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Q: Okay here is my problem, I have a boyfriend and i was sorta upset... i shouldn't of done what i did..... i went down to my ex boyfriend's house and i was talking to him and then one thing led to another and we sorta kissed... okay we did kiss ALOT! I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am afriad if i don't tell him what happened that my ex will, so he could break me and him up! So should i tell him or not.... maybe i could get away with him not knowing and everything will be fine! But then again i am always thinking about it and it gets to me. Please help me Thanks alot.

Relationships are based a million percent on honesty. maybe you'll get away with him not knowing, but what about the next time you have something to hide from him. And think about it- don't you want your boyfriend to always tell you the truth? i would tell him- he'll probably get mad, but if you guys love each other like you say you do, a hookup with an ex can be gotten through. and i hate to be straight foward, and idk about you, but if i didn't tell my boyfriend, id feel pretty guilty the next time i kissed him.
i hope this makes sense...good luck and message me if u need anything else.

Q: i really like this one guy, the problem is he lives in mequon and i live in grafton, i figured out that he liked me last night and i love him so much, but he only wants to be friends w/ benifits bcuz a relationship wouldnt work out bcuz the distance..! i need help! *thanks*

It sounds like you reaally like this guy, and since you wrote in for help, it also sounds like you don't really wanna be friends with benefits. friends with benefits is a commitment all in itself- you have to be ok with the fact that he has the right to doing stuff with other girls. you either have to accept that, or call it quits with this guy- friends with benefits will only work if there are no emotions involved- and it sounds like for you, there are.

Q: I'm 15 and I haven't had a boyfriend, ever. I'm not like wierd or that ugly either. I'm pretty outgoing and have a lot of friends. But am I doing something wrong?!?!

You probably just haven't met someone that means enough to you to be boyfriend material. Thats absolutely 100% ok...your not rushing into things- it just means that when you finally do find the right guy, he'll have been worth the wait.

Q: Should i ask out a girl everyone hates in school?

If you like her, it doesn't matter who else does. don't let other people's opinions stop you from listening to your own. don't be like everyone else- make up your own mind about her. If shes someone you like...go for it : P

Q: This guy is new to one of my classes. He's extremely cute, funny, sweet, smart and just really outgoing. He's always asking to borrow my notes, and no one else's. He does anything to try to find a way to sit next to me, too. I can't even tell if our conversations are flirting or just normal chit chat. I'm starting to really like him, but I do have a boyfriend. I just can't help daydreaming about this boy. He's not like any other boy I've ever met and he seems to possibly, like me back. We've only been talking for a a week or so, and I'm just scared if I lead on I like him, he'll back away. Should I just flirt for now or try to be more forward about how I'm feeling?

don't do anything until you figure out what to do about your boyfriend. if you flirt with this guy and he goes for it, what will happen to your current relationship? decide if your willing to break up with your boyfriend over this guy, then write in about how to talk to this guy.

Q: HELP....my best friend is such a cornball. i love her more then life...but talking her is like eating corn on the cobb. actaully this isnt mucha of a problem..since i too am a cornball..please tell me how i can get her to see that eating corn with me is awsome

well, seeing as my best friend believes to be albert einstein...oh wait...that was me. the one thing i can tell you is that emc squared equals nine, and corn on the cob should always be eaten with a side of mashed potatoes. your best friend does think that eating corn with you is awesome and she loves you...she said to me.
i hope this helps
love albert

Q: dear advicenators i have a friend who cuts herself i havent known her for a long time bcz i just moved here but she does it and she cant stop !!! i would like some advice on how to help her stop ...

thanx

You must already be a good friend to have written in here to try and help her. Keep being the best friend you can be, make sure she knows that you love her and will do anything to help her. *Have her wear a rubber band around her wrist...when she feels like cutting, have her snap against her wrist instead.

