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My mission on Advicenators is to be honest. People lie when they answer because they want to be rated high, but I think people ask strangers on Advicenators things because they want an honest answer.
My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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Ok well theres this guy hes like my best friend! i met him 2 years ago and he's always been there for me when i was sad/mad or in a fight w/ some1, anything.he always told me he loved me ever since he met me and all this stuff and when he would ask me out i would say no for several reasons.we talked and he told me all this stuff that he loved me and i would tell him i was sry but i just couldn't go out w/ him...he got me so frustrated...and when this guy i liked asked me out i said yes and now this guy that loved me was really sad..i tryed talking to him about it but he wouldnt talk to me back...now it seems like our friendship is you know just weird...i dunno. But now he wont talk 2 me at all and it would make me feel bad for not going out w/ him. Well yea he would talk to me but when i would say "hey!!!" he would be like "hi...." and thats the whole conv. cuz he wont answer me after that. ppl have told me that it would pass and he will get over it but i cant get over the fact that he wont talk to me!!!it just worries me...hes my best friend and i told him that i need advice...i need help... thanks in advance...

Of course he isn't talking to you. He's probably realized you're never going to go out with him and he wants to get over you, and not talking to you will help him with that. Give him his space. After a while he might get over it and be okay with being friends, but yeah, you should've expected this behavior. How would you feel if you liked a guy for a long time and stuck by his side and he rejected you and went out with someone else? It's not something you can help, you just don't like him, so you shouldn't feel guilty, but he's acting normal under the circumstances.
-Farren

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alright there is this boy that is 4ever try to mess around (and people think we're family!) w/ me either snacthing my food or callin me and my friend gays witch WE R NOT AT ALL and 2day at lunch he comes 2 my table and sit right next 2 me and start mess w/ my friend and i he points 2 my friend and says 2 me that ur gurl? i say hell no then my friend asks him is that ur gurl? he stops and gets mad quite til i say push him away from me and then we start talkin' again and he moves right back next 2 me. so is he messin 4 fun or love?

He sounds annoying. Probably just messing with you guys for fun. This is from what I could tell, because your grammar is horrible. Try using periods ("."), they seperate sentences and make it easier to understand. A crazy concept, I know, but it works!
-Farren

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I have a project to do for school in social studies, and I was wondering if anyone could help me. I need to know 10 pros and 10 cons for either Gun Control or the Death Penalty. If someone can find out the pros and cons for me, I would really appreciate it. Either one is fine. It's due on Tuesday, so I really need to find out fast!!!!!!!!!! Thank you very much!

Laziness, going to Advicenators to do your homework. Lol.

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I seem to be expieriencing

Everyone goes through a stage in their life sometime during their adolescence when they feel most of those symptoms. Don't worry, you aren't alone. Most people feel meanningless and empty and think about suicide. It's not just you. If you think it's really serious, then by all means talk to your parents about it, but it sounds like one of those phases we all go through, so I wouldn't worry too much.
-Farren

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14 female (sry if its confusing)

1)ex boyfriend now after 9 months
2)has a new girlfriend who i hate (not the issue)
3)somtimes we talk now.. he said that he misses me.. but he's like a lunitic and isnt good for me
4)i still love him, but he's not right for me at all.. all my friends hate him
5)today he told me to stop talking to him..(but i dno if he really means it cuz he still mite have feelings for me)
6) but he blocked me, and won't talk to me

Should i try to move on ?what do i do(i rate high)

Move on. You know that's what you should do, so why ask Advicenators? I guess you just wanted a confirmation that it's the right thing to do, well, here it is. Good luck with that.
-Farren

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hay i am a female who is 14 and single. i know this guy who is in my last period class but i always see him in the hallways. i never really say hi to him but if he sees me he will say hi and if too much people are not around he will ask for a hug and i will say yes. people says he has a girlfriend but i think he is playing her because he is always up on different girls. he is a really sweey guy. he is a guy that is a little "pimp". he loves to touch girls booty. oneday i was sitting by myself and he came and sat beside me and hug me and started rubbig my back and we were talking. and he was like i have a secret to tell you and i was like ok and he kissed me. i was shocked. but i didn't do anything. after he did that i had to leave because my teacher called me. but he told me to come but. 20 minutes later i was sitting by myself and he joined me and his friends did too. i was the only girl on the bench. he was hugging me and rubbing my belly and legs. he said to me i love you.... like 20 times to me but i didnt answer his question because i did not know what to say and i finally was like i love you as a friend. he told me i am pretty and thinks i have big boobs for my size and he will always say sweet things to me. sometimes he will feel me up(boobs,tits) also he will ask for a hug and he will start rubbing my back and booty. and everytime he sees me he wil grab me and one day we were walking to class and he began rubbing me up. we would always hug each other everyday sometimes once or twice. but i am not the only girl he hugs he hus other girls but when he hugs them he will just give them a decent hug but when he hugs me he would start feeling me up. i like it . i love him but i want to know if he likes me or is he just being a friend?

