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Q: I'm a 13/f and I have 2 very good friends. They both like the same guy. This one guy happens to be one of my very good friends and we talk on AIM all the time. I always saw him as just a friend but now I'm starting to really like him and people keep telling me that he likes me. I want to be honest with my friends but they like him and they want him to like them. What should I do?

i think that you shouldnt tell them unless you rlly start crushing and it gets serious... or u slip.

**_nicole_**

Q: I really wanna get a cell phone for christmas but i dunno if my parents will get me one...what are some ways to get them to buy me one? and what type are the best and has a great deal and aren't expensive?

try a tracphone! they are pretty good, you can get one anywhere, adn then you can get minutes whenever you need, not monthly or anything.

**_Nicole_**

Q: How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".

I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?

Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.

Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.

So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.

what do you think?

when ur married. no honestly, you never have to give up. i know someone who got married at 77. u r never to old to have a gf.

**_Nicole_**

Q: What are some ways to make money? Im only 14. And I have 2 ways so far, baby sitting and team read. You get paid for reading to elementary kids. What are some jobs for 15 year olds though? ( Im tunring 15 in 2 months ) thanks.

Alway check the stores like Albertson for jobs like bagging. try to ask around, and check the news papers for openings. hope you find a job!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: 1. I want to go to a tanning bed, BUT, i heard it causes skin cancer, Does it really? Alos, I want to get a tan and I know its fall/winter almost. Would it look stupid? And how much do they usually cost? And do you have to be skinny to go to one?

Yes, you can get cancer! but, it is only if you go too frequently. You should also ALWAYS check into the background of the tanning place and the reliability of it.

**_Nicole_**

Q: Hey me and my friend/new coworker are starting a painting business and i was wondering if anyone had any good ideas on how we could get our name out there and start getting business...We have already made flyers and business cards! Thanks !

you should put an add in the news paper!! it always works out.

**_Nicole_**

Q: I really like my brother's friend, Seth. Everyone says he likes me too, but sometimes he can be rude in front of me. I don't know if guys do that asa flirting sign or what. I mean we are perfect for each other, we are both christians and we are waiting to have sex until we're married. How perfect would that be to be together for the first time when we're married. I just like him so much and I need help getting him to notice me and I need to know signs that guys give for hints that they like me. Please help!

i thinl that he likes you, but he might get a little presured by his brother, then when he sees you he blows up. But if you really want to get with him, you should really talk to him, feel him out, see how he feels about you.

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok, well, i was babysitting the other night for these people and they were each going off to do their own thing. well, the mom left first, and the dad was supposedly leaving pretty quickly after, but instead he hung around for awhile. i was like, ok, um..why am i here if youre gonna sit around? well, i soon found out. he wasnt going anywhere. he put his kids in thier bedroom while i was cleaning something up, and he came up behind me and started grabbing me. he told me that if i yelled, hed kill me. well, i punched him where the sun dont shine and he let me go, but im sure that if i hadnt got away, he would have attacked me. but now i dont know what to do. he didnt rape me or anything, so should i really tell someone about it? all he did was grab me. they cant put you in jail for that, can they? im just wondering what i need to do about him....im supposed to go babysit again next week, and i cant exactly tell her why i dont wanna do it..so...HELP PLEASE

YES!! omigoodness, you HAVE to go to the police or something- you just can tstandbye and not do anything. even hough he didnt rape you, he did try and he did threaten you and he did grab at you. You need to file a report!! If you have anymore question, you can email me at alissag4@excite.com

**_Nicole_**

Q: Okay, this may sound kind of stupid but I really hate it... I live in LA. My parents are both in the entertainment business. All my life I've been surrounded by 'the spotlight' (but never actually in it). I've gone to so many stupid premiers and met so many celebrities (which are just normal people anyways...nothing special about them). But I've been thrown into this whole thing. My whole life constantly been thrown on plains, been stranded and bored outta my mind on movie sets, been around people I have nothing in common with (mainly 'celebs' that I have nothing in common with). I make plans with my friends and my parents are like "um, no we have a wrap party" or "a premier" to go to". And I like have no way out. People think that doing this kind of stuff is so cool, but really it blows. My parents MAKE me do this stuff and I can never do anything on my own. I've been sheltered all my life by busy, overprotective parents. How do I tell them that I don't want to be apart of this anymore and I want to be able to make plans with my friends and be able to do stuff with them when I want to?

