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Q: I was considering trying the whole vegetarian thing. I won't be doing it because of "animal rights" or anything like that. Instead, I am looking to do this strictly to improve my overall eating habits.

More than likely I would still eat fish and occasionally chicken. My question to you is:

Is following a vegetarian diet any healthier than a normal one?

Being a vegetarian can be healthier than a regular diet because you would be eating fruits and vegetables instead of junk food. The down side is that if you want to be a vegetarian, you have to pay close attention to your intake and make sure that you are getting all of the protein and some fats that your body needs. When you are not a vegetarian your body usually gets those things in abundance where you may not even realize it. Being a vegetarian can be a good thing as long as you are serious about making sure that you are doing it right and not depriving yourself of what you need to live healthy. So, just stay on top of it and you will enjoy all of the benefits.

Q: When is the time and duration which a pregnant woman can have sex? I have heard that it's during one of the trimesters.

The previous answer you were given is completely untrue. I just had my son a year ago and my husband and I had the same question for the doctor. I was told that it is not harmful to the baby when a mother has sexual intercourse. There is no specific month for it; you just need to be aware that the first three months are the most sensitive in the pregnancy since the percentage of miscarriage is higher within those three months. Unless a woman is put on bed rest and told by her doctor not to have sex, she is free to do it. It is important to use protection while pregnant if there is any chance of an STD because some STD's could harm the unborn child as well as the medication that would have to be taken for the infection. Many women have sex while they are pregnant. You just have to be gentler than you normally would for your own comfort. Pregnant women have to choose positions that are comfortable for them because the act is a bit different with a huge belly in front. The baby is not affected. Women are actually encouraged to have sex at the end of their pregnancy because the orgasm causes contractions that can contribute to the labor process.

Q: I am always tired and drowsy. When I go to school, I usually nod off in a few of my classes. It's really embarrassing because I've tried many things to stay awake! The tiredness isn't good because sometimes I miss a few crucial parts of the notes I'm taking in class.

I think I'm getting enough rest every night. I usually sleep about 7 hours, maybe a little more. I don't do anything that requires a whole lot of energy early in the day so I can't understand why I'm always so tired!

I'm even tired on the weekends when school is out. I can sleep at any time of the day. I don't want to be tired anymore. It seems like I'm always trying to make room in my day for a nap to relieve the drowsiness, but it never works and I'm always tired again when I wake up.

What can I do?

7 hours is plenty of sleep. Most people don't even get that much. You may actually have an iron deficiency. That will make you tired a lot among other things such as being chilly regularly. It would be a good idea to get your blood checked by your doctor and let them know how you have been feeling. If you do have the deficiency it is easy to take care of because you could take iron pills or a multivitamin daily. If you do not have that issue, you can try working out more regularly. Most people that start working out say that it gives them a lot more energy during the day and fewer headaches. The cardio will get your blood pumping and make you more alert. Also, if you are going through a difficult transition in your life such as a break up, heavy work load etc. you could be emotionally drained which is causing your body to become more worn out. Some forms of depression also cause fatigue. As you can see by my list, there are quite a few factors that could influence your energy levels. Check those out and you may find the answer…Good luck.

Q: I would love to wear blush, lipstick and eyeshadow that look flattering on me.. but I'm not really into the whole trial and error process anymore.

Any tips with colors? I'm not sure what you'll call my skin tone.. a light olive? I've gone through about 3 shades of blush and many of eyeshadow. It just looks SO odd.

I really want lipgloss/lipstick because I can't really carry vaseline around in my pocket. I would also like to look nice for some job interviews so yeah.

I can't ask for help at a department store because they will test out products and it's like $60 for the makeup artist.

