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Well this kid and I "hooked up" a while ago (just kissed) and we used to talk a lot and we obivoulsy liked eachother. But for some reason his parents said i was too young for him!?!! how odd. but anyways...we still talked a lot but now he barly ever talks to me, i'm pretty much just getting the cold shoulder from him?

It would help if you told us his age and your age.
Maybe his parents' opinion really counts when it comes to relationships/girls. And if thats what they think, then he's just trying to listen/make them happy.

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I have a lot of acne and stuff on my back, any way to get rid of that, fast without getting prescribed something from a doctor?

Try certain body washes. Go to the isle with facewash and stuff & there are bodywashes to help acne. Another way is to expose it more [ tanning, etc. ] Thats what clears up mine. Those are the only two options I know of and they might not be much help, lol. But I figured I'd tell you anyway because you never know. Every bit of advice counts :)
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tonight im meeting my potential boyfriends parents!

i dont want to give them the wrong impression, but i dont want them to think im a prude or anything.

suggestions?

Just wear something cute + simple. Or something that matches your personality. Just be and dress like yourself I guess.

Lets see. I'm really casual, but I still like looking nice. If it was me, I'd probably just wear some jeans, my white Roxy shoes [ or flip flops ], & a polo. And curl my hair out. I don't know if I'm helping you at all or not, lol. We probably have different styles...

Anyways, just dress in something you like, something that looks nice & something appropriate.
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what are your opinions on tankinis.

are they more for older women (25 and up), or can teenagers where them too and still look cool. like would you wear them?

thanks

Teens can wear them for sure. I wear them, because I don't like the way I would look in a bikini. But sometimes its hard finding cute patterns and such. Department stores rarely have cute patterns. Sometimes local surf shops have cute ones... but they won't have many. They'll mostly have bikinis.
To answer your question, yea you could still look cool, haha. And yes I would wear them.
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okay so there are these 2 boys. They are best friends and they both like me, and i like them both too. but i don't no what to do? which one do i choose? one of them is soo sweet and everything but the other one kind of has that "bad boy" ish ..something about him and the way he flirts..
i don't no what to do, but like ughh this is really confusing.please help

You should hang out with both of them and find out what both of them like/are interested in. See which one you're more compatible with. Then, you'll find out which one you'd rather hang out with & which one makes you more happy, in "that way".
But, don't lead them both on... that won't be good. Approach them in friendly ways. You'll find out sooner or later.
You're kind of in a tough situation and most likely you'll be hurting one of them :(
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Okay My friend was talking to this kid online
and the conversation went kind of like this:
boy= bill
my friend=jill

Jill:So is kelsy still being the same?
Bill:yeah i guess
Jill:she used to be my best friend until that girl keria came
Bill:i hate her so much
Jill:why
Bill: she is weird and stuff

now my question is, when he said he hates her
was he talking about Kelsey or Keria?
my friend didnt ask
Thanks
14/f

I'm not really sure, it can be either way. Theres no way to actually know who he's talking about. Unless they posted the IM at REALLY close times. Like, if "she used to be..." and "i hate her so much..." were posted in the same second or two, he could have pressed enter before even reading Jill's IM, therefore he'd be talking about Kelsy. But if not, it can be either Keria or Kelsy.
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Everybody has a NewYears reselution right?
well;; this year mine is to have abbs. i'm not fat but im not skinny. i'm pretty much the average size.. my stomach is pretty flat i weigh around 135 lower on good days and i'm about 5'5..

any advice for me on how to get abbs?!.. exercise and diet but plz mostly exercise

thanks!!

Crunches: Have someone hold your feet or put them under something heavy. Cross your arms on your chest, do not let go of your shoulders for anything. Come up, have your elbows touch your knees. Try to do at least 50 under 2 minutes.

Do at least 20 push ups in two minutes. If you do it the right way and work your ass/stomache the right way, it can help build abs.

Those are the main exercises we did in bootcamp & it helped build abs if we did it long enough. We did a couple of other exercises that are hard to explain.
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When you get asked out on a date or asked to go out with someone... how would you say 'yes'?

Would it be like 'yeah sure' or what?

"Yea, I'd love to. =]"
"Sure, sounds fun. =]"

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im a freshmen. i have a lot of friends, but only like 2 that are true friends. the problem is all my friends are like changing and stuff. some of them are becoming big druggies, some have become huge sluts and whores. i dont want to stop talking to them or something, i just want to make more, better friends. its not only that there slutty or druggies, its that they sometimes ditch me and my other friends to go do that stuff, and then tell people they barely know about it but completely lie about it to us. ive talked to them and they know i dont like it, but there not going to change for me or anything. its hard to find a new true friend all of a sudden i know, but how do i atleast meet more people, with 2nd semester coming up? besides talking to them and introducing myself and stuff..please and thanks!