forget what tommo said. you should try to reason with your parents. you relaize that going to the parties and all that stuff are good, and say that you are greatfull, but you need time to heng out wuth your friends. point out that they are being totally demandinig on you and you need some personal time. you are always going to the parties with them because you know its important to them, but you wanna make sure they know that you are a kid and you need to hang out with people your age that you have stuff in common with. A girls gotta live!

**_Nicole_**

Q: ok i am 13 and i am a female.i have this friend thats a guy and i like him...the problem is his cousin is my best friend. Well he has lived with me before (because he met me thro my bestfriend and needed a place to live) first reason i am confused or whatever is becuz my best friend would make fun of me most likely if i say i like him. also if i go out with him (he probably doesnt like me but yeah..) he or my best friend would tell their family and since their family is super close to mine then my sister and parents would find out and i dont really want them to know they would make fun of me. in art i am in his class and last week we would stare at each other for a minute then quickly look away a couple of time hehe and out of no where sometimes he tells people that he lived with me. sorry that was so long and confusing but try to give me the best advice u have

if he does like you, then you should give him a chance. dont sweat what your parents and friends think. if you really like this guy, then no matter what they say, you guys like each other, and that is what counts in the end.

**_Nicole_**

Q: latley my friend is really bugging me i mean all she does is talk about her other friends and i noticed she is different around them. she makes me feel as if i am stuiped it bugs me i dont want to talk to her becausee she will give me an atitude what should i do.

you have to be honest with her- if you are gonna be two faced, then i cant hang out with you. dont let her get confused, just make sure that she realizes that she is hurting your feelings. If push comed to shove, ignore her and get new friends if things dont get worked out.

**_Nicole_**

Q: My friend Alyssa is so cool and funny, and at a party she didn't go to the gurl called her and asked why she wasn't there, she said the she was grouned (a lie she doens't really like the gurl) so the gurl was like, you hate me don't you, so now she keeps saying how she doesn't have friends when everyone is alyssa's friend! So my other friend is having a party that alyssa is invited to and everyone is like, you really hate her, right? NO! what should i say to these ppl, and alyssa?

first of all, you should ask all her friends why they are all up in your business? they arent that girl! tell all the ppl who ask you that even though shes not your best friend, you have nothing against her. u guys are probably pretty tight, so dont let them get to you. if they keep asking you, then tell them that you told them your answer a hundred times and that yo urefuse to reiterate it. that should get it through. and when your talking to alyssa, tell her that you guys are good friends, and no one should have a say on your guys' friendship.

**_Nicole_**

Q: There's this guy who I recently developed hard feelings for. And just this past weekend, we we flirting extremely hard with one another and I just don't know if he likes me or not. Certain comments he would say to me and certain actions he'd do made me think that there was a possibility he was crushing back. The only problem is, I have a friend who likes him a lot and they are going to a dance together. The confusing part is all the flirting he and I did happend after he said yes to the girl for the dance. What should I do? He's been on my mind heavily.

talk to him. dont get angry, dont et mad, dont over react. talk to him and then go from there. hih!

**_Nicole_**

Q: here goes. i met this boy over summer and we became best friends since we couldnt date since i had a boy. when me and my boy broke up i ended up leaving and going back to my hometown. the guy i met from summer(his names kevin) called me a few times and mentioned a girl once and he said she liked him and they might go out. the thing is i really like him alot but before i left i couldnt even kiss him when he wanted me to because i didnt want to fall in love with him. i came back last night and i went out with him tonight. he said he had a g/f and then the next thing i know he was talking about spending the night when my moms gone and having some fun and he said he only told me he had a girl to make me jealous. i really like him alot but i dont know if im ready to go that far with him. what do i do? someone please help me out.

you need to talk to him first. if all he wants is sex, then you shouldnt go out with him. you have to go out with a guy who is your speed, not someone who always has his hands in your pants. if he cant do that, then your not meant to be.

