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A friend of mine needs a roommate, and I really want to move in with her because she's got a cool place and I'm sick of living on my own. The problem is that she's got a cat and I'm allergic to cats. The duplex has all hardwood floors and I'd have my own cat-free room, but I'm really nervous about moving in because cats really make me sick. Should I risk it?

You shouldn't hun, because you don't want to be sick like all the time! You can consult your docter and see if he can subscribe you to a more powerful allergy medicine... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Me and my boyfriend are trying to get me pregnant but it seems to be not working. I just got out of collage and im living in an apartment with him and we have sex every other day .. it isnt working.. is there something I shouldnt be doing?

Thank you.
Victoria

You can maybe do that think in the hospital where they take his sperm and your egg and combine them in the lab at the hospital... Sorry, i don't remember what that is called lol... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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My Best Friend ditched me the other day, and then called me last night saying: "Hey girl! What's up?!?!" I'm still really mad about it, and she does it all the time. What should I do?

Talk to her about it! If she thinks that you would like forget about it like later or forgive for no reason... then ditch her! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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I have liked this guy (we will call him george) for awhile. I never told anyoen so he ended up going out with one of my friends (we will call her katie). So they went out for awhile and for about the last week george has been flirting with me a lot since we were in a play together and we had a lot of rehearsals. Well, katie started to notice that he was flirting with me and then he wouldnt with her. So a few days ago George broke up with katie, katie seemed all excited about it. Then the next day she came up to me and told me i should go out with him. Do you think she is jealous? Or if she really wanted to let go and be set free? i dont want to go out with the guy if its really going to hurt her :-/

~Signed, Friend or Foe?

Hmmm... hard to tell... Ask Katie if it's alright for you to go out with him... if she says yes then ask George out! But if she says no... then i would try not to get so atached with George... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Do you know which college in the U.S. is the cheapest?

Any community college... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Okay!Well a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend who I am madly in love with. He is in love with me too but it is a long distance relationship, so I thought that he and I being friends would be the best thing for now. Yeah I couldnt see him whenever I wanted but just being able to talk to him made me happy. Our relationship was made up of trust and love. He is so in love with me. I miss him so much. He is now dating a gurl who he loves as a friend not a gf. we havent talked since we broke up bc it is so hard too. I had my friend call him and I grabbed the phone when he picked it up and hung up. Then she called back and talking to him. He wanted to talk to me but i couldnt bc it was too hard. I kno that no matter what he wants to be with me in the future but right now it is to hard. I also kno that no matter what he will never stop loving me. But what I am getting at is that I dont kno what to do without him .I feel so lost and empty. Like he always used to tell me that he loved me before I went to sleep and it was so conforting. I miss that so much. What should I do? he and I have been through so much in the past and its stuff that is unforgettable. Do you think that he and I will be together in the future. BC he said he wants to me and I DO MORE THEN ANYTHING.Its like if u are in love with someone and it is meant to be then it will happpen right? i hope so!

If yall are TRUELY in love with eachother, then yall will get back togethor! But for the meantime hun, you gotta get out of the house and have fun with all your girlfriends! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Everone says that 'puppy love' is just when younger people say they're in love but 'real' love is proper love. So is it possible for a 13 year old to be in real love?

I thinnk it's deffinetely possible for us teenagers to be in love! Adults just have no idea, they only think we can't because we are younger... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Hi Guys, Last week I broke up with my girl friend. We enjoyed sex a lot and I have become habitual to sex. Now the first need for me is to find out a girl who are more interested in romance/sex. How can I do it. Please suggest.

Girls hate being used just so you know... I would try to go on a sex hiatus (spell?) But you can always find one maybe in a club somewhere... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok.. so this boy ive been really good friends with since 5th grade asked me out at this place we have in our town the teen center to hang out..i told him i'd think about it..but im afraid if i say no he wont be my friend anymore but i dont wanna say yes cuz hes not that cute.. i dont want ppl to make fun of me cuz he is ugly but hes reealy sweet& nice.. what should i do?

