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Hey guys :)My name is Megan, I'm 22 years old, and I live in Brownwood, Texas! I am engaged to a wonderful man who just takes my breath away. ;) I'm an EKG Tech and I LOVE my job. I had a column here YEARS ago, but simply cannot remember the log in :)
I really enjoy inspiring others and provoking change. I find solace in providing others with a happier disposition. A single word of praise or a simple well-wish can seriously change how people see themselves. I love it!
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TuscanSun,
Thanks for the advise. I still can't get my head around what has happenned. My wife has told me that she prefers to be at home with the kids and she feels anxious when I am the house. She is focused on the kids
DO you believe she could feel this way for 3 years, yet in these 3 years the we have had great times together. She explained that she still wants me around for the kids. But how can I live in the same house when I know my wife is no longer in love with me. She said that she still loves me and that she still accepts me as her friend. That is a very hard thing to do. The only thing I can think of is to accept this offer and try and get the spark back somehow. I believe her bad thoughts are overporewing her good thoughts at the moment. I need to try and get those good thoughts back into her. I believe she could have some type of postnatel depression that has gone on for a long time. Our last child was born 1 year ago. It seems she is focused on our daughter more than her husband. The worst thing is I was at work when she told me over the phone. When I work I could be away for 6 weeks at a time. But I will also be home for 6 weeks for vacation.
I have 12 more day before I finish work and head back home to face the music. It was hard that she told me over the phone and not face to face. This has now affected the way I work as I feel hopeless that i can't anything while at work
I think your suggestion is good. Respect her wishes - for now. If she isn't being ugly by telling you to leave, then something HAS to be there. Your best bet is to let her have her space - let her come to you if she wants to hug/kiss/etc. By all means be affectionate if it feels appropriate in the given situation, but don't get clingy because it'll only push her away more. While you're going through this 'period', show her what a great man you are and what she's going to miss if she truly wants to split up for good. Show her how great of a father you are. Divert your depression over this situation, and use the energy to dote on your children. There is nothing a woman loves more than to see their husband dote on their children and be a good father. Something as simple as that can really ignite another spark. Be extra kind, extra caring, extra understanding. Maybe she just needs space, and maybe she truly doesn't want to split up. All you can do now is wait. Go home, gauge how things are going, and act from there. I really hope everything will be great for you!
About a month ago I bought a 5 month old large female brown hooded rat. We hit it off nicely, she's very spunky and gentle and smart. Since then she's learned her name which is Tetra, she comes to me when called and learned to walk across a tightrope along with playing dead. For the last 9 days she's been very restless and constantly chewing at the wires of her cage. When I walk in the room she springs up and clings to the wires squeaking. It's cute but has gotten rather annoying since she does it for long periods of time until I take her out and or give her a snack. She stares at me constantly when ever I walk in the room. I recently got a new job so I leave at 6 am and get back around 5 or 6 depends on traffic. I am very worried about it. I take her out for bout an hour when I get home, it's just me living alone with her and my two cats and a dog. So could it be she's lonesome? She always has fresh water and food and I treat her once in awhile, more recently this past week. What can I do now that I've started this job. Her cage is quite big 30" x 18" x 36", I don't want to get another rat since she doesn't get along with others. She nearly killed my best mate's rat. Any help much appreciated.
She is probably lonely and bored.
Does she have a wheel to run in? Rats love that. I have two, and they loveeee their wheel. Put things in there to divert her. Try playing music for her when you leave, or put on the TV. Sounds weird, but it might distract her enough from missing you.