Q: Hey, i'm a 15 year old girl turning 16 n a few months. I'v never had confidence in myself and to be conpletely honest i kinda hate myself. I think im fat and ugly and i try to lose weight but nothings good enough.I'v never had a boyfriend in my life let alone had a guy tell me im pretty. My friends are pretty and they always have guys asking them out but i juss feel stupid hangin with them sometimes, like i dont belong. For the past few years i have resorted to cuttig myself. I'v only done it 3 times but i dont wanna go to counscling or anything cuz my parents and every1 will think im crazy i dunno what to do can you help me?

im gonna be completely honest with you. nothing that i could say will make all these feelings magically disapear. every morning when you get up, and every night before you go to bed, tell yourself how beautiful and wonderful you are. ask your friends to remind you of the qualities that they fell in love with when u guys started being friends. tell yourself that cutting will only make you feel worse. keep talking- no one in their right mind would think you were crazy for needing to talk. if you ever need to talk, message me. keep telling yourself that you are absolutely awesome...and eventually you'll start to believe it.

Q: this girl iwas going out with... broke up with me the other day. theres rumors going arounf school that i cheated on her, but i didnt. and her cousin told her, then a bunch of her friends told her, and its not true.... today at school... i tryed talking to her... and she just started crying.... i love her and she dosnt beleave me that i didnt cheat on her.... is there any thing i can do to get her to beleave me? i have no idea what to do.... plz help me!!!

Have a talk with her best friend (cousin) and explain to her how everything was a rumour. Once you have her friends believing you, it'll be easier to convince her that it was all a lie. Then show up at her house with her favorite flowers. Tell her that she should know that you wouldn't do something that like, and that you would never ever hurt her. Make her feel loved, and make her remember all the trust she has in you. good luck

Q: I really need your help so please do not delete this.

Ok, I have been dancing for 8 years. I am known for dancing by friends, family, and neighbors. This year, I hate it! I dread it. I mean I whine to try and stay home. ONce I get there it isn't that bad, but I still hate it. Well, I costs my family ALOT of money so I can dance. They have to pay like 100 dollars a week practically. My mom thinks I should quit and she said I could, I mean I don't like dance so I am bascially wasting all our money. There are reasons why I wnat to stick with it, one of them being my friends there and I'm almost all the way down to my split, and you obviously know why I may quit. I am on the Field Hockey Team at school and love it. Please help me, should I quit? Would you quit? Thanks a million!

Sorry it was a bit long.

You know what? honestly, as much as we like to deny it, people change, our hearts and what our hearts want change. in this case, its a change of interest. if your really hating dance, stop and concentrate on field hockey for a little while. if you miss dance- its never too late to go back.

Q: hey y'all, i need some help figuring out what to get my best guy friend, he's awesome and i want to make sure to get him something just as awesome for christmas!

I had this problem last Christmas. first ask around- ask his friends, his brother maybe, your brother- any one whos a guy, and has some idea what this guys taste is. If that doesn't work, start dropping little hints when your with him.."what cds are into?" are there any new video games that have come out...blah blah blah. and in the end- trust your own best friend instinct. you and this guy aren't best friends for nothing : P

Q: HELP i really fancey my paper boy danny but ive liked him for ages but the problem is that im really shy and cant seem to speak to him i always stare at him and he looks back and smiles, once he even waved help me to get him please ill rate you.
roxie xxx

thats the worst thing about guys- ones that you like in that way always seem so unapproachable. my advice to you would be to start making small talk with him, and day by day, elevate your small talk into flirting. once you get comfterble just talking to him, flirting with him and acting like you like him won't be so hard.

Q: Well this girl who I'm good friends with has invited me to watch some DVDs have have pizza at her house tomorrow night. There will be some other people there who I know but I don't have much in common with them and we aren't great friends. I want to go but I don't want to be left out of the conversation. What should I do?

Well- you should deffinitly go. If you're good friends with the girl whos house it is, and these are some of her friends, they must be cool people. You'll be able to meet new people, maybe there will even be a cute guy there who you'll click with : p...as for your ex boyfriend, i completely understand the situation- my ex boyfriend and i didn't talk for 3 months and were really uncomfterble around each other...that is until we stopped avoiding each other, and started hanging out again. its bad the first couple of times, but once you both stop being mad at each other and start remember why u liked each other in the first place, everything will be good again. i hope this helps, and if you decide to go..have fun! : )

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Hey...im risa, known to some as Reeses : )
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