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Q: ok so there's this guy that I like ! & I thought he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me(relationship wise) because I never trusted anyone as quickly as I gave my trust to him . he made me believe him when he said that he would never cheat on me! I felt that I had my guards up for too long and that I really wanted to be in a relationship where I was cared for/loved . was I wrong for wanting that? so it was thanksgiving when I met him . we exchanged numbers and he called me later that night . we just talked and stuff . & I absolutely loved his voice . wellllll . 7 days later he asked me out and I said yeah . then my mom brought me to her sister's house (he lives by her) and I was outside with him and his friends . his friends were trying to talk to me and kept askin me if I thought they were cute (which one of them was) and he was like "chill out" and we were just like cuddling and stuff . then I kissed him and it just felt like it was my first kiss ever (which it was not) .
then my parents and grandparents and stepparent started to not like how he was . because he dresses in "thug"ish clothing . & I started to like him more (i don't know if as an act of rebellion)but the more I started to like him the more it seemed like he didn't realize how much I did and didn't seem to care. ohhhh and did I mention there's a girl who claims that she's his girlfriend (she messaged me on myspace) but he told me no . so I looked at his myspace and she was first on his tops. so I asked him about it and he said it was old and that he had to change it but out of all the times he signed on the only thing he changed was that big pic of her on his page(she's still on his tops)i cried sooooooo hard last night and I couldn't stop for anythinggg . I don't want anyone elseeeee BUT him . & I really mean it . I want him to want me back

what's wronggggg ! =(

Well honestly, guys are jerks. My fiance can be a jerk sometimes. It is like they Pms but dont have the monthly visiter. Yeah it's dumb. It sounds as if he is cheating on you and you should have to try to be noticed. He should just notice you for who you are. If your parents dont like him trust me he isnt for you. my parents hated almost all my boyfriends and the ones they did like they dont like anymore. My fiance they just love him my dad and him fix on my car together even talk on the phone once in a while. Hes talked to my mom on the phone before (she lives a lot farther away) he even texts my little brother a lot. This guy isnt worth your trouble. take it slow and wait for the guy to come to you.

Q: im a girl 17 from Hondurasand my bf is 17 as well. Here´s the deal. She had a bf called dorian. out of the blue he started texting me very weird, seductive, erotic texts directly saying that he wanted to have sex with me. Two other guy friends also did this on the same day. Of course I said no and I tried to ignore the situation and just let it go. I would´ve told my friend but i dont see her that much and i didnt have her phone but i did tell a very good friend of ours everything to ask her for advice. A few days later my friend found out and her BF is now blaming the whole thing on me. I talked to my friend and thank god she believes me because she knows me. She also told me that her bf said that it was all a bet between him and the other two boys that had texted me. I felt so mad at them because they were supposed to be my friends. Now the three guys are trying to blame everything on me saying that I wanted to steal her bf calling me a slut. Yeah number 1 i already have a bf, 2 i told someon about the messages which i wouldnt have done if i was trying to seduce him. It just really sucks cause i thought they were my friends but they only treated me like a piece of meat and almost caused the end of a very important friendship. Now they´re probably trying to save themselves spreading the rumor that I tried to steal her bf. What do I do? people might believe them more because i dont hang out with many of our friends anymore due to school as well as parental control. please help me

Ignore them. You know that you didnt do that. Why put your self through the stress and drama of them? Your friends believes that you didn't try to steal her boyfriend that is all that mattters.

Q: Okay, my Boyfriend (18) and I (15) have been dating 11 months today, (12-25-08). WE'VE flat out been through HELL! His ex girlfriend, has egged his house, threatened to kill me, I had to take the psycho to court! Me & him made it through that, and that was definately crazy!
Here lately, we fight, not over huge things, but over small stupid things. When we fight, its over stuff like me buying him something and him simply not giving me the money to do it in the first place. Well, my mother had this chat with his mother, she says he wont even let her buy him anything, which i know is true.

Earlier today, we was at his house I was opening presents, and he gets mad at his dad, or aggravated because he cant keep anything over in his garage cause it gets ruined.

Okay...tonite, he was over at my house for christmas, he bought me a promise ring and a journey necklace. We then came up to my room, i took a nap and when i woke up, he was mad?!
He's got a horrible temper, the smallest things turn him off, and I know this, he isnt dangerous or anything though.
I'm just wondering why we fight all the time, and what we can do to stop it, he's going away to college in june, and i dont want it to be the end of this, we've got our minds set to spend the rest of our lives with eachother.

I'm terribly sorry that this is so long, and it probably doesn't make any sense. Thanks for trying!

