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Have any of you guys noticed that most teenage guys are homophobic? My ex boyfriend was homophobic-ish. I couldn't stand it. For a numerous reasons... 1) my own step brother was gay (oh but still very attractive enough to make girls fall for him ha) 2) I hate judgmental people. 3) I just couldn't stand it PERIOD. He used it as an insult with his friends which is pretty stupid. So I was extremely worried that he would see my brother and be like going off on him and then dumping me blah blah. So why are teenage guys so homophobic? I mean my ex was 17 freaking years old and was pretty mature for his age but still. (link)
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Razhie covered alot, but I'll give you a guys perspective on it (as someone who observed others who were like this)
Most commonly, its something they get from family or friends. Someone they know and care about or someone they want to respect them is homophobic and they adopt the attitude.
Insecurity plays a large part too, guys who are straight want to be seen as straight, and men are trained that being feminine in any way decreases your inherent masculinity, so guys will constantly overcompensate. You're not allowed to like a movie other guys think is in any way "girly" or to say or think things that let other guys make attacks on your masculinity, because part of overcompensation is ragging anyone less masculine than yourself (in your eyes) to make yourself feel like more of a man. Its pathetic, and juvenile, and very very common.
The same way girls will dress more for what other girls think than what guys think, because girls constantly judge other girls appearances and make judgements and social circles based on it, guys do the same with relative levels of masculinity.
Its why jocks are such an exclusive group usually. Its not because they hate everyone who doesn't play sports, its because playing sports is somehow inherent proof of masculinity and anyone who isn't part of the club threatens the manhood of the entire group simply by association. "Oh, this guy is less of a man because he doesn't take part in our physical activity, if we hang around him that means we're OK with guys who are not as masculine, which is a chick thing, so we're less masculine"
Bullshit like that. Its convoluted and mostly illogical, as someone who played sports and hung out with the overachievers, nerds, and other social rejects in high school it was an interesting and quite depressing experience. Watching guys I knew get in fights over perceived insults to their masculinity was always funny though.
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16/f
so last weekend, i went to this party with this guy i had been talking to for a couple of weeks. i know it was really dumb to go because i didnt know any of his friends and i barely knew him (he contacted me thru facebook)we had been talking about having sex and stuff like that. i did send him pictures, but he promised he wouldnt show anyone and that he would delete them, he was also getting mad that i didnt trust him. so yes i sent two and thats it. anyways, at this party, to make it short, i was so uncomfortable the entire time and i only knew him. but, he ignored me the entire time and played beer pong with his friends, occasionally coming over to me drunk out of his mind and making me drink more. he is 18 by the way, so was everyone else that was there. by the end of the night, we ended up having sex. but after that, he was being very rude to me the next morning. i realized that there were hickeys on my kneck so i asked him to go to his car to get my makeup bag and coverup, and he responded with, "im fucking sleeping." "holy shit shut the fuck up" "im not getting it. stop asking me." ect. he did not say a word to me after that. even when he dropped me off, he did not even look at me. or say bye. or anything.
basically, i regret this so much. he is the biggest mistake ive ever made in my entire life. heres the reason i actually WENT to the party. a few days before the party, he asked me if all i wanted was a hookup or if i would like him. i said i would probobly like him because i dont like being just a hookup. and he responded with, thank god. thats a relief. because i really didnt just want mindless drunken sex.
^that right there. is the biggest bullshit lie ever heard. but at the time, did i know that? of course not. i mean come on. its a bit hard to tell from that.
well anyways, yesterday my friend sarah who is "friends" with him (she hates him. he just thinks there friends.) she texted him and bitched him out for using me. and now hes trying to make it look like I was the one who started it all. he kept saying, she was the one who sent pictures. ask dave and brian, they saw them.
obviously, he LIED about the pictures too and how he would NEVERRR show anyone. bullshit.
now this is what really got to me. he had been asking for a threesome between me him and brian. i never said yes. he told sarah that i wanted him and brian to double team me. HES TRYING TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE I WAS THE ONE WHO WANTED IT ALL. why is he doing this to me! its not fair! and no one is going to believe me! i texted him and bitched him out but he wouldnt listen and he wont admit that he used me. he thinks we just had sex and it happens. NO. the point, you dumb fuck, is that you said you liked me and didnt just want sex. well obviously that was a huge lie.
im so upset. hes probobly telling more people the same shit hes telling sarah. its not fair! hes the one who like forced me to do all that! ugh i hate this. and i cant do anything about it. how can i cope with all of this? its really getting to me.