Wow, you are really shallow! And yall are friends?? If you like him then go out with him, but you may lose his friendship if you say no or he will ignore you a while or a long time... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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alright well theres this boy named ted..I've been going out with him sence august 6th and like in october he broke up with me and I brok eup with him altogether around 3 or 4 times and all those times we'ver gotten back together..but wednesday he broke up with me because he liked two other people..alina and tara..well alina has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is teds best friend..so he wouldn't get her.. tara is one of my best friends so she wont go out with him because she thinks hes a horrible boyfriend from what he did to me..and becasue she doesn't like him like that and also because hes the kind of boy that likes to be really close with there girlfriends and like make-out and stuff like that and she doesn't like that..so neither alina or tara like him..my friend britney was talking to him today and last night we had a schol dance and he was like staring at me and stuff..and she asked him if he still liked me and he said i dunno and stuff like that and then he asked me to call this girl taylor for him and I think it was so he could ask her out but I'm not sure..it might be that or it might be because she brok eup with her boyfriend yesterday and ted adn her ex are good friends so it might be for him..but I'm just not ready to let go..I'm scared that would be our last time going out..I like him soo much..like I would do anything for him..I know I sound pathitic but its true..I'm scared that if I dont get him back I might do something to myself because he was like my life..so my question is how to get him back..I dont wanna hurt myself because I've done it before but not for that reason...and I really need him back but I dunno how to .. please help..I'll rate high

Hun, you have to get over him! You don't NEED him anymore... trust me! I know he may have seemed to be your WHOLE life, but he sounds really immature for dumping you like that... And don't hurt yourself! That's just gets you into deeper trouble... Go out with some of you girl friends and jsut have a good time! You will be over him in no time! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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my friend name is Brittany she has a b.o. problem and ervery1 hates it. i dont kno wat to say ta her wit out hurtn' her feelns' but can somebody pleaze help me out thanks.

i rate very high.

signed confused friend.

Just tell her... be nice about it too... She will thank you later! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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I have taken an overdoes bcoz of my exs engagement. I hated being in hospital. And i promised my mum i'd never do it again but resently ive felt low enough too. i dont know how to stop myself. my life is spining outa control what am i gona do?

First of all, you gotta get over your ex! He made a decision and you have to get over it... he will think about you sometime soon and will regret leaving you! Then second, go see a therapist and maybe she kind subscribe you some anti-depressants or something and can just talk to you... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok so lately all ive felt like doing is crying whenever someone says something to me i wanna cry even if its nice and im always yelling at my mom n my sister just so they leave me alone and i get annoyed by the easiest things.and my sister is MR(mentally retarded) n she gets on my nerves sooo bad cuz she doesnt know when to shutup! i hate being mean to her! n like yesterday we were out and these 3 guys were making fun of her and i just went off on them i dunno what happened it just came outta the middle of nowhere. i get pissed off so easily..but i never used to be like that.ive been sleeping alot n being really tired.Whats wrong wit me? i rate high! thanx!

Your a teenager and that's where all this stuff is coming from... Don't worry about it... Just try to calm down before you do something that you regret and just hang out with your friends a lot and it should all just blow over... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Am really close to my older cosin and all ways have been. She started seeing this guy james ive known a while. They both love each oyher very much but the problem is she NEVER spens time with me any more. I was the 1 that got them together and now my jobs done am left behind. I know it will end in tears and she'll come runing bak but am stuk for what to do just now.

Talk to her about it because she will never know that there was something wrong and just call her and make plans for something that yall used to do... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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my ex bfs brother really likes me and wants me to go out with him (lets call him mike) and so does my friends ex bf and hes rlly nice. but i really miss mikes brother and i couldnt stand 2 c him knowing that i miss his brother (lets call his brother bob) and so i miss bob and like mike but hes three and a half yrs older than i am too... and this other guy whos in my english class really likes me 2 (josh) and i dont want to upset any guys or get myself hurt again bc bob really hurt me, its been about 3 months since i went out with anyone bc i miss bob but im way too good 4 him but still cant resist liking him... what should i do??