Maybe something is really bothering. Maybe going to college scares him that the two of you will become distant. The buying him things is because he want's to be independent weather it is to show you that he can be or his parents or even your parents. Sit down with him. Tell him you want to talk to him. start off saying something like is there anything bothering you i notice you are getting upset pretty easy lately and i want to make sure your alright. let him know i know you are going away for college soon and im dreading it but i know this is just another obstical that will stregeth our relationship. you know stuff like that. if he gets mad. ask him to calm down that you are not trying to upset him. you are just courious. good luck

Q: I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. He wants me to come with him to his brother's house this weekend to watch a game with him, his brother, and a bunch of his brother's friends. So basically it'll be me and a bunch of guys, plus maybe his brother's wife.

Here's the dilemma: This guy that I'm seeing is four years older than me. I'm 18 and he's 22. In the beginning we were both skeptical about the age thing but now it makes no difference to us. I've already met his parents and his friends and they are all really nice and seem to be fine with the age thing.

I've never met his brother before but I know that they very close with each other. His brother is 30 so most of the guys who will be there will be around that age. I am just going to feel SO YOUNG and out of place. I dred them asking me what school I go to and me having to tell them I'm still in high school.

On the other hand, I think it says a lot that he wants me to meet his brother and wants to bring me to this "gathering". I feel that if I didn't go i might regret it. Basically I just don't want to feel awkward or unaccepted. I don't know what to think, say, or what on earth to wear.

Please help. Thanks!!

I think you should go. It sounds fun and it also sounds important your him. Ah don't worry about the age thing. My best friend she was 22 and I was 16 when we first started really hanging out. I hung around a ton of her friends and they became my friends as well.

Q: im in a tough position and im lost to what i should do about it. My boyfriend of 5 months, Alan cheated on me with my cousin well i lost my virginity to him and i was in love with him. It took me several months but i found someone else.. Dylan we dated for 8 months i took his virginity everything was good. Meanwhile my cousin and Alan dated for a bout 1 year and a month and then she dumped him for a knew guy well in the back of my mind i still had feelings for Alan, hes 19, im 16, and Dylan is 16. Alan invited me over and we started talking and he was crying and all this other stuff happened and well i ended up forgiving Alan. I broke up with Dylan and he was heartbroken i mean dylan and i had our problems to the biggest was i never saw him a lot because his my mom is a very strict lady and didnt want him seeing me because she "knows my family" meaning she thinks my family is bad well her family is bad also they sell pot out of there garage and shit but she likes to think there perfect and dont have any problems. Now im dating Alan its been 2 months when im with him its perfect but when im not all im thinking about is Dylan i cant get him out of my mind i see him with this new girl and it kills me in school like i cant handle it i have feelings for him to. Part of me wants to brake up with Alan but if i do i know ill miss him. What should i do? i have no idea and its driving me crazy if i were to brake up with Alan his sister is my best friend and she would like hate me for hurting her brother.. but i dont know what to do please help!

Okay. Alan obviously cheated on you with your cousin. He went back to you because he doesn't want to be alone. When another girl comes around more than likely he will cheat on you again. When you find out, you will break up with him and he wont care once again because of the other girl. It will be like a never ending circle. Dylan seemed like a nice boy and maybe you should talk to him telling him you made a mistake (if you think you did make a mistake). Good Luck.

and dont worry about his sister if she is a true friend she will understand your situation.

Q: I really need help on this one.

There is this girl i have been talking to for the past 2 or 3 months, there practically isnt a day that went by where we didnt talk, she told me how she wanted to hang out and vise versa, and all of that. well we finally decide to go to a movie the other day, and keep in mind she is a quiet girl. well i had fun, it was a good moive, and she seemed to have fun, but i am not 100 % sure she did. she is kinda short with her answers to me now, but i think it might be due to the up coming christmas holiday (tomarrow). In a couple of days, I want to know if I can just come out and ask her if she is intrested, and if she would like to go out again. is that too creepy and forward. What do you think i should do?

Rob 20 & male

I wouldn't worry about it. She is obviously still talking to you as much. Just with shorter answers. I think you should ask her if she is interested in going out again. It sounds as if the two of you had fun and enjoy each others company. Good Luck and Happy Holidays.

Q: hey i need to ask something.. my boyfriend talked to my mom and said i was beautiful and im a nice and amazzing girl.. should i believe this from him.. i really love him and he really loves me.. but like he said im a good girl for him bc he needs someone like me in his life.. please help and i will rate U.. Thanks and merry christmas=)

He said that to your mother about you? Honey you are crazy if you don't believe it. I am just kidding. What is your heart telling you? Obviously it sounds as if it is telling you to believe him. Dont second guess your self. He sounds like a very sweet boy and I think you sounds believe him and he sounds like a keeper.

