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Q: i have a problem and seriously need some help to figure out what to do i need someone to talk to

You can't be in a marriage if you are truely un happy. I mean is it something you two could work out if you both really tried? If now and you dont see a single way around it than you two need to talk. Do you have kids? what about them. you need to have it planned because when you tell your children. your going to have to answer a lot more questions like where are they going to say when will they see the other parent. where will they be living. you will have to deal with tears.

Q: im 17 and live with just my mother.
my father left my mother almost 2 years ago because she was so 'mental' he finally couldnt deal with it. now that its just me and my mother she has gotten worse.

she has no friends, no family that wants to talk to her (or be around), and dosent have a job. she stays home 24/7. im an only child and she dosent have anyone else to talk to except for myself.

every day its getting worse. we argue, and fight (physically), every day i feel like im loosing my mind a little more.

is there anyway i can move out, either by myself, or with a friend. my friend would be 21 if that helps any.

i just feel like im about to loose my mind ive turned to anything and everything. things just keep getting worse. please help.

First off the only way you can move out. Is your mothers permission to give up her rights or being emancipated. some startes dont allow emancipation. you can google it to find out if your state allows it. If your friend doesnt mind than you can live with them. Emancipation. you need to have a job. show you are capable of taking care of yourself.

Q: ok well this is embarassing and actually bothering me for a very long time....to start with i am a 27 year old female, before i got married i was a virgin...and guess what...i got married in august of 08...and still am a virgin! well as much as it sounds crazy and funny...this is driving my husband and my relationship downfall...i am basically scared to have sex...we have attempted several times...but everytime the poor man tries to put it in...i back off thinking its going to hurt...its been eight months now...and my husband's just a very understanding patient man...or else i feel if it were anyone else he would have cheated on his wife by now...my mom, my sister my close friends that i have shared it with...all have yelled at me about it...i am starting to hate the fact that i cant get this fear out of me...i mean come on i thought sex was suppose to be fun...and i also know it keeps a married relationship good...but thats missing in my married life..and i have to do something about it...please help!

You can ask any person there first time is scary. it doesnt matter who they are. maybe the first few times might hurt. other then that its amazing. When you want to stop dont say anything let him at least get it in. deep breathes. watch porn before get turned on or something.

Q: So my best friend goes to a different school than me, but she doesnt have a date to prom and shes soo distraught about it :/ like she basically hates life just because of this. i do have a date so im afraid of saying something that will make her mad at me or somewhat resentful.

What can i say to her to make her feel better? Or what can i do for her? like bring her ben & jerry's with a note or something haha.

i dont know, i just feel bad because shes so miserable and i feel like i cant help her :(

Prom is a big deal in a teenagers life. i my self didnt go to prom. but i was young single mother. you can go to prom and not have a date. her friends will be there. and you never no there may be a guy going who is going dateless as well. she could dance with you or other friends at some songs. just convince her to go and help her have a good time.

Q: I'm stuck in between two different friends. I've been best friends with one of them for about 2 years and best friends with the other for a little less than a year. My best friend of two years doesn't exactly approve of me having another best friend. I don't know what to do! Should I leave my best friend of two years for a friend that I trust less, or should I stop being best friends with my best friend of two years because she is trying to limit me?

i think you should be friends with who ever you want. If you want to be friends with both of them tell them to get over it. that you enjoy being friends with both of them itsnot their decision to tell you who you can and can not be friends with.

Q: Ok so im sorry if this is long but i really need help. So my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and 2 months now, but we have broken up quite a few times, two of them were because he cheated on me. Well this summer we were'nt dating and i really liked this kid Coston, his family and mine are really close but anyways we had a thing almost all summer long and then when school started again me and Jordan (kid mentioned at beginning) started dating again so mine and Costons thing just kinda ended well now i started talking to Coston again and i am really starting to like him again and im not sure what to do... i mean Jordan has hurt me a lot before and i dont really trust him but Coston has never hurt me and he just makes me smile. Dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend but i just dont know what to do anymore and i would really like some help!! Thanks for reading, hope it makes sense =]

