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Hard to accept
TuscanSun,
Thanks for the advise. I still can't get my head around what has happenned. My wife has told me that she prefers to be at home with the kids and she feels anxious when I am the house. She is focused on the kids
DO you believe she could feel this way for 3 years, yet in these 3 years the we have had great times together. She explained that she still wants me around for the kids. But how can I live in the same house when I know my wife is no longer in love with me. She said that she still loves me and that she still accepts me as her friend. That is a very hard thing to do. The only thing I can think of is to accept this offer and try and get the spark back somehow. I believe her bad thoughts are overporewing her good thoughts at the moment. I need to try and get those good thoughts back into her. I believe she could have some type of postnatel depression that has gone on for a long time. Our last child was born 1 year ago. It seems she is focused on our daughter more than her husband. The worst thing is I was at work when she told me over the phone. When I work I could be away for 6 weeks at a time. But I will also be home for 6 weeks for vacation.
I have 12 more day before I finish work and head back home to face the music. It was hard that she told me over the phone and not face to face. This has now affected the way I work as I feel hopeless that i can't anything while at work
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I think your suggestion is good. Respect her wishes - for now. If she isn't being ugly by telling you to leave, then something HAS to be there. Your best bet is to let her have her space - let her come to you if she wants to hug/kiss/etc. By all means be affectionate if it feels appropriate in the given situation, but don't get clingy because it'll only push her away more. While you're going through this 'period', show her what a great man you are and what she's going to miss if she truly wants to split up for good. Show her how great of a father you are. Divert your depression over this situation, and use the energy to dote on your children. There is nothing a woman loves more than to see their husband dote on their children and be a good father. Something as simple as that can really ignite another spark. Be extra kind, extra caring, extra understanding. Maybe she just needs space, and maybe she truly doesn't want to split up. All you can do now is wait. Go home, gauge how things are going, and act from there. I really hope everything will be great for you!
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