My best friend and I use to spend almost everyday together. We are both females & 26. I have a 1 year old daughter and my best friend is/was a significant part of her life as well. Her boyfriend just quit his job because he is moving 6 hours away. He's not positive when he's moving but possibly in 2 months. Now that he has quit his job they spend every night and day together. The only time I see her is if her BF has something else to do. This really hurts my feelings and I'm feeling taken advantage of. She came to my house last night,for the 1st time in 3weeks (her BF was at one of his friends house). She couldn't get here until 12:30am but we planned on watching one of our favorite shows and even though I had to get up at 6am w/ my baby I so badly wanted to spend time w/ my friend. Well we didn't even get to watch our show because a half hour after she got here her BF called and said he wanted to go get something to eat and so she left. I'm not the kind of girl that gets jealous of my best friends relationship w/ her bf. It just drives me nuts because I could never imagine treating a friend like that and then expecting that friend to be there for me 100% when my BF moves away. Its even more hurtful because I have a one year old daughter that she use to see everyday and now hasn't seen her in over a month. My friend always says "I feel so bad that I haven't seen you guys but he's moving so I want to spend as much time with him as possible". I feel like my friendship is being taken for granted. Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of?
I can understand both sides.
On yours, you feel abandoned. On hers, she is GOING to feel abandoned.
When it comes to a romantic relationship, people really cling to that. She clearly really loves her boyfriend and I can understand her wanting to spend as much time with him as she possibly can before he moves, though I do think it's unfair for her to be your friend only when it's convenient for her.
Best solution is just talk to her. Don't guilt her, just simply state how you're feeling. Try to be as understanding about her situation as you'd expect her to be about yours.
Hopefully y'all can patch things up! :)
My name is Joy from Nigeria.I am 20yrs old and still a virgin.two days ago,i slept with my boyfriend but he didn't disvirgin me wen he released.Pls im scared if i will get pregnant
By "he didn't disvirgin me", do you mean when he penetrated you, he didn't break the hymen? If he didn't break the hymen, it's super rare to get pregnant.
If you're worried about pregnancy - PROTECT YOURSELF! Use condoms AND birth control, or don't have sex until you're ready to reproduce!
I hope it works out for you!
My name is Ray 40 years old
We have been married 8 years and all of a sudden my wife told me she has fallen out of love with me. This was a big bombshell dropped on me. I am still deeply in love wife her.
She told me she started feeling this was about 3 years ago and she now has just told me.
I did not see this coming as I thought everthing was okay.
Is it possible for her to fall in love with me again?
We have had 3 kids. I believe her feelings started to change after our second child passed away at birth.
I have read many similar storeis and that it is possible to win her back.
Is it a common thing for a partner to fall out of love during a marriage? Is it a phase?
You go through good and bad times. Is this a bad time for her.
I am so shattered at the moment.
What do I do
The death of your child could absolutely be attributed to the spark going out in your marriage. You have three options:
1 - Seek professional help. Sometimes if helps to talk in front of an unbiased person, and get all of your 'issues' out in the open so there are no secrets, nothing building up inside. She may resent you for the death of the child, even though you didn't do anything wrong. The mind works in crazy ways.
2 - Have a heart to heart with her. Let her know how much you love her, and how much of a shock this is to you. Tell her that in pains you to hear this, but you wish for her to be happy ultimately. Suggest some time apart, some time for her to collect her thoughts. Maybe all she needs is to see what she is missing to truly appreciate it. That works a lot, actually.
3 - Separation. Tell her that you want to do anything you can to make it work, and anything to bring the spark back. Ask her what she wants - if she wants a divorce, offer a trial separation in stead.
I truly wish you the best of luck, sir. You story really touched my heart - I hope it all works out for the advantage of all involved.
I 14 and about to turn 15 in a few months.My boyfriend comes over alot, and him and my mom have talk and alll that. But whenever he comes over we have to sit in the living room. But some times i want us to a little privacy.I havent said antthing to my mom about. Do you think we should be able to have privacy?
At your age, no. I don't think you should have privacy. These days, girls are starting to have sex younger and younger and even though you haven't said anything about sex, that's mainly the reason why a girl and boy want to have 'alone time'. You're too young. Spend time getting to know your guy! If you want a little privacy, try talking a walk together or hang out in your back yard and talk privately.