Forget Bob! I personally think you shold go out with Josh because Mike is too old for you, but if you like Mike more, then go for him! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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My friend Lisa shes soo annoying, shes my best friend and i love her. But she's a blonde and she abuses that fact.. she imed me today and this is wut happened::

her: whats the number to a hospital
me: why
her: you call 1-800-911 right
me: no
her: i need the number to 911

she pretends to be a dumbass and shes not dumb at all. i can't even have a conversation with her without her asking me what a word means, and she only says it to make herself look blonde, and she sounds so retarded it pisses me off. how can i get her to stop?

Tell her upfront that she is just being immature and she is not dumb at all and is embarrasing "her kind." I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me?

Well first of all, boys are immature in middle school and all the cheerleaders just shake their ass in pep rallys... You can try out for the cheerleading team if you want! The guys will come around though in high school... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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I pull out pieces of my hair when i get stressed out angry or bored...i dont know why i do this i guess because i need some way to show my feelings...and i couldn't ever cut myself... i dont know what to do or why i do this... can someone help me!?

Punch something or sqeeze a stress ball instead of pulling out you hair... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok so not to confuse, let's give names:
my friend: sara
her best friend: liz
liz's boyfriend: bob

bob is trying cheat on liz with sara. he's asked sara to have sex with him, take pictures of herself and give them to him, etc. sara refuses and has put up with this for a while, and then finally told liz. liz believed her at first and then i don't know what happened. sara tried calling liz and liz's mom answered saying that liz wasn't available. sara asked when she would be and she said, for you, never. sara is devastated and can't understand why liz would do this to her. (liz and bob are still together, btw). what can i say to comfort sara? is there any way i can help the situation?

Tell Liz she did that right think by saying no to Bob and by telling Liz what he has been doing... Then tell Liz that she did all that she can do and now it's Liz's turn to do what she wants to do... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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me and my dad...dont get along...at all..he takes the simplest things i say..so serious..and all wrong...for instance..the other day we were trying to decide wut to do for lunch...we all decided on something but then he jus had to change his mind. when they asked me i said 'i dont care can we jus go some place cuz im really hungry' his response 'well i dont like your attitude!!' my mom tries to calm him down but his final desicion is 'well i just wont eat then!!' he gets so mad at me for the stupidest things like that..and my mom steps in and tries to resolve it but he ends up mad at the both of us..and when he gets mad..he cusses...last year i went to a school..on the bad side of town(it was a magnet skool..for higher students..but all the peeple hoo lived around there went ther too) so i heard so much language i got sick of it....so one day when he was mad..i asked him not to cuz i hear enough of it everyday..well now..he still cusses..acts like that talk never happened..and he's my sunday skool teacher! and everyone thinks i live the perfect life when its horrible..my dad keeps telling me over and over how we may not have enough money for christmas this year...ive told my mom that i hate when he talks about stuff like that..i guess he thinks im to 'mature'..last sunday..we talked about 'controlling our anger' and he wuz like 'u decide to get angry' well he decides that a whole bunch! i just want to stop the fighting..and my mom and i have sat and cried after some fights..and i want to stop bringing my mom into these fights..i want to stop the fighting..but im not sure how..oh any by the way..im only 12

Well, you dad is acting like a total asshole - no offense! - Just whatever he wants tod o, just agree with him even though you may like it... I know it sounds rough, but that is like the only thing today... Sorry hun, you can't stop the fighting. And he probably isn't gonna stop cussing when he gets mad because it's like your tellig him what to do and parents hate that! (I know you weren't telling him what to do, but that's what they think you are doing... lol) I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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