Q: I pay my daughter's mother $430.00 in child support every month and she expects me to pay additional money for a cell phone to keep in contact with our child? Should I pay for my daughter's cell phone or is keeping her in contact with me her mother's job?

I know a friend of mine her ex husband pays the child support and phone bill for two children. much younger though. Although i think the 430 should be covered in the phone bill. If you are paying child support she can not stop you from talking to your daughter. I am sorry you have to go through things like this and i hope it gets easier for you good luck.

Q: okay so i had my period, it got over with within a week w/e and then 2 weeks later i started it again? i thought it was kinda unusual that i would start it again so fast but i didnt really think too much of it. when it got over with a week later (this morning) i started again!?? is there something wrong should i be concerned? this has never happened before?

Keep track of start and end days of each period on a calendar make sure your not losing to much blood if you start to become weak then call you doctor. you can also call you hospital and ask for the advice nurse.

Q: 15f. sophomore.

BACKGROUND OF OUR RELATIONSHIP:
i've liked this guy for a few weeks now, but only in the last week or so has it been this intense. we have exactly half of our classes together. we have the same circle of friends and so we hang out in group settings. i've never hung out alone with him. he has flirted with me on numerous occassions (e.g., calling me pretty, calling me cute, using the winking smiley face if we talk via the internet, etc.)

BACKGROUND OF ISSUE:
my problem is that there are two girls on the scene for him: S and M. and then me, if he likes me.

S: he thinks that S is very attractive, although several times has admitted that he does NOT have a full-blown crush on her. they have a class together, i think, but the three of us do not have any classes together. she has a boyfriend and so she does not like my crush. funny thing is, my crush and i have this little jealousy game going on. he thinks S is hot, and i think S's boyfriend is hot (although i do not have a crush on him). i've never seen him and S together, although he often brings her up in conversations, making me very jealous.

M: he is very good friends with M, but she is outside of our circle of friends. she's really nice, and he had a crush on her last year. they often hug. i don't know if she likes him, although i wouldn't be surprised. she's had other boyfriends. the three of us have a class together, and he sits next to her in that class and rarely speaks to me in that class. once, i brought her up in conversation and he seemed a bit irritated.

CONFLICT:
i know you're probably thinking, "well if you like him so much, tell him!" but the thing is, (a) i don't know if i even want to date him, (b) it would completely ruin our friendship. in addition, the underlying conflict here is completely internal -- i have a HORRIBLE jealousy problem. i get jealous over the SMALLEST things. so seeing my crush and M hug, or having my crush constantly talk about how hot S is, i get soo upset. i am, contrary to most other girls, quite happy with my body, intelligence and capabilities. so i don't understand why i feel so jealous!

SOLUTIONS:
1. what do you think i should do?
2. what are your overall thoughts of the situation?
3. is it normal for me to be feeling this way?
4. would it be a bad idea if i told my crush's best friend (B) about the situation, since he's the only guy who could truly help me? (note: he would never tell my crush. the only problem is that B may end up telling his girlfriend, and i do NOT want that.)
5. do you think i should directly ask my crush if he has a crush on M? i don't want him to get upset like the last time i brought M up in conversation, and i don't want to keep bugging my crush.
6. should i try hanging out with my crush alone or with a smaller group?
7. what do you think i should do about my jealousy problem?

thank you so much!

Honeslty if you like him this much you want to date him your just afrid of him saying know and it wont ruin your friendship i doubt it. I would ask him who is everyone that he has a crush on and tell him not to leave anyone out. you know bring up hints like that. Yes it is normal. and being jealous is also very very normal my boyfriend refused to date girls with jealousy problems. but were in love and clicked. and he would make me jealous i was jealous of taylor swift lol. i wont listen to her music now at all and i refuse to let him play that music in my car. but i am pretty much over the jealousy problem with him telling me how much he wanted her i used to cry baout it and i learned to just let it not bother me. yes you should try and hang out with him alone.

Q: My mother passed away 26 years ago. After her funeral, I gave her diamond engagement ring to my daughter, "Emma." Since then Emma has had two husbands and two more diamond rings, plus several others with various gemstones to match outfits. As far as I know, she has never worn my mother's ring.

I would like to spend my last years honoring my mother by wearing her ring. I am now 82. It would, of course, be returned to Emma when I die. Would it be all right to ask for that privilege?

