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Ok. Last year I went out with one of my best guy friends. We held hands, talked all of the time, and even kissed. After awhile though things became different. My guy called me sometimes 3 times aday and it became to much so I broke up with him after 3 months. Well I still liked him alot and we went out again. This time he acted totally different!!!!! He hardly ever talked to me, didn't call even one time, or hug me or even hold my hand. I don't get it because I never told him he was too clingy to his face!!!!My friends also told me that he flirted with other girls all of the time. We talked about our problems but nothing changed. He got mad at me for flirting and so I tried to change. I didn't talk to the guy I was flirting with for 3 days. my boyfriend got mad at me again when I wasn't even talking to the other guy!!!!!!! I got so mad! Especially since he was still flirting with this girl in front of me!!!!! I had no choice but to dump him!!!!! I still liked him though. I just missed how he used to be I guess. I would rather him be to clingy then almost totally ignore me. He was like a totally different person!!!!! NOW WE DON't EVEN TALK AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!! I still like him so much and I don't know what to do because we are broken up and we don't even talk!!!!!!!! I want to tell him that I broke up with him because he was different but that will be weird because we have broken up 2 times and we totally ignore eachother. (link)
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if you wanna talk to him, then do it. since you guys are/were best friends and could talk about anything, let him know that and let him know you're serious. (on a side note, sometimes people get more fussy and dramatic when they hear things from other people)..just say "look. i really like you and i'm sorry if i upset you by flirting, but i felt the same way when you were flirting with other girls." something like that, but you need to communicate with him. wishing for it to all be better isn't gonna work unless you take action.
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My boyfriend is alot like me and we click really well. We call eachother on the phone almost every night but the thing is that he is really shy. My last boyfriend kissed me and held my hand. My before now never even hugs me. I want him to hold my hand and maybe kiss me but I don't know how to tell him or give him signs. Also sometimes he is really inconsiderate. Like I got my hair and makeup done and bought a new dress for this dance and told him about it. I told him I would like him to go. The next day I asked him if he was going and he said yeah his parents were making him go. It hurt my feelings because I was going to take time to look pretty and he didn't even care if he went or not. It seems like he would want to go because I would be going!!!!! BUT NO!!!!!! also he flirts with girls right in front of my face and he acts like I am not there!!!!!!!!!
He really is a great guy but I need to know how to give him signs to be less shy and more considerate. I really want to kiss or hold hands and he is taking way to long. I want him to make the first move because I believe that guys should do it first. (link)
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sometimes you don't always get what you want. maybe try holding his hand first. just because you believe that guys should make the first move doesn't mean they're going to, and if things don't work out in this one then you can believe it in the next one.
and also, tell him off! don't just let him hurt your feelings and not express it, but don't be too emotional because that's just not what guys want to see. if he's flirting with other girls, then either walk away or take him away from them and if he's got a problem, ask him what's more important, other girls or you?. tell him that he's flirting and that you don't like it.
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I have been in a 4 year relationship, we are the best when everything is going good and just recently my significant other was there helping me out financialy and also there for me for anything and then a week later said he needed space then didn't want to be together at all. I know for sure there is no other girl and I see him most of the time, due to us having mutual friends since day one. Our friends tell him that we should be together and that they also try getting us back together because they all say that they believe we are meant for one and another, but he doesn't want to. He hasn't communicated with me about picking up his things nor when I run into him at a friends house he would ignore me. So what does this mean? All this put together is confusing and I want to know why he left so sudden after showing that he cares by being there.Why all of the sudden change in heart? He said he needed space then weighed out the pros & cons then done just like that, but why so sudden?
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boys and their mood swings =/
well, maybe he needs to know that you care about him a lot. tell him straight to his face, look in his eyes, ask him what's going on between you two.
he might be going through some PMS (pissy male syndrome) crap and will get over it soon, but try not to let it bug you too much.
either that or maybe you've just gotten a little too close lately. sometimes too much of something/someone can get on the nerves, whether you want it to or not. give him a little cool down time, then talk to him and be serious. let him know that you're not gonna stop bugging him until he answers you.
