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Hey Yall, i really need some help getting organized..like i feel like my life is completely out of order..i need to lose weight..but i cant focus on that yet because my room is dirty..and i feel so very disorganzied because i feel like i cant focus on my school work..i feel like my weight and room come first...is there any way to fix this? If you answer be on the lookout for more questions about this in your inbox..just depends on your advice..if you need more information please let me know and we can talk on AIM or something..or i can just send it to your inbox..THANKS!
you gotta take it step by step.
Losing weight takes time, you need to exercise and eat healthy, i cant give you a schedule because I'm not a professional at stuff like that. You can take a yoga or pilates class, pilates gives you more of a work out, but yoga is calming and a reliefs stress.
And since it feels like you neeed to clean your room first and that stuff, then set aside a day that you can do that, get it done and over with, because cleaning is simple. But school should come first, you can do two tings at once as well,
eat healthy, and focus on school.
hope i helped, if you have any other questions let me know.
xo
14/f. i know a boy that lives 3 hours away, but sometimes he's in town for gigs and stuff. he's the same age as i am, and he seems like a cool person. i just want to be friends with him because he is a lot like me. do y'all think that it would be weird if i walked up and started talking to him about random stuff, etc.? would you freak out if anybody did that to you? keep in mind that he has no clue who i am (i emailed him once, and he emailed me back, but i've never met him in person).
Well, some people do, but maybe after you go to one of his gigs, you can tell him he did really good, and then maybe start a conversation. If you emailed him,, and it went well, keep it up, and then meet him in person, if its safe.
Or ask him to say hi to you at a concert or something,
see how things go huh?
xo
K I need to know for my own personal reasons if, all these things i'm about to list, are sins or not. and if they are sins where in the bible can they be found.
! Smoking Pot
@ Masturbating
# Drinking alchohol (under the age of 21)
$ Giving/Recieving oral sex
% Looking or watching "explicit materials"
I'd really like to know, so please help me. Thanks sooo much.
p.s im 16f if that helps.
Well, it doesnt need to be considered a 'sin' to be wrong.. most wrong things I suppose, can be considered as sins though.
Smoking Pot, and drinking and sex before marriage, or looking or watching inapropriate things, if your religious it a sin, if your not, its just wrong. It doesnt need to say in the bible if its wrong, or if its a sin.
Because we were all born with pre knowlage of right and wrong, or atleast a hint of what we think is right and wrong.
if you have morals, then you can decide what you think about some of these things.
my ex boyfriend told some people i work with that i tried to give him head, whcih is NOT true. i started yelling at him about it thru and IM and he was just like "gosh ur always trying to find ways to talk to me, if u want to talk to me be nice don't be mean" and he signed off. I AM SO MAD bc i don't WANT to talk to him...I HATE HIM but i'm sooo mad about why he told people at work that and he supposedly "can't remember ever doing that" what can i say to him to get it thru his brain i don't want to talk to him but he needs to stop talking ABOUT me?
Aww babe, I'm sorry.
That must suck, boys are such idiots, they talk abunch of nonsense to make themselves look good.
Just dont make a big deal about it, beacuse it will just draw more attention to the situation & people will think you actually did. Just ignore him, and dont talk to him. He probably still talks about you, because deep down hes actually hurting, but hes trying to talk about you to make you seem like the bad person, which your not. Its him, and he knows it. Just act like it doesnt bother you, or let him know how you feel, but not in an angry way. Cry in front of him, or just let him know how much this hurts you. Eventually he will stop talking, once he sees that you dont care.
i like this one guy and some people say that he likes me, but i dont know. well today, he was riding his bike and he fell (it was snowing pretty hard). and my stepdad yelled something really embarassing out the window of our truck and i think he was kind of hurt (by the fall). i was like OMG. i called him to see if he was ok and he was but i was still really embarassed. the point that i am trying to get to is how do i know if he likes me? and if he does, should i make the move or should i wait for him to?
Well theres nothing more scary, than rejection.
I shy away from it, but if you think he may.. then go for it.