I think you should lose Jordan and work slowly with Coston. I believe once a cheater always a cheater and he has already cheated on your twice. you are crazy. he is lucky you are still with him. It sounds to me Coston really likes you and you really like him. Just take things slow. good luck

Q: okay i need advice to give to my best guy friend.
He likes this girl A and loves this girl B. well A likes him back and B loves him to. Me and Him are so confused because he doesnt know what to do. Weather to be with A or B. B told him that shes loved him and would b there when he was done with A. I told him if B really meant what she said then go with A. But then he said that he really loved B and then i said it sounded like hed rather b with B. then he said he didnt know because he really like A too. so i dont know what to do im stuck, hes stuck. Hes is also wanting to lose his virginity to one of these girls. please help and im sorry if its long. thanks

loving a female is alot differnt than liking a female. if he really loves b than he should be with b. i think he should take the time to go on a few dates with each girl. see who he is more compatable with. just because b says she will wait doesnt mean she will. it would probably really hurt her to see him date a first then go to b if he and a didnt work.

Q: the other day my boyfriend was going through my phone and saw his cousins number in my phone (he's a boy) but the thing is he's my second cousin too (me and my boyfriend arent relataed so dont worry) and he went off.. he pushed me and was calling me all kinds of names. now he wont call me back, answer my calls, or even answer my texts. its been 2 days and i still aint heard from him. i love him. and i know he didn't mean to push me. what should i do? im female and 16.

Forget about him. My ex seen my son's fathers sisters number in my phone shoved me into a wall and nail went through my hand. Told me to get out his house. etc. Then wanted me back. When he started accusing me of cheating, is when i caught him cheating moron didnt delete his text messages. its only a matter time. first time he even touches you is when you should go. dont put your self through it you dont deserve it.

Q: sorry if this ends up being long but i have two questions kinda...

17/f
ive never understood why society made it so bad for teenagers to have sex. i mean people 13 and even younger were having babies in the past, and that was considered acceptable? In fact if a girl WASNT married by 17 she would be considered too old...
i just dont get why its SUCH a horrible thing for someone my age to have sex if they are ready. and i know about sex. i know that it should be done only out of love, and only if youre mature enough to handle it, and only if you can take on the responsibility of sex and protecting yourself to avoid pregnancy. but if everything is perfect, then whats the big deal? thats my first question if someone could explain that to me...

the second ???? is more personal.

ive been dating my bf for a month, and weve been talking for two. hes already said he loves me, and hes proven it. but then again i can never again trust someone so blindly and im not sure its even possible to love someone after only going out for a month. (i havent said it back btw)
and i asked him how long he would be able to wait because im a virgin and i wasnt planning on having sex anytime soon so he should know that. he looked at me and said "i dont want you to have sex with me until you can look me in the eye and tell me honestly that you love me". That was great to hear, but of course i still get paranoid sometimes. because we started having oral sex and sometimes we get so into it we both just want each other, and i feel like i really wanna do it. BUT i know i shouldnt yet and want to wait longer...just that he forgets about what he told me about sex in the moment as well, and im understanding of that. I asked him if he remembered what he told me later and he said "yeah, but its easy to forget when youre in the moment" which is true because it happened to me as well. i guess my question is...can someone give me a reason why i shouldnt have sex with him, becacuse im running out of reasons... i already told him to get tested before we even had oral, and im going on birth control next week for acne issues so pregnancy wont be possible. and i really feel like im falling for him, and he shows that he loves me everyday....so...y wait? can you have love without sex for an extended period of time? im turning 18 this year btw...

Look I had a baby when i was 15 years old. I can tell you it isn't easy. You grow up pretty dang quick. Now I only being 17 I want to find my mr. right get married settle down. My son needs a steady enviroment not his mother dating around. which i have been doing. I get lonely and end up having sex like i can't control my self and I hate it. I finally found a good guy.. but we just recently started even talking relationship wise. Im late for my period. scared that what if im pregnant. i was stupid and messed around. whos the dad? sex complicates things. yes you are curious on what it feels like and the first time it hurts. but sex complicates the relationship and if you like it as much as me you want it more and more often. i lived with one my boyfriends for 6 months. when we broke up i was lost at first i used to it all the time and them to none thats what made me rebell. Also 13 year olds and getting pregnant.. oh man.. high school was so hard to finish but i did it. and now i am starting college and it isnt much easier. i work to support my son. i live with my father and hate it. i am working on moving out. live is tough and single young parent.