Q: im 18/m. I had a gay realtionship about a year ago, and it went on for about 6 months. Im now tired of guys and im with my girlfriend. I really should tell her that i was with this guy, she has no idea that i was. She even knows the guy. How can i tell her w/o her finding out who it was, and will she leave me if she finds out?

you can tworry about if she finds out. bcos in a relationship, you both have to be understanding. if she leaves you becos of a little phase you went through, maybe you guys shouldnt have been together in the first place.

Q: Ok, well there is this guy that I kind of like, and he is a year older than me (he's a sophmore, i'm a freshman) and mii sister is a sophmore, and she was talking to him and asked him if there was any freshmans that he would go to homecoming with, and he said my best friend and me were the only two. Does that mean he likes me, or just knows me really good (we are neighbors, and it is all sophmores and freshman around our block) And should ii just wait and see what happens, or just forget about it..? Thanks!

wait and see! and if you get to impatient, ask your sister to ask him if he'll ask you. if you like him, its best to get it over with now.

**_Nicole_**

Q: We have a version of American Idol going on at our school. Only 8 people can be chosen out of the many that have auditioned, and i was one of them. One of my friends, who has an incredible voice, was also chosen, but she came in last place to compete..and she tied with someone else. The only way she could compete was if she sang with someone else as a duet or the other girl dropped out. The head of the competition told my friend this, and they both asked me to sing with her, but they didn't give me any time to think about it so i just said yes,but i sort of regret it because i had my songs already planned out and last year i was in it and got a great reputation as "that girl who can sing and dance" which i like a lot, and i'm afraid that if i sing with her, that might change, or we might not do as well as i would have hoped for...when i sing by myself, i get all eyes on me and i love to own the stage, and no i'm not self-absorbed, its just that i'd rather sing by myself. I couldn't say no because that would just be letting my friend down, but i really wish that i could sing by myself instead of a duet..i'm not sure what to do..please help. Thanx!

I think that you should try to ruff it out with your friend. Fame is temporary, friends last forever. And, if you work super hard to get her boosted up, then the next week when you guys are picked, then you show off her talent. You should boost your friend up now, and that will give you big points with the judge. lol ^_^ i hope things work out foor you!!

**_Nicole_**

Q: i like this boy that goes to my school but one of my went out with him but she is just now tellin me..... i think it is because he is always nice to me and stuff like that but ever time i say something about him she is always like that was my ex-boo and i be gettin mad because i think that she don't want me to go out with him what should i do...............someone please help me..

she might get a little jelous, but she cant keep you from dating him. That is totally unfair. Plus, you know she would do the same thing if she liked your ex. I say go for it.

**_Nicole_**

Q: OKAY will people plllleaase stop asking weight loss questions? i mean if god wanted you to be skinny youd be skinny right? and i hate to see/hear people saying they are anorexic or belimuc ( spelling ? ) because you dont need to diet if you can get out of a chair and breathe! ^ NOT TO BE RUDE :) HAVE A GREAT DAY!

i said that u spelled it wrong, dont crap bc i spelled it. sheesh

Q: When i burn my music to a CD-RW, my computer closes the cd, there for making it a cd-r. how can i stop it from closing the cd?

usually it gives you the option to close it. If it doesnt, then you may have a problem. But it is better if you close it- you can play it on more stuff. Why wouldnt you want to?

**_Nicole_**

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Hi. Im Nicole. Im here to help, so ask me a question and i'll answer it in all honesty. Im not gonna try to belittle you are anything, because that is totally uncool. If you dont like my advice, then dont even rate. I love to hang out and do a lot of shopping, as the average girl does. I live in florida, and it is kinda hard now that it is the year of the hurricane.. but im not here to complain. Im here to help you, your friend, and whoever wants it. Power to ppl who need help!! (haha, that didnt come out exactly right...) If your question is incredibly stupid, i will delete it. Ask away!