If a particular religion/person reads the Bible and believes it to be the Holy word of God, then there are many, many things that they are reading in the Bible that are sins according to God in that Bible. A "sin" is anything that is wrong according to God. God is said to love us despite our all being sinners. Sin is what is wrong for humans according to God. The Bible says that we are all sinners, and He loves us anyway. Followers of God are told to be loving towards all people and NOT judgemental or hateful. Anyone using God or the Bible to be mean is commiting a sin themselves! There is no such thing as the "biggest sin" or "the unforgiveable sin." The only thing that separates humans from their Creator God of the Bible is a continual refusal to believe in God and accept His plan of eternal Salvation (Jesus). Being hetrosexual, bisexual, or homosexual will be of no concern in Heaven according to the Bible, because there is no marriage or sex or difference between male and female in eternity. Sex is a temporary thing apparently and unnecessary in the afterlife.

It sounds like you like someone you don't really know, so maybe you should get to know him better before you decide you really like him. The best way to do this is ask questions to get to know his interests and thoughts. He will think you are more interesting if you are easy to talk with. Can it be that you could be friends first? Don't let the fact that he is cute keep you from treating him like any other person. You may find out you like him more or do not like him when you really get to talking.

Two days late may not be an indication of pregnancy, but having unprotected sex is dangerous for other reasons, too. Remember, that you are putting yourself and possibly your boyfriend at risk for serious, painful, and life-threatening diseases when you have unprotected sex. If you want to know more, seek out a trusted parent, adult, or counselor at a nearby clinic. Also, please use condoms everytime. Do not let embarrassment or fear put you at further risk of pregnancy or disease.

If your brother is under 18 years old, then you have a responsibility to let your parents know. They can discuss it with him. The curiosity is natural, and normal. However, porn can be very addictive and harmful. Please tell your parents, and then you won't have to carry the burden of this problem. Your brother is not going "to turn into a rapist" from viewing porn, and it is not a character flaw that he is doing this. I am also concerned that you may be protecting him out of fear or even guilt from having seen it yourself. Please don't think you are protecting him or yourself by not telling. Talking to your parents about what you saw and how you feel is going to be difficult, but the best for you and your brother. If you cannot do this, please talk to a school teacher, counselor or other very trusted adult.

Dear Sixteen year old female,
Losing your virginity at any age is a very big deal. Obviously you want to stay emotionally and physically connected to someone that shared such a life event with you. The situation is that in reality, you will get over the emotional ties that now bind you to this person that you just met this summer. I truly hope that you are aware of the seriousness and increasing rate of sexual diseases among teens. You can become pregnant from just one sexual experience, also. If you have used protection and not become infected with a disease or become pregnant, then count yourself lucky this time. At sixteen you are just beginning your life as a young woman and you want to be able to look forward to many great things in your lifetime. The strong feelings you have now about this person will have passed sooner, had you not had sex with him. Scientists have proven that women in particular feel emotionally bonded more than men after having sex. The guy or "kid" as you accurately described him, will likely forget you before you let loose of your feelings for him. Do yourself a favor and take some time to get checked out for sexually transmitted diseases, and get some form of birth control started if you plan on continuing to be sexually active. Maybe before your next "boyfriend" comes along, you will take the time to ask yourself if you want to go through the risks and potential heartbreak all over again. If it is not worth it, then wait. You are worth waiting for!

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.coolnurse.com/

http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/1800-273-TALK(8255)
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

http://www.kidscrisis.com/

http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

TTY line available for the hearing-impaired at 1-800-448-1833

Counselors can help find services and agencies in the callers' local community

Help at the End of the Line
Callers talk to highly-trained, professional counselors who listen and give "right now" answers. They're sympathetic people who have expertise dealing with these and other problems:

depression

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mental health

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Toll Free
Operated by Father Flanagan's Boys' Home, hotline services are free of charge to every parent and child in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, U.S. territories, and Canada.

Toll-Free: 1-800-448-3000

http://www.sex-ed101.org/links.html

http://www.anorexicweb.com/anorexicweb.html

Report Child Abuse
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD TDD: 1-800-2-A-CHILD



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