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I volunteer a lot for a non-profit organization, and everyone in the group puts in TONS of hours. There's this one lady though who drives us all nuts, because she always has these ideas about stuff "we" should be doing, but she never wants to put a real proposal together for it or take on leadership of the project herself. We would all totally support her if she took on a project, but none of us have the time or initiative to make it happen just because she thinks it's a good idea. Plus, I think that if *she* thinks it's important for us to have a fundraising dinner, *SHE* should plan it!
So I have two questions: first, what's her problem?! second, how do we get the point across that if she wants something done, she's gonna have to do it herself?
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I hear you and I think we have all been there in the volunteering world! Maybe the next time she has a brainstorm you could tell her something like this: "Wow, you sure are a powerhouse of ideas. Why don't you go with that one and make it your personal project. Maybe after you get the ball rolling some of us could find a way to support you in your project." OR "That sounds like you have put a lot of thought into that idea, could you explain how you would get that started or get back to us when you come up with more details." OR "Oh, that sounds really hard. I don't know how one would tackle on such a task. What exactly is your plan to get it started?" OR "A fundraiser dinner is one way to go. Does any one have any other ideas? Let's all think about the possibilities before we make a group decision." I hope you can use one of these ideas!
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I really don't understand what her problem is, but if you want to let her know she has to do it herself, you should just let her know in a very polite way. The next time she suggests something, just say: "That's a great idea! I'm sure a lot of us would like to help after it is planned." (This would probably get her to understand that you can't do something if it's not planned already.) Or you can offer to help her even, just hand her a piece of paper and tell her that you'd like to help, but she should contribute to the planning because it is HER idea after all. I guess the only way to get your message out loud and clear is to just tell her. Hope I've helped! =)
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haha thats funny the way u asked whats her problem. well i don't know what the ladys problem is but shes got one alright. you should just tell her that you are always getting these ideas but there your ideas so u have to be a leader and fulfill them. hope i helped
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It sounds to me like this lady is just afraid to do things for herself. I would suggest that the next time she comes up with one of these ideas that you tell her that you would be glad to help her with anything that she wants to plan. That way the work isn't all on you and she has to lead it.
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Sometimes people are scared to take the initiative to put a plan together because they are afraid that other people will get aggravated by them and think they are trying to take control. She's probably scared that all of you might hate her for it. It would be good to talk to her and let her know if her ideas are good or not. If they are good let her know it and push her to get them done, Sometimes people need motivation from others to do what is best for the team. Don'tr get aggravated but more motivated to tell her to not just talk about it, do it.
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