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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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This might be kind of gross, but for the sake of my friend, please try to help...

I recently found out that one of my friends is purging or becoming bulimic. I'm pretty sure she is but i have no clue how she's doing it. I mean, i've heard different stories and i really want to talk to her about it, but i can't yet. My only question is, is there any kind of medicine/drug that she might be taking for her to do this??? I dont know much about this so i really need to know to help. I know that alot of people just say, "stick your finger down your throat", but i'm not sure if she's doing that. I know she's taken drugs before but i don't know if that can literally cause you to purge. She's had trouble with stuff before but i just recently found out about this. I need to know if what she's taking is causing this. If you have any idea or can tell me what the pills are, i'll appreciate it. I'm just really worried and kind of naive about all this. Please help!!!

Alot of differnet types of drugs have side effects. Most of them cause nausea. But to be sure why dont you invite her and some other friends to the movies. If you guys eat before and she has to go to the bathroom. You could see. But the only real way you are going to know if you ask her. You sometimes someone says something and then tells someone else but the story is different and by the time you get it is out of proportion. So dont believe what you hear. The best way is to ask her and if she is then try to help in any way you can.

Some friends and I are in a group project and it's on the holocaust. We're making a movie, but we wanted a song that would really show the sadness of the holocaust, or that would in some way relate to the holocaust, to play in the background of the movie.

If you get what I mean and know any sad songs that relate to the holocaust, or just any songs that relate, PLEASE answer. We're editing the movie now, and it's due friday, so if you can PLEASE help!! Thanks!

If you go to askjeeves.com and type in theme songs for the holocaust it willbring up sme really god info. If the movie is going to be historical then you should any type of history song. Star spangle banner or even god bless america.

Ok before this question i've asked another on similar but this question is like the sequeal to it. So the qustion before this was I still like my exboyfriend who now lives in L.A. and i'm practicly inlove with him but i'm only 13 so I finally took the peoples advice who answered this and got his number from his friend that I know. So know I really want to call him but i'm nervouse because after I broke up with him for a really stupid reason we havn't talked for like a year but I know he still remembers me because his friend told me that he would always talk good about me. So what i'm asking is should I call him and say that his friend wanted me to call you and tell you that he can't call you because he got grounded would that be good so then we can just lead on from there or what because I refuse and really don't want to say that I just called him just because I want a good exuse( i'm a shy person somtimes) Thanx will rate for helpfull answers( will rate high!)

I know what it is like to be shy but you cant be afraid. I think that you should call him. Maybe you should say who you are and then say that you wanted to call just to see how you have been. Or if he has an email or a screen nae you wouldnt have to be nervous. It is much easier to talk to someone on the internet than it is on th ephone especially if you havent seen them in awile. I had this b/f we gone out for a year then he switched schools and i guess we just broke up. I finally switched to his school b/c i didnt like mine and i didnt know how to talk to him. I really liked him. So i got my courage and just said hi and asked how you have been. But if you prefer to lie then you could use what you got. The thing about his friend being grounded.

i need some more advise any one pls

Making herself throw up will kill her it is best that you can help her whenever she needs help. She maybe to scared to ask for help. Even though she wont come for help just always be there for her. Maybe yu should find her a guy that finds her very attractive. If she trys not to throw up for one day then she is starting the process. She needs to take one day at a time. Maybe if you printed out statistics and printed them out to show her. There are so many women who die from this sort of thing. Dont worry everything will be fine as long as you dont give up. Keep tyring and try a sitdown bring everyone in the living and talk. Or you could take her out to the movies to keep her mind off of it. If you spend enough time and she doesnt think about then the process will get easier.

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my name is amin.first i want to thank you for your free services and i want to know that is ther any natural exercise or way to increase
my length.i am 18 years old and my length is
about 177 cm.

cincerely you nima

If you go to askjeeves.com and type in How can you become taller? it will bring up tons of products that you can try and use to make you taller.

Ok. 13/m. I don't know if this question goes under Families or Work/School Relationships. Sorry it's so long. I'm really worried for my sister (14/f). She just found her first date at school this year. They went to the movies and all. My sister was just sitting there waiting for him to do something. She had her arm on the armrest the whole time waiting for him to hold it or something. She bought Junior Mints "just in case"---didn't use a single one. She could've talked to me. I've been asking and answering Advicenator questions for months now. I pretty much know what's going to happen and the pains she's going to feel. But no. She doesn't like to tell me stuff. Instead, she tells our cousin, who has serious boy problems. Boys rule her life. Her Bat Mitzvah was ruined because her newest ex was there. She couldn't enjoy Avenue Q because one of her exes liked it. She has serious issues. I know that. My parents know that. My sister just doesn't seem to get it, so she talks to her for advice.