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First, you learn from this.
Any guy who's asking you for pictures and says he'll delete them and no one will ever see them is LYING. Period. The kind of guy who's decent enough to delete them isn't going to ask in the first place, even if he would love to see naked pictures of you.
Sweetheart, yeah, you got used. No, you didn't want to be used. Yeah, you wanted him. Defensive "but no he did it all" reactions aren't going to be believed. Instead, if it gets brought up be honest about it. He expressed interest in you, acted like he wanted to date you, and then took you to a party where he ignored you except to get you drunk enough to do something stupid.
Admit that you did something stupid. Regardless of his intentions, you are the one who sat there while he ignored you, you're the one who let him get you drunk, and you're the one who decided that this guy was worth enough of a chance of a relationship to sleep with. You woke up expecting to wake up next to a boyfriend and found out that when a guy treats you like a one night stand, thats exactly what you are.
Men will lie to get sex. Not all men will, but the kind of men who act the way this guy did will lie however they have to. Its easy, a few simple words of promise and you were so over the moon that you ignored every glaring roadsign on the way to the bed with him that night.
Instead of trying to make yourself out to be the victim, talk to people honestly. Tell them he's a lying asshole and that you liked him enough to buy into the shit he told you, and you made a dumb mistake. Also tell everyone how pathetic the sex was and how he couldn't even look you in the eye the next day.
Because he is pathetic. He's a child who lies to get laid.
Learn from this experience. That is more important than anything else, at this point. Whats done is done and if you go around freaking out about it instead of laughing off some pathetic mistake sex you should never have wasted your time on, you're just going to make everything worse for you.
Next time, make a guy actually SHOW you he's decent before you take off your clothes. We've got a big problem with kids your age these days. You've all been way too exposed to sex and sexuality, and think that spreding your legs and putting dick in vagina makes you adults and capable of handling the issues it crops up.
Next time, make a guy wait a few months at least, make him date you and show interest in you outside of Aim conversations he could be having with seven other girls at the same time.
Oh, and the next time you see him, try this out.
"So whats it like to not be able to look a girl you slept with in the eye the next morning? Does it make you feel like a man to have to lie to get laid? Oh by the way your dick is tiny and the sex was fucking boring, if you weren't such a douchebag maybe I would have stuck around long enough that you could have learned at least SOMETHING about making a woman happy"
If he's got a genuinely big dick omit that part of the insult, but if he's under 7 inches call him tiny, and tell everyone else he's tiny. No amount of masculine bullshit is going to make him feel better about a girl he's admitted he's slept with laughing to everyone she knows about how small his dick it.
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Just come vital information: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I just recently lost my virginity to him. Things have been really good, and I love him.
We both have separate lives. We like it that way. My friends, and his both consist of guys and girls-- even if we've dated them.
He called me earlier today, asking if he could go visit one of his friends in college for the weekend. She goes to Boston, which is about 4 hours from me. She made it very clear that me coming with him was out of the question. She says they haven't spent much time with each other, and that she has the right to spend the weekend with him. But I don't like this.
I'm not typically a jealous girl, especially with him. But he lost his virginity to her. I'm afraid that even with full trust in our relationship, the chances of feelings regenerating with the two of them is always possible. Therefore, I want to tell him I don't want him to go, but also don't want to come off clingy.
Am I being insecure?.. or do I have a clear argument here? (link)
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You've got a clear argument. The key here from my perspective (and I'm a guy) is that the ex herself clearly stated that you weren't "allowed" to come. Not preferred, but straight up allowed.
If that's accurate, then she gave herself away. Whether she's planning on acting like it, she clearly wants you out of the way and him to herself. Even subconsciously, she has intentions. Even if she doesn't like you, the added "She has the right" is bullshit. No, she doesn't. She's his ex, she's got shit all for rights.
My direct advice, you need to tell him point blank that you do not want him to go. Whether that goes further into "as far as I'm concerned, you're not allowed to go" is up to you.
Personally, I would allow it. But I would allow it specifically because I have zero doubts about my relationship to the point that I know my wife would call me to pick her up, or otherwise immediately leave if she spent time with an Ex and he tried anything. I know that anyone who makes advances towards her is going to experience (possibly violent) rejection, without the slightest doubt in my mind. 5 years together and married for 6 months can do that though.
I don't know you, your guy, or your relationship. I can say that you're fully justified in not wanting him to go, especially for an entire weekend. I doubt he's staying in a Motel, either.