If you have a light shade of skin than most colors would probably show up on your skin, but you have to buy eyeshadows that are well pigmented. Maybelline eyeshadows are well pigmented as well as nyx and mac shadows. For lipgloss covergirl has a lot of different neutral shaded ones in their wetslicks collection. Depending on your eye color there are certain colors that will bring out your eyes more. You should really go to either a Sephora or Mac store and let them give you a free consultaion and they will be able to help you with colors that fir your skin tone. I went for one and it is free of charge and now I have the right color for foundation and they will show you exactly what they used on you so that you can create the look at home. One last thing, I don't think that there are too many rules as far as the color eyeshadow you can wear, but using a good primer for your eyes will make a big difference in the way your shadw looks and how much the eyeshadow lasts. I do a lot of research on makeup so if you need any tips on what makeup looks are right for job interviews, day time look vs. night out look etc. just ask. ;)

Q: well recently, ive been dating this guy all summer and what made me so attached to him is we had sex. i found out while i was away at camp; he had sex with his ex girlfriend. i immediately broke up with him.. he is 18 and i am 15. i cried for days; lost ten pounds in a week; couldnt eat and couldnt sleep.the ex that he cheated on me with has been texting him everyday all summer. still getting mad that me and him wwere together. instead of hating him like i shouldve i cried in his arms.i was going to go to a frat party with a friend on friday; but he got really upset and nervous so i didnt. he hung out with the ex that he cheated on me with one night, and he took her home because i called him terribly upset crying and really scared. i felt so hooked to him. i told myself i can get through this im strong and ive been through worse. and now im talking to my other ex and starting to catch feelings again.. ive never loved anyone more than him nda he took my firsts.. should i keep trying to be with the one who cheated on me.. or should i go back to my first love.. its hard because ive spent so much time with the one who cheated on me & i feel like he deserves another chance.. pleasee helpp!

The guy that cheated on you with his ex sounds like he is not through with her yet. When you are in a new relationship, or any relationship for that matter, you don't want to be in a competition with the ex. That will drain you emotionally and cause you to waste your energy in ways that will not be constructive. Since he has cheated on you, it is likely that he will do it again. You are worth more than that and if he can't see it that is his problem. Don't stick around if he is clearly still interested in his ex and even still talking to her. Your ex boyfriend may be an ok choice, but you need to think about why he is your ex. If he hasn't betrayed you and the two of you still have a solid friendship, he could be a good choice for a second chance. Only you really know if you can trust him, but the guy you are seeing now is not trust worthy. The reason he doesn't want you to party is because he has a guilty conscience and he doesn't want you to do something that he might do.

Q: hi un i had sex for the first time with my guy in july for the first time & it did hurt. but we're going to have sex again in like 2 days. but i was wondering even though it's the 2nd time will it still hurt since we haven't done for like 2 months? please reply back asap.

Everyone is different, but it may still hurt some until your body gets used to it. Try to relax and take your time. Being in the mood will also help you out a lot. Your pain will not seem as strong if you are really into it. This is only your second time, so stay within what you are comfortable with doing and always protect yourself.

Q: I KNOW THIS MESSAGE IS LONG BUT PLEASE HELP ME :(
Hello i am 19 year old girl, i have a loving family and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years, he is my first ever boyfriend and my first in everything sex wise and relationship wise. ALOT has happened so i'll just tell you the simple version. The relationship started out fine in the beginning and then after about a year he started to get very argumentative and very angry later on that year he broke up with me and told me he slept with another girl and wore a condom BUT didnt cheat on me, and after a month he wanted to get back together, so i did, 3 months after we got back together i dragged out of him that he didnt in fact wear a condom so he lied to me, i undertook the correct precautions when he told me this and thankfully everything was fine with me and him so stayed with him despite the lie, 6 months later i then found out that he lied again when he said that he slept with the girl when we broke up he actually cheated on me, he acted very sorry and said the arguments would stop and things would change so i forgave him again.
Throughout all of this he has gained a very bad relationship with my mother and relatives, when we first got together my mum treated him extemley well but since the cheating he has been cocky and arrogant to my mother, when he was arguing at me again about a month a go, my mum got involved as she didnt like the way he was talking to me and he told her to 'shut her f***ing mouth.'
he refuses to take me out anywhere as he says he cant be bothered.
It has now been 6 months since these lies adn arguments and i feel now has been the final straw. my grandmother was ill and i told him that i could only see him for 3 hours, i told him this as his house he FLIPPED 'What the f*** you didnt tell me how dare you' i then said im leaving and he blocked the door i shouted and went into the living room, he blocked that door he wouldnt let me out i called my mother and he was in the background SHOUTING and SWEARING and he wouldnt let me out, he then said go on get out theres the door f*** off and DIE i went to leave and he blocked the door again saying it was a joke and he loves me. eventually his parents came home and said they would give me a lift home, he said 'its my f***ing car too im coming as well' he was swearing at me saying your a bitch you treat me like s*** you treat me like a dog no wonder you dont have any friends. now he is acting like nothing has happened saying i love you all the time and saying he wants to take me some place special for my birthday and give me my birthday presents.

