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Well i went to a football game, and then like i was really cold so this kid that i like gave me his hoodie, but then he was with these two girls, and he just like walked away from them and i gave him a mean look, and he gave me a hug and told me not to be mad at him. Does he like me? (link)
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It really seems like he likes you. The blushing is a dead giveaway. =D
Oh, that and he really, really enjoys talking to you. Whenever 5 minutes turns into an hour, he's definately interested in talking to you, and I wouldn't be surprised if he wants to take things further.
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This guy asked me out and my best friend says he likes me as more than a friend, but I mean, I haven't known him for long at all. Did he ask me out just so he could have a gf? Or does he actually love me? I can't really tell... when we're together he holds my hand and he puts his arm around me, but, it just doesn't seem like he's letting himself go. I don't really like him as more than a friend right now, I think mostly just cuz I don't know him. But I wonder if he only wants me to go out with him to impress his friends, I mean, we never do anything alone, it's always around our friends. (link)
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Maybe he doesn't want to do anything alone because he's afraid you'd consider it "going too fast" and maybe that you'd feel insecure without people being there. Make the first move, and show him it's alright.
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i need some advice on how to talk to boys. its kinda hard. becuz sometimes i just say the stupidest things.
advice??
thanx. :] (link)
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I swear I do/say the WORST things when the dude I like is looking! But, then it usually comes off as cute. And even if you say the stupidest things, that's who YOU are, and you want a guy to like you for you. And they probably aren't even stupid, it just seems so in your mind, since you're nervous about it.
As for keeping a conversation alive, find out what the guy likes, and let that subject feed the conversation. If it starts to die out, don't let it! Quickly think of something new to say or ask.
Best of luck. =)
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well thers this guy ive liked for about 3 years now we started out flirting alot, then last year he actually asked me Out & we were togeather for like 1 day then he broke up with me at school with a stupid little note. but then ever since then all last skool year he would tell his friends that he liked me sooo much & that i was beautiful. & he would send me texts saying that he lliked me again & saying really sweet things. now this year, i think he likes me but its that he'l be sweet one day then he'l talk about another girl the next day. he constantly staring at me. & he textd me yesterday "i think one day we r gonna have sex" & he also told me tht he always wanted to lose his virginity with me & he regrets loosing it to some other girl.. im really confused because i LOVE this guy. i need help on wether he likes me or if he just wants sex.. also i want to know if thiers any thing i should do to attract him a littile more :) pls helpp (link)
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It does look like he likes you, and regrets breaking up, but it also looks like he might be a little more interested in sex rather than just going out with you, it's just a little odd that he brings it up specifically. So, if you do end up going out again, make sure you make him wait.
Oh, and for attracting him more? When next he talks to you about sex, wink or say something cute that sends his imagination wild.
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hey, 15/f. sophomore in Highschool.
So, I really liked this guy named Josh. He had asked me out last year, I said yes, then changed my mind. I felt horrible, believe me. This year I began to like him again, and told him. He stares at me in lunch a lot, and tries to catch my eye, and then some days, he just doesn't. He's also been kind of a jerk lately. I don't talk to him often.
Then, there is Duston. He's cute, sweet, funny. I like him a lot now, but part of my heart is still hung up on Josh. Anyways, Duston and I don't talk often either, but when we do, he's SO nice. And I actually invited him to my Halloween party, he thinks he can go for sure. Perfect, right? Wrong. My very good friend Cassie likes him as well... but her and I both agreed that he will like who he likes and that's it. We don't want to 'compete' for a guy, but it's still a bit unsteady between us because I'm afraid they'll be together and I'll be upset, or I'll be with him and SHE'LL be upset.
So what guy should I go with? What should I do?
Thanks in advance and SO sorry its so long! (link)
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Aww, I'd try for Duston. Sure, you might feel a little something for Josh, but if he's going to be mean about it, and not make the attempt to be good friends with you again, then so be it.
Sorry to say, but if you end up with Duston, Cassie will be a little upset, it's just human nature. But since you guys have spoken about it, I'm sure she'll be over it quickly. You can joke around like, "Well, Josh is all yours if you want him."