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I like this guy(his name is Brendan) and he likes me back but we never talk to eachother though. I know that he definitley likes me because last year his friend told me he likes me and this year we are in the same social studies class and I always see him looking at me and one day in the hall he smiled at me. We are both really shy and scared to talk to eachother cause we both know we like each other (thats what I think) We known eachother since we were 8 yrs old ( now i am 13) and i liked him since i met him. The question is how do I talk to him and what can we talk about? (link)
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haha that's cute.
well, since you're both young and you shouldn't be TOO concerned about love, just wing it. go up to him when you're doing your work and ask him to be buddies with you. then from there, you could randomly/casually bring things up. talk about what you're doing over the weekend or something, and maybe ask for his number (if you don't already have it) to talk about an assignment (but really you won't ;D )
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Any term you see in red below is not allowed:
our story is long, i'll try my best to keep it short. (its very good though-i've heard.)if i dont give details, you wont be able to help me.
im a girl.
the ex: i'll call him "ken".
both of us a little young for our grade.
i met ken in 7th grade. we had language arts together and instantly hit it off. last day of school, kens friend asked ken to ask me out. (the day ken was gonna ask me too.) ken didnt say how he felt so he asked me out for his ffriend. i liked them both. i thought ken didnt like me since his friend wants to date me, and i told him i would date his friend. 8th grade we broke up and i still liked ken. we became closer and we started to date in the beginnning of 8th grade. i told him i wouldnt say "i love you" unless i really meant it. he agreed. so after a couple months, he told me he loved me, and i wasnt quite sure what love meant, but i liked him so much! so i said it back, and i really meant it for what i knew love meant. i broke up with him in the beginning of 9th grade. he was crushed and could barely speak to me for a while. then we became very close again, and i relized how much i missed him and what i had. by this time, he wasnt into me anymore and was into other girls. i was crushed. in the beginning of 9th grade, we dated again, for about a month-fighting a lot-and finally broke up agian. (we agreed to break up.) i was okay, but deep down i knew i wanted him. in the middle of 9th grade, we dated for 2 days. a lot happend in those 2 days-he said we'd go to prom together-then he broke up with me. (im a virgin by the way.) i got so upset, i stopped talking to him for about 3 months-he started cutting and getting into drugs. when i found out, i felt terrible so i started to talk to him again. then he stopped talking to me the last two days of school, because someone told him that i told everyone about his cutting. i was so angry. we hadnt talked the whole summer untill 2 days before school started. he said i shouldnt be sorry for anything and he is very sorry for believing people he barley knew over me. we wanted to be close again, and aventually date again. i told him it was hard for me, because i still loved him. he said he loved me with his whole heart. 10th grade was a struggle for our relationship. now im a junior (11th) and soon to be 16. he just turned 16 a month ago. our relationship is better now. we talk, soon to hang out again, and we eat lunch together-with other people. i really want to talk to him about everything and see what he thinks about everything. he now has this gf for about 3 months. they both are into drugs. i just tried weed and drank before. he tells her he loves her. but people tell me hes not over me. we kinda flirt-hes not a flirty type. friends say he has a "special" smile for me. i dont see it. i want to go to prom with him- i want to spend the rest of my life with him-and sometimes, i think he does to. im so confused. does he want to be with me??? a lot of the time it seems like im just another friend..and not real important..but i want to be important again. i want to be his only concern. i want to get his attention, but not show that i want to get it. what do i do???
if you read this whole thing, and helped me, thank you so much!!!! (link)
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where to start....well.....don't back down.
i know how you feel, i was in sort of this situation just not through this long of a time period.
you know what you want, and that's what you're gonna get. talk to him and don't make acceptions.
you need to show him that you are strong, and you have to be persistent. ask him if he really wants to live a life like that-drugs, etc... make him tell you the truth. once he sees that he really means a lot to you, maybe he'll smarten up. it's just that some guys think "oh i'm young i'll do whatever the hell i want."
really, it's not like that. this age shapes pretty much a LOT of our lives. if he wants you, tell him to shape up because you're not gonna deal with it anymore.
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ugh i have a major problem. i am going out with this really nice guy bobby,he is the sweetest. but i just don't like him that way and now i don't know wat to do cas i don't want him or his family to think im a bitch for breaking up with him cas it has only been about 2 weeks or so. although i also have another problem in this one. i don't want to let go of either one of my ex's. i love them both to death and i don't know wat i would do without them i still talk to them but right now one is mad at me and im trying to fix things.....my heart is lost and confused!!! HELP!!!
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Razhie's right.
as much as you want everyone to be happy, i don't think that's humanly possible. if it's not one thing, it's another.
if you don't like your current bf, then you shouldn't be with him, and if you say the right things no one's gonna think you're a bitch. just tell him the truth. maybe tell him a boyfriend isn't right for you right now (because honestly, you don't seem like you need one)
all you need is friends. good, close guy friends. your ex's are perfect because it shows that you can still be friends with them, but you thinking about having a boyfriend might be getting in the way of it.
when it's time for a boyfriend, you'll know. just don't jump to it. you have PLENTY of time.