i know i should leave him but this is all i know since i was 17 and im so scared to leave him, im going to university but i have no friends and scared of never being loved by anyone else and he'll be the only one who'll ever love me :(

please help

I know that you have been with him for three years, but believe me when I tell you that it is never a good idea to stay in a relationship because of the time table. Three years was a good run and now it is time for you to move on. It’s obvious that you love him, but it is not worth it to endure the abuse from him. He is not well in the mind. The abuse will only get worse in the future. It seems to me that he wants you to wait around on him while he still has the benefits of doing what he wants to. He will never give you what you need or want. He has no respect for you or your mother which should be enough. If he has become violent, that will only get worse and I'm telling you from experience that you will find yourself in an unthinkable situation and wonder how you ever let yourself get in so deep. He says he's sorry, but that does not excuse his actions. I honestly think that this relationship has run its course. I know what it feels like to have been with one person for a long time and you know nothing else. He has been your comfort for so long, but he is a dangerous, emotionally abusive security blanket. You need to bite the bullet and let him go. Maybe you can be friends down the line, maybe not. You need to be away from him and make a fresh start. You are afraid because he is all you know, but don't ever let something like fear keep you from getting what you deserve in life! You deserve better than he can offer you. He wants you to believe that no one else will love just like every other coward that is losing his girlfriend does. They all say that, it’s been said to me. These lies are not even remotely true, so don't believe them. You will go to college and make new friends and meet lots of guys. Take things slow if you are not ready to get involved with another guy right away, but don't let this guy hold you back because that is all he will try to do while you are in college. You want to believe he will change, but more than likely he won't so move on and cry if you need to and go through the motions. I know it seems like your whole world right now but one day you will look back on this experience and it will only be a memory. Don't let your situation define you, learn from it. You will have really hard days, and others will fly by as you sigh in relief. It is all a part of the process. Choose yourself and your happiness over him. I wish you the best of luck!!

Q: Alright so I'm sure you've all heard the typical "i like this guy but i don't know if he likes me. what are the signs? should i tell him?" so I am not going to bore you to death with yet another story.

I will simply explain my situation. I really like this guy and I don't know if he likes me. I have gotten all the "he may like you cause of this" from my best friend. She told me that I shouldn't talk to him anymore, until he talks to me that is. Although this sounds like it could work because of the "guys want what they can't have" thoery but she was unable to explain to me for how long until I can contact him because we usually talk everyday. My question is simply, how long are you spposed to wait before initiating contact if they don't? This may be because he's used to me always doing it so this is why I am asking.

Thanks in advance =]

I'm sure that your friend meant well by telling you to wait because some guys like to be the one to take the lead. However, waiting too long isn't always best because the guy could just be shy with girls and want you to show him your interested. You would hate to see him being cosy with some other girl, so don't be afraid to talk to him one on one. See if you can invite him to do some things that are just meant for the two of you. If he agrees then you know he likes you. When a guy likes a girl he will stare at her a little. Not in a creepy way, but in the way that a guy admires a beautiful girl. He may also look for any reason to touch you or run his fingers through your hair. He will smile at you and he may even tease you about something minor just to make you blush. Be subtle about approaching him, but don't keep him in the dark about how you feel. I don't know how long you've known him, but it sounds like it's been long enough to let him know.

Q: Okay for starters I am 17 and he is 27 going on 28. (yes big age gap but i am okay with it and i think he is warming up to it). It all started on (myspace) we gave each other our numbers since he didn't get online much. he told me he has had dreams of he and I together and so have I. like being together and living together. I cant even get him out of my mind. one night after work he was parked next to my car. i know its stalkerish but i liked it! i though it was cute. tonight I am going to work an hour early to see him. Is this love at first sight?

Well, only you would know if you are really in love, but you seem to be in love with the thought of him. Most mysterious romances are very exciting. If the two of you remain interested in each other it could become love. Right now you are taken by the ideas and possibilities. You are experiencing the best part of getting involved with someone. Once the two of you get to know each other better it could fade, or become stronger. Only time will tell. Be careful with meeting people you talk to on the Internet, it is not safe these days and I can't stress that enough.

