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**** I've been gone quite a long time. However I'm still breathing though it's touch and go. Don't expect me to answer or check in much. ****

Welcome to the junkdrawer that is my brain! I know something about many things, and I if I don't know it, I admit that I don't know. That I am constantly finding things I know nothing about and correcting that ignorance keeps me busy and happy. More junk for the drawer.

I love and have experience with many types of animals, including the human. I don't offend easy and I am generally cynical and a smart-butt. I love to drive, read, work on the computer and I spend WAY too much time watching Anime and bidding on ebay.

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This guy rlly liked me and we hung out alot and held hands at a dance i had... then he asked me out but i didnt rlly noe him soo i said no i lik u but i wanna get to noe u more!! so after the dance me and a few friends went to his house and we cuddled on the couch and we kissed!! Then i had to leave..... so when i left he asked my so called friend to sit with him and she did and they held hands and kissed, she did stuff to him too!! What am i suppose to do i still like him?? and idn why?? he keeps saying sorry too?? help please

He's a guy. Your friend is easy. These two facts are obvious. You hurt his ego and she literally stroked it. I'd say go out with him and give him a chance. The whole POINT of going on a date is to get to know someone, so your reason for turning him down made you seem uninterested and a liar. Then you kissed him. How many mixed signals is a guy suppose to deal with in one night without doing something a little stupid? I think he did what any living person much less a male would do after they'd been played with like that. He didn't do anything wrong in my opinion. Also that he is still interested in you is a miricle. I'd have dumped your confusing ass and looked for someone else. Go for him.

my friend was talking to my boyfriend on the phone the other dya and she asked him if he would ever go out with my other friend and he said yes. i was like ok no big deal. then he was talkin to me on aim today and he asked if my friend (the one he was asked about) was going out with anyone. i was like yeah i think so...then he said because his friend liked her. he said his friends name was billy bob smith (changed the name) then i looked him up in the year book and in the school phone directory...as far as i know there is no billy bob smith. what should i think about this?

He is still interested in you, but this relationship is almost over in my opinion. He has found an interest in this other girl. This is not by itself such a big deal, and not what I base my opinion on. What disturbs me is his willingness to ask you questions about her and lie to you. That is enough for me to start rethinking my feelings about this guy. I do believe in trust and having faith in your man, but there is no reason for you to be stupid. Give him the benifit of the doubt since there is no actual proof against him

Yestersday I was walking into a classroom and this boy walks up and pops my bra strap then walks away real fast. What the heck?? He's a loser so I would never like him. Then later on this girl asked him "whos hotter me or Jordan (this other girl" Then he goes "Lets just say that (me) is the hottest" Whats going on???

He's a boy. His friends probably found out he thought you looked good and maybe even likes you. I would bet they dared him to pop your bra. That is an OLD OLD OLD worn out kind of dare, but this set up sounds just like that's what it is. I just hope he doesn't deside having you mad at him is better than having you ignore him. If he does, expect stuff like this often. Good Luck!

This may sound like a stupid question but... What does the expression "having something stuck in your craw" mean? And what are other ways of wording it?

"Spit it out." Or, just tell me what's bugging you already.

Where do all you advicenators get all your answers?

Mostly from my personal experience, and observation of friends and aquaintences. I also have an excellent college education and collect trivia like a magnet. Plus common sense. Yes, common sense is a very important factor to good advise.

My boyfriend and I had sex a few weeks ago and I was due to get my period today. I still haven't gotten it. We didn't use a condom, but we didn't finish either. He was only in me for a few seconds, not even a minute. Is there any chance that I could be pregnant? I'm showing all my regular signs of PMS, but still no period.

Yes, it is very possible that you are pregnant. It isn't just semen that contains sperm. The fluid called pre-ejaculate also contains sperm. If he was hard enough to enter you, you have been exposed to pre-ejaculate sperm. It's that simple. It doesn't matter how long or if you finished. Get an over the counter test and make sure.