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ok, I had never had a bf before, so naturally I have never kissed a boy before. I have recently gotten a bf, and he wants to kiss... I haven't let him yet, because I dont know what the heck I'm doing! Everyone keeps saying oh just give it a go its something you learn as you do it more, but oh its not like that for me! is there anyway i can practice without actually practiceing... or how do you actually kiss (not just a peck or something like that... but more open mouth... ? I just dont want to completely suck atit! lol thanks for any helP! (link)
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i was in that same exact situation, and it was kinda awkward the first time.
hopefully he's an understanding guy, and if he is, then just tell him. he'll start it off and "teach you" maybe. you'll get the hang of it, but of course, there's a first time for everything.
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well hes not that weird.. just kidding. he reads comic books, hes hella cute, and is really nice. its weird that i fell for him.. cause I fell for him because he was so unpredictable. like some things he'd do that you'd think a total loser would do.. and then he just keeps suprising you. hes also good at soccer and guys who play soccer are hott! like once in music (btw im in 8th grade) as a prize to bingo we could get some crappy mcdonalds toy my teacher has or extra credit. he won twice and he kept getting the toy and he was so excited to get it. and the way he talks among other things.. haha when i tell my friends they're confused at how i like him. he probably doesnt like me the same and im not like head over heels... I just think hes really cute, but not in a way that I'd want to date him.. I think. I'm not sure. is this weird? (link)
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i know how that is.
it may seem weird to others just because he may not be like you, but some crushes are unpredictable, just like him!
all you can do is get to know him better. talk to him, joke with him, see how it all works between you two, but don't make it obvious that you like him. it may make things kinda awkward. just be cool, and if you really are dating-compatible, then you'll know.
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Okay... I've been off the shot for nearly six months. I had sex unprotetcted over last weekend and I'm wondering if its possible that I'm pregnant. I think it is but im not too sure. My sister said it took her nearly a year and a half to get pregnant, as well as my sister in-law. My other sister that was on the shot is having a problems trying to get pregnant. Do you think I am or What? Im confused~! (link)
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don't jump to the conclusion that you are, because if you're not then you stressed about nothing. sometimes it takes a while to find out whether you are or not, so just wait a few weeks. take a pregnancy test if you see any signs within the next month or 2. otherwise, just keep it on your mind but don't stress it too much.
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what are some things me and my boyfriend can do apart from fingering/bj's thats not sex? (link)
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if you're looking for something more "intimate", i'd say tell him to just 'feel your body' when you're kissing. like, instead of going straight down there, just feel around your stomach or something.
or if you're sitting down, sit on top of him with your faces close and just look at eachother, kiss, be happy that you're together.
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I play football for my high school, im one of the better freshman lineman, my probleam is i weigh to little. im about 175 but alot of the kids are over 200. im mostly muscle and id like to keep it that way, how can i increase weight to around 200 but not put on fat (link)
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eat meat, work out (as if you already don't), minimal amounts of junk food make me gain wait.
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It started with nick calling me beautiful and him wantint to date me we made out at some party and then over the next month i didnt wanna date anything then finally on the 6/20 we started dateing. he was nice and called me and we partyied and hung out all the time he also took me to movies and he was whiped at one point then i started careing to much and he broke up with me 1st time bc he didnt want a girlfriend then a day later we began kiss the kissing goes on for like 2 weeks then we start dateing again this point its the beginning of the school year tthe next few weeks were very deep and i told nick i loved him and he said it back.. but he was more a asshole by not answering my calls and he just didnt care as much like my pictures used to be on his myspace n such.. finnaly like sept 19 he breaks up with me on the phone saying THE WHOLE I LOVE YOU THING, NO and rude ass shit about me.. then a week and a half later i kiss another boy and nick wants me back and we get back together. and I GAVE NICK MY VIRGINITY BACK IN AUGUST. we have a passionate night bc i sleep over at his house alot. and then the next two weeks i can tell things are werid then monday night he breaks up with me in a text and i find out he loves becca this girl he liked like all of last year and in early august he told me he liked her but in september he told me he had no feelings for her.. his bestfriend told me he reallt loved me but. YEA BECCA- shes a whore and a bitch shes had sex with atleast 7 people i know and she had three boyfriends like a week ago. everyone tells me she is grossed out by nick and she is like useing him ive been told and he broke up with me because hes in love with her. AND I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT NICK AND I HATE IT BC HES A FUCKING ASSHOLE AND told me he has loved her for a while and EVERYONE NEW.. fuck that shit. i cant belive him and now we were drifting apart because i just dont want to talk to him i am so hurt like HE WAS A ASSHOLE WHILE WE WERE DATEING AND THEN THIS IS HOW WE FINALLY BREAK UP. what the fuck!!! (link)
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that really sucks. your best bet is to move on. it may be hard, but if you do it right, you can do it.
listen to some good music, get your mind off him. don't listen to sad stuff because it will make you relapse. go with friends, show that you're pissed off at him and that you don't care. just vent. try your hardest not to put feelings into it. feelings suck.