Q: okay im 14/f and hes 13/m
im in high school now and hes in 8th grade.
we dated 3 times on and off for 4 months and then took a clean break from each other until the last feew weeks weve been talking all the time!.
so he came to a football game at my school and we were like flirting hard core in front of his girlfran so she walked away(i didnt know he even had a girl fran)okay so he was like oh shit ill be right back okay so like a 30 min later hes like come meet me here so i did and hes like i just broke up with my girlfan so i was like you had one oh my bad and hes like yeah so a lil bit later we held hands and we sat by a wall and his hand was around me and he was tickeling me and it was cute so then he stoped and i looked at him and we just started to make out and i was his first makeout. i think i might like him still or again im not sure if i was just on the rebond off of another guy i had a thing for but nothing happened. do you think i do?? is it bad if i made out with him after he broke up with his girlfand? was i the reebond girl?

It seems like you probably do still have some feelings for him. You didn't know he had a girlfriend, so that is not your fault. I don't think you are the rebound girl either because it seems that he likes you more than he likes her and he proved that by dumping her to hang out with you. Take it slow, you will know soon enough if you realy do still like him. Good luck! : )
Oh and by the way, his ex girlfriend is just jealous, don't let her get you upset because he left her and it was his own choice to do so. She will have to just accept it....you can't win them all.

Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 2 months the only thing is that her twin sister is always with us. No matter what we do she does it with us. We never really have time alone and when we do her sister makes her feel bad by getting upset about her not being with us and then later apologizes for doing that. I have tried given her and her sister time together where they spend a day together without me but her sister then complains and asks where I went and why I'm not with them. I don't know what to do anymore we have tried making her feel welcome all the time but she turns and makes my g/f feel bad every time we do something without her which never happens and when it does its only for an hour or two. any idea or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

It seems that this twin sister has become very annoying. I really can't understand why she wouldn't be mature enough to know that you need to spend time alone with your girlfriend. I think that you need to have a talk with your girlfriend and let her know how this is making you feel. Honestly, I don't think that anyone would tolerate this type of behavior for too long, so you are not wrong to feel this way. Have your girlfriend talk to her so she won't feel like you are trying to come in between them (which you don't seem to be). Your girlfriend also needs to stop giving in every time her twin gets upset because I'm only reading this and the act has gotten old for me. As long as you respect their time together and all of you have your family time together as friends, it is wrong for her twin to deny you your alone time with her. You are dating your girlfriend, not both of the twins. Maybe she needs to get out and meet some other people, but you guys have to make it clear to her or she will never leave you two alone. Every couple needs their alone time. If you try to ignore it you will eventually start to become resentful towards her sister and then the situation could get ugly. So, I think it’s best to handle it now while things are still civil.

Q: I was friends with this guy since the 2nd grade and this last summer i realized what kind of person he is when he's older, two-faced so my question is do I give him a call to talk about this issue [AGAIN] or ignore him and get on with my life?

I would say that since you have been friends with him for so long you should give him a call and talk to him about it. If he doesn’t seem to understand your feelings or brushes you off, then just move on with your life and leave him behind. He may not be the person that you once knew. Some people do tend to change as they get older. Whether it has been for the better or for the worse there is nothing you can do about the person he has become. If things don’t work out, let it go. Don’t allow that negative energy to consume you. Everyone has a time table in our lives and some people are meant to be there longer than others. If his time is up don’t hurt yourself by trying to force it.
*~ Jami

Q: Hey Jamie i don't know if you've ever seen the DL Chronicles but it's a tv series about what Gay and Bi-sexual Men in the closet go thoru.
I was once On the DL - a man with a girl and a dude that she knew nothing of. I realized i was more attracted to men then women however i still dating women to try to convert my self. The only reason was because i was scared of loosing my family, --People tend to trun there back on family members when they don't agree with there way of life..
I've came out and i'm no longer in denial.. But i've lost my father, and the love and attention of my mother.. What do i do to get them back without trying to live a lie?