She has designs. The way she's acting is too cliche, she sounds like she's missing what she lost and wants it back. In your position, I wouldn't allow him to go, not for the weekend alone. Make it clear to him that its not because you don't trust him (even though you don't entirely) but rather you don't trust her, and even if he tells her to back off the thought of her trying to push herself on him and get back with him is not something you want to deal with.
Part of being in a serious relationship is respecting your partner by not putting yourself in situations where people are coming onto you. Especially not ex girlfriends you've slept with before and plan to spend a weekend with.
As a way of compromise, ask him if the ex would be alright with you coming, and the two of them getting alone time to hang out during the day or something. Its Boston, you can explore or go shopping or go to a museum or something and then the two of you can go back to a motel at night, and the three of you can hang out together a bit as well.
If she's violently opposed to that idea, you've got your answer. She wants him alone and she wants you out of the way and inaccessible, where he can't get up and leave to go be with you if she makes advances and he rebuffs them.
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i am 16.My friend lives 10 minutes away from me. we both want to start excersiseing after school together three days a week at her house. My friends mom thinks its a good idea and has even offered to drive me home sometimes. i told my mom about and instantly she said no. Shes always making comments about me being overweight but whenever i try to do something about it she is always my obstacle. Like what the hell does she want me to do? what do i do? (link)
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Do it anyway. What's she going to do, pull you out of your friend's mom's car? I don't often advocate direct disobedience, but the fact is that your mother has been completely irrational. You're old enough to make a simple decision like working out for yourself.
Talk to her one more time. Begin the conversation asking for permission. Try to be reasonable, tell her what you want to do and that you want her to be alright with it.
If she becomes resistant, do what you need to do.
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me and my boyfriend love dirty talking to each other when we can't be together, but lately he wont dirty talk back to me. im not sure why though. when i asked he just said that he couldnt think of anything to say. i was just wondering if there could be any other reason.
another thing is he always wants me to say dirty things to him, and i do. but he refuses to say anything dirty to me. i kinda feel like im just being used to help him get really turned on. what should i do? (link)
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You gotta understand whats going on with him, and what's going on with him is that he finds you very sexy, and himself not so much. From his viewpoint, when you say things you're the sexiest woman alive, and when he says things he sounds like an idiot who no one would want to have anything to do with.
He's shy and embarrassed and trying to play it off as casually as possible. What you need to do is talk to him. You need to make him feel sexy and let him know what hearing you talk does to him. Many, many guys are like this purely from exposure to porn, where you often hear the girls making every kind of noise imaginable and guys being completely silent.
Because, what guy watches porn to hear what another guy has to say? Other than guys with gay tendencies, no one.
Communication. Talk to him about it, let him know how he can make you feel when he participates and how it makes you feel when he doesnt. Give him ideas of what to say, when he does participate encourage him and if he says anything you really like, point it out in the moment "Oh, I love it when you talk to me like that" and such.
This is all just communication problems, he's insecure and trying to hide it, you just need to approach him with understanding and convince him that he's alot sexier than he likely thinks he is. Most guys go through life completely oblivious to what we do that girls like, we just end up dating someone and are thrilled by it. Let him know what you like, and he'll probably be alot more willing in the future.
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so after going 17 years without knowing what it was, my mom finally explained it to me last night. and i asked her if i should be doing it and she said no.
but the problem is she doesnt know that im sexually active...well im not so much anymore, but i have been and might be again soon. i havent had sex since the beginning of july. should i still be douching? and if so...where on earth would i get something to do that? (link)
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You should not be douching. Previously in history, people were stupid and had little scientific knowledge, and so they let prejudice create assumptions for them.
One of those assumptions was that the vagina is a dirty place that needs to be cleaned, so they created douching, which sends plenty of chemicals up your vagina to sterilize it.
This, as it turns out, is a terrible decision. The vagina is its own ecosystem, with tons of helpful bacteria the keep you clean, and the absolute best way to clean yourself is with water. Just water, nothing else. Soap on the outside is fine, but inside you don't want to introduce unnatural chemicals, as you set the balance of your ecosystem off and can make yourself very vulnerable to things like yeast infections.
You do not need to douche, you haven't heard about it because for the most part people know its not a good idea now, people were just stupid enough that they used to think it was a great way to be hygenic.
Its not, its just damaging your vagina to make it smell like bleach.