He doesn't love you. He wants to fuck you. He can't control his hormones. You don't love him, you love the idea of a boyfriend. And saying you "have big boobs for my size" is not sweet. He's taking advantage of you, and you're being a moron for not seeing it. Actually, you're probably just following your hormones too. Go ahead and fuck the guy, make both of you happy.

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I'm 19/f and I live with my bf, his grandparents, and his aunt (who is 40 something I might add). I love his family so much, but sometimes they get on my nerves. His aunt can be down right nasty sometimes, and I don't know what to do about it! She threw a fit this morning because I left out the HOT dishes after making dinner last night and went to bed without putting them away. I'm very frequently left cleaning up after her (she cooks for other people, but never her own family) when she leaves "her" dishes in the sink for more than two weeks. She says she'll get to it, but two weeks??? I mean let's get real here. The grandparents are getting on in years, and I try to help out as much as possible. We all kinda share the grocery shopping, laundry, cooking and cleaning responsibilities, but there are no finite lines on who is responsible for what. I'm just frustrated and sorry I rambled. Any suggestions for dealing with the aunt would be appreciated.

JLH

Sorry hun, all families have problems like this. There are just some things about people you can't change. Talking to her might help, but after a while she will most likely go back to her same habits or she will get mad because of what you think of her in the first place. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about moving out, then she can live in her own misery and not affect your life, but you said you love his family, so you'll probably just end up trying to deal with it. I wish there was a solution to problems like this besides moving out, oh well.
-Farren

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My boyfriend live 1500 miles away. Weve been together what seems like forever, but its 8 months. We're so in love, even though its been a short time we really know each other and im close with his family. But everyone is like hes cheating on you. Hes a guy... I know hes a guy but im not stupid he did do stuff before me but not much and hes not like that. Hes so against cheating and would NEVER do that. But how do I get these people off my back? Even his losker room buddies say it. And I know they wouldnt know much bc he didnt really talk to them much. He never lied to me and I could easily find out. i know where he is at all times. Hes not cheating on me. How can I convince other people?

You can't, just another reason why long distance relationships suck, but who knows maybe yours is one of the few that works out in the end. Hope you can bear it hun.
-Farren

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OK my best friend went out with this boy four about a month, and he broke up wid her....well now hes asking me to go out wid him and i really like him and he really likes me. But, i dont kno wut to do.... I mean she says its ok if i go out with him becuz hes been askin me everyday if i will but i keep saying i dont kno. If she says its ok should i?¿ PLz help me...... i RATE very well....
~*~Confuzed~*~~

Go for it. Then a month from now when he breaks up with you and wants to go out with a friend of yours you can ask us what to do about it again so we can get two good ratings. Yay for rating well!

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A lot of people at school call me teachers' pet. I don't like any of my teachers, nor suck up to them. I only get good grades because I want to get into the Naval Academy. I don't show off or anything.. i think.. so what should I do to shut these bitches up? (13, F, 7th grade)

You don't like any of your teachers and you call your classmates bitches? Man, you aren't a very nice person, are you? Quit complaining.

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There is this guy at skool he has a girlfriend (his girlfriend is my friend) but I don't think that he likes her. He is always looking at me and like walking by me and smiling ( we have a very big school so there are many different ways for him to go) I really like him. Does he like me? What if he does will my friend be mad?

You're being a horrible friend. That's your friends boyfriend, your friends boyfriend! Besides, it sounds like you're just being dilusional. You probably think all your guy friends just lust over you. People can smile and be good friends without liking each other. He's probably just that type of person. And if he does like you, you should wait until he breaks up with your friend to pursue him, that way there might be a slim chance to save your friendship, but you probably don't even care about your friend. Honest -is- the best policy.
-Farren

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well i have been talking to this guy for like a week now and we talk about everything. i mean everything. and i want to like talk to him about dating in stuff, but im not sure if i should. or what to say.
help please!

