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dirty talk?
me and my boyfriend love dirty talking to each other when we can't be together, but lately he wont dirty talk back to me. im not sure why though. when i asked he just said that he couldnt think of anything to say. i was just wondering if there could be any other reason.
another thing is he always wants me to say dirty things to him, and i do. but he refuses to say anything dirty to me. i kinda feel like im just being used to help him get really turned on. what should i do?
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You gotta understand whats going on with him, and what's going on with him is that he finds you very sexy, and himself not so much. From his viewpoint, when you say things you're the sexiest woman alive, and when he says things he sounds like an idiot who no one would want to have anything to do with.
He's shy and embarrassed and trying to play it off as casually as possible. What you need to do is talk to him. You need to make him feel sexy and let him know what hearing you talk does to him. Many, many guys are like this purely from exposure to porn, where you often hear the girls making every kind of noise imaginable and guys being completely silent.
Because, what guy watches porn to hear what another guy has to say? Other than guys with gay tendencies, no one.
Communication. Talk to him about it, let him know how he can make you feel when he participates and how it makes you feel when he doesnt. Give him ideas of what to say, when he does participate encourage him and if he says anything you really like, point it out in the moment "Oh, I love it when you talk to me like that" and such.
This is all just communication problems, he's insecure and trying to hide it, you just need to approach him with understanding and convince him that he's alot sexier than he likely thinks he is. Most guys go through life completely oblivious to what we do that girls like, we just end up dating someone and are thrilled by it. Let him know what you like, and he'll probably be alot more willing in the future.
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Communication is always the best choice in any situation when you feel used. Usually the other person doesn't realize that they are doing it, and will feel bad that they caused you to feel that way. I expect he will apologize, and things will be back to normal in no time.
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