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Ok so I am a total noobe at WOW but I found out that I can make potions and sell them in the auction house and make gold every day. Only thing is that I don't know how to build up my alchemy skills in order to be able to make these potions. I also heard that I can make viles? I don't know what I can really do but I am a Blood Elf Hunter level 31 right now with Alchemy, Herbalism, Fishing and I just got Cooking and I am thinking about dabbeling in Engenering cause I really like the motor cycle car thing and the goggles. So If you can tell me how or give me a really good resource on what steps I should take to be able to make tangable things and sell them in the auction house that would be great. (link)
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You build up Alchemy by making potions, you just use the skill.
Most of the various ingredients for Alchemy come from herbs you find around, google "WoW herb locations" and you should find plenty of resources that list what areas you can find various herbs in, then you just ride around with your locator on and look for dots on your minimap.
Fishing will help as well, though its not entirely neccesary, there are a few recipes that help you level up that need fish, and if you don't want to take the time to fish them you can buy them. I somewhat recommend finding herbs and selling them for the fish, as herb gathering isn't a terrible way to make money. And leveling alchemy is good for lowbie characters, as the many potions can be quite useful, its nice to have a stock of health potions for those random questing emergencies to save a run from the graveyard.
Other than that, go here
http://www.wow-professions.com/wowguides/wow_alchemy_leveling_guide.html
That will step by step take you through alchemy so that you know how to do it quickest and easiest, it will tell you what recipes to focus on for leveling and help you get where you're going. I highly recommend doing potions when you get up to the highest levels, transmutes are useful but potions will make you tons of money from the high level raiding guilds who are buying potions for runs 6 days a week, you can gather all the mats and make them yourself and make a pretty good bundle off of certain things, or you can gather herbs and sell the herbs themselves off so others can make things (because herbs are used for more than just alchemy now)
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18/female. if this is long, sorry! i'll be thankful if you can help though and return the favor.
i've had a "thing" you could say with this guy for about 3 years now. well ... he's basically like my best friend. we're both attracted to each other its obvious but i mean nothing really ever comes of it. i guess either of us don't really want a relationship, but we love spending time with each other. we flirt all the time. he's the only guy i can TRUST and thats huge because i have the worst trust issue ever. we haven't had sex yet .. but he will randomly text me and say like "wanna fuck" and of course i'd do him in a second ;) and so i say something like ... "hell ya!!" but usually i'm at someones house so i'll be like "too bad im at so and so's house.." and then he will just be like haha or something. i'd say something more sexier if you would say, but i feel like when i see him it may be a bit awkward. when he texts me asking if i want to have sex and i say like hell yeah or something, and then i see him, i try and not make it awkward and just start being myself and being goofy:) i want to go further with him, i really wouldn't mind having sex with him but it seems like he is holding back!! and he's not a virgin either, so i dont know what the deal is?? do you think he's scared?? he calls me a tease sometimes, probably because i say i'll do something with him but i never did. the problem is that he tried going down my pants like two years ago and i wouldnt let him because i wasnt ready for that, but now i am!! what can i say to him that will make him KNOW i want him, and am willing to go further with him? how can i make it happen? i feel like it would be weird if i texted him asking to have sex .. but when he texts me that and i open the text .. i smile haha which may sound weird but it makes me happy. is there something i can text him to make him know i am ready for him? or say to him when i see him? usually when i do see him we're hanging out with a group of people so we don't really flirt that much or anything. ahhh!:( what to do.. (link)
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You aren't dating, and he's not sure where the boundaries are. Having been rejected before, he's not sure when or even if to initiate anything, he probably thinks you're just playing with him like a friend.
If you want more, make it known. Guys can't read minds, we don't know what you want or what you're thinking unless you come right out and tell us. Its not about making the first move so much as actually telling the guy (with words) that you want to be more than his friend and you want him to stop treating you like just a friend.
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so like heres the thing.....i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 19 months but for the longest time i have felt like somethings missing....a female....i have always wanted to be with a girl relationship wise and sexually but i dont have the nerve to talk to any girl in that sort of way...my boyfriend is find with this because were both "freaks" lol...well how do i solve the problem of getting a girl??? (link)
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Your local gay bar would probably be a decent start. Other than that, just start talking to women and chatting them up, because unless you're comfy with walking up to a girl and asking her "hey would you like to come home with my boyfriend and I" you're going to need to get to know them and befriend them. You'll make some new friends, hopefully one of them will work out.