I 'onno, something cutesy like that. Enjoy your party, hope Duston can make it!
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my friends and i got in a huge fight over something so stupid.
hes deleted me off his myspace, off his instant messanger and everything. we were supposed to go to homecoming along with one other friend of ours but now i dont think he'll want to go if im there.
its gone so far and we've both hurt eachother it wasnt just one person doing it all.
what should i do? apologize? what if he's still mad at me? should i wait till he apologizes?
i hate fighting with friends!! (link)
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I'd apologize, and even if he doesn't apologize directly after, don't freak out! He might still need time to cool off, and even if he doesn't announce it, he's totally sorry, too. Or, well, he betta be! Haha, have fun at Homecoming. =D
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Okayy im 16 years old.
and havnt even had my first kiss yet!
im a girl. so u know.
but i been with a couple guys but we havnt really kissed.
but i really want to have my first kiss.
the last guy. i really loved, i wanted it to be him i had my first kiss with. but when i went to talk to him about it. he dumped me =/ so i dont know what to do. Help me please. ? (link)
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First time might be awkward, but soon after it'll be like second nature.
And if you didn't like it, don't automatically assume that you suck at kissing or anything! Remember, it depends on the guy, too!
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So basically, I had been going out with this guy for 9 months and I broke up with him a few weeks ago. I still give him rides to school and we're trying to be friends but it's not really working out. Pretty much every day he freaks out on me, telling me that I screwed up his life and how could I be doing this to him and threatens to commit suicide. He constantly calls me and won't really leave me alone. I don't want to give him rides anymore but I don't know how he'll get to school. I constantly tell him that I need space before we can be friends (I mean, who can be friends with someone who constantly freaks out on them?) but he's convinced that if he lets me have space, I'll like it too much and never talk to him again. He's even been bothering my friends and complaining to them. I'm 17 and just really want to enjoy my last year of high school, but that doesn't seem to be possible with him in the picture. Any advice would be much appreciated. (link)
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Tell him that you really need the space you've been asking for. If he refuses to listen, then simply tell him that the more he tries to invoke pity and tries to make you feel like you've ruined his life, the less likely you are going to be friends. And about the stalking thing? Don't pick up, and don't look at him during school. Try to get someone else to drive him. Eventually he'll learn that in the process of complaining about his broken life, he's breaking yours.
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My best friend, Claire, is basically the leader of the 'bad crowd' at our school. She started drinking/having sex at the age of 13, and we are now 16. We've been very best friends since age 12, but I on the otherhand follow all the rules. She got arrested for having alcohol/getting drunk on school property. She swore she wouldn't drink after a near-death drinking expeirence that hurt everyone around her when she wasn't expected to live through the night. We fought on and off about her problems, but finally she toned down the drinking and we became closer then ever. She truly is my very best friend, she's been there for me with everything.
Now, she's skipping school again, she's drinking every weekend, and having sex with random guys more then ever. I want to save her again. I can't fight against her. When I do, she pushes me away and does more and more illegal things. I don't want to lose my best friend again, it hurt too bad the first time. Please help. (link)
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You have to keep trying to talk to her and have her listen, and when you feel that she's endangering herself, don't hesitate to tell someone of authority who can help. It won't be "betraying" her like she might make it sound, because as a friend, you need to care about whether she's alive and healthy, rather than if she's mad at you.
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I am hanging out with my friends brother next weekend, He is a 19 year old and i am only 16. Should i tell him im 17, i really want him to like me! Maybe he will like me more if there is less of an age difference? (link)
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Don't say you're 17, because it'll be SO awkward when he finds out you're not. And believe me, he'll probably find out.
Good luck, and don't rely on age, rely on charm!
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Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's very good to me. The only problem is...a little while before we met he hooked up with this girl that I really dislike. They had a friends with benefits arrangement going on for a while and worked together, but fortunately no longer speak. One of the first times I hung out with him before we started dating they were cuddling, and I think this may have impacted my impression of him. She was still calling even after we started dating. She's gone now, but I can't stop thinking about the things they did together and it disgusts me because I'm very morally opposed to that kind of thing. I really want to just put it behind me and move on but it seems I can't, any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I know that the past can be hurtful, but there isn't anything anyone can do to erase it. Maybe how he acted towards her was a mistake, but they've lost all communication.
