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i'm ready for him ... why isn't he making the move!!
18/female. if this is long, sorry! i'll be thankful if you can help though and return the favor.
i've had a "thing" you could say with this guy for about 3 years now. well ... he's basically like my best friend. we're both attracted to each other its obvious but i mean nothing really ever comes of it. i guess either of us don't really want a relationship, but we love spending time with each other. we flirt all the time. he's the only guy i can TRUST and thats huge because i have the worst trust issue ever. we haven't had sex yet .. but he will randomly text me and say like "wanna fuck" and of course i'd do him in a second ;) and so i say something like ... "hell ya!!" but usually i'm at someones house so i'll be like "too bad im at so and so's house.." and then he will just be like haha or something. i'd say something more sexier if you would say, but i feel like when i see him it may be a bit awkward. when he texts me asking if i want to have sex and i say like hell yeah or something, and then i see him, i try and not make it awkward and just start being myself and being goofy:) i want to go further with him, i really wouldn't mind having sex with him but it seems like he is holding back!! and he's not a virgin either, so i dont know what the deal is?? do you think he's scared?? he calls me a tease sometimes, probably because i say i'll do something with him but i never did. the problem is that he tried going down my pants like two years ago and i wouldnt let him because i wasnt ready for that, but now i am!! what can i say to him that will make him KNOW i want him, and am willing to go further with him? how can i make it happen? i feel like it would be weird if i texted him asking to have sex .. but when he texts me that and i open the text .. i smile haha which may sound weird but it makes me happy. is there something i can text him to make him know i am ready for him? or say to him when i see him? usually when i do see him we're hanging out with a group of people so we don't really flirt that much or anything. ahhh!:( what to do..
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You aren't dating, and he's not sure where the boundaries are. Having been rejected before, he's not sure when or even if to initiate anything, he probably thinks you're just playing with him like a friend.
If you want more, make it known. Guys can't read minds, we don't know what you want or what you're thinking unless you come right out and tell us. Its not about making the first move so much as actually telling the guy (with words) that you want to be more than his friend and you want him to stop treating you like just a friend.
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well if you really wanna have sex with him you should make the first move..
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Maybe it's just not his moment. Just give him some time and maybe he'll pull through. He did the same to you when you were uncomfortable. This is a short answer but it's a better explanation.
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