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Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.
Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate. (link)
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Dear Sister frustration,
Sometimes we don't like out siblings because of the things they do. But remember that she loves you and will take up for you when the time is right. Try talking and telling her how you feel. If that doesn't work get a parent involved. Soemtimes a line of communication must be set to get something started. take the iniative.
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I can't work. Yes, you heard me.
School work. I have a hella load of it to do, and I just can't motivate myself to do it. I get out the paper and the pens and the work and I look at it, form the answers in my head, but then just can't seem to write it down.
I want to work. I need to work. But I can't seem to do it. Also, I'm stressed to hell.
Can I have some solutions for stress? But not "listen to relaxing music" and not "take a long hot bath" because music doesn't relax me, and I don't own a bath.
Also, please if you could give me some ways to motivate myself, in general, but to do school work mostly? Drinking water seems to help a little, but I need a lot of "get up and go" attitude right now. Merci. ^_^ (link)
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Dear brain freeze,
remember that even the most successful people in life had their road bumps. What kept them going was looking out for the main prize. Find your passion in what you want to do in life and realize that you have to overcome obstacles to get there. That way you'll have your own story to tell.
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Hi, this will be a long question, so only read if you're serious about tryin to help me. Ok, me and my girlfriend got together on October the 18th, and things went great from there. I was interested in her, and she was interested in me. To my knowledge, I never made her mad, and tried to cheer her up whenever she was down and always tried to make her smile. Recently, she was always busy with honor classes, basketball, and conformation class (a catholic after school class once a week to become an adult in the church). And so she told me that she couldn't do it to me to keep on with this relationship, she told me it wasnt fair to me, her being so busy and all. So she broke it off. I hung up the phone, started to feel down, and later during the night, she logged on AIM and said she needed to talk to me about some stuff. She told me, "I never said we wouldn't ever be together again, just not right now" I was optomistic, and suspicious at the same time. I talked to family about it and they said I should move on. Then the saturday after we broke up, me and some friends went bowling and while we were at the counter getting our bowling shoes, i turned around and saw her and her friend. I immediatley turned the other way, and when I looked back, they had gone to the bathroom. We bowled, and then we went to Wal-Mart. We saw her there with some of her girlfriends and I never approached her. Later that night she logged on and we started talkin and she told me that she was just hangin out with her girlfriends. Then I asked her, "When you told me you said we may get back together, were you trying to make me feel better?" and then she said "I meant what I said." I've talked to her on AIM on and off since then and she's acting like her old self again, sort of. I was talking to her friend and she said that we had a good thing going and made a good couple. I was talking to my friends about prom the other day and they think I should ask her to it. I am just having a hard time believing she still likes me as much as she used to. What would yall do in a situation like this?
Sorry for the long question, just had to get it off my chest. (link)
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First of all you have to ask yourself, "Is this the right girl for me?" That depends on you. Prom is a great event in your life and the best person to go with is with someone your going to have fun with. Before you decide to get back together with this girl you have to be sure that you are not going to keep getting the runaround. You have to make sure that she's not going to change her mind again. Then you'll know she's not playing games. Or maybe you should meet other people and see if there is someone out there who you think you can have fun with at the prom. If this girl you went out with is worth it then ask her, but if not look around and see who you think you would have the best time with. You never know because it could develop into something more.
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OK So this is the first time ive ever done this my friend showed me this website and i thought that it was pretty cool. Anyways there is this guy at my school totally hot right.....well we have never talked but my friend went up to him today and said that i thought he was hot. THis guy his name is Matt he also thoght i was hot i necer thoght anything of it but when ever i looked at him sometimes i would catch him looking at me. Sounds good right well he tells my friend he has a girlfriend.....IN 8TH GRADE!!!!! We're freshmen well actually he's supposed to be a sophmore but anyways, He said he wont break up with her(i wouldnt want him to....kinda)because its Valentines day. WEll im 15 Female and every valentines day im crused like right now ive never had a velentine. What should i Do?!?!?!?!?! (link)
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Don't limit yourself to one person at this point. If you want to talk to him go right ahead but if he is going to keep his girlfriend then look somewhere else. He can be hot when it comes to looks but he might have a cold personality. You want someone to treat you right as well. Live your life and go out nad have fun by meeting new people. You never know the right guy might just be someone else for you. And don't worry about Valetine's day. You will have plenty more to celebrate with that someone special for years to come.
