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Q: I'm sixteen years old, and I'm in a long distance relationship. (I'm a girl.) I mean long distance. I used to live in Mississippi, but my parents moved to California about a year ago. I met this guy through my sister, they were really good friends when we lived there, and we completely hit it off. We've been together for a year now, and I fly out there every chance I get. I mean things were serious, he has bought me a ring and everything, and we always talked about how we were gonna get married, how many children we'd have, etc. Lately, things have been kind of rough. He gets so angry with me about everything I say, and it gets scary. I admit, sometimes I do bring it on myself, but he always gets entirely too pissed. Tonight, I was talking to him about my friend, and he kept talking about how ugly and disgusting she is, and I asked him if when we broke up, he said that same stuff about me. He got completely pissed off, said I was fucking someone out here, and that I was a liar, and all I ever do is start shit with him. Well, we broke up. I'm feeling really fucking alone and empty right now. I just need to know how to feel better.. I can't stop thinking about it and I'm going insane. I want him back so fucking badly, he's my best fucking friend in the whole world and I really, really, REALLY am hurting. I thought we would make up, so I didn't take it seriously, and then his mom made him get off the phone, and I just knew it was over. I was crying really badly, and I told him and I hated him and I wished that he was dead. I regret it so fucking much, but he's not gonna care. Please, just give me some advice on how to get over him, or get him back and stop pissing him off, or something.

Trust me when I say this, I know how you feel. I do. I wont go into detail here but leave one in my inbox with your im or email. We can talk about it.. Look, all I can say is you'll get over him. Because I got over my long distance thing and yes it took time..but I think with help and encouragement from me...you can get through this. i dont really like to talk about it publicly so please contact me and i will help you out!

Q: I am 15 and I just cannot get any guys to notice me. Sure, I have plenty of guy friends, but I find it very difficult for guys to look at me as more then a friend. I'm not exactly skinny, but I guess i wouldn't callk myself extremely huge. I am just overweight. I work really hard to lose weight and it usually works, but I always get so depressed when I see all my friends who weigh like 115 pounds and how they always get the guys to notice them. How can i get guys to notice me and really see the real me, not just what is on the outside? How can I make them see the real me? How can I deal with the stress I have, and how can i lose enough weight to make guys want to be with me? PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Sweetie, guys that only look on your outside appearence are too shallow anyway..and you deserve better. You will find a guy that will love you for you soon! Dont worry about your weight because this world always wants people to be perfect and they are never satisfied. So dont spend so much time worrying about your weight..I know you want a boyfriend and you will get one! You will get a boyfriend who loves you no matter what your size/shape and that is the guy you want to be with. Not some shallow guy who will take advantage of you and leave you.

Q: what are some good yearbook signatures? its gettin to that time of year and i dont wanna just sign my name!

Just say stuff like "It was fun hanging out with you this year, and I hope we have some classes again next year. Be safe and have a good summer! Call me 555-5555:)

Q: okay, im 14/f and i havent had a boyfriend yet all my friends have at least been asked out and many have had boyfriends..no one has asked me yet and im old fashioned i wont ask a guy out i really want a boyfriend and all my friends have one i think im ugly and thats why no one asked me out please help me--desperate

Okay, you might not want to hear this. But you just have to be patient! He will come! You know how you see all your friends with boyfriend..well eventually they will break up and their hearts will be broken! Relationships dont last forever...but I know what you mean when you say you want a boyfriend. You want a boyfriend to hold, kiss, and tell you he loves you. i know the feeling and you will get a boyfriend soon! You have to watch out for the 16+ year old guys right now because all they want from you will be sex. So stick with your age range and in your grade...and look you get a boyfriend by just being yourself and a guy will find you attractive and will try to hook up with you. So be patient, be yourself, and you will meet someone !! So for now...flirt:)

Q: we dated about 7 months ago for a month about and it ended because i guess he just lost interest in it.
we never saw eachother over the summer after he persued me last year and after we got together a bit this year and it didnt work, we developed an amazing friendship. i'm the girl who his family loves (hes told me how much his parents "adore" me haha) and i'm the only girl who spends time with him and his family like at movies or something.
he's gone through the typical 16 year old guy phase of wanting to date everything and anything with a skirt on this year after things didnt work between us....which is fine, i understand it. now i'm becoming good friends with his best friend who he thinks i should give it a try with as a relationship because "he deserves a girl like me"...i may like the guy a bit but i dont want to act on it. as for my guy-hes going out with a girl i don't really like right now and hes admitted to his buds that he still kinda likes me (but its a secret i guess). i don't know what to do.

does it seem like we may have a chance in the future?
should i mabye give it a try with his best friend who is truely a really great guy-would that affect the chances of us ever"

what do you think is going on in his head?

i need all the advice, thoughts, opinions i can get. please help-i'll rate. thanks.