Q: For the past 4-5 years of my life, I have been struggling with the realization that I am most likely a lesbian, and at the very least bisexual. I don't consider myself homophobic in the least, but admitting to myself that getting married to a nice boy won't make me happy has been difficult.

I have had a limited number of same-sex encounters with other girls, but nothing too serious. I am now in college, and ready to face my future bravely and with certainty.

I am not sure how to explain this to my close friends. I feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to begin living out this "new chapter" in my life. Any advice?

If your friends our true friends they will understand your situation and support you in your decsion tell them as a group. tell them what you said on here you are certain a man cant make you happy and that you have been struggling with this for years and your ready to annouce it. i am most certain they will support you.

Q: does anyone know of a bus system that can get someone from oneonta to potsdam new york?

have you checked into grey hound?

Q: As I was saying before I was with this guy for 11 months and its been about 4 months since we've broken up. I feel as if he was my first true love. He found a new girl now but they aren't dating. He keeps bringing up the past and all the memories we've had... and it's starting to make me fall for him again. I DON'T WANT TO THOUGH. Then he tells me he loves her but he loves me more. Agh he still uses all the nick names we created for each other when we are dating. WHAT DO I DO? What does this mean?
Female, 14.

it means you turned into a rebound girl. if his current relationship doesnt work out for him you will be there so he wont be since. you are young and dont need that kind of drama i say for get him and move on he isnt work your time.

Q: Ok so i have this friend named Bryan and I have liked him for about a year and a half, and never told anybody anybody about it. I have this other "friend" named Melissa, and i find her quite bitchy and annoying. So they are both apart of our circle of fiends... and i just found out that they are dating.. I am really upset, and I don't know what to do. I mean like I feel as though I can never be with him anymore. UGH. And everyone thinks that this is totally out of the blue and they don't like it either.. PLEASE HELPP WHAT SHOULD I DOO?!?

I think you minds well just wait it out and see how their relationship go. I am sure you dont want to be known as the girl who breaks them up. You should have took action sooner. but since you didnt wait for them to break up

Q: Its like this I really like this girl but I'm not in her class or have never talked to her so here's the pitch I get someone to tell her that I like her not to ask her out I'll do that myself but just to see if she likes me back which I think she does You know the slight glance every single day at lunch time and so on and don't worry I'm not just imagining it in my head.I'm not a fool.I was going to ask her out myself but figured why risk getting rejected and embarrassed like that for no reason when I could get someone to see if and that's a Big If she liked me in return so then i would ask her out myself.Finally here's the question what I said above an OK way to go with it and secondly I'm 17 and she's 14 just wondering if that's alright.Bear in mind I'm from Ireland which has a completely different culture from America.If she likes me and since I like her I don't care what anybody thinks.

Maybe go about it. Having someone ask her what does she think about you, instead of the straight forward hey thay guy over there likes you. Age isn't anything but a number. I am 17 and my ex is 28. We got along fine. but worked out even better as friends.

Q: K so I'm 15/f frshman and HS and I've never had a bf, and only 1 guy that I know that's actualy ever liked me. All my friends have had/have bf's and I haven't, I've never kissed anyone either, and my bestfriend just told me that she had sex for the first time, and I just feel like I'm a total freak because I've never had a bf. Is that normal??

Everyone does things at different time. I have friend. Who just currently got into his first serious relationship. first time he kissed a female. first time he had sex. he is 28 years old. he was perfectly fine with it and now he couldnt be happier. I am not saying youll end up waiting until your 28 but just wait for the time is right and a good guy will come along. if you think about it your just spacing out the heart breaks because everyone has them through out life. it could be harder to deal with when you are younger anyways. i still take a heart break pretty hard depending how serious the relationship was.

Q: K...so my Boyfriend always talks about how he likes about other girls.Like in gym today,he kept on staring at girls when they were playing volleyball.but heres the thing....Hes joking about the whole thing! just to get on my nerves.
I know hes joking,but it still hurts. hes always ,Can you just tell me what to do? please plz!