A quick word of warning. Your boyfriend and you need to discuss this at length. Bringing another person into the bedroom can cause alot of jealousy on both sides. If he doesn't get to join, he's going to be nuts with jealousy. You might have that same reaction on seeing him with someone else if he does get to play. Both of you need to be secure in your relationship and secure in yourselves before this door is opened, the last thing you want is one of you going off with whomever you bring home. The relationship always comes first, and either one of you has to be able to veto whats happening at any time if they need to and its alright.
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im sorry for bugging you but its really not working and i have nothing else to do. im so sorry. (link)
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I wish I had a few clues, but I don't. Take it to best buy, tech support is difficult to provide through a form like this.
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So, i am a teenager, 14 years old. my mom's age is 64!!!! I CANNOT BELIEVE IT :'( this is too old for me. i cannot stop worrying. all my other friends have moms who are only 38 or who just turned 40. :( so unfair. my moms like old. this is hurts me. I AM ONLY 14 AND MY MOM IS 64. what do you think of that???? (link)
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Families come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Its not a big deal unless you make it a big deal.
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19/female.
So i'm not going to lie, i always get attention around guys, i'm use to it and love it. I'm an outgoing girl, i just love to have fun and don't care what people think about me. My best friend, she is okay looking, but every guy always tells me how i'm hotter than her and nobody really thinks she is pretty. I do feel bad for her, but obviously i don't tell her they say that. Well anyways, there was this cute guy that she was interested in and i didn't think anything was going to happen with it because she is a really shy girl, she's never kissed a guy before or anything and never had a boyfriend and this guy is the exact opposite. Well we ended up hanging out with him last night and he was giving her all the attention and texting her all night. I get it, me and my cousin were trying to hook them up. I was jealous though, that was the FIRST time ever that i wasn't getting the attention and i hated it. I was soooo bored. And when my friend texts him, she always asks me what to say so its basically like me talking to him? DUMB. But it's like my friend is rubbing it in my face that he thinks she is cute because she is always like "OMG he said this, he said i was cute .. blaaa." Now i'm not trying to sound selfish, like a bad friend or anything but i'm not use to this. And i don't do that to her at all, i don't say "haha yeah all guys think i'm hot" obviously i'm not like that to her that would be just annoying. But what am i suppose to do? I'm getting pretty annoyed of this situation, she is always talking about him and now we're all hanging out again tonight .. great. I know i sound like a self centered person but i'm just use to getting so much attention because i'm an outgoing girl and i guess guys think i'm hot, that when a guy doesn't pay attention to me and pays attention to my friend .. i get jealous. I really do want to be happy for her, but i don't know how without being annoyed. (link)
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She's turning the tides on you because she's probably felt the way you feel alot in your relationship. Suck it up and congratulate the poor girl, she's enjoying the male attention you're used to for the first time.
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alright im on the birth control monanesa. I had sex with my bf last night and he came in me. I was wondering if anyone knew the chances of pregnacy with this type of birth control. Also im about two weeks in to the pills if that has anything to do with it. (link)
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It takes a week for them to be fully effective if taken as recommended, you should be perfectly safe.
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ok so i clicked the box then i clicked on the second one it says straight across site 1 site 2 site 3 and go under neath them all. what do i click on please help me
thanks for the help so far (link)
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Doesn't matter. Those sites are mirrors, mirrors are essentially a hosting site for download because a website gets too much traffic for them to use their main webserver to download stuff to you. They'd never get the website loaded if everyone was downloading the web pages and the programs off the same physical computer.
Any mirror will do, just click one until you get a download screen.
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So there is this guy... that I really like. The problem is that he's 17 and I'm 14, almost 15. We've been through a lot together and I'd like to, well, go out with him.
But is the age difference too much? Won't it be illegal considering he is almost 18? Would you go for it? (link)
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First off there is nothing illegal about dating or kissing someone three years your senior. Everything else, be more careful with.
Second off, three years in high school isn't exactly uncommon. Date him.
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Hey I'm in desperate need of help with my marriage....
I've been married for a year and a half now and things are definitley not going well at all....
So a little about myself...my name is alicia and im a sophomore in college. I have just recently found out that i have seperation anxiety when it comes to my husband....yes pretty ridiculous but its very hard to deal with. My husband has been ditching his friends cuz he knows how I am but honestly, i really dont want him to b/c I def do NOT wanna deny him of his friends.
I prolly wont be able to go into too many details about this but bottom line is, i dont know how to deal with it. Everytime he mentions going somewhere even places that wont take too long, i get a really bad nervous/worried feeling in my stomach. I hate seeing him so unhappy w/o his friends. I tell him to hang out with them but he doesnt want to b/c of how im gonna get. I feel like my marriage is failing on top of all the other problems we have.
