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Mom's long time boyfriend...call him dad?
So basically, my mom's boyfriend who have been together since I was a little baby (I'm 15) has basically been my dad to me. I just started calling him my stepdad to people just because its just easier to say. a thought popped into my head one day and I thought about just calling him dad. But I feel like it would be completely awkward. I feel awkward just thinking about it. Like he was kind of on my bad side before last year for awhile because of his temper and him raising his voice and getting mad over the stupidest things. For instants, he yelled at me because I opened a drink, took a sip, didn't like it, put it back in the fridge saying I would get it back later, and he flipped because I just wasted something. I really hated him then. but now everything seems really okay, and he actually started to say 'i love you' to me. it felt kind of great but awkward. i told him the same back but I left. Would it be a good idea to call him 'dad'?
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If you feel comfortable calling him dad then you should. I mean he has been there for you. Almost your whole life. My son is turning 3 in January and his biological father has never been in his life. He calls my husband father but he doesnt understand yet. Some day I will explain it to him and he may change his mind about calling him dad. But if you feell comfortable with it you shouldnt feel akward.
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Its really on if you feel comfortable calling him that. ?you could also talk to your mom about the subject or him himself just to get some insight. But like I said before its really up 2 you if you feel comfortable saying that
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Talk to your mom about it.
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If you are going to call him Dad, call him dad cause you want to call him dad. Don't base it off of how you feel now. Your mom is your mom is your mom no matter how nice or F*ed up she treats you. My dad is my dad and he has never been here, now some people would never call him dad if they saw him again because he has not been there. But out of own integrity I would call him dad if I saw him but not like OH DADDY! Just like "hi dad" why would I call him by his first name. That's me though. So basically what I am saying is that my choice to call him Dad has nothing to do with his behavior at any particular moment. Dad is what he is. So for you, what do you define a dad as? If he fits your description of a dad, then call him dad. He may be nice today and an asshole tomorrow but you can't just say oh well you aren't as cool today as you were yesterday, you feel me? I know where you are comming from so don't think I am attacking your reasoning, I know it may read like that but I'm not. I'm just saying if you make your decision based on that you set your self up for disapointment. If you base it off of is he being a father to me? Is he being a dad to me? Am I going to keep calling him dad even if he and my mom don't stay together? and the answer is yes to all of those questions then call him dad. If not I would just go ahead and keep calling him by his first name or step dad. It's really for you, cause once you start using that word you are going to create a new bond. You are going to be opening up your heart more and having different expectations. At least I imagine you will. So make sure it's something you really want to do in your heart.
ok Peace.
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