Yes, well i'm rather young and I get around a lot and I dont ever use a condom. (the boy) because I dont even have my period yet but does this mean that I can still get std's?? If yes, do they make a condom made of paper or something cuz im allergic to the plasticy rubber stuff.
thanks,
I rate fairly high!!
f/15

Of course you can get STDs while not on your period. It is hard for me to fathom how people can think they are mature enough "to get around alot" and don't even know how STDs are transmitted. The walls of your vagina give off a discharge that helps clean your system and keep the ph balance right to prevent infection. Viruses and other deadly nasties can reach your blood stream through this way. Also, your cervix is not a barrier to your womb which is filled with blood and pores and all kinds of places for you to contract illness. A boy's cum contains trace amounts of blood along with the semen. Besides the semen containing illness other illnesses are passed through this blood. You are most likely giving STDs to each of your partners and collecting new ones everyday. I would be surprised if your name doesn't show up on the desk of a health officer investigating a case of the clap. Illnesses like this are reported and the health department is required to contact current and past partners to help prevent the spread. That you are allergic to latex is unfortunate. Yes they do make sheepskin condoms. They are expensive and do not protect well against STDs they are mostly to protect against pregnancy. Only a latex condom will give you a good chance at protection. You need to be tested immediatly. Tell your partners they should be tested too.

i have this project to do and it says that i have to create a timeline of WWII also the holocaust but it also says be creative. i have all the information but i need a creatine way of making a time line for that period of time

I took a special course on this subject in college. I'm thinking that you could use the the highly symbolic train tracks that touched lives through out Germany of those times. A Railway of Time as your time line instead of just dry dates and phrases. Battles and camps, gettos, and invations. Maybe a map of the Third Reich with the Railway of dates. In places where other countries like England and America become involved You can depict outside German influance with a war plane from those countries. I'm getting excited by the possiblities, and it's not even my assignment. I have a collection of biographies and historical works about WWII. It is a subject that horrifies and facinates me. Leave me a question in my inbox if you needs some info, or more ideas. I don't know everything about the subject, but I do know a lot.

I am 15/f and I haven't had a crush in 2 years! Lately, I've been thinking, and I don't know if I am bi or straight! I want to be straight ..because everyone else is..and because it seems like the right way to live..but then my mind tells me that I could be bi..I am sooo CONFUSED! I really don't know what to do because I can't tell anyone! I mostly have girl-friends but I've never been attracted to any of them..sometime's I look at their butts and boobs..(but isn't that a normal thing that girls usually notice about eachother??) I am attracted to guys..sometimes when I saw a hot guy, I stare and tell my friends "Wow he's hot!" I'd like to think I'm straight but my mind keeps telling me I'm bi! I'm so confused!

If I'm reading this right, you think you may be bi because you haven't had a crush in 2 years? That my dear, is bullshit. You are attracted to men. You have looked at your friends' butts and boobs, and you know they have looked at yours. At your age girls do that just to compare growth. This is automatic and you have no control over it. Do you want to grab one of your friends' boobs or butts and put your fingers in unmentionable places and have them do the same to you? If not, you are not bi. This just means you are growing up and becoming more picky in you taste of men. Little girls fall half in love with every cute face or lopsided smile. A young woman knows there is more to a boy than this. You just haven't found anyone worthy or you yet. Relax, it will happen when it happens.

i like this guy at my school, and everybody's telling me that he likes me too. we went out before but it only lasted a few days, because i just didn't feel comfortable around him. but now i like him again, and he keeps telling everyone he might ask me out again. the problem is, when i go out with him i don't like him but when i don't go out with him i like him. i keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. if he asks me out, what should i say? because i'm afraid if i go out with him again, i might keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. im really confused. i don't know if i really like him or not. please help!!!
signed, confused

OK, here is the thing. You need to ask yourself some serious questions to get things straight.
How do you define "LIKE"? After answering this question go on to the next, and view it from your definition. Do your answers fit? If not why?

(No, this will not be fun. Yes, it will actually help.)

Are you sexually attracted to him?
Do you actually spend time with this guy during the day?
Does he make you laugh?
Do you think he is a good person? In what ways yes or no.
Does he treat you differently on a date than he does everyday? If yes, in what way?
Are you afraid of being alone with him?
Are you afraid of him being alone with you?
(Yes, there is a difference in the questions. Think hard.)

There are endless more, but these should start you brain in a pattern to help you figure out what you want.

Luck and Love!

ok well i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and i really love him. he has only had sex with one girl. but many times. they broke up long be fore we got together. so just say i lost my virginity to him do you think he would have any kind of std from having sex with just that ONE other girl.?? like do u think theres a chance of him having an STD, from that one girl and then having sex with me and then all of a sudden i get it??? thanks i rate HIGHHH

ok first.

