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Hi I'm traveling to a different country in from the USA and I'm going to stay with my friends that live in Britain and they were over here last time and I had a little trouble understanding them and now Im going over to her families and I'm afraid I'm not gonna understand them bc her parents have thick accents (link)
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The British accent isn't too hard to understand (i guess I'm bias being British ha.) it depends on where you go. My boyfriend is Jamaican and there is a slight accent problem when I stay with his family but they know that I am not used to it and will rephrase if I really don't understand.
Similarly, the people you stay with will also have that patience to talk clearly and rephrase when needed. Also, if you stay for longer than 2 days, you will find the accent becomes very understandable, you struggled last time because you were surrounded by american accents with some tourists, the table turns this time and you'll very quickly pick up the words, after all America and England are the same language essentially with minor differences E.G
Pants to you are trousers/jeans to us
Sneakers to you are trainers
But other than that, British people are commonly exposed to american through TV so don't worry too much, most people will understand the words you use :)
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My skin in pretty dark, and i dont know what colors make me look a bit lighter ? sometimes i wear bright shirts and they make me look SUPER dark, So anybody who knows about fashionn Write to me please(: (link)
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I personally find that dark skin works well with deep navy type colours, blues etc, especially if you have long black curly hair, it looks fantastic :) dark coloured skin would probably be less obvious in darker colours, so avoid florescent colours, stick with neutrals :) My boyfriend is black and I found when he wears light colours like whites he looks good too. hope that helps
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at my daughters school next year,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls? Also, why are boys allowed to be shirtless in the presence of girls? Why is no sense of modesty maintained (link)
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Well, I can be honest as I did this when I was younger. Maybe there is some uncomfortable feelings in the initial few lessons, but, to be honest, you have fun swimming! the boys and girls are probably never going to see each others changing rooms so the only part where they'll be together is in the pool, where the teachers will keep a close eye on them. As for the uncomfortable feelings, just think of when people go swimming with friends, there's males and females in the pool then but your only thinking about having a good time.
I understand you are worried for your daughter well being, but in all honesty it is just you being over-protective, the teachers will make sure she is safe and it will be beneficial for her later life if she can socialise with males and females. trust me. :)
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what medicines can I take to end my life? Either over the counter or prescriptions? (link)
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I don't even know where to begin, so I will be brutally honest: what a cowardly way out.
Do you not have a family? friends? anyone in this world at all that cares about you? even a small creature that see's you as someone? because if you do, they will be loosing someone they care about...
Maybe life is getting hard, and you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel? well there will be one, trust me, I lost everything in less than a month, and I never once considered suicide! neither should you, in the famous words of Dory:
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming.
Just be strong and be brave and see whatever hardship you face as a test, to prove you're worthy of the riches that await at the end of the road, I hope everything gets better, and I hope you trust me when I say that a lot of people have gone through a lot of bad things and they came out on top, just take J. K. Rowling as an example :)
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i am a 17 year old girl and want to date a 20 year old. i have fallen in love with him but the age is whats getting me, he will be 21 in august. should i go with him and is it completely wrong. i'm stuck, dont know wat to do. any advice will help (link)
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17 and 20 is a 3 year age gap... most of the people I know have a three year age gap. think of it this way, would it be so awkward when you're 25 and he's 28 that's a perfectly normal age gap.
The issue your feeling is that people believe there's a clear cut off point around 18/19, when you suddenly become mature and that to date anyone below an age is wrong, but let's face it I am willing to bet you both have common interests.
Now, if he makes you happy, and will look after you is the most important thing,
if you and him can ignore this very small issue then you could have a loving relationship together
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I'm 16 and female. I am super tight. I havent ever truely been fingered. I have had plenty of guys play with me but never really finger me. I want to have sex but I am nervous becaus I can't even get a tampon in and i do it properly. I relax and push the applicater all the way in and then it just pushes itself back out. I have have guys try and finger me but they have only gotten in 2 centimeters before it got extreamly painful and anymore than that I start crying. Any tips on what ius wrong with my bodyy if its my body and what can I do to loosen up??? (link)
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I know how you feel, I was really tight too and it's one of the most painful things ever. All I can say is to be with a guy you know is going to be loving and patient who'll take things slowly, like using one finger first and when that doesn't hurt use 2 and it should eventually get better though it'll take a bit of time so that's where having someone whose patient and will understand and go slow is important.