Sorry for the length but please let me know what you think.....
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You need to see couple's counseling together, and you need to see a therapist alone for your separation issues. Neither of these is things I'd try myself or expect anyone else to be able to handle entirely on their own without things getting really messy.
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So basically, my mom's boyfriend who have been together since I was a little baby (I'm 15) has basically been my dad to me. I just started calling him my stepdad to people just because its just easier to say. a thought popped into my head one day and I thought about just calling him dad. But I feel like it would be completely awkward. I feel awkward just thinking about it. Like he was kind of on my bad side before last year for awhile because of his temper and him raising his voice and getting mad over the stupidest things. For instants, he yelled at me because I opened a drink, took a sip, didn't like it, put it back in the fridge saying I would get it back later, and he flipped because I just wasted something. I really hated him then. but now everything seems really okay, and he actually started to say 'i love you' to me. it felt kind of great but awkward. i told him the same back but I left. Would it be a good idea to call him 'dad'? (link)
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Talk to your mom about it.
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I'm addicted to shoplifting. I've been doing it for about a year and a half now. It was my 2009 New Year's Resolution to stop shoplifting...but I didn't. I've been shoplifting weekly for about a year. I steal everything from makeup, jewelry, clothes, chapstick, food, pens, and headphones.
Today I went shopping with my sister (she used to steal, too, but she doesn't anymore). We went into a store and I stole two pairs of pants. Then we went to a store across the street and I stole a pair of shoes, a shirt, and two drinks. My sister saw all the stuff when we got home and told me she would never shop with me again. She's my best friend and this makes me sad. :(
I hate that I shoplift. But I also love it. I love getting new things, and I love the adrenaline rush. I know it's not worth it, and I know it's illegal. How do I stop? Please help me. And how do I get my sister to trust me again? (link)
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Psychiatrists call this kleptomania. The compulsion to steal. You should seek professional help.
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ok so my windows xp (acer) laptop computer was making all my sound go crazy like it sounded all chipmunky. and everything. like high pitched and all that. well i was talking to my friend that said she is a computer genious. well i read to her i had real tec or something like that and she said to delete it cause thats what making my computer do that. cause she used to have a laptop like mine i guess. well i deleted it and now my sound is completely missing from my entire computer. and i know like nothing about computers so i have no idea to get my sound back on... and i went into control panel and stuff. and clicked on audio and everything and its all light like you cant click anything! so someone please help me asap! i have to give the computer back to my mom tomoro and she is going to kill me!!!! and plus i cant use webcam on msn or anything cause my audio device thing is gone! please help me!!!!!!
thankyou so much in advance (link)
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Lord.
Go here. http://www.realtek.com.tw/downloads/downloadsView.aspx?Langid=1&PFid=24&Level=4&Conn=3&DownTypeID=3
Click the check box, hit next, and choose the second download (the one that says its for XP). Download it, install it, reboot.
Realtek is an audio driver, its the most common one out there, I've got it on my computer. Its not a virus or an improper program, its a necessary part of your system software. I linked you to the most updated version of the driver, if you still have problems afterwards send me a private message and I'll see if I can help further.
Your friend is a liar and an idiot if she told you she's a computer genius. A genius doesn't tell you to delete your friggin audio drivers.
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I had unprotected sex last night, but i just got off my period a few days ago. He didnt go inside me, he pulled out way before he had to go. What are my chances of getting pregnant, im kind of scared. (link)
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Extremely low.
It is possible, theoretically, to get pregnant any time. This is because the normal body cycle can get disrupted or have unexpected hitches that you can't predict or even know about.
But normally, its pretty much impossible. After your period, the egg should have been flushed out of your body, which means that pregnancy is impossible. The hitches are if somehow the egg is still there or something, which is abnormal but minutely possible.
Generally speaking though, the first seven days after your period ends are relatively safe. You ovulate at day 13-15 after your last cycle ends, and you are most fertile for a few days before and after that happens. Semen can survive up to seven days in the fallopian tubes, so sex three or four days after your period should technically be completely safe. 99% of couples can have sex unprotected in that time and never experience a pregnancy.
But there is always that small other chance, which is why I highly suggest birth control if you're going to be having sex. Condoms break and emergency contraceptives cost more for one use than most prescriptions cost for two to four months.
If you miss your period, wait until the period hasn't come for a week, then take a test. If its negative, take one more test a week after that. If either turns up positive, go see a doc. If both are negative you've got a 99.9999% chance of being safe.
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