My cousin is saying things like "Well, if he doesn't want to hold your hand, he must not be right. Dump him." or "Try rushing him, that usually works for me." I eavesdrop on their conversations because I'm concerned. I want her to listen to me. I've gotten chances to talk to her which I of course took advantage of, but she refuses to understand. She doesn't believe that she'll face hate, jealousy, rejection, etc. I felt most of it first-hand, but as for the parts actually IN the dating, I couldn't get that far. She doesn't think I know enough. Just because I'm younger and haven't actually dated doesn't mean that I haven't felt jealousy and rejection, I haven't been extremely depressed, etc.
How can I get her to listen to me? Thanks.

By the way, don't say to write in a diary. I'm already doing that, but my parents confiscated it last night for writing after dark.

First off she is your sister. I dont tell my brother anything because he is a guy and i dont think he will understand. Most women have to talk to women. I think that she knows that she can talk to you. I know you want to protect from heartache but you cant alll the time. When she learns these mistakes she will be smart enough to make better judgement. If we dont learn from our mistakes how do we live our lives. There will be a time when she will come to for help you just need to be patient and support her. I know tha you are worried but everone is about their siblings. If you continue to push her you will push her right out of her life. I know that is hard to believe but it happened to me. My brother was so protective of me that i never had a steady relationship. It was sad that i had to date in secret because he would be in my business.Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear.

Alright, Me and this guy were talking a lot and he told me he loved me and all that jazz. Then he started getting mad at me over stupid things and once I would explain myself he would be like alright. Then we got in this huge fight. And fought for a week. Then just yesterday he IMed me out of the blue. He said that he wanted to try the friends thing for now. I really like this kid, If I don't love him. I don't know what to do. He's always flirting with other girls and everything and I'm just like...wow. I really want to go out with him. But I know he would say no. I just wish he would like me.

I mean whenever he said he wanted to try the just friends thing for now part he sent me this poem/letter he wrote during the week we were mad at eachother and it made me cry. It basically said that he will always care about me and that sometimes he's stupid about things and wishes I would just over look them.

I really don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I just want him to like me..Wow...Please help me.

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I dont think that you should be with this guy if he is going to treat you like that. You deserve better. Maybe he is just going through something diffucult and he doesnt no any other way of handling it. If he flirts with other girls then thats not right. If a person truly likes someone they will do whatever in their power to keep them. I think that if you really like him then give him time he will come around i just think that you have to be patient enough to wait for him.

what options are available for a marketing manager where a competing brand have been introduced to all the areas he was selling before at cheap prices?

If you go to google.com or askjeeves.com they should pull up sites that can tell you more about the subject.

ok so me and this guy have liked eachother for a while no, we hung out every weekend during the summer, and during the first couple weeks at school, and he would always give me hugs, but then we started to become a little distant, and then today, he said " i dont like you anymore", but in kind of a funni way i guess..i think..but he is a joker type person, and then right after he saud that he gave me a hug...i dont know if he ment it..or what....im confused

Sometimes people are jkers. The way i see it he was joking but still someone shouldnt say that. My friends say that all the time and then when they say they say i am jking or they give me a hug. They dont really mean it. I dnt think you have anything to worry about.

My mate and her boyfriend have been sleeping together for a while and she told me today that she missed her period which was ment to start last wednesday, so a week ago. She had unprotected sex with her boyfriend about a month ago but has had a period since then, but she had sex with him using a condom just the other week, I just want to know what the likelyhood is she will be pregnant and what other causes there could be to her missing her period when she isnt stressed and is usually as regular as clockwork
Thanks muchly xx

There is a good cahance that she may be pregnant. I suggest that she takes a test to be sure. Condoms do not always work. There is about a 70 percent chance it will work but there is a 30 percent chance it will. Alot of women miss their period when they are irregular this could be caused by sickness or something you ate. Sometimes periods can go up to 2 weeks late but i would have her take a test to be sure.

I have lived with my mom since i was born. I don't know my father because my mother and him broke up before i was born. It really bothers me and i have mood swings now. I will be happy but then someone will say something and i get really upset. I have talked to my mom about not knowing my father and how much i really want to meet him but all she says is "he is an asshole and you dont want to meet him" which always leaves my crying myself to sleep. What should i do because i really want to meet him?

Your mom is trying to protect you so you dont get hurt. I would suggest that you tell her that is your choice whether you want to meet or not. Or you could ask your mother why he is what he is. My mother always told me my father was a jerk and when i would hang out with i finally understood what she meant. I think that you should do what you feel is right. You shouldnt have to cry yourself to sleep

ok, pay attention very closely. my parents have always thought my friends were really bad influences on me. this time, they just went overboard. they found a condom and a shot glass in one of my drawers. they also easedropped while i was on the phone with my friend and heard me tell her that i was making out with this guy and stuff. so now they've drawn the conclusion that this is all my friends faults. they've just had enough of my "bad influncing friends" they believe me that im not having sex with anyone but they wont let me keep my friends. they told me that im not allowed to hang out with any of my friends with the exception of 3 of them which arent even friends with my big group of friends. im so depressed, its only been a day and i miss my friends already. i see them for 10 mins before classes start every morning and for maybe 5 mins through the day cause i dont have classes with them and i only have lunch with one. i already cut myself about 5 times. i dont know what to do. when they say something, theyre not gonna go back on it. so i really wanna know how to convince two very stubborn people to let me have my best friends back. please help.