Of course and I am sure she wouldn't mind you asking. Just ask her in away like you did on here. How you would like to honor your mother by wearing the ring for a while. I am sure Emma would be happy to allow you that. Let her know the ring will be returned to her.

Q: what is precum?
is it what kind of sprays out when you give a guy a hand job?

Precum is how i got pregnant. It's strong but it comes out because a male cums. I never seen it spray it just kind of comes out

Q: I love to organize. I get this weird little thrill out of it. =]

Are there any careers that you know of out there focused on organizing? Where you could organize rooms and such as an actual job?

There are ton of jobs like that. Secretary, I work at walmart and we zone all the time our 4-11 shifts i work 2-11 but same thing. i work in apperal so making sure clothes are folded the right wayand stacked by nice and neatly. around the store you have to make sure everything is on the shelves neatly. etc.

Q: so i'm a freshman in college, and usually your suppose to gain weight right? well not me! i've lost like 5-10 pounds. in the summer i use to weigh around 120 now i weigh 110! i know this is not good for me, and i do not want to be this skinny! i'm a pretty tall girl, im 5'6" so i think i look way too skinny. the weird thing is, i'm not really hungry all the time anymore? i love how flat my stomach is, i think i have a two pack too :p haha because i've been doing crunches now and then but my arms and legs are SO SKINNY! i hate it. even last night my two guy friends were like wow you're skinny, look at your arms and legs! and i was like i know, i lost weight but i'm trying to gain it back... and one of my friends was like well at least she still has those titties like a perv haha. anyways how can i gain weight back? like i don't want my stomach to grow, but i want to put some weight on my arms and legs. i don't have money for a gym membership to like lift weights or anything. if i eat alot, i'm scared its going to go in places i dont want it to! any ideas?

Technically you want muscle. Muscle you gain weight in a healthy way. running gives you muscle, meats, leg weights you strap them to your ankles and walk around buy little weights at the store and use them for your arms

Q: How could I be more interesting. People get bored. And also please only answer if you are actually an interesting person who has alot of friends. I want to be known as like "The Life of the Party." That's kind of what I mean except I just want to be more interesting so when I'm out with my friends, I would be more funn to be with, and maybe if I were more interesting, I may actually have more friends. I, myself am a boring person with a lame sense of humor. It's hard to be entertaining when it's me and one friend, I usually struggle for words to say. When I'm with a few friends, i usually shut up when I can't think of what to speakona topic, exspecially the ones i have no idea about. It's easier with a few friends because I can do that and just come in when I have something. I really want to be the interesting one, the one who my friends talk about, saying how great I am or etc. lol.
I don't know if i justifyed this enough for you to understand what I am asking of, but please give me more than lets say for example: ways to be interesting by wikipedia.com, 1. First impressions count, 2. Body language, 3. Your face. . . etc. I can research stuff myself, I want your opinion and I want to now what you do.

I dont know when i was in middle school and high school. I was just hyper active not annoying but everyone loved to be around me. I was full of energy. skip down the halls and sing. random out bursts you could say. looking for a party i would call everyone and be like what are you doing. do you know anyone having a party oh okay bye and hang up and call the next person. singing and dancing to music. just be outgoing

Q: I was supposed to go to my friend's sweet 16 this past weekend at some hotel. Well I wound up not going because I got mad sick. So I get to school today and my friend, who was at my bffs sweet 16, told me that my bff [the one who turned 16] invited 5 guys up to the suite. I don't know how many guys actually went to the suite but my bff gave this guy who is 17 a head. this was her first bj she ever gave a guy and then he fingered her and she had freaking butt sex with him. WTF. and she didn't even tell me, I had to hear it from my friend. my bff hasnt even ever had normal sex and now shes not even a virgin [because sex is sex] and she did this with a guy she JUST MET and omg i think its so wrong. her first time was up the butt. I don't know what to do, I want to talk to her about it, but my friend said I can't mention anything to her because she said that everyone in the suite heard it and said it was sooooo gross. I'm actually pretty pissed at her, do I have a right to be? and i'm also worried that she's heading down the wrong path because she had to get her stomach pumped over the summer and she got high alotttt. ive never had a drink in my life, and ive never done any drugs whatsoever, i hate what it does to people. I feel like I'm losing her and I don't want her to become this out of control person she is becoming. I'm also 16 and i really don't know if I have a right to be mad at her. I don't know if I should talk to her. I don't know if this is even NORMAL for a 16 year old who tranferred to my highschool from a strict CATHOLIC school to be doing. wtf. any input. how would you guys feel? please answer all of my questions, I'm so emotional and confused right now. thank you.