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Im a married woman with 3 kids. Im having an affair with a single man 10 years younger than me. He knows Im married and have kids. But I lied about my age. Its been 2 years now that our rel. is going on. Im living a life like a single woman and go out every weekend to the pub and the disco. Going out many dates. But Im beginning to love this guy. Now, my marriage is on the rock bec. I dont sleep home at night during the weekend. Lots of my friend doesnt know this and I cant confide this to anybody. Im not willing to give up my relationship with this man although I know its not going to go anywhere. Pls. is there anybody who can help me. (link)
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First of all you are lying to two men. You took vows with your husband and if you don't want to be married to him then get out of it. That's more important with this situation. Now as far as this guy is concerned does he know you have kids? Because if he doesn't he will find out. Sometimes these lies come back and haunt us. Don't be a victim to that and come clean. The longer you live this lie the worst it will be for you and you will end up alone. Think hard what you want in all this because you will have to give something up. Don't be afarid to, otherwise you will end up with nothing.
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I'm a 16 year old highschool female and I have really liked a certain guy, who's also in highschool, for a long time now. We've flirted for awhile but I never really knew how he felt bout me. Recently he gave me his number and we talked for a few days. I thought it was going pretty good. He came over and we a nice time together enjoying each others company. Now I have tried to call him for the past 2 in half days. He doesn't pick up when I call from my phone but when I call from a different phone he picks up. I asked him if I was bothering him or if he just wanted me to leave him alone and he said no. If I'm not bothering him and supposedly we had a nice time together, why is he not answering his phone when I call? Does he wanna be friends, boyfriend and girlfriend, or just acquaintances? How do I get him to tell me?
~Confused Chica~ (link)
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Just talk to him. Don't seem like your desperate though. Do something like this: "Hey what's going on between us?" "Do you want to just be friends, because that would be cool with me." "Do you want to be more because I would have to see." "Do you just want to hang out once in a while because it really doesn't matter to me."
By asking these questions you are not pressuring him and also show that you really don't care much and he would feel more comfortable giving you the right answer so you know if your not wasting your time.
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Tonight I am going roller skating for the girl scouts. One of my friends who lives in my neighborhood is coming with me. So, I asked my mom if she could sleep over. My mom said yes then she paused. She said the only problem was we are going to church tomorrow and my friend's parents don't like her going to church. One night she was going to come over but once her parents found out we were going to church they forbid her. My friend has only been to chhurch 3 times in her life! It's not fair that she can't go the second her parents find out that my family is going to church. She's the same religon as me so why does it matter? So I'm wondering should I still invite her over? What do I do? (link)
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If she is your friend than invite her over. With respect to her parents find out if you can drop her off in the morning. It doesn't matter what your family's beliefs are. Just give them the option. If your friend wants to go to church with you I don't see why it's wrong but you still need to respect her parents in their decision even if you disagree with it. Just compromise and spend time with your friend and see if you can work something out.
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First, let me preface this by saying that this is going to a bit long and that I'm not highly religious. I always believed that if you lived your life morally and right, God or the cosmos or what have you, would reward you in a way. You would be able to affect people's lives by the way that you live.
So I've lived my life well- I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, engage in pre-marital sex, am always kind, and work hard helping others, however, I'm losing my faith that its all meaningful. It seems to me that people in general are becoming too superficial. There is no more great search for knowledge and truth and TRUE beuty. People don't trust people anymore- always thinking the worst ulterior motive, even when there is none. I feel like I'm fighting a dying battle to keep a little bit of innocence and purity. Am I just being naive thinking that if I keep living my life the way I am, will "reward" me in the end? Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I the only one who thinks that we're not progressing but rather giving in to our most carnal urges? I'm losing faith and I know eventually all the people I help will feel it by the way I treat them. Your input would be appreciated. (link)
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Those people who don't trust you, can you really call them friends? Don't allow yourself to be manipulated by the world's standards. Live your life the way you want to because if you live your life by what others say then you are not in control of your own life, they are. You are genuine in the fact that you want to help others. Sometimes people try to take advantage of that and if you know the expression "Misery Loves Company" that's where they lie with it. People who are not happy will try to bring other people who are down with them because they don't want to be alone with it. The fact is live your life to the fullest and stick with your beliefs because they are yours. Be true to yourself and I promise that a true person will find you.
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I've been working on my resume, but there is not a whole lot to it. I've basically had two jobs, and have volunteered at three different occasions. I want to find something in the animal care/veterinary field. But I'm still going to school full time, and am only finished with one semester of a Veterinary Technology major.
If I apply to every Vet clinic in the area, should I make a cover letter for each place? I'm most familiar with one certain clinic, because I've been the janitor there for a while, so I had no problem making a cover letter for them. But I don't really know what to say about all of the other clinics.