As to being morally opposed (I completely agree, by the way) just remember that even if a guy feels that it's wrong, he usually has a hard time passing up a chance like that. And talk to him! It really does help to talk when you want to put something behind you. Good luck. =)
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Well last year, a guy asked me out, and I said no because I was super nervous. I felt really bad since he tried to get me for like a month. Well, now I sort of regret it, and would totally go out with him if he asked again. I can't help thinking about it every time I see him, and what it would've been like if I had agreed to go out with him, but it seems like he's totally moved on. What should I do? I don't want to seem sappy or anything. (link)
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It might look like he's moved on, but you can't know for sure until you ask. Maybe apologize for saying no before, and tell him you'd love to go out. He'll be flattered. =D
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Well, this guy, Alex, really hates me. I am not exaggerating. He would do anything to ruin my reputation. I have never been affiliated with him as friends or lovers, and have never spread rumors about him or anything. I did ask out his best friend last year,who declined, but that is totally in the past, and besides, I can't see why he would hate me so much for it anyway. I just don't know why he hates me so much. (link)
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Um, I know it sounds kind of cliched, but he might actually like you, and just take it out in some odd twisted fashion. My friend's worst enemy actually happened to like her. Of course since he was horrible to her, they never went out, 'cause she didn't like him...but beside the point!
Now, that's just one option I can think of. The other is something was said to him that had lead him to hate you. Something, you probably didn't even know happened. Could have been a rumor that YOU started a rumor.
And, I found it's reeeeaaally effective to find out why someone's mad at you by pretending your someone else on AOL (or another messaging product) and find out that dirty way. Hey, it works. =)
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My friend Meg is totally vain. Whenever she sees me in the same place she is, she gets all mad and calls me a "leech" who follows her around. She is only like this in certain occasions, and I don't want to stop being friends with her since she is nice and friendly when she isn't all mean. I get terribly offended by these names (puppy dog, leech, tick, etc.) since it isn't true. We have the same friends, and I see her and talk to her, but I don't "follow" her around. Trust me, I would be aware of it if I did. What should I do? (link)
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Although she might be nice (when she's not being utterly mean) it's not too much a reason to continue being friends with her. If she wants to feel like the princess, and find all of her friends inferior to her, she might as well be friendless.
I would first bring it to her attention, and if she doesn't stop, then tell her nicely that it's unacceptable for you to be treated as you've been, and end the friendship there.
G'luck!
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16/f - myself
18/m - the guy
Recently, I met a guy, and we saw eachother 6 times over the course of 5 weeks. Things were going great and on the 6th time we hung out, we watched a movie at his house. I thought it was good, and I was quite sure he was interested in me. Later that night he removed the "looking for" section of his facebook (A Relationship, Dating & Friendship).
The next day he was supposed to come over to my house, but he forgot he was supposed to have a guys party and watch a hockey game, so he broke off plans with me. I tried to be understanding, so everything went okay.
After that point he has not been talking to me. We briefly talked over MSN but he seemed uninterested. I messaged him asking how things were going, and why I wasn't getting messages anymore. No reply from him. It has been a week since this problem began, so I asked him why he had stopped talking to me.
His reply?
He didn`t know, he just had nothing to say.
I feel like that's a lie, but clearly we are done seeing eachother. Why might he have stopped talking? I don't think he met another girl, and I don't want to harass him by asking again. It's his loss, I am just curious.
Thanks for the insight! =)
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Very possible one of his friends had influenced him to stop talking to you. But it seems like maybe he still wants you if he can't find the words to say goodbye. I mean, often times if I guy is uninterested, they'll come out and give an excuse, but if they're still interested, they tend to hide behind silence 'cause they're afraid of ruining any chances in the future.
Maybe he's just confused. Haha!
