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unfriendly aunt
I'm 19/f and I live with my bf, his grandparents, and his aunt (who is 40 something I might add). I love his family so much, but sometimes they get on my nerves. His aunt can be down right nasty sometimes, and I don't know what to do about it! She threw a fit this morning because I left out the HOT dishes after making dinner last night and went to bed without putting them away. I'm very frequently left cleaning up after her (she cooks for other people, but never her own family) when she leaves "her" dishes in the sink for more than two weeks. She says she'll get to it, but two weeks??? I mean let's get real here. The grandparents are getting on in years, and I try to help out as much as possible. We all kinda share the grocery shopping, laundry, cooking and cleaning responsibilities, but there are no finite lines on who is responsible for what. I'm just frustrated and sorry I rambled. Any suggestions for dealing with the aunt would be appreciated.
JLH
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you should tell the aunt how you are feeling and that you cant take on so many responsibilities at once. You have more in your life then cleaning up after everybody and doing everything for everybody. My friend has an aunt just like that. she will yell at you for no reason. i went with my friend to her aunts new years party and i got yelled at for not using my fork and not eating a cookie. That was the first time she had met me also so i was scared to tell her to lay off but it seems like you have known this aunt for a while and i think you would be able to get through to her.
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you should tell her that she needs to lay off of you and start doing stuff her self.and that you have to do every thing and you shouldn't have to she should take some things off your sholders.
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Well if you can't stand everyday life with his family, mabey it is time to find a place of your own. Remember, you are in thier home, you have to live by their rules. She may not be playing fairly, but you have no right to tell them how things should be done.
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Sorry hun, all families have problems like this. There are just some things about people you can't change. Talking to her might help, but after a while she will most likely go back to her same habits or she will get mad because of what you think of her in the first place. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about moving out, then she can live in her own misery and not affect your life, but you said you love his family, so you'll probably just end up trying to deal with it. I wish there was a solution to problems like this besides moving out, oh well.
-Farren
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I think its a test to see if u clean after your swlf and to see if you will take care of your boyfriend.They did that to my mom and she just did it and then its was over then my aunt said it was a test.
I hoped i Helped
-JoN
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