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The DL (Down Lo)
Hey Jamie i don't know if you've ever seen the DL Chronicles but it's a tv series about what Gay and Bi-sexual Men in the closet go thoru.
I was once On the DL - a man with a girl and a dude that she knew nothing of. I realized i was more attracted to men then women however i still dating women to try to convert my self. The only reason was because i was scared of loosing my family, --People tend to trun there back on family members when they don't agree with there way of life..
I've came out and i'm no longer in denial.. But i've lost my father, and the love and attention of my mother.. What do i do to get them back without trying to live a lie?
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Hello,
Your question is one that many have searched for the answer to for a long time and I just hope that I can help in some way. I just have to start by saying that I think that it is a sad truth when anyone should have to lose family or friends because they have chosen what our society calls an "alternate lifestyle". Above all you want to be happy and it would never be right for you to try to live a lie again. You are who you are and you I believe that our individuality is what makes us beautiful creatures. So, don't see living a lie as an option because you can't be happy unless you are being 100% you!! So, what I think you should do is arrange a time where you can sit down with your mother ALONE, WITHOUT THE DISTRACTIONS OF ANY OTHER PERSON OR TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICE. Once you are alone with her talk to her about how you are truly feeling and explain to her that you love her soo much and how difficult life is without her. You need to talk to her alone so that there are no outside forces interrupting or creating unwanted influences where she is concerned. If you feel like crying, then do so, just don't hold back your feelings and try to get her to respond and talk to you. Try and get her to face the treatment you feel you have received from her. Be respectful, but use your time wisely. This is obviously important to you, as it should be, so really make her feel that. Ask her questions and even let her know if you feel that her love for you has diminished in any way. Don't walk away from the conversation with any regrets and things that you wish you had said to her. Hopefully she will receive you since she is your mother and the two of you will have to take it from there. I suggest that you do the exact same thing with your father. I suggest that you talk to them separately though because you don't want them feeding off of each other. Your goal is sincerity, not to possibly be ganged up on or to have opinions swayed. This is really the best advice I could give you on the subject. Talking to them and having them look you in your eyes and tell you why they aren't accepting you for who you are. It really isn't fair and if they want to stand by their wrong decision, make them face you and say it. I'm sorry if I wrote too much, but I have someone very dear to my heart experiencing this very problem and it upsets me at times. I wish you the best of luck.
*~ Jami
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