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I love to sing


Question Posted Friday October 8 2004, 7:09 pm

We have a version of American Idol going on at our school. Only 8 people can be chosen out of the many that have auditioned, and i was one of them. One of my friends, who has an incredible voice, was also chosen, but she came in last place to compete..and she tied with someone else. The only way she could compete was if she sang with someone else as a duet or the other girl dropped out. The head of the competition told my friend this, and they both asked me to sing with her, but they didn't give me any time to think about it so i just said yes,but i sort of regret it because i had my songs already planned out and last year i was in it and got a great reputation as "that girl who can sing and dance" which i like a lot, and i'm afraid that if i sing with her, that might change, or we might not do as well as i would have hoped for...when i sing by myself, i get all eyes on me and i love to own the stage, and no i'm not self-absorbed, its just that i'd rather sing by myself. I couldn't say no because that would just be letting my friend down, but i really wish that i could sing by myself instead of a duet..i'm not sure what to do..please help. Thanx!

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kris567 answered Friday October 8 2004, 9:43 pm:
just try and tell your friend how u feel. i think if shes really a true friend she will understand


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YaYaSis answered Friday October 8 2004, 9:24 pm:
Unfortunately you have already agreed to do this and you can't back out now. Next year don't agree so fast and ask if you can have time to think about it. Meanwhile you and your friend need to get together and practice until you have everything down to where you want it to be. Even in a duet you can shine. Through the ages of music some of the best groups have not been soloists. Make it fun and find a song that suits both of your voices. Remember that this means just as much to your friend as it does to you and no matter what happens in life your time in the stage light is minimal compared to your time with your firends. When age shows and our voices fade our true friends are still there.

Just find something that will work for the both of you and shine together. Good luck... :)

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Whitney answered Friday October 8 2004, 8:23 pm:
i think that you should definetly ask whoever is the head of this whole show that you do not want to do this anymore, i mean you are probably a really good singer and could go really far, you are obviously a solo artist so no one should be taking away pieces of your fame, even a friend, if you friend is a friend then she will understand that your decision isnt personal and has nothing to do with her, you jus want to have and be known as having a solo career.

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TrUtH_hUrTs_1 answered Friday October 8 2004, 7:21 pm:
I think that you should try to ruff it out with your friend. Fame is temporary, friends last forever. And, if you work super hard to get her boosted up, then the next week when you guys are picked, then you show off her talent. You should boost your friend up now, and that will give you big points with the judge. lol ^_^ i hope things work out foor you!!

**_Nicole_**

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lorelei answered Friday October 8 2004, 7:16 pm:
I think it depends on which you think is better. Helping a friend, or maintaining a bit of high school (?) glory.

If you were to perform by yourself, sure you'd get all of the applause and adulation, but do you think people will remember that as something important?

In this case, it is my opinion that helping to preserve a friendship seems more important. This, of course, is still just my opinion. You simply need to decide which is most important to you. Your friendship or your performance.

♥ Lorelei

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