Its impossible to tell what a guys thinking, I used to think this guy liked me because he was so mean to me, then when I would become upset, he'd apologize and stuff. but he;d do it over and over again.. but then once we reached highschool, he's just mean to me. So I'm pretty sure he doesnt like me. Boys are jsut weird. but someboys are slow and shy too.. they are scared of rejection as well, so dont wait to long if you do.
someone else could be thinking the same thing as you, but they make the move first.
i liked this guy "bob" since the begining of school. But just recentally i met this guy "george" that I really like, so i started to think i didnt like bob anymore. but the reason i liked bob before was he was always soo sweet to me and soo cute. since i dont go to school with george but i do with bob i dont get to see george as much, but i see bob every day, so i still think i like bob a little bit but im not sure. and since im moving next year, hes been saying the nicest things to me, and actually caring i was leaving, so i think ive started to like him more since then. do i still like bob? and if i do, how can i stop because i REALLY want to get over him. thanks in advance, ill rate high for good answers.
Aww.. sounds like you like two boys.
I think you should explain to bob, that you like him,but your moving next year.. but tell him what you think of him, it'll make him feel good. Atleast he knows that you care, you know?
But if you need to get over him, you'll never get over yoru first love. Or exboyfriends, I guess. (unless they are complete idiots.)
Well theres really no way to get over a guy, it takes awhile,and it hurts sometimes. But when your settled in your new place when you move, it;ll fall into place, and you'll find someone else, and you'll be glad you didnt hang on to bob or george. you know? hope i helped.
I had something really upsetting happen to me at school today. Well I am 14 years old and in grade 8. A guy that I don't know very well has been getting chummy with one of my friends. She totally embarassed me yesterday and said that Jack wanted to go out with me. She said it right in front of him!! Well I was put on the spot and went a little red. Jack wouldnt look at me and I never answered. T really didnt know what to say and he didnt actually ask me it was my friend.
Well the next day Jack and another guy walked up to me. His friend was laughing and said "did Jack ask you out yesterday'? I again felt put on the spot and didnt know what to say. Jack never said anything again so I said "yes".
Well then Jack said "I never asked you out you BITCH! And walked away with his friend and they were both laughing.
I feel totally humiliated.
Why didnt he speak up yesterday? And wouldnt he be more angry at my friend for putting us both on the spot? Or maybe they were all in on the joke?
Guys are so incredibly mean,
let me tell you though, once you hit highschool, you'll find that you have a lot of friends,and they will always be there for you. Especially when things like this happen.
I dont know whats the big deal with being in middleschool, and how your friends cant stand up for you. I would feel probably embarassed too, but let it go. And act like you dont care, or let them know how they hurt you.
I really need help. I don't know if the guy ment anything by this but it is really getting to me. Today I was on the phone with a good friend of mine,well then another friend got on. He knows I like his cousin. And I like his cousin a LOT! Well I talked to him for a lil' while and then I go okay let me talk to ________ and he was like 'fine just ditch me' and I was like 'I am sorry. But I still love you.' (they know I don't mean this) Then he goes' I love you to and if you didn't like my cousin I would so be hitting on you right now.' okay. IT GOT ME SOOOO confused. I don't know if he meant it or if he was just joking. And he is a Sr. while I am still a Fr. and well no guys really like me as a GIRLFRIEND but just as a FRIEND. And I doubt a SR. would even consider liking me because I am this short little girlish looking girl. So please HELP me. I don't know if this is really asking for advice or just to get people's opinions on what he ment.
I'll rate HIGH!
C*O*N*F*U*S*E*D
Well that is sure an age difference,
but age is just a number right?
Well it depends on how he said that..
did he say it sarcasticly or nervously..
because if it was nervously then I think thats his way of saying he likes you.
And the fact that he brings up you liking his cousin, and that if you didnt like him he'd be all overyou..
thats another way hes trying to tell you he likes you.
so .. Maybe set him clear on how you feel?
I hope i helped.
well.....
me and "R" have been best friends for a long time....well was...but eer since high skool started shes changed so much...it seems like now she dont even care....and ive tried talking to her but they all lead to fights...shes changed so much she doesnt even like softball!?! shes found new friends...which is awesome cause i have too but its like she forgot about me.
ive talked to her and we've even had a conversation w/out an aguement. the only thig i ever got outta them was that i was always wrong. and its my fault we fight and stuff. and she wants to be my friend..the one there for me. she doesnt want us to go our own ways... she'll apolygize for stuff....just so you wont get mad..she doesnt mean it when she says 'im sorry'..i can tell..ive tried being nice to her ive tried just ignoring her. nothing is working. its like monoey guys and other rich kids is all she cares about. (ive told her) im not afraid to tell her what i think.
whos falut is the arguments? what should i do as a 'friend'? what should i expect? who has da probablems..me or her?
