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My friend is out of control
I was supposed to go to my friend's sweet 16 this past weekend at some hotel. Well I wound up not going because I got mad sick. So I get to school today and my friend, who was at my bffs sweet 16, told me that my bff [the one who turned 16] invited 5 guys up to the suite. I don't know how many guys actually went to the suite but my bff gave this guy who is 17 a head. this was her first bj she ever gave a guy and then he fingered her and she had freaking butt sex with him. WTF. and she didn't even tell me, I had to hear it from my friend. my bff hasnt even ever had normal sex and now shes not even a virgin [because sex is sex] and she did this with a guy she JUST MET and omg i think its so wrong. her first time was up the butt. I don't know what to do, I want to talk to her about it, but my friend said I can't mention anything to her because she said that everyone in the suite heard it and said it was sooooo gross. I'm actually pretty pissed at her, do I have a right to be? and i'm also worried that she's heading down the wrong path because she had to get her stomach pumped over the summer and she got high alotttt. ive never had a drink in my life, and ive never done any drugs whatsoever, i hate what it does to people. I feel like I'm losing her and I don't want her to become this out of control person she is becoming. I'm also 16 and i really don't know if I have a right to be mad at her. I don't know if I should talk to her. I don't know if this is even NORMAL for a 16 year old who tranferred to my highschool from a strict CATHOLIC school to be doing. wtf. any input. how would you guys feel? please answer all of my questions, I'm so emotional and confused right now. thank you.
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I think you do have a right to be a little mad at her but at the same time you shouldnt jump to conclusions before you know the actual facts.
You definatly need to talk to her because the stuff shes doing isnt good shes lowering her self estem if its true.
fair enough if she was in a relationship with a guy for a few months and then did this stuff but like you said it was a complete randomer.
you should tell her what you heard and say something like "look ive heard some stuff about what you did at your 16th and im not accusing you of anything i just want to find out what happend from you because your supposed to be my best friend and why you wouldnt you tell me?"
then if she confirms it you should tell her exactly what you think of it tell her your worried and that your not trying to be controling you only have her best interest at heart and that you care about her.ask her why she feels the need to act like this.
I hope this helps and everything goes well =]
(btw a reason for why she might not have told you might be that she really regretted it and was afraid for you to know because your her best friend and she was afraid of what you might think idk just a thought)
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Talk to her. Just because your other friend told you all this stuff doesn't even mean that it's true. You need to hear what your BFF has to say first before you acuse her of all this stuff. But if it IS true, just tell her everything you told us. Tell her you disapprove of all of this and it's hurting your relationship.
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I would go up to her and say you have been hearing it around school and you wanted to talk to her about it. Ask her any questions that you heard, and just explain to her the whole situation. You shouldn't feel bad for being worried. It does sound like she is on the wrong path. So i would help her and talk to her about everything. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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You do have a reason to be upset but not mad. I had a best friend that i was friends with for such a long time. She started into drugs and drinking. I did as well but not like she did. she was having sex with a ton of guys. 2 or 3 at time. and she was younger than me by a year i believe she was only 15. or 14. She was ditching friends to go hang out with guys and stuff. You can try. Wait for your friend to try and talk to you if she doesnt she doesnt. if she does tell her how you feel and how you dont want her to become. Im sure it was the spare of the moment thing and at least now she doesnt have to scare of getting pregnant.
FYI: Yeah it is possible from having butt sex. It isnt as high as the other way of course. But yes some can drip down and in.
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