Hello,
Your question is one that many have searched for the answer to for a long time and I just hope that I can help in some way. I just have to start by saying that I think that it is a sad truth when anyone should have to lose family or friends because they have chosen what our society calls an "alternate lifestyle". Above all you want to be happy and it would never be right for you to try to live a lie again. You are who you are and you I believe that our individuality is what makes us beautiful creatures. So, don't see living a lie as an option because you can't be happy unless you are being 100% you!! So, what I think you should do is arrange a time where you can sit down with your mother ALONE, WITHOUT THE DISTRACTIONS OF ANY OTHER PERSON OR TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICE. Once you are alone with her talk to her about how you are truly feeling and explain to her that you love her soo much and how difficult life is without her. You need to talk to her alone so that there are no outside forces interrupting or creating unwanted influences where she is concerned. If you feel like crying, then do so, just don't hold back your feelings and try to get her to respond and talk to you. Try and get her to face the treatment you feel you have received from her. Be respectful, but use your time wisely. This is obviously important to you, as it should be, so really make her feel that. Ask her questions and even let her know if you feel that her love for you has diminished in any way. Don't walk away from the conversation with any regrets and things that you wish you had said to her. Hopefully she will receive you since she is your mother and the two of you will have to take it from there. I suggest that you do the exact same thing with your father. I suggest that you talk to them separately though because you don't want them feeding off of each other. Your goal is sincerity, not to possibly be ganged up on or to have opinions swayed. This is really the best advice I could give you on the subject. Talking to them and having them look you in your eyes and tell you why they aren't accepting you for who you are. It really isn't fair and if they want to stand by their wrong decision, make them face you and say it. I'm sorry if I wrote too much, but I have someone very dear to my heart experiencing this very problem and it upsets me at times. I wish you the best of luck.
*~ Jami

Q: So I'm currently dating a guy and he is absolutely wonderful. He has so many qualities that I look for in a guy and then some. Anyone from the outside looking in would think that we make a good couple. However, there is something inside of me that has me questioning a lot of things. I don't know why, but something, and I'm not quite sure what it is, doesn't feel right.

Could this feeling be my instincts telling me that something isn't right, or do many people feel this way when they believe they've found "the one."

PLEASE help! I need insight!

It has been my experience that your gut never lies. If something inside you is telling you to question things, or not to rush to trust then you should follow your instincts. Keep your eyes open and don't do anything that doesn't feel comfortable. If you feel that there are things that just don't add up, get to the core of the issues. I don't want to make u paranoid, but just take your time and be cautious. If you have nothing to worry about, you will find out as time goes on and the two of you become more comfortable. For now it is better to be safe rather than sorry.
*~ Jami

Q: my friend lies about everything she makes stuff up all the time and its starting to buyg me. its getting hard to just ignore it. like, if i tell her how i guy likes me, she has to tell me how some guy ive never heard of likes her. or she just lies to make herself seem more interesting. shes honestly the biggest liar ever.

what should i do? its getting hard to trust her..

It sounds to me like your friend has inadequacy issues. She some how doesn't feel that she measures up to you and maybe others. If she is really your good friend and you want her around, try talking to her about it and see if she is willing to be more honest. Maybe if you share with her that your views of her aren't nearly as negative has her own then she will start to feel better about herself. Another thing that you can try is including her more in simple things that you do that maybe she lacks. Things such as inviting her with you when you go to get a pedicure or a pair of really cute earrings that she compliments you on. Hopefully some of that envy that she has towards you can be turned into a mutual respect for one another. You don't need to be fake with her, but pay her compliments sometimes so that she knows that she is beautiful as well as you are.

Q: my friend (girl) has a problem with guys.When she was younger (around 9years old or may be younger),a relative used to masturbate in front of her and to abuse her sexually.He used to open the toilet door when she is using the toilet, and things like that.She didn't tell me she was raped but she told me this terrifies her.Now she doesn't trust any guy and she's afraid when she is left alone with a guy.How can i help her to get over this problem and go on with her life?I really want to help her but don't know how!!!

The best thing you can do is be there for her whenever she needs to talk or to cry. She may need to vent if she hasn't already.Some people don't begin to really deal with issues like that until much time has passed after the incident. Let her know that you care about her and you will never judge her for her feelings. You might also want to find out if she wants to start seeing a therapist to help her get through her issues. If it is possible for her, it could help her a lot. It will be difficult for you to understand exactly how she feels, but you can be the best support system you know how to be.