-this girl was a virgin and lost her virginity to him
-my boyfriend was a virgin and lost his virginity to her.
-so basically they lost there virginity to each other
-they used protection.
-i was a virgin and lost my virginity to him
-we used protection.

(ok this may sound gross but if your going to talk shit then dont bother writing)
-i made him take it out before he cummed if that helps anything.

The fact is that sexually transmitted illnesses can be inherited. You are LESS likely to have gotten anything from him than some other guy, but the possibility is there. Now, before you freak out, I think you're fine. You know his sex history and you used protection. 2 very important ways to protect yourself. It is still a good idea to go to a gynocologist for a check up. That's important for any sexually active woman.

13/f
I just got my school year book and I want a certain guy to sign it only I'm too shy to ask. If someone told me if I should or should not and give me confidence then I would ask him directly. So, should I or should I not ask him to sign my year book directly and why? Also, if you said no is there any other way I can get him to sign my year book?

Ask him direct. If he's worth your adoration from afar, he'll be nice enough to feel sorry for you and do it instead of embarrass you. Failing that:

The really cool things about years books, is that until you put your name on them, no one knows whose they are. Pass it to a friend, who can pass it to another and another, until it reachs a group with the guy you like in it. Keep an eye on the book so you don't loose it. I have well wishes and keep in touchs from girls who would have rather spit on me than sign my book had I asked. (Accident. Strange things can happen when you loose track of your year book during a gym class. Too bad it was an only girls class though.) I don't see why this wouldn't work though. Luck!!

a couple of weeks ago my friend i will call her "Sarah" just got dumped. And her ex dumped her because of another girl. he would not even tell her that though he made his friends tell her. but it seems like he still likes her but when i ask him he just says "yeah right no way you wish" and he is always looking at her in a good way. and he is always talking to her and stuff. is he cheeting on both girls? What should i do? thanks in advance. I rate 5s

He's playing the field, poorly. He would screw over both girls in a heartbeat and be looking for another on the side. He would have his friends making excuses for him, because he is a chicken shit loser. I bet he's cute too. If he weren't your friend nor you would even care. Run Far. Run Fast. This guy is a total CREEP!!! IS this clear enough?

i just had surgery and its going to leave a scar... the surgery was on my face.. but what sort of medication/creams should i use to make the scar less visbale?? thank you so much!!

As the wound heals put a very thin coating of Vasiline on it. Keep the area protected and soft with this, then when the area heals it will have healthier skin and the scaring will not be as bad. Follow up with mederma to help lessen anything left. I had a big birthmark removed and this is what my dermo. suggested. It worked great. Remember, a very light coating of Vasiline. Too much makes the scab too moist and it will peal.

I am a 34 C cup size. Im really skinny though. I actually wear one of the smallest pant size like size 1. I dont know what do do about a bathing suit. Their all to small.

Try finding a suit that you can buy the tops and bottom separate. I've seen some comercials for them lately, but can't remember the store. Maybe Old Navy. Luck!

O.K. Last year, my dad bought me cable T.V in my room. I had like... five porn channels. One night, a movie was on and it was rated, "ADULT" and I didn't bother changing it. I went over to my best friend's house and we played around in bed a little, we called it practice for the real thing. We just touched each other. (we are both girls) but we called it "Practice" when in front of her parents. We said stuff like, "let's go practice." and then, she'd wink at me. The thing is, we're not lesbians. We just practice before we get to guys. I'm not a lesbian... or am I? I'm not bi because that was last year and I don't do it anymore. What's wrong with me???
Signed,
Me

Nothing is wrong with you. Sexual play is normal in curious girls. Just because you touched another girl and probably liked it.. Let's put it this way, the body has nerve endings, not emotions. If you thought it felt good, that is normal. This is why masterbation works. Most people aren't actually attracted to themselves sexually, but a hand job still feels good. Let yourself release the guilt and confusion. Move on with your life and allow yourself to know, I was a kid. I was curious. It felt nice and wicked and has me wanting a boyfriend, but that was not something I'm proud to have done. I am older now and know that I made choices that were not mature. Big deal, I'm over it. Big hug and don't fret over this!