And yeah, it is his loss. I admire that you said that, by the way, it's great to see you aren't hung over about it. *high five* =D
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I know I'll get scolded for what I'm about to ask..
But..
15/f..
I met a guy online. Let's call him S. Now, S is a nice guy. And I've made 1000000000000000 % sure that he's not some 76 year old pedophile masturbating to pictures of young girls. Trust me, he's not.
Now..I've known him for a year. And he's 3 and a half years older than me. He lives on this continent (U.S) but way, WAY up north in another country (get ittt? :)) Anyways...We've been communicating on and off for a year and stuff..and he always asks me for pictures. And I give him pictures. And he asks for more...and..uhm okay..here're more pictures. And of course..I don't ask him for pictures. It would be too awkward. I only ask him once in a while. But he says things like "You have me curious..I wanna see if your pictures are bad." And he just teases me on and off...and OBVIOUSLY ASKS for bad pictures. I never send them to him. WTF? Why would I do that? And whenever I don't send him some, he gets mad and pissed.
I don't know what to do. He creeps me out. But I can't block him because I [usually] like talking to him. Help? =/ (link)
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A decent guy wouldn't get pissed if you didn't send him bad pictures. I'd block him, because risking yourself in a relationship with a guy who creeps you out, really isn't worth it.
G'luck. =)
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Well this boy I love Lany said that we where friends but he never talkes to me and the girl he likes Gianna but she will never go out with him.So ya my real problem is I am not sure if I should be friends with Lany or not or should I tell Him how i feel and than the whole friendship will be runed or is there anything else that I can do.Please help me I cant handle this. (link)
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I know everyone says that a friendship is ruined if the guy/girl you've asked out doesn't like you back, but I beg to differ. Seriously, what's the worst that can happen? If you ask him out and he says no, you KNOW it's all he'll be thinking of at night, and he might just change his mind.
Take a chance, before you lose it. Good luck!
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Ok, here's the situation. I really like my friend Mike because he's so sweet & is extrememly nice to girls. However, he doesn't like me as a girlfriend, just as a friend. I tried to get closer to him, but it feels like I'll never be special to him because there's always someone else that he likes more. I try not to get jealous, but he has a lot of friends, so sometimes I wonder, what makes me so special? Since this relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere, should I just give up & leave him alone entirely (so that I don't get hurt again) or should I keep trying to get close to him & see where it goes? Thanks (link)
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Keep trying to get close, 'cause y'know, if he ever feels that his relationships are all failing, he can turn and see you, right there beside him!
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I've got loads of assignments, 6 weeks in College and need to get them done for Christmas. My lecturers are telling us to do them NOW! Like an hour a day atleast. However, when I get up to do work I find distractions like consoles, music, guitars.... Help me please! (link)
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I know it's hard to not be distracted. Those things are just too tempting!
But really, take your proffessors' advice and start them little by little each day. Just think, the more you get done one day, the more time you have to play the next day.
Oh, and Halo 3 isn't going to land you a job. =)
Focus on school and play later!
(But don't forget to limit yourself so you don't get overcome with stress!)
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mmkay my boyfriend is still in lovee with his X from 8 years ago and is still not over her. i trust him and all. but i feel when hes talking to me hes thinking about his X kori. instead of me. and when we have a conversation like him and me and some of my frriends. at lunch we will be talking about the cheerleaders [not in a bad wayy. i am a cheerleader!] but yeahh and he will be like oo TCMS cheer people is so muchh better then NJMS and then we will be like yeahh cause you used to go there and he will be like oo yeah well kori is better then EVERYONNEE on the cheer squad at NJMS cheer squad. and i act like it doesnt bother me cause we went out before and like 1 year ago and then he basically cheated on me with kori. and now its just they go to the same church and i feel like whenever im not right there he only thinks about kori. and hes always talking about me. but ALL my friends say he really likes me. so everythingg is just really confusinggg please helpp! :D (link)
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Really I'd confront him about it. Say that it's making you feel unimportant, that you're the second girl on his mind, and that you should be first.
But don't yell it at him! Talk gently and all sweet like. Just let him know how you're feeling.
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