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Q: This one guy at school always makes me feel very uncomfortable. He comes into my class when it's not even his class to harass me. He says things like, ooo she is so hot, I'd like to have her in bed, I wonder what she would sound like and than he moans really loudly.He was even like, watch her ass cheeks swing back and forth. Worse yet, he has like 5 guys who backed him up laughing and saying yeah. I know he was being mean about it. But either way, I still dont deserve to be treated like that if I dont want to be. I was to afraid to tell the teacher in fear of being called a rat or it being even worse. I dont want to jump down in the gutter with him and I dont want to fight. I thought things would get better in high school, but really it's not. It seems worse. All I want to do is go to learn, and get my diploma. Thats it. What should I do? Im a sophmore in high school
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You are totally right. You DONT deserve to be treaed like that and he has a sick mind. Here are some things you can do to help make it stop. They are in order, from most effective down.
1. Talk to your school counseler. Although it may be uncomfortable, most likely this isn't the first time they had to deal with something like this. And trust me, they WILL take care of it. Just make sure that you tell them exactly how bad it really is.
2. Tell your parents. Your mom or dad will handle it with the school, especially if you are too afraid to talk to an administrater yourself. Tell them that although you know he is just an immature freak, it really makes you uncomfortable.
3. Call a hotline. There are many types of abuse hotlines that you can call. Try looking one up on google or something. The best part is, they are most likely anonymous so you dont have to worry about being called names. Also, they probably give alot better advice than I can.
4. Confront him. This is probably just the last resort. This might lead to him making fun of you even more. Just tell him he's just jealous because he can't even talk to ladies. Much less get a date.
Guys can be so shallow. What he is doing is WRONG. Please don't let it keep going on, and PLEASE dont let him interfere with your education, you have the right to a good education too. Hope this helped!
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Q: What does the term 'Liberal' when used politically mean to you? I'm doing research for a paper and want to gather varying opinions on the subject. Any answer will be excellent.
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well i dont go along with opinionated's answer. The true definition of liberal is open minded, tolarable, people. Conservative means more close-minded, traditional type.
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Q: wherever i am i'm always cold!!! its mostly my hands that are cold. so my question is how can i get warm without having to overdress, and wear gloves inside????
signed
cold
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It might be poor circulation or low blood pressure. I have the same problem. First, dont go outside if your hair is wet cause it keeps me cold all day. What I do for school is I still wear my favorite clothes but put an extra long or short sleeve shirt underneath that has a cool matching color. then if its short sleeve just roll both sleeves up to show the two different colors. also you could use those little instant heat packs at school wear you just break it in and it warms up really fast. you could put it on your hands if your teachers dont mind.
Hope all that helped!! Ace
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Q: Jordan, a girl at my school, and me never have really known each other, but she seems really nice and I've been trying to talk to her. It just seems like she doesn't like me though. (AS A FRIEND! AS A FRIEND! I'm a girl and I'm straight. I'm just saying as a friend)I mean, I've talked to my best friend who is best friends with Jordan and I asked her if she liked me, but all she said was, "Oh, yeah! She just doesn't know you well." She's told me that about three times. I've even talked to Jordan on thecomputer and she was saying things like, "God, we never get to talk!" and stuff. The thing is.....when I try and talk to her she doesn't really try and keep the conversation going. At school she doesn't try to talk to me either. It's just like she's waiting for me to try and start talking. I'm sort of shy (not that much,though) and she's not shy -- AT ALL. So I don't get what she's doing. Why does she act like she wants to be friends, but then doesn't even try? Is there some way that I could become better friends with her?
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maybe shes just shy. Im really shy and sometimes people ask me "do you not like me or something cause youre not talking very much" but really its just that im not comfortable talking to people i dont know very well.
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Q: Hey.
I'm 16 & my boyfriend is 24.
I've been dating him now for 4 months. We've been having sex & we decided to tell my parents, because we can't keep lying to them. So, I told them on Sunday, and then on Tuesday they told me I couldn't even see him anymore until I'm 17. Which I thought was OKAY, I mean I wasn't happy with that decision, but atleast I could still talk to him. And then last night my SISTER who doesn't live with us called my boyfriend and told him that he couldn't even talk to me on the phone anymore. :(
I'm soo sad, because I don't know what to do! & I'm in love with my boyfriend and I just feel sad all the time, and I'm not usually a sad person.