You do have a reason to be upset but not mad. I had a best friend that i was friends with for such a long time. She started into drugs and drinking. I did as well but not like she did. she was having sex with a ton of guys. 2 or 3 at time. and she was younger than me by a year i believe she was only 15. or 14. She was ditching friends to go hang out with guys and stuff. You can try. Wait for your friend to try and talk to you if she doesnt she doesnt. if she does tell her how you feel and how you dont want her to become. Im sure it was the spare of the moment thing and at least now she doesnt have to scare of getting pregnant.

FYI: Yeah it is possible from having butt sex. It isnt as high as the other way of course. But yes some can drip down and in.

Q: okay this is a long story. first i am a female. i have been dating this guy for about 6 months. not that long but long enough to start feeling comfortable in a realtionship. we had a talk earlier in the relationship and i told him if something better comes a long and you feel that there is a better chance i want you to go for it. don't worry about me. well saturday he told me that he found an interest in someone else and he told me he wanted to leave. i said okay thats fine. it hurt of course but i would rather know he was leaving me and not cheating on me. but then he staring telling me that he still wanted me and basically told me that he was going to go fuck her and then when he got tired of her, expected me to be there waiting for him. I told him it was either me or her make a choice. he told me he wouldnt want to lose me. i started talking to his friend and i now hes hitting on me and i think i might have given him the wrong impression. the thing is im not sure if i want to take my ex back or not so i don't want to start anythingwith his friend and even if i did it would be horrible to do. i don;t know what to think or do.

Okay first off, let his friend know that you just want to be friends with him and you hope he didnt get the wrong impression. With your ex boyfriend forget about him. Honestly there are plenty of men out there and he is obviously not the right man for him. He will throw everything at your trying to guilt you into being with him. dont fall for it. he is just breaking up with you to mess around with another girl in my opinion hes a moron. your better than that.

Q: 13

i need to make a poster about the nucleus of a cell answering what are it's functions, how does it perform its function(s), and why is it important to the cell. are there any websites or books that are informative but easy to understand? also, i need a basic diagram to copy a picture of the nucleus from.

Try this web site for your information. For better pictures just go to google.com and click images and just write nucleus of a cell.

http://www.biology4kids.com/files/cell_nucleus.html

Q: i know how to lose weight, i exercise and all that.
but whenever i have a really good day i always end up eating crap food at the end, and can never seem to stay determined.
any ideas to help me stay focused, like things to think?
thanks.

Honestly I got sick. Had to go to the docotors and relized I lost 14 pounds. With out trying ( i work at walmart on the floor so im always moving) Drink just water. water is good for you and helps you burn calories. Just try the smaller portions. One time my mother and I went on a diet were you just eat meat. No dairy products, No breads, No spaghetti. Salad with very little dressing. It Helped. By a really cute out fit that doesnt fit and hang it on your wall and make it your goal. thats what i did.

Q: so im 18/f

i would consider myself pretty, i have confidence and i have alot of guy friends but i've never had a boyfriend and i haven't gone past making out!! the thing is, i want to. now i'm not saying sex but other things. it's like i get so horny to the point where i'm about to do something and then i push the guy away because i feel like it would be awkward! i know that if i do something once, i will be fine doing anything after. it's just getting over the fear of doing anything. it's like learning to ride a bike for the first time, when you have the courage to try it and get on the bike, you will be fine afterwards. okay that might sound dorky, but i'm just saying :) i would just like experiences about peoples first time being sexual, NOT SEX but other things. you dont have to tell me exactly what happened but i would like to know how you overcame it. i know people say, you have to feel comfortable with the person and really like them but there is this guy and he is my best friend and i'm so comfortable with him but maybe i'm just not so comfortable with my body, i just dont know!

Oh trust me hun. I had a 9 pound child. I was skinny before i had him cute athletic body. I havent lost all the weight and i have stretch marks now. eww. I hate it. But my fiance love me and understands im not comfortable with me and he makes it okay. We are trying for a second child. he kisses my stumoch telling me he hears a baby. he will rip my clothes off because i dont want to take them off and i think its cute. Being nervous happens to everyone at least one time in there life. If you do it again but with another guy you will be nervous again because it is with another guy. work your self up the kissing and touching.. when he starts touching all over you. You know that he wants you. hes not like judgeing you because he is taking the time of kissing you and touching you to work up to doing other stuff instead of diving right into it. so deep breaths.. try some music. or in the dark. I love just messing around in the dark you can be your self much more. you dont have to be scared. everyone has or will mess around with a guy. so be comfortable. i know its hard with these woman on tv and in magizines now a days but i hope i helped good luck.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.