You've known him for a week. A week! My gods, when was the concept of male-female friendship lost? Maybe eventually you'll start going out, but for now just go with the flow. Give it time, you don't need to ask Advicenators this. Dating conversation is normal though, so you should be able to feel comfortable talking to him about it.
-Farren

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hay i am 14 and single and i am a female. oneday i was walking in the hallways and this guy tapped by shoulders and was just like "hi" and i said hi and i just went along with my business. a few days later i was walking in the hallways and he said hi to me but i never replied because i never knew who he was talkin to. 2 mins later i passed back that same way with my friend and he was there with this guy i knew. and the guy who was he was with knows me and he was like hi sarah and i was like hi and then the guy was like "now i know your namme" and i smiled and walked to my business. the same day at my lunch the guy was behind me and he was like hi naiome and i said hi and dat was that. the next day i was going to my locker and he was going somewhere and he was like hi sarah and i said hi and i asked him why do u always say hi to me and he was like i think you are pretty and i smiled and then he said you are too young for me the sanme time his friend came along and asked who i was? and i didnt hear what the guy told him.and then i was like ok bye i got to go. then after i left he was still talkin with his frend and i heard them talkin and i think his friend was asking about me ... i didnt hear and his friend watched back and began smiling with me and i smiled back and then i went away to by business.does he like me ? does he want to go out with me?

He's probably just being silly. Guys are like that, actually, girls are like that too. He might eventually like you and want to go out with you, but you just met him, so I wouldn't start worrying about that yet. Yeah so, just don't rush things.

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Hello all,
What does it mean when ur Gf of 2 1/2 years makes me decide all the time, gives me options, (eg) go to my house her house or out, then when i say, choose my house she will tell me she has no way to get here, it really pisses me off, because she should know what she wants and not make things difficult. what should i think from this? i hope that makes sence, i know it probly isnt that big of a deal to you but it is to me. Thanks

Relationships begin to crumble after a while when people notice small things about each other that they dislike, and then the dislike grows and the people grow apart. Main point, deal with it, it's not that big of a deal unless you make it a big deal. You can talk to her about it, but that might cause an unnecessary argument. Don't let the small stuff get on your nerves. Good luck with her.
-Farren

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What is the #1 thing a man can do to make himself more attractive?

What is generally the least attractive thing about a man?

Your question is too subjective, the #1 thing is different for each female. We all have different tastes. For me, the least attractive thing about a man is cockiness, and the most attractive thing is honesty. For most women, the worst is probably a neglection of hygene.
-Farren

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Ok, so this chick is talking to me.. and we have been talking for a while and I told her that I loved her, so yeah, every thing was cool then she started giving off signs that she feels the same way, we start talking about Sex, and family and stuff like that, then when I finally decide we are really close, I tell her how i really feel, she said its sweet but shes just not ready for a relationship.. then yeah, shes been telling me I'm a great guy and I'm sweet and stuff, but should she really be doing this kind of stuff.. or is she just being a tease.. playing with my emotions?

BTW I'm 17 and have never had someone tell me they Love me :( and she knows this...

what should I do about this.. I really need help! :(

Don't become dependent on her. She could be playing with your emotions, but chances are she just doesn't like you as much as you like her or she really isn't prepared for a relationship. All you can do is wait it out, you can't control her feelings. Just try to make her feel comfortable around you, and eventually you'll realize you two were meant to just be friends or something will happen and she will reach a point where she's ready to be with you. Hope I helped.
-Farren

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I love this guy so much. His name is Ryan and he lives in Florida, I live in Texas. We talk to each other on the internet and on the phone and we've gotten in alot of fights and he would tell me sweet things like "Molly, you're so perfect I love you" and my friends tell me not to feed off of his words but I can't help it! He's in love with another girl but she lives far away too. I love him sooooo much and I'm in love with him but it's stupid cause I haven't even met him. And I know he doesn't love me back. Please help!

Internet relationships are pretty fucked up. Unless you can visit him regularly, I wouldn't even try it. Also, it would be hard if you got involved with him and then met someone in real life and developed feelings for that person. Besides, he could be lying about who he is. My advice is to keep it a friendship.
-Farren

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well im really good friends with this guy and i like him a lot because were so close and similar and i think we both like eachother and we talk about everything but he always asks out other girl who turn him down, doesnt he know that im righ tin front of him and were perfect for eachother how can i help him see that?

Tell him you like him. Really, you could've just read what you asked us and you'd know what to do.
-Farren

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im 14 going on 15/f. ive never had a b/f but ive had this one crush for 2 yrs. now! Were good friends now and lately all of my friends have had b/f. i kinda feel left out, but being single is fun 2! i kno this sounds wrong...to me it does 2, but lately all ive wanted 2 do is grab my crush and just kiss him! i think i have a problem...what should i do! please help!~

You should grab him and kiss him. Being spontaeneous is fun.
-Farren

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ok ya*ll i love to sing and i hate singing in front of people and when itell people this they laugh and say get over it and i think i am a good singer but no1 will belive me if i cant sing out loud help me and please dont say gEt OvA It signed *RaIsE Ur VoIcE*

Maybe you think you sing good but you really don't, and in your subconscious you know you really aren't good. The only way to find out is by singing for someone else, at least if your dilusional you'll find out you are and whoever you sing to won't be as mean as Simon Cowel is to the dilusional people on American Idol.
-Farren

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