What can I do!?!
I understand that it's illegal by the way, it's just I asked my mom if I could still see him on friend-to-friend basis without having sex because he's grown to be one of my absolute best friends that I can talk to him about ANYTHING.
Please help. :(
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okay think about it. When you were 8, he was 16. I mean, if hes a nice guy, go for it. Just wait until you're a tad older.
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Q: Hi. I need a super cute bed spread comferter thing that isnt to to expensive possibly under 120$ maybe a little more but pref. less please dont say like wal-mart or target or jcpennys or macys ive looked there pref. a store with a site so i could seee it twin size 13/f
THANK YOU
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Here are some good sites:
http://www.pbteen.com
www.thecompanystore.com -they dont have printed comfortors but they have really cute colors!
If youre looking for good prices look at this link(Sorry some are a bit childish!) http://www.roomstogokids.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=getItemsSearchResultsThumb&cat_id=136&cat_title=Twin%20Linens
also this site has some cute ones
http://www.lnt.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=1385345&cp=1331605.1331627
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Q: I try to be myself in school.. but after getting advice and stuff, i still cant. if im not comfortable, then i kinda freeze or beocome kind of like.. twitchy a little. then like little things happen like me getting up to get a paper, and i dont want to do it, cause im feeling uncomfortable, then i end up embarassing myself.. well in my opinion. i mean, i believe that i like myself.. but i dunno what else i could do to get more comfortable. picture everyone in underwear? not so funny. uh.. treat the people as family? i guess so.. i've tried it but it kinda doesnt work. im more outgoing and stuff when im at home or not working.. sometimes i appear to be serious and really shy when i know im not like that. i've had this problem for like a couple years now.. i'm 13 in middle school. ehh.. any advice if there is any to solve this problem? thanks if you do :)
Also, when im outgoing like in school or something, then sometimes i get a little too carried away, cause maybe im trying too hard when i am, or something. how can i learn to control it without being too out of line or too.. in the line? like, with still having my dignity and stuff. :/ HEEELP!
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Oh my gosh I am the exact same way. Im 14 but its like the weirdest thing I hate it!!! At home when my friends come over and Im all energetic and stuff and they always say "Wow youre crazy at home" hehe. Anyways, I have gotten a little better this year just cause Ive made some good friends and stuff. But one thing that helped me is to think that everyone of these people are just people, going to school, or doing their job. You don't have to look a certain way or whatever cuase honestly noone cares how you look. They care about how you are. Okay sorry if this is so long but oh well. Like last year I was friends with this one girl and she like wanted me to be a certain way or look good for her other "bigger, more popular" friends. I went through pure torture last year for that. This year I decided to just be myself, and I just wear whatever I like and want, and act my own way, and life has been better than ever. I have tons of friends, Im doing great in school, and best of all It is sooooo much easier to talk to people. I dont always feel lower than everyone else.
Anyways I guess what im just trying to say is that you will look alot better to EVERYONE if you just dont try to look a certain way. Hope I helped, and again, sorry for it being so long!!
Ace
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Q: I have a big problem with interupting when other people are talking. I do it to my parents, friends, and especially in class.
I don't realized I've interupted someone until AFTER I had butted in. Infact, I think I pushed my boyfriend over the edge today because I constantly interupt him and I think today was one time to many.
How do I stop this bad habit?
I've tried "Thinking before you speak" But I often forget and just keep on talking.
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Well, this worked with my younger sister. Hehe. So when someone is talking, and you need to say something, try counting one mississippi, two mississippi... up to five. that will give you time to make sure that they are done saying whatever they need to say. Hope I helped!!
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Q: How can I view my conversations [old/recent] that I've had through instant messaging? Is it even possible? Please only answer if you're 100% sure. Thanks!
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Im pretty sure that a program called dead AIM can pull up all of your old conversations. hope I helped!!
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Q: alright, well. i was raised in a catholic family. we go to church every week, pray before we eat, the whole shibang. i believe in God, and love him,, but i just dont feel that "fire" for him that i think i should. how do i get it? how do i know if i really am "saved." i just really want to be close to him and to start living for him, not just myself. HELP ME!