Its probably both of your faults
because arguments take one person to start,
but 2 people to keep going.
You shouldnt blame one thing on here,because hes probably blaming things on you too =/
Just tell her what you think,
and actually read her this advice your asking for, and then she'll see how you feel.
I'm an ex-cutter and sometimes it just really bothers me. My depression sometimes becomes too much and the therapist I'm seeing doesn't help much. I've been scratching my skin until it's irritated, but without breaking skin. I don't want it to become anything more and go through the problem again. How do I stop this and feel better? Or how to I tell the therapist I need more help?
Well if your therapist doesnt help, get a new one.
& if your depressed, arent you on medication? if your not you should get tested to be sure, because I know alot of people state that they are depressed when they HAVENT been diagnosed.
Anyways cutting is bad and wrong and horrible, you know that. Scratching yourself isnt as bad but its still not good, you need to learn self control and you have to try not to because otherwise you will not get anywhere. If your therapist doesnt help you or listen, then thats why you still have your problems.
Your not going to be problem free in the end, everyone has problems yeah. But try writing things out how you feel instead of hurting yourself because theres no point of hurting yourself.
Ohkay.. ill try and write this more descriptively..
Me and my best friend always hang out, we sit with each other everyday at lunch and i love her to death.. But lately she is getting on my nerves.. shes really obsessed with this boy and she always askes me to get him to like her.. well i would hate bugging the guy and be like " PLEASE LIKE MY BEST FRIEND" and shes acting soo much different since we're in high school now.. i love her to death. but i just dont know what to do or say.. can u please help me!?!
Hope its more descriptive =]
Thanks!
I know exactly how you feel,
my best friend is like that too kinda,
Like if were at a dance, she will ask me to go ask the guy she likes to dance with her.
I think you should tell her, that you cant force a guy to like her.. she should talk to him and if he doesnt like her for who she is, then he isnt worth her time ya know?
how do you get over someone that you care soo much about but they could care less about you? pleasee help me!!
well the fact that he doesnt care,
should make you want to not care.
I know its hard though,
it takes time - lots of time.
here's some background info~ im gonna be sixtteen, im a girl.. im a sophomore in high school and i need to make some friends!! badly!! !*** whats the best way to make friends? what's a fun thing to do when you have first become friends iwth someone .. like places to hang out?
the best way to make friends
is to just be be yourself.
Invite someone to go to a movie with you,
or to.. come to your house?
Hey!
this guy I like IMed me & was like " hey babe" & when i said i g2g he did the crying face.
Does this mean he likes Me?
ill rate you a 5 if you can help!
It could,
but thats really not alot to know about?
He could really like you, but then he could be just being silly at the moment you know?
& theres no way to know if someone likes you unles you ask.
Try giving him a note and telling him, Its easier said than done, but you'll be glad you did.
okay... last year i made freinds with this guy on my bus... we sat next to each other every day for the last two weeks of school.. he said "you know.. you're really cool after we talked all bus ride (1 hr) and we began sitting next to each other for the last two weeks of schoool. then school ended.. i was real depressed.. he seeemed real depressed whenever my stop came and i got off.. but we gave each other hugs and i felt so good.. well this year he's tried to talk to me.. but he's like really cute this year and i (the only time ever) had trouble starting a conversation with him but i did talk to him adn it kinda felt akward and tense.. he stares at me at lunch during announcements.. and i reall yreally like him.. but i feel like he's avoiding me... what is going through mine and his mind???
Please help!! I rate 5 for every constructive answer.. sorry for length 13/f
Aww yeah I love hugs too, but I take it.. the next school year he looked CUTE to you? As if he didnt before? And now alot of girls are going for him? Well you really knowhim for like 2 weeks then from talking on the bus, but people change alot through the summer and long periods of times your away from them. If you like him, slip it in a note and give it tohim. I know thats eaiser said than done, but if he stares at you then thats a good sign he likes you too, and you;ll never know if he likes you if you never ask.