Well I would wait until your ex breaks up with his girlfriend...and you need to find new people to. It might not work out between you two, so you do have to move on...try to get to know the other guy a little bit more..hang out and stuff..see if you like him! Then if you guys go out, cool. But for now I say look around for other guys, forget about your ex for now because he has a girlfriend. And maybe in the future you'll go out?

Q: Every day I get my daily feedback from xanga and lately it's been telling me that I'm subscribing to all of these accounts. How did I do this? Does this cost me money? What does it do for me?

Please give me any and all information that you have! Thanks! (I rate HIGH)

Okay, no this does not cost any money. What happens is when you subscribe to anyone, when they post on their xanga..your emailed their post. So that way, you dont have to check their websites all the time..you just get emailed their posts. Get it? So yeah dont worry!

Q: Ok so im 15 and i live in Concord Pleasant Hill, walnut Creek California area does anyone know where i can get a job that hires 15 year olds?

Try a grocery store. You can be a bagger. Go to a local grocery store and ask them if they could hire you as a bagger. of course you would get minimum wage..you are only 15!

Q: how do i congradulate a friend who made it on to a competition?

Get a rose or two, and some chocolates..with a card that says Congrats! and Good luck:)

Q: hey im 14/f and im 5'4 and im about 100 pounds. I wanna take off like 10 pounds for the summer, but i dont want it to be a rapid change. I was hoping in like 4 months i could loose tht weight. What is the best way to loose the weight but not torcher myself? PLEZ HELP!!

Wanna know something? I'm 5'4 and 146 lbs! (I'm on a diet). I dont even look big(I have a pic on my column) so you being 100 lbs..you probably look skinny as a twig. You are actually too thin because normal weight for 5'4 would be 110-130. See. If you need to go on a diet, the only diet you need is a GAINING SOME WEIGHT diet! Please dont go on a diet, I want you to be healthy and safe. And if you ever get to 90 lbs I think you would have to go to the hospital.

Q: I really didn't know what category to but this under but here is the question does anyone have any GOOD fundraising ideas to help raise money for the American Cancer Society? Thanks for all your help I need as many ideas as I can get.

Okay what me and my church did was called a "Slave auction". We would tell the audience what a certain person could do like "Sally likes to babysit, clean, and she will work really hard for you". Then the auction would start, the lowest we got was $30 and the highest about $85. In the end, with about 15 youth we made 2,000+ I suggest doing this with people you know and trust..not to anyone. Oh and the "slaves" go work for the people that bought them for 3-6 hours. We also did a bakesale/auction at our church which was pretty cool...just make brownies cookies cakes, sweets like that..and be creative with your cstuff to get more money from it! And our good one was a PUDDING TOSS. Okay well all the people that are willing to have pudding thrown at them line up somewhere. (Make sure to have like newspapers or something big enough so theres not a big mess. Then, sell pudding cups for about $1 or $2 and then the people get to throw spoonfulls of pudding at you. Thats the main idea, you can make it a little more funner or change it around a bit. We made about $250 not as big as the other ones, but! You can make it big with having a lot of people to come. Good luck with the fudraising!

Q: Hey, I don't know what to download, so can anyone just recommend some songs that just fit the kind of like "chillin" mood? Preferably hip hop/rap...

Mockingbird by Eminem // lovers and friends by Usher, John, luda // 1,2 step by Ciara // Candy Shop by 50 cent // I'm so fly by lloyd Banks // 2pac songs // Lean back // Dirt off your shouler-Jay Z. Hope I helped!

Q: what are the risks of letting a guy eat you out?

No risks! Dont worry=)

Q: i have an advice column on this website (ask PrincezzMari) but how do i make my own website (for free) for my advice column? thanks for the help!

-Mari TG

You already have a website.

Under "Welcome PrincezzMari!" there is a link that says "Your advice column". And it shows you your site! http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=princezzmari --go there, thats your website!