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'First off, I have never felt that "fire" for him and I dont think I ever will. Dont get me wrong, I believe in God and I am Christian and all, but to me, that whole "saved" thing I just dont believe in. I guess my best advice is to just be comfortable with your relationship with God. You dont have to devote all your time to him, the point of Christianity is to be kind and love your neighbor. You should try devoting your good-will to your community as well as maintaining a close relationship with God. xo hope I helped!! ox
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Q: im havin a movies night at my house for halloween and i was gonna take my friends to the mall and then have dinner at a resturant then go back to me place and watch a couple of movies and talk bout boys
i want to know if there r any good scary movies that r rated pg-13 or if theres any good comedy movies
plz help im havin i the night before halloween
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Scary - silent hill, the grudge, the ring, the ring 2,
for funny try: ringu 2 (japanese version of the ring) the ringer- good good movie. Lucky number slevin, thankyou for smoking... thats all I can name
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Q: I have this friend...lets call the friend C. C is one of my bestest friends. C's so fun and lively and gosh, you can't tell that theres anything bad going on in C's life. C's one of the two friends that I have that are always cheerful and happy. Well, yesterday when we were being idiots and dancing in the hallways b/w class(don't ask) I saw that C cut itself on the top of C's hand and was concealing it with C's sleeves. I can understand why since C hates C's little brother, C's mom and dad are divorced, C's not all that rich, and C hates his stepdad. The thing is that I cut too... and do not lecture me on that fact. I haven't told ANYONE at my school that I cut and I want to keep it that way. I want C to stop and not cut though. I know it sounds weird and hypocritical but I wnat C to stop. I know it's a dangerous thing to do and can turn fatal at any given time. That's why I wnat C to stop. Isn't it weird that while I do the same thing I don't want C to do it? What is wrong with me for thinking that way? Why am I thinking that way? What are things I can do or say to stop C from cutting? If I try to talk about it, he ignores me and stops the conversation say he doesn't want to talk about it.
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One thing you could do is go to a counseler, for you and for c, but you probably dont want to do that. If I were you I would find a time where I could be with him alone and start a serious conversation. Try to pull some info out of him before you confront him about cutting; you dont want to say the wrong things. If you confront him about it and he starts to walk away or something, say "I know you dont want to talk about it, but we have somethings in common and I really would like us to help each other." You might not want to say "I really want to help you" because he might get the idea that you feel really bad for him or something. But if I were you,I would try to steer the conversation to helping each other. That way, you get to results from one.
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Q: Dear Advicenators,
I have a very bad problem. I have this feeling that I don't want to study anymore. When I learned about how I felt, I was disappointed, I never knew I could actually feel this way because I'm an honor student. I moved to a new school, and when second semester came, I had this feeling that I don't want to pursue my studies anymore. Or maybe its just because I felt really bad about my grades during the first semester because they were surprisingly low. Or maybe I'm just going through some sort of phase. I really don't want to think this way because I know that my mom works very hard for my education. How do I snap out of it? [f/13]
Super Thanks in Advance!
Love,
Stacy
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well, I sometimes have that same problem too. For me, I dont try to change how I feel. There are many times where I just dont care anymore about grades, but usually I just snap out of it bymyself. Maybe your body got tired of trying to work so hard and it needs a break. Try relaxing for a few days, but dont slack off too much. Just dont perfect everything. Soon you will want to keep up with your grades again.
Hope I helped!!
ace
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Q: ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do?? i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me. o and if u say maybe to change my hairstyle, tell me a site or link please p.s. i have brown hair and the length is the middle of my arm befor my elbow.
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Okay first of all 135 IS NOT fat. My best friend is 135 and she is so pretty. It is on the heavier side, but just because it is doesnt mean its fat, you could have alot of muscle. But anyhow, youre 13.
As much as I know how it feels to want a boyfriend, I wouldnt get into that now. all the guys that ive had just end up getting me more stressed. Im pretty sure they dont think youre ugly, there just not the right guys for you. So stop worrying!!! enjoy seventh grade. Im sure there is someone out there that will love absolutely everything about you. And your not in a race with anyone else. Just be yourself.
Peace.