Other than that, just try yourself, and do the same thing I said use one finger and see if it still hurts afterall, your the one whose going to be more likely to stop if it hurts :) good luck and remember to be careful and use protection!
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So i got bored of answering questions so i wanna know: what is an original name that you call your boyfriend for girls and for you guys what do you call your girlfriend...i want absolutely hilarious and original ones soooo if it's in a justin beiber song-sorry:/ lol also what would you like to be called? come one people make my day:) (link)
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I tend to joke and call him Patricia sometimes, simply because when we went to a shop once to pay off his mums bills the woman asked
"What is your name?" and he said
"Patricia" and I just cracked up, other than that I'm just mean and use insults on him alot...they work :D x
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So before yesterday I pretty much knew exactly how I wanted my life. I would marry (hopefully) my crush, have a boy named Aaron Dean, and 3 years later, a girl named Riley Lucille. But last night, my old crush from another state friended me on facebook. And we were talking. Right now, I reaaaaaalllyyy like my old crush. But I know I cant date him since he's in another state. My other crush is here, but he doesnt really talk to me. I know in my heart that I like the guy from another state better, but my brain is saying NO. All because we are in different states. So what do you think I should do? Like the guy I really like in a different state, or the sensible guy I kinda like in my state. P.S. I am a 13 year old girl.
♥Thank you♥
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Well to start off with, I wouldn't be planning your life with either of these guys, your 13! I'm 18 and still not even giving my future family a second thought, fact is people will come and go until you really settle down and that's not for a while yet.
As for your decision, its not impossible to have a long-distance relationship if you like the guy from the other state and it may be possible to take holidays to see him if both your parents know each other and are fine with it, equally, the guy who lives near you seem's to not have a strong relationship built up and therefore I'm assuming this was a "love-at-first-sight" crush, In my opinion keeping friends with the furthest away and building up a friendship with the one that lives close by will sort out your problem for you :)
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Making out with my boyfriend is romantic and nice and all, but I'd like to know what can really drive him crazy and have him itching for more action. Any suggestions on what to do during? (link)
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Hmm if you are in his room or somewhere private, make him lay down and climb ontop of him and while you making out grind your hips slowly so he can just feel the pressure around his you-know-where haha.
Another trick that works for me is gentle play with his ear lobes, suck on them a little bit and very gently let your tongue tough the skin, also kissing his neck would probably help if you do it gently.
Id say the best trick is, tease him with little bits of pressure here and there, don't go all out because he'll drive himself crazy wanting you to do more.
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I'm 13 and my names Gracie. I'm not having sex and I don't plan on doing it anytime soon so dnt worry. I'm just curious (link)
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Sex for the first time hurts usually, how much would depend on the person and how "tight" you are, it was really painful for me but just a pinching sensation for my friends. To be totally honest, your first time you may not enjoy, its not until the third or fourth time that you can really get into it, and then it feels great and is a special bonding between you and the person you love. Just remember, be safe not sorry! :) condoms and the pill are the best combination so make sure you are safe.
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I feel so alone I'm 15 f and I'm really not the most attractive girl my weight is a little above average and I can't control my zits but I've never had a boyfriend, my first kiss. And most of my friends and new friends have I get awkward when they talk about it I try to go away I cry a lot bc I had a chance with a 16 year old in the summer for my first kiss but I didn't take all the chances I had and we eventually just stopped talking and I've tried talking talking to him but I feel that he doesn't want to fall for me again bc eventually he just stop talking/texting me and he switched schools in half the year bc his grades weren't good enough:/ but he still goes to a local public school (link)
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Hey, don't be upset about the fact you havn't had a boyfriend or first kiss, I was looking forward to being 19 before a guy even showed interest in me and I'm still with him! To be honest, I don't think how you look has anything to do with it, at 15 its how easy you'll "put out" eventually, you'll meet a guy who will fall in love with you and want to give you the world and your first kiss with him shall be magical, though it most likely won't last as "first loves" rarely work out.
