaseeee answerrrr !!!!!!!!!!
No, you can't.
Ok so i am taking school pictures tomorrow and i have blue eyes blonde hair and i want to wear a shirt that will make my eyes like really blue! would wearing a blue shirt make my eyes look more blue? or if not what color???
thanks a ton
Actually, wearing the same color as your eyes won't really make them "pop". If you have blue eyes, you want to wear colors that are oppisite. Some shades of blue will make your eyes look bigger and brighter but if you use make up, use different color eye shadow.
I really like this girl but i dont know how to ask her out
Also how to should I seem cool to people everyone thinks I emo when i aint should i be emo?
But how should i ask her out
When you guys hang out, have a conversation. Once you're into it, ask her out. Just say will you go out with me. It's better when guys ask girls out in person, not over the phone or internet. Also, I think it's stupid that you even asked if you should be emo? Are you serious? If people don't think you're cool, screw them. They obviously don't know you. Just be yourself and don't change for other people. Be fun and outgoing. Don't seem all depressed and sad around people.
im 13/f
Omg well about 2 months ago i went on a field trip 2 six flags with the skool.it was grad night and i was kickin it with my homegurls(4 of them) then 2 of dem left and the other ones mom took her away 4rom us so it was only left of with me and my friend.we were lookin 4 a waterride and all of a sudden 2 guys ask us to walk with them and so we did. it was the four of us.then both of them would keep asking me who do you like and shyt like dat. i was really feeling chemistry with one wearing a yellow shirt.so suddenly that guy grabbed my hand and the other one got mad. so me da guy and my friend were kickin it.but me and the guy started 2 kiss and stuff.well the thing is dat i didint get his number and i dont know where he lives he told me his name but i 4gott and i would so give my life 2 see him again!he made me feel so right and its strange because i never get sprung on a guy. all i know is he goes well used 2 go or i dont know to john adams but idk if its a highschool or middle school.i have a feeling im never gonna see him again.wut should i do??was anybody at grad night on 6/9/06???
First off, your spelling is horrible. Second, how are people going to say if they were at grad night? We don't know where you live. So anyways, back to your question. Don't say that you'll never see him again. You don't know that for sure. This happened to me before. I liked I guy I only met once and after that, I never saw him again. Well, actually I did. A year later. I know it's hard that you don't know his number or anything but there isn't anything you can do, really. Just go out and meet different guys. Who knows if you're going to see this guy again. You have no information about him so it's going to be hard to contact him. Have fun with your friends and try to meet other guys. The next time you like someone, maybe get their number or screen name so you can keep in touch.
ok so whats a guys idea of the perfect girlfriend.....
All guys like different type of girls. I think the two columnsist below me took a guess or maybe it was from their past but like I said, there are different type of guys that like different type of girls. What type of guy you're talking about, I have no idea. Some guys are attracted to just looks, others to personality.
i had sex tonight.. and i had it unprotected. he said he took it out when he cummed and then put it back in.. could i get pregnant still?? im scared
Of course you can. If you do, you'll know to wear a condom next time.
Hey I am 13 years old. and i really like this one guy. He is really cute and he seems like hes more mature for his age. One night , i think it was because he was drunk, he told me he liked my breasts. and that he wanted to see them. but i didnt show them to him because i thought it was kinda akward. but he didnt put it was a strange pervy way. he was very upfront about it, hah its hard to explain but he was like " I know your gonna think this is weird and you probably will disagree and wont do it, but i think your breasts are very nice and i like to see them"
Then we started talking and he was a really nice guy and i thought he actaully was interested in me. He payed alot of attention to me and i liked it. But then a few nights later my friend had him and her other friends over and he and i were there. We barely spoke. But he always would say that i was a sweet kind girl. It has been like that for a week or so and i really want him to pay more attention to me. Because i feel really used when it comes to guys. They treat me like shit and i dont like it. How do i get more closer with the guy i like? and How do i get more attention or respect from the other guys??
thanks so much. sorry that its long.
To be honest, I don't think he was paying much attention to you. He didn't tell you he liked your personality or that you're funny. He told you he liked your breasts and yeah that's nice but he's more interested in your boobs than you. At least it seems that way. Why he didn't talk to you, I don't know but it's messed up. The next time you guys are together, talk to him. If he doesn't come up to you first, go up to him. Someone has to start the conversation. Maybe he was shy or thought you were ignoring him? Who knows. If he still doesn't talk to you, he's not worth it. I know it's hard not getting attention from the one you like, but sometimes you have to realize some of them are jerks.
How did you make your picture like that?
Paint Shop Pro.
my friend is the different gender than i am.i am a boy.she gets angry sometimes when i don't give her enough info sometimes for example if we are on the phone and someone calls me in the background she would be like who was that and sometimes i really dont wanna tell her so she would start an arguement then i would hang upthe phone and after i would call back to say am sorry for no reason.she yells at me.she iz not really friendly but when am bored i could call her,shes a nice talker.should i keep her as a friend?what should i do?
You shouldn't just stop being her friend because of that. Friendships have their ups and downs. When she gets mad that you talk to other girls, she's jelous and it seems like she has a thing for you. The next time she talks to you like that, don't apologize. It's not your fault and even if you feel bad, you didn't do anything. Tell her to stop because if you don't say anything she will keep doing that to you. It's lame and if she likes you, she shouldn't be treated you like that.
stupid question & sorry.
I see these pictures everywhere & i really like them. Not just the one below but all of them with that lil dude in it.
http://s27.photobucket.com/albums/c187/krystles_black_rose/cartoon%20emo/?action=view¤t=iloveyoudog.jpg&refPage=20&imgAnch=imgAnch29
My question is am i the only one that likes them & i wanted to print a couple out and hang them on my wall witht he rest of my pictures. if someone would to see it on my wall would they think anything of it.?
I personaly don't like them but that's just my opinion. It's cute though. If you do put it on your wall it wouldn't look bad and besides, who cares if people think it's weird. It's your room. But I'm sorry, I don't know where to find them.
hey
i was looking at your site, and i was wondering how did you make your picture like that? (the one with flowers)
thanks
Paint Shop Pro.