Q: okay so on facebook i was on my home page.
And you know how when your on your home page all your friends updates are ont here too along with new comments on pictures?
Well, theres a pic of these 3 girls and one is in their white bathing suit.
So from far away it looks like a bra
and my mom came in and was like "WHAT IS THAT?"
and i thought it was funny so i told them, i was like
"ohmymgod is Kristen in her bra? lmao my mom came in and was like "WHAT IS THAT?" cuz i was on my homepage.. haha thanks =/"

but you could tell i was only kidding about the "thanks=/" part.
They all like, attacked me!
They said i was blaming it on Angela, the girls picture, and that one little comment triggered like 320234234 of their comments
i cant even explain it!
I dont talk to them much, but i thought i'd be funny and say that.
And they were being total bitches!
angela was like "why were you looking at my profile? and why do you care?"
and tthis one girl britney was like "yeah that looks nothing like a bra"
Its like they didnt pay attention to anything i said!
so then i said
"i wasnt blaming it on angela, and on your HOMEPAGE it shows up, i wasnt looking at your profile. Also, i said from AFAR it looks like a bra"
immidiatley i got like 6 responses
"You must have a pretty f***** up bra then."
and like a bunch of other bitchy ones.
then i was like
"sorry i just thought it'd bring some laughs (:"
and then britney goes
"well, here are your laughs
HAHAHAHAHHAH

ok."

theyre all such bitches i was only trying to be funny, and its like they listened to nothing i said. i didnt do anything wrong that whole convo and they were all nasty for no reason =/
i didnt respond to that last comment and i think i'd better stay quiet.
does anyone think what i did was stupid?
or does anyone think i should respond?

opinions?
answers?
help?

15/f

I really don't think you did anything wrong. The fact that you said you were sorry andd only joking should have been enough for them to let it go. There is no reason why you should have gotten so many messages sent to you in response to that either so, I'm gonna need for them to grow up. The girl should get over herself too because it wasn't that serious! Unfortunately,some people just are not mature enough to communicate on social networks like facebook. They are being immature and they don't have anything better to do than to bad mouth you on facebook so I say forget them. Don't say anything else to them on that topic and if you continue to have your inbox flooded with garbage, block them losers. Don't get involved in internet negativity. Its the new age gossip.

Q: so I just started highschool and theres this guy that I like. I have bio and history with him but I'm too shy to talk to him. He doesn't act like he likes me at all so I don't know what to do, but I mean we've never talked so itd be kind of hard. i'm also really shy so it's even HARDER...so if any of u have any advice on what to do please help.

Find a small way to talk to him about something and try to read the signals you get from him. Don't do anything too over the top to start things off, but just enough so that you two can get familiar and see what happens. As time goes on you shopuld be able to tell if he has any interest in you.

Q: I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and I didn't enjoy it at all, or the next time, or the next time. Is there something wrong with me? Yeah, the first time we did it, it hurt at first but after the pain went away I still didn't enjoy it. It wasn't pleasurable and it wasn't him I don't think I just didn't enjoy it. And I was kind of anxious to try it again to see if it'd be any better but it wasn't. Does it take time, or am I weird... or what?

There is nothing wrong with you. It usually takes atleast a few times before the female actually gets any pleasure out of it. Just relax and also it will be better for you if you are really in the mood. Foreplay will help, you should try that and you will be on your way.

Q: No matter what I do, I can't get my husband to send me nice sms's or emails. But recently I went trough his mail, and found pics to another man? What am I doing wrong here.

A lot of guys just aren't into the whole love sms thing. Eventhough some will do it, many don't have a clue that you would even like that. You have to talk to your husband and let him know how you feel and that you want things between the two of you to be more romantic and he should get into it if he cares. As far as the picture to another man goes, I would express my concern and ask him what that was even about. It sounds pretty shady so talk it out and see if you two can make your marriage work. If he has been cheating you are going to have to decide how much you are willing to deal with and if you can get back on track. Him sending pictures to another man is not even close to being something that makes sense. You pledged your lives bonded for the rest of your days, so you won't want to just leave him because of what you think is going on which is why you have to get to the truth. Bottom line, if you still want your husband and he is the only one for you, don't give him up to anyone else as long as you feel you have a shot at saving your marriage.

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