*sigh* I had that problem in high school too. People all of a sudden change into something ridiculous.
Through good friends, I just found other ones that were worth having as well. It might take longer than a week or a day but if you just keep being friendly & meeting new people, you'll find a nice group of friends you can relate to & have fun with.
Talk to new people in your classes, play sports, & participate in activities.
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ok, here's the deal. there's this guy i have a pretty big crush on, he's about three years older than me and he most likely has no clue i exist. how do i get him to notice me?

Talk to him, talk to him, talk to him.
See who he knows & make friends with his friends.
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Okay I like this boy but I don't think he has any interest in me. He might because I catch him staring at me. And then he looks over at me at times too. But thats it. All the rest of the girls flirt with him and I get real jealous when they talk. I don't know whats wrong all I want is to be with him or at least get him to notice me. I mean he knows who I am but I don't think he likes me in the way I do. What do I do?

If he looks over at you, he COULD be interested. I'm not saying that yea he definately is, but its always a possibility. It sounds like you're just sitting back and waiting for HIM to make a move. I've tried that before & it never worked. One of my biggest regrets in life. I KNEW this guy noticed me and I definately had a crush on him. I never went up to him and talked to him, my mistake. But I've learned from it. Another guy, similar situation. Except this time, I took the initiative to talk to him it it all worked out.
Why don't you go up to him and just talk to him? It couldn't hurt.
Hope everything works out.
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14/f

who i am seen as: major prep, stuck up, popular, loves cheerleading, loves anything pink, loves chanel & so on

WHO I WANT TO BE/wat i realy like: lip rings, pac sun, hot topic. stuff like that

don't get me wrong, i like girlie stuff, but i like that other stuff too. i dont know wat to do. theres NOWAY I can tell my friends. thed think im weird.

i dont kno if its just a phase though. what if.. i just want 2 kno wat it 'taste' like?

It could be a phase, who knows. You're probably just growing up & during high school is when you start getting your own style and semi-finding out who you are. People change and theres nothing wrong with that.
I like girly stuff too. I

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in yr 6 there was this boy who apparantly used to like but i never knew, i didn't like him then but i do like him now.stupid i know, it's just that i wasn't into the whole dating and liking thing then. i'm in year 9 now and i'm a girl(of course)i like him now but i have no contact with him, we don't go to the same school but my aunt is a teacher at his school. the one person i do know that has contact with me has blocked me on messenger. i guess it's too late, i threw away my chance-how can i get contact with him?

-x-

I don't know how close you are with your aunt, but some aunts are pretty cool to where you can talk to them about anything. If this is your case, tell her your situation. Maybe one day she'll let you come to the school so you can run into him. When you do, just tell him how you feel...

Also, have you tried searching for a myspace? I bet you 50 bucks he has one...
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I need some new music, I like rock, alternative, indie. I like anything like that.
Please tell me some of your favortie songs or bands.
thanks

The Higher. The Audition. The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. Cute Is What We Aim For. 30 Seconds to Mars. Cartel. Count the Stars [ they broke up though ]. Finch. Further Seems Forever. Gatsby's American Dream. Hellogoodbye. Hidden in Plain View. Houston Calls. The Hush Sound. The Juliana Theory. Motion City Soundtrack. The Movielife. October Fall. Paramore. Plain White T's. Plus 44. Silverstein. Something Corporate. Spitalfield. The Starting line. Underoath. This Providence. Weezer. Unwritten Law.
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what phone is better? a Verizon LG phone or a sidekick 3 and why?

I would have to say a Verizon LG. Personally, a Sidekick III looks better in my opinion, however, T-Mobile service isn't as good as Verizon.
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Ook, I want to go to a tanning booth so bad! I know they arn't safe, and everyone tells me I'll get skin cancer, but so many people tan outside in the 100 degree weather and thats just as bad! Nothing in this world is 100% safe, and thats the chance you have to take. Should I go tanning? And how dark does it make you? And since this is my first time how long should I go in, and do I have to take off all my clothes off?

Tanning salons aren't safe. But neither is outdoor tanning. Personally, what I do is, I tan in the booth and then anytime I go into the sun I wear sunblock to avoid double damage. I never tan outside anymore [ plus I don't want to be uneven ].