Honestly my ex boyfriend did this it didn't matter we were who we were with. hes sit there and look at a girls butt her boobs and talk about them. im like i care why? i mean i used to ignore it.. well he ended up cheating on me 2 months before our wedding. i think your boyfriend has alot of growing up to do. in my opinion if i guy truely likes someone hed focus his attention on her. and i think you deserve better but that is my opinion good luck.

Q: I know this isnt some interesting question to answer but i really need some advice.

so heres the deal..

I had these two friends. They were my best friends in the entire world and some of the best kinds of people i know. They were sisters, so it was easy to see them both together, and not to mention our parents are best friends. When i say best friends, i also mean buisness partners.

One of the friends and myself are currently in 8th grade, her sister is in 9th. Anyways, where to begin?

I guess i could start out telling you that they were the most friendly people on the planet. they were kind, charming and polite. This past year has been bumpy. We have fought non- stop and its all because of them changing. There becoming typical materialistic, extremely fake girls. Thats the only way to put it. Last year they met a girl my age, that we used to be mutual friends with. Now they are obsessed with her. And vise versa.

i could deal with that. i have a ton of friends and another best friend i met in 3rd grade to hang out with. But everything started to get out of hand when they met.. of course a guy.

They started doing things behind there moms back that noone would ever expect them to do. This guy is a horrible drug addict. hes in 11th grade and is way to crazy for them. One of the girls claimed to be in love with him and got so upset she started cutting herself. They started sending pictures of themselves half dressed to him. Their mom found out and they were forbidden to see him.

i guess im pretty mature for my age and see things differently than them, because what happened next, changed everything.

Everything had been going fine. They had their problems but i stayed out of it. Until one day i found out they snuck out to the movies with this boy. Not only was i upset because they could get hurt, but they had acted like they hated him. they lied to me. so, when i heard about this they happened to still be inside the theater. i did the thing that made sense to me and told my mom, who then told their mom. i got them into a lot of trouble.

they found out it was me and we had it out at lunch the next day. i told them they need to grow up and theres more to life than makeup and mirrors. That was about a month ago and we still havent said a word to eachother. i dont know if you all agree with what i did, but i honestly thought i was doing the right thing and still stick to that. i want the old people i know back. not these boy obsessed monsters.

so i guess what i want to know is what do i do? i dont know if i really want to be friends with them again, or anything like that but keep in mind our parents are buisness partners and i will have to keep seeing them until i go to college.

i guess im asking for help on this whole situation. i dont know what to do anymore. im sick of the drama.

oh and i dont plan on apoligizing, frankly i didnt do anything wrong.

if you have gotten this far and havent quit on me THANK YOU! and im so sorry this is so long.

thanks again.

It is more of a phase that they are going through. I am sure their mother is thankful that you told your mother where they had gone. I think you just need to make new friends. Someone you can relate to. There in that stage where they want attention. They want to be in the popular crowd. they know their parents wont approve of what the have to do to mantain attention like that. so of course they are going to lie. i would just ignore them they will grow out of it eventually.

Q: Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date?

Well I am a 17 year old female and I have dated a 28 year old male. So I dont see any problem in it

Q: for the last two weeks my boobs have been hurting but only when i tuch them! like a little sore. Than i have also dont seem to be in the mood to have sex in the last 2weeks i havent had sex till yesterday! and i wasnt really in the mood. it was just that i felt sorry for my boyfriend. could i be prego?

it is possible wait till your supose to get your period if you miss it by over a week (unless they are irregular) but my boobs were sensitive and i was moody one time right before i started my period.

Q: Well I am a 16 year old female.
I really like this guy who is older.Alot older.(6 years older.)We met through my dad and spiritual beliefs.I spent so much time with him and his personality slowly grew on me, so I fell for the guy.We got caught having sex by my stepmom and now my dad hates him.I miss him alot and occasionally still talk to him.How do you think we should handle the situation?

if you truely love him things will work out talk to your father about how sorry you are about having sex but it wasn't just his fault and you truely have strong feelings for him. as for the age. age is just a number i am 17 about to be 18 and the guy i am talking to is 28

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.