I'm doing a DIY denim mini from a pair of jeans that i detest, but I cut it a little too short. Is there a decoration or something that I can add to the bottom that will make it longer, but won't take away from the "denim mini" idea?

Leather. A good inch or two of leather at the hem and one or two accents on the pockets will tie everything together nicely.

zapreth you gave an excellent professional advice last time to me. thank you for your help.
but here's another one.
well as i have been browsing thru this site, i find children of 15 yrs or 17 yrs having sex and then repenting, confused, guilty etc ! are all these true, do children in your place really involve in all such activity in such a young age?
well, is the society same as they potray in american videos and movies? well how far and well do you people rate virginity? approximately how many women in your part still are virgin and firmly believe in it and in family values, please do enumerate on this topic, my friend i would be really grateful to you. thank you.

OK, the difference between Southerners and the rest of the USA.
First let me define the region of the USA agreed upon to be THE SOUTH. When America was being explored two men named Mr. Mason and Mr. Dixon (I have NO idea what their first names are. Most eveyone knows who these men were in the South and they are just called Mason Dixon. No and, no Mr. A proud Southerner is expected to know two men are being talked about.) explored the country. Where they stoped, they placed a stone and left a line of these stones from East to whereever they quit and turned to go home. Excuse me for being vauge on the details. I haven't studied Alabama history since the 9th grade. Anyway, this line of stone is called the Mason-Dixon Line and divides the Northern half of the country from the Southern. (It doesn't actually stretch across the country. It was completed and a part of our history long before the drives to California.) Dixie is a reference to the Mason-Dixon Line. The song "Away Down South in Dixie" is talking about the land below the Mason-Dixon Line. So, now you have an idea about WHERE in the USA Southerners come from.

Having been settled first and having much harsher winters, the North became leaders of industry and factories, and importing. Large cities grew from this. The South specialised in Agriculture. With our mild winters, good rainfall and one of the largest, richest rivers in the world, The Mississippi, supplying fertile soil, this made perfect sense. The problem was labour to work this land. In the years before machine farm equipment, everything was done by hand. However most of the richest land was owned by only a few people. To them it made no economical sense to pay wages, when they could pay for a lifetime of work at one time by purchasing a slave.

In the North slaves and indentured servants (people who paid for their passage to America by bonding themselves as slaves to a master for a certain number of years. The Master would pay the passage and work the immigrant like one of his slaves with the same punishments for attempted escape to them as to the mostly African slave populace.) had little practical use. The North realized the injustice of slavery and put laws in motion to free all slaves. Needless to say this would ruin the major land holders in the South. To lose their slaves meant they had no means of cheap labour to gather crops and their profits would drop to nothing. Then again, what was to be done with the freed people?

Most of the masters had treated their slaves as though they truely were nothing but anilmals. It offended them that non-human slaves should be accorded the respect of a white man. For so long there had been this caste of respect in the South. Wealthy White land holders with vast land and many slaves. Lesser White land holders. Wealthy white men of whatever profession. Small land owners (these people usually had few if any slaves.) And so on down the list till you reach the prostitutes and homeless. Slaves and Native American Indians are not on this list. They were not thought of as people, but animals.

So the Civil War began. Understand that slavery was not the ONLY reason for the war, only the economic fator that had land holder supporting the Confederate Army. What had the common Southerners ready to fight had nothing to do with the slavery of Africans. Most of these soldiers were poor and barely made enough to feed their families. Owning slaves meant next to nothing to them. They felt that the people of the North by passing these laws were attempting to take their rights and force them to obey the Northerns' laws as though the South was a child that had no say in its own future. In other words, the common Southern man saw the North betraying them and treating them as England had before the Revolutionary War. They had a right to make their own choices about the slaves and any thing else they deemed needed taking care of. The North didn't need to stick a hand in their business and try to control them.

So, the Southern States rebeled against the North. Civil War. Not that everyone thought this was such a good idea. I come from Alabama, while the rest of the state joined the Confederacy, one county refused. But they also refused to support the Union. They ceded from both and became the Free State of Winston.

I wish I had more time to fill you in on the rest of this, but this much history should give you the begining of a clue to why we are different. In Great Brittan, Enland is to Scotland as The North is to The South. (The history of blood and hatred isn't nearly as long or heart rending, but the feeling is similar as I can come to the actual thing.) There is still distrust and a sense of messing where they don't belong when a Northener comes South. Although we are always hospitable. Southern Hospitality is not just a phrase. We say thank you, and please, and excuse me, and sir, and miss. We open doors for strangers and say hello. We bring gifts of food as comfort to the grieving and would feel guilty not to offer a cool drink to the Devil if he came knocking.