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okay i like this guy and he likes me and we're not going out because i cant date yet and he said he'll wait for 2 years to date me but we cuddle a lot and stuff and this guy friend who has a gf likes me saw us hugging and stuff and he was like "if your not going out why he be grabbing you and when he calls you your like a pet to him you go right after
not to be mean but if you really werent.. then i am ashamed of you cause you should KNOW better soo do you really let a guy do that to you when ur not together? just think about it" what is he trying to say? am i being ****/easy? i like him but then im kinda confused because i like this one guy too >.< any advice? (link)
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i wouldn't exactly say it's slutty, but technically it's not right. if you're not together then you probably shouldn't be doing that stuff, but then again you're not allowed to date yet. all i can say is take it slow. don't do too much with that guy or it will be considered slutty. take it slow. you're probably young, you have plenty of time.
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Okay there is this guy I like. Im 20 and he is 26. He is over at my house all the time, and we will be sitting in the backyard and he will pick up a handful of rocks and playfully throw them at me. Or I will get a text from a friend and he will text me (when he is like 2 feet away) and he will be like "is this the only way you will pay attention to me? I’m an attention whore" or "I’m shy around you. I have a hard time talking to you, you make me blush" Or when he leaves he sometimes will be like "don’t miss me...I know you do when I’m gone". He always stares at me and when he talks to me he is always looking me in the eyes. I will be sitting on the couch and he will sit right next to me to where our legs will almost be touching, and if they are, he doesn’t move his leg. A family friend that had never seen or heard of him before, asked me if he likes me because she seen the way he was looking at me and she said she’s positive he likes me. Do you think he likes me? Thank You to All Who Answer! (link)
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no intentions of being mean but....DUH.
that's honestly the cutest thing i've ever heard of.
you're lucky girl...don't take advantage of it.
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I'm getting a pitbull, and i want to make her tough. Deffently not for fighting reasons, for protection. I was wondering how i could make her tough and muscular like i've seen some pitbulls. thanks (link)
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put her through training. but since it's a she, don't push it too hard. or, just play with her..games like tug of war or run alot with her. thats always a good start.
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Theres this guy who's reallly cute. Im not going to say i like him, because i dont, but I wanna flirt with him more and get him to wanna talk to me and stuff. I dont see him that much, but when i do i flirt with him like crazy. He does it back but neither of us has been like "can i get your number?" is there anything i can do to make him wanna ask me out on a date, or ask me my number? flirty tips, or just conversation tips would be greatly appreciated! thankss (link)
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what could make it easier would be to ask his number for a class project if you're in any classes together, but if you're not then just bring up something like..."man i'm gonna be bored tonight." and then just be like "you wanna talk?"
or..ask for email/myspace/aim/whatever you use
baby steps. remember that
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Okay...im going to try to have this make as much sense as possible so there is this guy lets call him kyle =) well today kyle asked me out and he's really cool and sweet and stuff but im not sure if i could ever see him as a b/f...and i dont wanna hurt his feelings either and there is another guy let's call him matt =) well he's a year older than me and goes to a different school but i see him all the time at the park and we hang out and have a good time and he's like always hugging ma and sometimes we'll play tackle football and he'll run towards me making it look like he's gonna tackle me and he'll put his arms around me and his firnds will be like dude tackle her and let go already and he'll be like i dont want to and im going to see him tommorow at a game at his school so yeah but one more problem...there's a 3rd guy let's call him christian my ex-b/f...he broke up with me about a month ago but when he did he still loved me and really cared about me it's just a lot of "stuff" was going on and he didn't wanna drag me into it and he promised me he wouldn't get another g/f but when i was his g/f he wasn't a very good b/f and i'd alaways end up walking to class after brak or lunch crying so idk wut to do? should i wait for christian the guy i still kinda love? matt the sweet funny guys who's always hugging me? or kyle the guy who just asked me out and is really nice and seems to really like me thanx alot and i would appriciate if you would explain who i should pick and why it would help alot thanx!!!! love yvette
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well....it's a toughie. first of all, think of your life. think what you want to do, not what guys want you to do, and think about which one would support you all the way. you need someone that shouldn't make you cry all the time, even though you may have feelings for him. you could have feelings for any guy, but it takes a real one to treat you right. if "matt" seems like the boyfriend type that could make you happy, go for him. don't go for one that says he likes you, but ends up making you emotionally confused. do it for yourself, not them.-
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