If you want to go tanning real bad, go for it. I wouldn't say "Yea! You should totally do it!" because as you know, its not good for you. But I couldn't tell you NOT to do it because I do as well.

You have to go probably... 3 times in order to see a good difference. If its your first time going in, you should start @ 12 minutes. Every other time, go up 2 minutes. First two times: 12 minutes. Next two times: 14. Next two times: 16 & so on. The max you can do is like 20 minutes. And you would want to go 2-4 times a week to actually keep your tan up. If you want, you can take all your clothes off, you can go in your bathing suit, or you can go with just underwear on [ I wouldn't recommend going in your bra ]. Salons are usually seperated into little rooms with a door you can lock & then the bed in there, which you close down on you--so its all private.

Theres also mystic tan which is a spray on tan [ most salons do that as well ]. Its harmless to the skin, but it doesn't last as long which means you'll have to go more often.

Don't foreget--you'll need a lotion [ tanning salons can sell this to you ]. Just like you use tanning lotion outside, theres a lotion used for indoor tanning. Use this! Otherwise your skin dries out and you won't be able to get a tan.

Hope I helped.
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i want to get white etnies. would they look bad if i wore skirts and capris or no? thanks

I think they would look find with like, jean skirts and capris & stuff.

Nothing too dressy.
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Okay so me n a good friend of mine plan on moving to NYC once we graduate..but we dont know the first thing about it. we dont want to live in a run down or "bad" neighborhood..my friend said she wants to live in a fancy neighborhood like not rich but not one that will have us fearing for our lives...i know this sounds kinda stupid but i've never been to NYC myself and you hear all sorts of bad things about certain places..can anyone give me some information or a topic to google..i would google this but i dont have the slightest clue as to what to google..Thanks sooo much!

I just recently went to New York on a family trip and stayed there for about 3 days. Manhattan is sooo interesting and fascinating. I live in California so the culture and lifestyle was a shock. I totally want to go back.

Well, I don't want to dissapoint you but then again I don't know that much about housing prices down there... but its kind of expensive. There are so many different areas you can live in, in Manhattan so you'd kind of have to look around. Theres China Town, Harlem, Upper East Side, Soho, East Village, West Village (( "Friends" was based in one of the Villages )) and so many more. In order to live in the type of neighborhood you guys want, you're going to have to have some money & a good job. Also, you'd have to figure out what you want to do career wise because it has a lot to do where you live. Upper East Side is a really high scale area and its really convenient if you work around there which is where a lot of businesses are.

Your best bet would to find some real estate websites and search for apartments in Manhattan & keep your eye on prices, etc. Also, look into all the different types of neighborhoods and pick one thats good for you. And look into what exactly you want to do for college or work while you're out there. I know theres NYU and Columbia or whatever. Good luck!
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P.S. I just found this website that kind of talks about all the different locations in Manhattan. Read through them and it gives you an idea about each area http://www.nycvisit.com/content/index.cfm?pagePkey=15

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i heard laguna beach was going to come out with a new season in august is that true?

Well they shot a third season and its supposed to premiere this summer. Maybe July maybe August, I'm not sure.
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hey everyone... well ok i have a poblem with keeping up in school.. see the thing is that i forget what we learned in class so when it comes to doing homework i get stuck and end up running to the tv. you see i have a slighet attention problem like ADD and i end up staying late at night at like 12 doing homework!!! so wht shoud i do to prevent this when i go to 10th grade!

I've had the same problem during school. I kind of either gave up or told myself "Its okay, I'll do it later" or "Its okay, I'll do it in the period before its due". Its not really a good habit to get yourself into and you need to realize that because it'll help you. You just gotta be strong and don't give in to temptation. Work in a room thats far away from the t.v., radio and/or anything else that will distract you such as the computer, AIM, etc.

Tell your parents whats wrong and help them be more on top of you during homework time. If you start watching t.v. have them make you stop. For me, one of my biggest distractions was myspace. I got stuck on a problem and I just went on the computer. What I did, was I changed all my passwords for everything and they were so random that I wouldn't remember them. And when I was done with my homework or whatever needed to be done, I had the passwords retrieved. I could have easily retrieved them at anytime but I knew I had to get things done so I didn't. This really helped me during times I had major project to get done, etc.

Maybe for the t.v. you can have your mom or dad hide the remote during homework time & turn it to one of those channels thats super static-y. If you're one of those people who refuse to get up to turn the channel, this will totally work, lol.
Hope I helped.
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