There's this guy I met about a month ago at summer band camp. We started hanging out and he constantly flirts with me. I thought he might like me, but I found out that he acts like that with every other girl he knows. He got my number from somebody and started texting me. Earlier, he asked me if I like him. I don't know what to do. I kinda do like him, but sometimes I don't feel like he is serious enough for me to consider anything. I'm also afraid to answer because its questions like that have ruined previous friendships of mine with other guys. Plus, I don't even know if he does like me or just asked because he thinks that I like him. What should I do?
If you "don't know" if you like him, then you don't like him.
Just tell him you don't know him well enough to have gathered feelings like that for him, and maybe you both could get to know each other better.
If he behaves this way with every girl, he might either be A) a player, or B) just really friendly.
If you're interested, get to know him!
I need your opinion on how much I should charge the school I am teaching (as a part time faculty) because I made a module for this subject (Personality Development) that is 36 hours. The school is run by a foundation. I researched the topics to include, I made the module (like hand outs), I made the activities per topic, I made a power point presentation per topic, and everytime that they will offer the subject, they now have a module for every student. I just dont know how much should they pay me for that service. I want it to be reasonalbe for both. Thanks!!
BTW I will be teaching the subject too, but then, anyone can teach it now since I have made the module already. easy!
This is hard question to ask for - what do you usually charge? How much experience to you have? How old are you?
All of those questions can help determine a fair expectation of pay deserved.
Im 16f and I'm not shy around people I know but others I just seem to forget how to talk I want to have the courage to new guys and I want to not be afraid to septal in front of s class and no be completely freaked out. I want the guys to chase me as in like texting me first but how please I'm sick of being unconfident in myself
Guys LOVE self confidence in a woman. If you carry yourself with a happy disposition, guys will literally flock to you. Guys don't want baggage or drama. I know it's easier said than done, but take some time to figure yourself out. If you can't love yourself, you can't expect someone else to.
Try looking in the mirror every day, and say something nice about yourself. (I have really pretty eyes or my hair looks great today!) I know it sounds lame, but little things like that really help boost self confidence.
Helping others also boosts self confidence. For example, today I donated $10 to our local fire department. It doesn't sound like much, but I felt AWESOME the whole rest of the day.
As for the texting thing - Hmmmm. If a guy asks for your number, give it to him. If he gives you his, don't text him immediately. By giving you his number, he is interested in some way. Shoot him a text a couple of days later and ask a generic question like "Hey, have you seen suchandsuch movie? I'm going to see it tonight with some friends and I wanted to know if it was worth it."
Good luck!
I go to this school with a guy (let's call him justin) so, we dated once for about 2 months and he dumped me. It is now a few months later and I have the same feelings for him again. I asked my friends boyfriend to ask him out for me... he said ok and asked him.... he said no...of course....so, I went and stood by a flight of stairs...and her and her boyfriend followed me to comfort me. A few minutes later he came over and sat behind where I was standing. He kept looking t my butt... but didn't say anything. After that, it has been a few more days, so I asked my friend to ask him if he likes me.... he said he didn't, and she asked him why..and all he said was idk, I just dont..... how can I get him to like me??? I think I'm obsessed with him cuz I can't get him out of my head.... its really creepy... OH!! And then there is this other guy that i like, we talk all the time and we seem to get along really well. But when i talk to him he always acts nervous. I have no idea why.. and yea, he does have a gf, but they keep breaking up and then getting back together..I like him too... so how can i get either guy to like me?? And how will i know if they do? Please put your answers like this.... Guy 1:
Guy 2: and after each "guy' can you put the explanation..... Thanks!!!!!!!
First of all, you cannot force anyone to like you. Seriously, you can't. If they don't like you, they don't like you. Don't take this the wrong way, but having someone else "ask out" a guy you like for you seems really childish and awkward.
If he's not interested, he's not interested. Appearing desperate and continually asking if he likes you (through other people, no less) is going to push him away more. My suggestion is to back off. If he wants to date you, let him come to you. I'm sure you're an awesome girl, so no need to be desperate! I'm sure tons of guys want to date you. Like I said, let them come to you! It'll happen, trust me.