Be patient, regardless of how much knowledge your friends have, you know your waiting for the right time, and I Guarantee at my age that's a great quality, no guy wants some broken goods after all. just wait and while your friends are discussing their love life, join in, make jokes, but don't get upset! trust me, I spent my entire school life being called a lesbian for lack of a boyfriend and the butt of all jokes, now nobody dares say a word against me ha. Moral of the story: everything will work out if you give it the time to :)
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I'm 14 years old and 5 foot 3 I stopped eating after volleyball season because i wasnt gonna play basketball and didnt want to get chunky! Before I stopped eating I weighed around 128 pounds and now I'm 120 I havent lost much weight so I'm not so sure I should stop.if it'd not doing anything then no harm right?because I actually feel good when I don't eat but huge when I do and somethimes I even throw up. Throughout the days of not eating I'll eat a cheese it and think that was to much and everything I eat goes through my head all day! I just don't know what to do!!!!! (link)
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Basically what your describing is the base of Anorexia nervosa/bulimia. This is a serous psychological problem and causes horrific damage to your body (even if you can not see) for example, it leads to an almost impossible chance of having children for both men and women (which may not be an issue now but I assure you one day you'll want a family) it also leads to OCD and will take over your life. If you are still able to eat, then start doing it again, don't over eat and exercise regularly and you will not have to worry about getting "chubby" but everyone needs body fat, even models, the prettiest models have enough body fat to fill the curves after all.
Don't think about eating, and don't force feed yourself, just think about the days events or any upcoming plan or what next volley ball season will be like, you'll find you will have eaten your meal without even realising. As for feeling huge when you eat that's a normal feeling, when you eat a large meal it needs time to digest and it makes people feel "fat" and need to lay down and relax, once its digested their ready to get up and go again, food is essential to survival, if you starve yourself you'll not even be able to play any sport because your body won't allow it. Look after yourself and reap the rewards :)
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is kissing like hugging?
you automatically know what to do? (link)
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Well, sort of. If the person you are going to kiss knows what they are doing then just relax and follow their lead, it is an easy enough thing to do.
If neither of you have kissed it can be a little scary as nobody knows who starts or what happens next but just relax, cuddle and when it feels right lean in. You don't have to instantly be using tongues or anything, just both your lips pressed together will be enough to gain the confidence to try your own things.
Remember, experience comes with trying so try new things and don't be embarrassed.
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Um so well I had a dream 5 nights ago and it was about me having sex with a girl who lives next door to my grandmother. But my problem is she's 8 and I'm 13 and I want her so bad but I think it might be rapist so should I have sex with her or not and if so what can I do to make it happen because she likes me to (no rapist jokes)
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You may like each other and you may think "im old enough!" because after all, consent on both parties makes it fine right? well no, no it doesn't, fact is when your young you copy people who you look upto, if your brother/sister are having sexual relationships you will probably think you can too.
Unfortunately, the legal age is 16 in England and (I believe) 18 in America and other than the series of legal cases and controversy that would follow is the fact that at 13 and 8 neither of you have developed, it can be an extremely painful experience for a girl when she's fully developed so if she's just 8 it will be traumatic. Also, the last thing you two need to worry about at your age is "is she pregnant?" and having to go to a clinic to get yourself checked out.
Wait until you're really ready or you will regret it.
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My dog died last September. I'm 15 and I had him since I was 4. He was like a best friend to me whenever I was sad he would help me get through it. This year has been really emotional and I think his death is a big part of it. I've asked for a new dog but my parents have refused to get me any kind of animal. What can I do so that I can by happier? (link)
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It's true, Dogs are mans best friend, I remember my first dog diieng when I was about 10 and hed been around since I was born so I sunk into a deep depression, nobody noticed of course because I was so young, but it got better, it took a long time but I could shift my attention to other things and I have not once forgotten him or any of the dogs we have had.
I know that they are such special pets and people that don't have one can never fully understand just how much love and care they give, keeping us safe and comforting us in times of need, but biologically, a human will always outlive their dog (assuming both die of natural causes) and it's a sad fact but it's true. The best thing to do is just be patient, focus on the happy memories, talk to him as though he were still around but always remember, where he is now is a happy place where he can look after you from above. As for the new pet, give it time again, he was not just your dog and your parents are probably upset too, it's very easy to go and buy a new pet after one has passed away but my personal experience knows its best not to, as all your emotions and expectations leap to the new puppy,
"why can't he do that? our old dog could do that."