Ace
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Q: I've wanted to get laser eye surgery since I first heard about it. I have pretty bad eyesight, but I didn't get contacts until I was a teenager. Every day I think about how amazing it was not to have to deal with contacts. I can look up information about the procedure and the risks and stuff myself, so what I'm looking for here is information from people that have been through it. What was it like? How much did it help? Tell me all about your experience (or the experience of someone close to you) and whether you think I'm making the right decision. Thanks already.
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Well i cant help you mutch but im 13 and my mom had it. She said it is totally painless, but kinda scary. She is SOO glad she had the surgery though. Personally I cant wait to get it for myself. I cant wait to get rid of contacts!!
GOOD LUCK!!
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Q: Okay, I know that just about everyone on this site (or atleast the girls) has at one point thought about what to name their kids one day, so I need your help. I need boy & girl name suggestions middle names would be helpful too. Thankyou guyss I appreciate it.
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This is what Im going to name my sons after people in my family, some people dont like it but i do.
Gabriel
Isaac
Ivan
Asher
Aaron
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Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's a wonderful guy and to me he's the type of guys girls look for not him as a person but his qualities like he's kind, sweet, generous, will leave his friends just to be with me, and different things well i really do love him and he wants us to get married but my dad hates him but he will not tell me why and my boyfriend has no secrets from me or lies to me but my dads always brining up things like "i know he's a liar and a cheater but im not going to tell you what it is i know" what should i do to make my dad like him please help me i don't know what to do?
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Well I would sit down with your dad and try and tell him calmly and fairly that if he told you what he knew it would be alot easier for you to understand why your father does not like your bf. Tell him how you feel about your bf and that it is not just a crush or whatever, this is a real relationship.
But you are in a hard situation right now. Good luck!
ACE
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Q: okay so i ran in a track meet yesterday and i fell doing my hurdles. i had to be carried off the field and now my knee kills and i am in serious pain. i cant even walk.. the trainer said that i should just keep ice on it for 48 hours. that pretty much means i cant do ANYTHING this whole weekend. so does anyone have any ideas of what i can do at home sitting so i dont get so bored? thanks guys.
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Lets see... You could always read, watch t.v., talk with friends on the phone, go on the computer, listen to music, and you could get ahead on studying. Cant think of much else.
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Q: my boyfriend proposed to me last week... and i want to say yes ... but something doesnt seem right...
Like there are times when if we dissagree on a subject he will yell and scream ... even if he's completley wrong ...
Hes alaways accusing me of being unfaithful... and I never would do anything like that ...
if i don't want to have sex somehow he always guilts me into it ...
and he's even hit me a few times ...
I just want to know how i can bring these up to him without making him angry ... because i do love him ... im just sligltly bothered by these things ...
Katie
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Well, this isnt too good...
First, a real man should be able to listen to a woman when HE asks her to marry HIM. But, If you really want to work it out, you could talk to him. Make sure its in a public place, but where you can talk privately. Like a coffee shop, for instance. All unless you dont feel threatened of being hit by this guy. Which brings me to my second point...
Is a guy that hits you and yells at you worth it? And by the way hun... youre seventeen. You got like practically youre whole life ahead of you. And I dont want a perfectly sweet person like you to waste part of your life if this guy isnt worth it. This is just MY advice and please please dont take it personally. But im tryin to help you get the facts straight here. Hope I helped.
Ace
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Q: well i have asked a question on how i can be more outgoing cause its affecting my ability to be able to make friends. well i try to be interesting but no one seems to like me. like i see people in the halls at school saying "want to come over my house" or "Want to go bike riding" no one ever asks me that, is it because i'm boring? what can i do to make people want me as their friend? and how can i keep friend? i am really desperate for help. :( i have like one kind of best friend and she never even asks me to do stuff! she doesnt even invite me to her parties! and please dont say "why dont you ask THEM"
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Well, I used to be the EXACT same way. Its just because Im shy. I dont know if you are or not, but one thing that helps for me is to just talk. I talk as much as I can. Ive learned that when you don't talk, dont take this personally, people tend to say "well, does she not like me or something?" And I know you dont. You sound like a perfectly sweet person. And dont worry about sounding weird. In three years when you have a big group of best friends by your side, they wont remember the embarrasing things. They will remember how nice and cool you are. Hope I helped!!
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