No guy wants to be asked out. They like to play the "man role" and do the asking out. It's not wrong at all to encourage a guy (flirt) to let him know you're interested, but don't push it!
Good luck!
This is really embarrassing and I'm not ready to talk to my Doctor about it, I am just hoping one of you on this site maybe has the same issue and/or can give me some idea as to what is going on.. Google didn't help either, or maybe I wasn't searching right.
So, this has happened for a while now. After I have bowel movement, I wash my rear end, just to keep things clean and I wipe dry too. I know moisture in that area creates bacteria etc.
The things is, for some reason, feces seem to leak from my anus. This is what I think. Because I can feel the moisture there and when I go to the toilet and wipe down there, there is some fecal matter. This never used to happen, until recently.
Please help. It is kind of freaking me out.
Oh by the way, I am not sexually active, no anal sex or anything.
19/f
Is there also some clear, slightly thick mucus associated with the fecal matter? If so, this happens to me sometimes! I'm not sure if there is anything "wrong" with you, though. Do you stress really hard when you use the restroom? I do, and I'm thinking that may be the cause - also, do you take a lot of baths? Sometimes bathing can cause excess fluid to enter your anus, become trapped, and will leak out when you exert yourself in any way (running, etc). Either way, I wouldn't worry too much about it, unless it happens A LOT (several times a day) and the amount that is being excreted is excessive.
how can i run for longer periods of time and faster?
Pace yourself. I do this awesome program that worked well for me.
The first week, I would stretch for 5 minutes before doing anything else. Then I would walk for 5 minutes, jog for 3 minutes, walk for 5 minutes, jog for 3 minutes - etc. Always end the final jog with a stretch.
The second week is the same, but the jog is increased to 5 minutes.
The third week is the same, but the jog becomes a full on run, and is increased to 7 minutes.
Each week, increase the run by 2 minutes. You should do this 3-5 times a week. If you start out slow, your muscles will become stronger and you can run harder/faster/longer in about 2-3 months. It works! I did this when I was training for the Marines.
I used to be so happy...what can I do for immediate relief? No drugs or booze...
What has happened that made you feel so down? Do you have any friends you can vent to? I'm so happy you don't want to turn to drugs or alcohol - those things will only make the situation more complicated, and likely will depress you more. Do you need someone to talk to? I'm here! :) Sometimes a friendly conversation, as simple as it sounds, can make a world of difference.
I have a really close friend who I've known for two years. Shes like a sister to me. I'm involved in a lot of the same activities as her, and we have a ton in common. Shes adorable, one of the funniest people I know, and just generally seems to be happily enjoying life.
About a year ago, she started cutting herself. I didn't know about it till she started cutting her legs. I confronted her about it one night and she broke down and told me. She thinks the world is so horrible and corrupt and that life has no meaning, and that shes an awful, disgusting person who would be better off dead.
Her cuts are riduculously bad. She doesn't just cut her wrists. She has huge cuts on her legs (giant scabs)and long cuts around her thighs. She also carved die into her thigh. She has 25 or so cuts on her stomach. Her wrists are cut to the point where they're starting to look like big scabs. She has big scabs on her hands from cutting pieces of skin off. She has huge slits on both of her shoulders too. She uses this gigantic butcher knife.
Her parents found out, along with her band instructor and pretty much everyone shes friends with. Her parents haven't done a thing about it all except sit there and cry about it. Shes starting to talk to me about suicide. I've been trying to convince her to not do it, but I don't think I'm gettting anywhere.
She needs some sort of other help, and fast. I don't wanna see this beautiful, talented girl who I love more than my own siblings end it.
What do I do?
If you've tried talking to her and nothing culminates from it, you NEED to get authorities involved. I know it sounds so severe, but you need to contact Social Services (CPS). If her parents aren't doing anything proactive to help her, YOU need to. Social Services will get involved, and will make positive steps to help rectify the situation. Like I said, it sounds completely severe - but it could save her life. If it was me, I'd rather my friend be angry with me and alive, then happy with me and dead.