I know that parents can be lik that. Mine are like that but cutting yourself is not the answer. I suggest making a deal with them. Tell them that if they let you see your friends you will do good behavior. Tell them that your friends are not responsible for your actions. You control who you wnat to be and nobody can tell how and when yo do it. It will take some times but try to tae it one day at a time.

ok, theres this boy i like and he knows i like him, and im pretty sure he likes me back, put its not definite. How can i ask him in a suddle way if he likes me? i have some ideas but theyre not very good....smartasses will be reported!
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I think the best way to handle it is to have one of your friends talk to him but not make it obvious. they could just start out talking about something and then be like seems like you like her do you? you know something simple. If you wat to ask him yourself then write him a note.

I'm having my 13th birthday party (don't worry.. my bday was 1 month ago so im legal) in two weeks.
We're having 6 of my bestfriends over to my house for a sleepover. We're going to be watching movies, eating, cake, presents, and my friend is bringing a butt ton of makeover stuff.. basically everything on god's green earth.
I need one more big activity. like the main one.
Any good, simple, realistic ideas?
No boys. My parents said that upfront.
Thanks!

I think that playing true or dare is the best for at sleepovers! Its fun and learn stuff you never knew about your friends. Or telling your deep dark secrets.

Flirting...wow i am soo confused what flirting is and what some examples of flirting are...could anyone help me out please?

Flirting is something most people do to get a girl or a guy. Flirting could be just about anything. You could talk to a person and thats flirting. kissing,holding hands, anything like that. Sometimes talking is flirting depending on what you say.

I use "L'Oreal Paris: Wear Infinite" eyeliner. It's a pencil eyeliner. It works really good..like it comes out dark and doesn't hurt when I put it on. But the only problem is, I'll put it on in the morning, and then by the time I get to school it already wore off! My question is: What's a good eyeliner? This one is like $7. & people say NYC eyeliner which is $1 works REALLY good. What do you think? I need an eyeliner that's going to last all day & that's not TERRIBLY expensive..?

If you go any dollar store they have some good eyeliners that are not pencils but you roll them when you get low. The one i bought i got from family dollar and it only cost 3 dollars. It works all day for me.

Hey guyss. Well latley I`ve been having some trouble ( friends, grades etc. ) You know, the normal middle school drama. Well I`ve been taking my anger out on random people ( like saying sarcastic remarks or insulting them) without realizing I did it until I already said it. I want to be nicer to everyone and become more outgoing. Anyone got any tips to help get me started and to remind me to be more outgoing, nicer, and friendly in the future ? Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. xox

Just think before you say anything. Try and understand what each person is going through. I know it is hard to be nice to some people but sometimes you have to not say anything. Just take one day at a time. Try not saying anything mean about anyone for one whole day. If you accomplish this then you can go with more days of being nice. Mabe you should try talking to someone that you dont normally talk to. It might help.

I have been working out like a lot latley, like on average an hour of cardio everyother day along with kickboxing and other things. I just started my period and I feel and look like I havnt done anything, could this be a result of my period?

thanks:) I'll rate high

You are not gaining weight but that is just you being bloated. When you are on your period you will bloat and it makes you look fatter than you really are. When your period is over you should look thinner.

okay this might be long
this kid that i like wants to hang out. like jsut us. and he wants to watch a movie or something. and he like, likes to do a lot of stuff and i'm not used to all that and i think it would we awkward like hanging out with him and all that. so how could i make this unawkward and kinda sense to him that i only wanna like makeout and do nothing other than that? like besides saying it. please help! like i really wanna go out with him but i dont wanna do a lot until we have been going out!

The best thing is to do is to go to the movie theater. There most people dont go farther than making out so you would be safe there. If people do have sex in the movie theater thats a little weird. I think that if he is trying to go farther than you want you need to stop him but i am pretty sure that if you are in the movie theater you wont have anything to worry about.

i really wanna lose some weight cuz i dunno i want 2 hehe but i dont really have alot of time please help me....maybe some diet type tips or some kind of workout please im desparate

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The best way to lose weight is to exercise daily like doing crunches everyday or even walking. Drinking water instead of pop helps get rid of all the water weight you have in your system. You can have like 1 can of pop a day but you shouldnt go more than that. Also eating only 1 candy bar a day or none at all helps. The best is not to eat chocolate at all. You should eat because if you dont eat you will lose but you will gain just as fast. You should eat 3 meals a day but do not snack in between the meals.

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