Should I just hand a resume in to each place, and hope for the best? Or should I make an individual cover letter for each clinic?
Is there anything else that I could do to spice up my resume? (link)
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First of all, your resume is just a piece of paper with information of what you done. You have to sell yourself. The cover letter is a good idea and the way to do it is mentioning how interested you are to work in such a "great" organization such as themselves. This way you are giving credit to that place and also putting yourself as an asset to them. Make them believe that they are going to benefit from hiring you. Also make some appointments and meet with the decision maker. Rememeber people want to hire great people not those you want to be great.
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I'm sorry it's long..
I know it seems generic, but I've liked a guy since 6th grade (I'm now in 8th) It's hard to say anything because he's been out with one of my friends, and I don't really want to chance our friendship right now.. I sorta want to wait until highschool. But anyway.. my friend is always obsessing over guys, and their relationships.. and when I told her at first that I liked him, she was ok with everything.. but I told her that I knew that he didn't like a few people and she freaked.. she told me to stop being obsessive over his love life and to move on with mine.. It makes me mad to think I could have shared this with her, and now I don't feel like I can share anything else with her.. like I've lost the will to. She's always saying things like that to me, so.. when it's mine turn it's not ok? *sigh* it's not like I can just, pick up and stop liking him.. this is a three year thing, just told her about it a month ago.. I don't know where to go from here.. I still like him, but I'm starting to hate my friend and it really makes me mad that she can be so selfish like this.. I just need some advice.. thanks.. (link)
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Sometimes friends have a way of saying the wrong things because they are hurting themselves. Your friend's love life is probably in the dumps and she is expressing it like this. At the same time she may be helping you because she has gone through the same thing and doesn't ewant you to get hurt if this guy doesn't like you. There's nothing wrong with liking someone but if you are not going to do anything about it then you need to be open to other options. If you obsess about this one guy you may be losing a chance with someone better. Just take that into consideration. Talk to your friend though and get that cleared up. Friendship is worth more then some crush. Just find out if she was helping you or hurting you when she said that.
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I volunteer a lot for a non-profit organization, and everyone in the group puts in TONS of hours. There's this one lady though who drives us all nuts, because she always has these ideas about stuff "we" should be doing, but she never wants to put a real proposal together for it or take on leadership of the project herself. We would all totally support her if she took on a project, but none of us have the time or initiative to make it happen just because she thinks it's a good idea. Plus, I think that if *she* thinks it's important for us to have a fundraising dinner, *SHE* should plan it!
So I have two questions: first, what's her problem?! second, how do we get the point across that if she wants something done, she's gonna have to do it herself? (link)
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Sometimes people are scared to take the initiative to put a plan together because they are afraid that other people will get aggravated by them and think they are trying to take control. She's probably scared that all of you might hate her for it. It would be good to talk to her and let her know if her ideas are good or not. If they are good let her know it and push her to get them done, Sometimes people need motivation from others to do what is best for the team. Don'tr get aggravated but more motivated to tell her to not just talk about it, do it.
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respected advicenators,
i went thru this site and found small kids of 13 to 16years of age having sex! well i have one question? are americans very desperate about sex are american girls so horny and slutty? and are american boys very careless about their future and career as they show in hollywood movies and sitcoms???????? please enlighten me, i don't mean to hurt u all at all. i have deep respect for this country america, which has welcomed everyone from the world. but if a girl loves one guy and has sex with that guy and then breaks off with him and then sees some one and again indulge in sex then again break off and again see someone........ isn't he or she acting slutty. well please i am confused b'coz kids here in india are blindly copying this culture of cheating and sex.american friends enlighten me about the situation.
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Well unfortunately there are many things that influence young people today not just to think about it but also do it. Not all parents are educating their children about sex nor even caring about what a child may be going through in their life that will lead them down this path. It's a good idea if friends who have that knowledge and sense to wait can help other friends. You have to live your life the way you want to but it needs to be smart as well. People are easily influenced because they allow themselves to be. Watching movies,sitcoms, etc doesn't make you that person your watching on television. Kids are even pressured these days because everyone else is doing it. Just because a group of people making that decision doesn't mean you have to. And if they try to pressure you or question your mrals then you will have to question their friendships. True friends will respect your decisions.
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girls say they love you, but they dont show it why is that? (link)
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Sometimes girls want to know that you love them so you have to be willing to show that to them. They say "I love you " because they feel it but also to see how you will respond to it. They back off if they feel that you weren't affected by it and show it more they know you feel the same way.