**Warning: I tend to pound a subject to death. Hope that's what you wanted.**

This is a very complicated subject, but I'll give you my best insight. Let us start with the easiest question first. One thing I can tell you with absolute surety. Life is NOTHING like the movies and videos you see that are so popular. You see, the point of good fiction is to be believable. Just enough real life is thrown into to the story line for people to identify with the characters and the situations they find themselves in. (I have a college degree in creative writing and film. Fiction, I understand very well.) What I am saying is that if a person can really believe that what they are watching is NORMAL, they are completely clueless. I know my life wouldn't make a tv series or movie worth watching, and I have not lived a dull,happy go lucky, no drama here existance. Have you ever seen the movie Hysterical Blindness with Uma Thurmon? That slow, depressing couldn't make it through the whole thing bore is the closest movie I've seen on the screen to real life. Based on a True Story movies? Just that, based. They take something called "Artistic License." This is not "The names have been changed to protect the innocent." This is let's add some crap that never happened, guess about a few things here, change how this happened COMPLETELY, throw in a few more characters to add more complexity to the plot, so people will actually find this story interesting "Artistic License." What you have left is a nearly complete fiction built around real people and events, sort of like a Historical Romance in my opinion.

Next, I don't know where you are from. I live in America and around the time I was born and the decade before (1972) there was a movement called the Sexual Revolution. Since I wasn't there, I'll tell you what I've learned about it from historic accounts of the 60's and 70's. The English speaking world once had very strict rules about sex and proper sexual conduct. Marriagable girls were virgins. Boys seemed to be expected to know a thing or two about it before marriage. They learned by taking advantage of Bad Girls and whores. Bad Girls are girls who, for whatever reason, have had sex before marriage. They were thought damaged for marriage, but good enough to take on a date to get some easy action in the back seat of a car or in some cases straight forward rape, just because everyone KNOWS she was only saying no to be hard to get. Whores, prostitutes have never been well respected because they want money in exchange for sex. Violence and crimes of all kinds have been taken out on these women for centuries, because no one in PROPER society cared to think about them. One less was nothing worry about. Sometime in the 60's and the drive to get greater and more equal rights for women and the push for peace in the Vietnam, the duality of sexual conduct between the sexes seemed to collide. (Also lots of drugs.) I am not an expert in all this, but it seems to make sense that the Era of Free Love would include everyone, male and female. Some of the the beliefs and excesses from this era was taught to the children born during this time.

For me, my mother and father never joined in the Hippie Love Fests. They were too busy caring for their children and trying to keep a roof over our heads. What they got from that time was a firm belief in self reliance and the desire to teach their children openmindedness and equality. I'm from Alabama, center of the Bible Belt ( a region of southern states know for strict religion) and site to some of the most historic battles and marches for Black Civil Rights in the country. So, you can see that regional factors play a big part in the morals and beliefs practiced across this country.

Another product of this era is the reduced restrictions on divorce laws. It became simple to marry and divorce and it even seemed fashionable to collect husbands and wives. Marriage became nearly as easy a state to be rid of as the color of your kitchen walls. It seemed no one was satisfied with what they had and families split-up with regularity never known before. As I was growing up phrases like, single parent homes and latch-key kids were becoming news. I remember seeing a news special report on latch-key kids. These kids usually came from a single parent home, a mother, who was forced to work instead of being able to pick her child up from school. Further these poor women could not afford a sitter so these kids were left to their own guidance sometimes until very late hours.

Those single parents kids and latch-key kids are the mothers and fathers of the age group you are asking about. My age group is responcible for the 12-17 years olds sniffing, cutting, and boozing, and having sex, and feeling guilt a child should never have to feel. Most of these parents have no IDEA how to build a sound moral structure into their children, because they have never even seen one. The majority of the kids on this site, I would bet have a jumbled view of morals and life lessons built from what their parents have been able to supply them, the occational religious teaching that has seeped in through the years, and what they learn from tv and their peers.

There are strong families in this country that teach thier children what they need to know. Loving single or both parent families who understand that a child needs stability to become firm in their own beliefs and to be able make responcible choices with thier lives dispite the pressure to try this and experience that.