Q: does any one no any tricks to making deoderant last longer?? thanks a bunch

Just buy a deodrant that is longer lasting, when your at the store and you see all different kinds of deodrants...look for one that says "long lasting" or something on the bottle or whatever..

Q: Ok well this may sound very dumb but here it goes . . . In P.E. we're doing swimming. Today I drowned during the class they were obviously able to resusatate me. I'm embarassed to go in school on monday. The girls in my school are very catty and news spreads fast at my school. I don't remember much of it. All I remember is trying to do a back dive into the pool and all of the water being pushed out of my lungs and trying to breathe next thing I know I'm laying o the hard floor with my class mates staring over me and the lifeguard. It was horrible and terrifying. How should I deal with the girls at school? Is it true that I could get Peunomia (sp?).
Thanks very much!

Nemonia? No your good. Who cares what people say, if they joke be like its not very funny I almost died. I mean, almost dying is not a laughing matter. Screw those girls if they talk crap, dont let it bother you! Just ignore them and they will go away.

Q: Ok, so i have this problem. I always dress in black or dark colors and i've been doin this all my life. Some of my friends are starting to get pissed that i'm always dark. they're embarrassed when we go out in public just because of me. They yelled at me but i just told them to piss off. this can become a problem. Should i just keep telling them to shut the hell up and put up with it or try to deal it out with them?

advice is nice...
i don't care if it sucks like hell, just give me advice...

If you friends are embarrased of you, and yell at you for being who you are, then they are not your true friends. i say ditch them and find new people that will accept you for you!!

Q: well ive liked this guy for like 5 months now, and so much has been hapening, now i like other guys 2, but its like i dont know like i still have some feelings about that guy i liked for 5 months, i still care for him. but now i like this other guy and he just broke up with my friend and today i walked up to him and he was like "hey sexie, and put his arm around me and said ur my gurlfriend now" but he was joking probably, well i really like him too, but that other guy i still have feelings for him too, and its like i like him too. but he flirts with every gurl and i just dont know what to do about it.
plz help me.
i rate 5.

Well just try to be friends with both of the guys for now, and see which one you would like to have as a boyfriend. Get to know them better. Sooner or later you'll know which guy you like best, and hopefully you'll go out with one of them!

Q: i exercise a lot. i do at least 250 sit ups a day and i pogo-stick i also run. i eat like a granola bar 4 breakfast, a turkey sandwich for lunch with baked lays (1.5 grams of fat), and only like 10 grams of fat 4 dinner. im really fat, i weigh 128 lbs and im 13, 5ft 1 in, i have been since i was 12! i dont know why im so fat around my abs, above my hips, thighs, and stomach. please help, im desperste 4 weight loss!

OMG U AND YOUR FRIEND ARE REALLY ANNOYING ME. IF YOU THINK YOUR FAT THEN GET OFFLINE AND GO FREAKING EXERCISE!

Q: my friend is 12 years old and she was wonderin if it was normal for a 12 yr old grl to be 5 ft 1 in and 128 lbs, im 13 if it helps. please help us

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okay well, if she has a problem with her weight then let her go on a diet. simple as that.

Q: i have a boyfriend, and we were having some problems over the past week! Then over the weekend my friend(lets name her A.) came up to me and said that my boyfriend was going to break up with me, and i was all upset!! Then on monday at school, someone told me that my boyfriend went to the movies with some people and was planning on meeting a girl there...(i found out later that it was the girl named A., the girl that told me that he was going to break up with me) luckly she didnt show!! Then i heard from someone else that my boyfirend was planning on making-out with her.... and so then i talked to my boyfriend on the phone that night and was like what is going on, and he told me his story and that the making-out thing wasnt true but meeting a girl there was true( he said that they were just going as friends)!!! Then i was like then why didnt you tell me you wanted to meet her,(they have never met before, they just know each other through me)and he just said that she invited me to see a movie and he said yes....and he went and everything but the girl said she couldnt go like 5 minutes before...i just dotn know what to do,should i give him another chance or dump him????

please help me!!!!

(in the past he cheated on one of his past girl-friends)

Okay, dont dump him. He didnt do anything wrong, yes he should have told you he was meeting her but he didnt. And in the end, they didnt even meet. He hasint done anything so yeah. Just let it go..