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well.. i'm a 16/f and i fell in love with a guy in my grade.. he's a real sensitive guy and i found out that he's suffering in a traumatic experience.. he wouldn't dare to date any gurls since his first and last ex dumped him.. he's afraid to be heartbroken again!! i have drop him a few hints and i know he understands it.. we always hang out together and we can be assumed as best friends.. he tells me all his problems.. and he often ask for my advice.. there's a few times that me and him almost kiss each other and i noe that he's been trying to tell me something for a few times but he didn't make it.. the thing is.. he really cares for me more than a fren should but he always talk about the girl he likes that he will never tell me her name in front of me... does he like me or we are jus friends?? please give me some useful advice.. (link)
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Sometimes people get scared to take that step because they don't want to lose what they have now. Your young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush anything until you are absolutely sure this is the right one. If he is he won't be sorry and lose a great opportunity. Make him believe that you are worth it just like he has done for you. Friends like you become great boyfriends and girlfriends together because they know more about each other then when you just jump into something. Make him think that there is only friendship there and that you are looking for a great guy. If he thinks that he'll lose you and knows your the one he'll confess it to you. Don't put everything into it until you know that he'll do the same.
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This site sucks. The moderators do a crappy job of filtering stupid questions, people reply with asshole answers with no reprecussions, and most of these people give crappy advice. Why cant the mods or anyone make this site worth comming to? Why do most of your guys's answers suck, and why do some of you have to be assholes? (link)
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Maybe you should ask the question that your seeking advice from and see how people answer. You may actually find the right one. Not everyone thinks the same or may say the right thing but you never know if that one person does give you the answer your looking for. Make the advice work for you and don't worry about those people who give you the crappy ones. You not living your life through them but what you make of it yourself.
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Hey my name is J.B. I am 17 year old male and I really like these two girls at my school. I have asked one out several times but she is always busy. The other girl is not dating anyone else and is also (in my oppinion) the most beautiful girl in school. Im not sure she even notices me. I need some help.
P.S. I love to write poetry and i have used her as inspiration a time or two. (link)
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First of all find out which one of these girls can you see yourself with for the long run. Good advice for you is to get to know them. Start being their friends. Get to know each of them so you know what type of girls they really are. Make them laugh with silly jokes or your outgoing personality. If you can make a girl laugh she will always find a way to talk to you because you would be someone that they'd want to talk to. Use your poetry. Act like your not interested in them but you want their opinion from them about your poems and let them know that you are thinking about giving it to another girl. This way they get to know what kind of guy you are and you would be able to tell which girl is more sensitive and can treat you right. The less you seem interested the more they will want to get to know you more and they'll share more with you.
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My boyfriend is in rehab and could be there for up to six months, most likely four months and three weeks. I hang out with his friends and write him letters every day (it's been a little over a week) to help miss him less. My question is, is there anything else I can do to miss him less? What are the chances of me cheating on him? (We were going out for one month when he left he's 17 I'm 14) Has anyone been through this same situation? Please help I'll rate. (link)
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Sometimes it takes a person to be sent away to get you to see the big picture in your life. First of all you are young and have your whole life to look forward to. Second do you want to spend the rest of time being with someone who is headed to a bad road in their life. Do want to take that same road. The question you need to ask yourself is that does this guy make you want to be a better person. Because it seems like he doesn't want to better himself. Meet other people and see what's out there. You never know. You may find someone that leads you to a more happy road in your life.
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people think itz wrong for a 9th grader and an 8th grader to be together,tell me how is that? (link)
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High school and Junior high are two different worlds so that's why people will have opinions like that. The only thing is that you two know how you feel about each other so don't listen to other people and do what you feel is right for both of you.
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i am so shy around guyz i dont know. I dont try to be but i can deffinately tell i am. I dont see how this is when i am always making friends with the other girls. How do i be less shy? (link)
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Don't look at this in a bad way. Some guys like shy girls. You are a fun-loving and exciting person just waiting to come out. You just have to see yourself in that way. It's easier around your friends that are girls because you know what their interests are, just like yours. What you need to do is find out what are some of the interests that maybe a particular guy you like has. You never know, you two may have some of the same interesta.
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Ive never had a boyfriend on valentines day before and i really want one because thats like the hole point of the holiday. If i could i would just ignore it but the past years when im walking down the halls at school all i see is guyz and girlz together, it makes me so sad that i dont have a boyfriend. How do i get over it? (link)
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Talk to more people. The more people you meet, the the more you'll get to know someone that you may like. Remember don't settle for less. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Valentine's is not about a boyfriend, it's about being with someone that makes you feel good special and will treat you right. Would you rather keep valentines with a boyfriend who will treat you bad or find someone who will treat you great all year round?
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