Once everyone has healed from the heartache, I am sure your parents will be willing to give a pup (or a dog from a shelter) a loving new home. I truely hope you find comfort and overcome this difficult stage of life
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Why are all ugly guys attracted to me? I don't mean to sound like a bitch i swear i'm not I'm actually really nice, actually to the point where just because i talk to the guy he thinks we're "dating" or have a "thing"...like I don't even flirt I'm just friendly. They usually hate me after awhile because they think i led them on. But i swear i'm not trying to its just my personality and i feel awful..what should I do? ps i even straight up TELL THEM that i'm not interested in a relationship...I really don't know what to do.. (link)
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If you say they're ugly, and you're nice to them well then there probably gong to get instantly attached to you, especially if your more attractive than the usual women they talk to.
Just think of it like some ugly person who was always picked last and never asked out is suddenly being spoken to by an attractive young woman, and not just being spoken to but having a friendly conversation with! they would be thrilled and perhap with a lack of experience feel like it is the start of a relationship.
Now don't start being mean, but just keep everything clear, as soon as it is easy to fit into the conversation mention that you don't want a boyfriend (or lie and tell them about a male friend your very interested in one that actually exists and they'll never meet or will be willing to play along helps) and whenever you feel they are becoming too involved in their imaginary relationship with you remind them of this guy or that you are happy being single, and if they do accuse you of "leading them on" then you can just tell them "all through knowing you I have reminded you we are not together, how have I led you on?"
hope it helps
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Im torn between faiths. the two faiths that i am torn by are Buddhism and Christianity, i have studied both religions adimently. so im not ignorant to eithers teachings. i am just torn on the which one to choose. As it stands im not religious, but have been trying to find a higher meaning in my life and have narrowed it down to these two. I feel the connection to both, so i am a bit divided. so any tips.
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In my honest answer, why should you have to choose?
I'm not a religious person but I find the base of all religions are the same, be kind and loving and forgiving and believe in some greater being who we pray to in times of hardship, I know that's very vague and I don't know much about any (though I should know a lot more about Christianity) Still, my oppinion on religion is, why must we all be so different, having to choose is probably the reason for so many tensions to appear throughout history. Just take the teachings from both and live a happy and fulfilling life. that is how I would live, hope it helps
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Is it a sin to sleep naked with the one you love? (link)
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Morally and socially, no. It's a common practice to be honest, particularly in western cultures.
Religiously, it can be if you are not married but it depends on what religion you follow, however, I personally feel people follow religions to strictly and you should just follow your heart
as long as you are honest and kind, god should love and forgive you're sins, right?
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is there a place in the world where everybody wants to have sex and is willing to do it anytime? and btw, this is a serious question. I live here in Ottawa, Canada, and the girls are somewhat interested in sex on a normal manner, but is there a country where sex is really important and where people are down all the time to do it? (link)
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Some countries have the reputation for being particularly sex obsessed, Jamaica is one to my knowledge (My boyfriend is Jamaican and I have asked him questions like this) but generally, I don't believe there is a country where sex is constantly on display etc. just private groups in a lot of societies that appreciate it enough to have sex with total strangers every other day...and sluts.
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Okay, so a while back I started experimenting with my hair, and I cut my hair the wrong way.. so it grows in wrong. In the back, it has grown in better but its hard to maintain since my hair is wavy.
In the front on my bangs, it grows in wrong and the ends stick up I use gel, hair spray to try to keep it down but I hate fooling with it in the morning.
Is there anything I can do? I'm done messing with my hair, I only thin it out with my razor now. :/ Lol
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The simple answer, go to a professional hairdresser and ask them to fix it, if you just have cut it uneven they can make it more level.
If you gave yourself layers and don't like them, the best thing to do is leave you hair to grow and have the base trimmed every month or so the layers will all grow and as you cut the base layer it all levels out again :)
I would go to a hairdresser and see what they can do before you do anything drastic though!
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