My boyfriend told my best friend (my cousin) that he was getting mad at me because whenever he caleld I was outside hanging out with all my guy friends. Now i dont know if i should break up with him or not. it'd be my 3rd time. What should I do? I mean i do have other friends I like to hang out with..
I would break up, because if this would be the 3rd time and he cant trust you, then theres no use of being with him.
I understand that you have other friends, like everyone, either hes jealous or he just doesnt trust you, or both.
But you need to be honest with him, and he should trust you.
ok, i am a f and need some advice on geting a boyfriend. im new at a school, and really want this guy to notice me. he talk's to me ocasionaly, and i got turned down by him once. any advice?
p.s i rate really high!
By turned down do you mean, you asked him out and he said no?
To be honest if he turned you down then you shouldnt waste time on him, I'm sure theres many other guys out there.
& if you really want a boyfriend, dont look for one, the harder you look the harder it is to find one. love is hard to find when your looking in every drawer and crevice.
You'll fall in love unexpectedly..
Hi im 13 yrs old and my twin sister is mentally challenged.. i started my period about 6 months ago.... but now she has and shes askin a lot of questions... my mom want me to talk to her about the birds and the bees.... but wat do i say.. does any1 have any suggestions on easy ways to understand all this???
I rate high!!!!
Thanks
Tell your mom your not comfortable with this, and you would prefer her and your dad explain it,dont worry they shouldnt tell you to do this about it.
Theres this guy. [No real names, just fake names] His name is "Jorge." You see, I've known "Jorge" since I started 8th grade, and when he started 7th grade. We seem very young, but really, you can be in love at any age. So anyways, we met and all, and we always flirted, he was so sweet. He'd talk to me till 5 in the morning on the phone, and i was sick at home one day so he like purposely made himself throw up IN SCHOOL so he could be sent home just to be sick with me. He'd always give me compliments every time i put myself down.. like "Gosh, i wish i was prettier." and he'd say "What are you talking about?! Your beautiful." And he really did love me, he admitted it. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. he asked me out 2 times, and I said No. Why? Because was an idiot that was scared of commitment at the time. Anyways, he gave me my first kiss, which was really special. ill never forget it. But then, someone said something that made us stop talking. So, our friendship faded. From then on, we'd pass each other in the hall not saying a word or even giving a glance to each other. At that point, i finally realized how special he actually was to me and how much i really needed him. So, I was in a stage of heartbreak, you know? And I was too shy to tell him how I felt, because at that point, he changed. He was depressed alot and he like suddenly became a man whore, with a bunch of girls wayyy more popular than me. Pfft, im not even "Popular" Gayy. So, why would he want to waste his time on me?.. I figured. I was so sad, I couldn't stand it. So for months and months on end, I went into EMO mode pretty much. I was so sad, every time I saw him in the hall, I'd try not to look at him.. but of course, everytime he'd walk past, I'd look back at him.. faintly remembering our memories, like blurry images of us together flashing through my head. It was terrible LOL. I had never felt that way about someone before. I loved him so much. I started going out with people, trying to make him jealous. I'd always see him looking at me or staring at me out of the corner of my eye at times. To try and make a long story short, i wrote "Jorge" a letter confessing that i had feelings for him, but he being a man whore had a girlfriend. But then "Jorge" and I re-united in an ironic way [by fate] after like 9 months of not talking and started going out for a little bit, broke up [i was heartbroken again] then in the summer we started talking again, he admitted he never stopped loving me but i said something that made him mad and he got all sensative about it and stopped talking to me for weeks. And now, we've started talking again.. but we go to different schools. I'm in highschool now, he's still in junior high but he's in 8th grade. We see each other every wednsday night at church. I still have feelings for him. I wouldn't change anything about him, no the way he looks, the way he acts, or anything.. because he's perfect. But now, I've got a boyfriend. his name is "Roger" [fake names again] And he loves me so much, and Im starting to think i love him back. But its funny, because "Roger" is friends with "Jorge." And the thing is... Since their friends, i've kind of been seeing "jorge" more. I'm trying to concentrate on "Roger", but "Jorge" is always on my mind too.
I think your just having a hard time..
because your first "lover" is always hard to get over, and i think you should get over him.
to behonest..
I know what you mean.. you dont want to move on because something in you feels maybe he'll change his mind.
Theres this guy. [No real names, just fake names] His name is "Jorge."
shut up