Yes, kids this age in my area are not only having sex, but children. Grandmothers are being forced to raise their children's children because there is no one else that can. Young girls and boys barely old enough to hit puberty are contracting deadly sexual diseases. There are plenty of young ones in this age group that are virgins, but virginity seems to be something to be ashamed of. Of course a girl who has sex is still a Bad Girl, only now she's just called a slut. But unlike before, now the good girls aren't the ones who get married first. Now the good girls somehow real pressured into thinking that sex before marriage is expected or they aren't normal. They seem to think that just because they have been going out with a guy for awhile that she should "put out." The difference between a marriage and a boyfriend of a few weeks or months doesn't seem to exist. Like is suddenly a good enough reason to let a guy stick his fingers up you.

How well virginity is rated in this country is wildly varied. We are a country nearly the size of a continant. Views are based on religious views, peer pressure, economics (there are certain segments of women who become pregnant just to live off the governement. They don't work, just breed. For this they are supplied vouchers for food, special housing, and many other things in support of the children. This is not a rich way to live, but it is a means of survival and many of these woman know no other way.) Poor areas of our country can be found in every city. In these places Sex is a means of getting what you need, and children are not protected from the harsh realities of the adult lives.

How well family is valued seems to be a personal thing more than regional, or even based on views of virginity. One of the biggest sluts I've ever known, was that way BECAUSE she wanted a family more than she valued her self respect. All she ever wanted in life was a man and children to take care of. She would be willing to treat her husband like a king, never cheat on him and give him as many children as her body could create. Well she finally married an ex-convit with an ex wife and child. She treated him like a king, never cheated on him, gave birth to two boys. He cheated on her with his ex wife and got thrown back in jail for something I don't remember. They are now divorced, and she has two kids and does everything in her power to provide a good home for them. She doesn't sleep around at all and is going to school to get a better education so she can care for them better.
Myself, I graduated college, remained a virigin for the man I would marry, married him and had divorced him with no children to show for it within 4 years. I was his second wife. He is currently on his third. I have no idea where the lesson in that is, but it's somewhere in there.

Well, I know I wandered off the point somewhere, but I hope I've answered or given you some idea about the subject you asked me about. Next time just choose one small point at a time, and maybe I'll do better. Luck and Love!

For the past 3 years I have been walking home its al been safe and no one ever got hurt, untill today....
My sister (Shes 12 and in 5th grade) was walking hom with her boyfriend (same age as kate) like any other day and the light was green but no cars were comming so as kate waited for the light to turn red her boyfrined darted acoross the road for no cars were comming, it that short of time someone turned out of a parking lot a couple yards away and turned and hit the little boy, My little sister saw the accident and heard the band of the TRUCK hit the little boy flinging him and then stoped a couple feet away from where his body layed. He was life flighted to a hospital because he was bleeding and complaning about his back hurting. My sister has calmed down after being REALLLY upset and crying none stop for an hour shes not home right now shes with my dad and i want to know. Is he going to be okay? Hes little ., Whats the chance of his surviving? IT SCARES ME SOO MUCH BECAUSE IF SHE WOULD OF FOLLOWED HIM SHE WOULD BE IN MY SHOES,
also my best friend and sister always say that i am a "mother hen" and make fun of me because if a car isnt slowing down fast enough evne during a red light or if i even think a car is going to be too close i will hold them bakc with my arms ... and then today.. I am sick to my stomich!

PLEASE ANWER!!!
THANKS SOO MUCH

There is no way of knowing until it is reported on the news. Things like this happen often. Someone doesn't pay attention and an innocent pays the price. I hope the boy survives, but no one can tell you unless they work his cse at the hospital or at the police department. Crossing the street is NEVER safe. All you can do is be as careful as you already are. Nothing is completely safe. Most anything can happen to anyone. All you can do is be as careful as possible, but allow yourself to live your life. It is difficult, I didn't get my drivers liscense until I was 17. I could handle the danger to myself, but I just could deal with the possibility of harming someone else. Big hug!

what can happen if you consume more then 4 advil at a time? i jusy had 5 advil at a time, can i puke or what, i need an answer asap

Just don't do it again. It is terrible for you liver and stomach and kidneys. However, I think you'll survive just this once.

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