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I met these boys at summer camp and they are really nice I want to give them candy because they love candy.What should I put the candy in? anyone have any cute ideas? I also want to be able write their names on it and from me.

how about putting it in a box..like a cardboard box or whatever...you can decorate the box however you want..maybe put pictures of you guys on the box..paint it, color on it, glue candy wrappers to it..theres a lot you can do.

i hope i helped

-meliss

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I have this t shirt that all the kids at my camp signed. but now i want to make it look cooler. What can I do to make my shirt stand out?

do you have an open space on the back of your shirt? maybe you can get a picture of you and your camp friends on the back of your tshirt. you take a photo of you and your campfriends and bring it to a place where they can do this for you and you can get the photo enlarged onto your tshirt. that would be kinda cool i think

you could just hang the shirt on your wall and around the shirt put pictures of you an your friends at camp

-melissa-

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well im asking about phone sex...what would classify as phone sex? just talking dirty and getting both people really excited or something else? thanks in advanced!

talking dirty counts as phone sex but also while talking dirty you can be masturbating to get off and orgasm over the phone.
you talk dirty to turn the other person on and you can make it like your fantasy sex dream..
if your into that then go for it!

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im 15, blonde, athletic, skinny and about 5'11 and i don't think im ugly..but idk if guys are like intimidated by my height or what..i have alot of friends..but not that guy friends that i hang out with..so any suggestions on how to be more outgoing around guys w/ out being self concious about my height..or just any general advice would be great!

i think you should just keep in mind that your a very pretty girl and i bet guys do like you but might be intimidated a little bit by your height. if you start convos and become friendly with more guys...i bet you will be getting plenty offers before you know it.
:)

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ok i am going to the mal on friday to meet up with a close guy friend of mine. he used to think i didnt like him but i did soemthing that convinced him i made a shout on the radio dedicating a song and sayin that i love him, but anyways i like this guy a lot i meet him by a friend of mine she gave him my sn and we have been talkin on the phone and online all the time but on fridau we r plannin to go to the movies my best friend going wit just in case but idk i dont really care about looks he tells me he has the cute face but he has an average body which doesnt bother me but he wants somethin to happenin in the movies except i DONT have to do anything i DONT want to do.. he thinks i can give realy good head because i noe a lot about doing but never have done it be4 i want to try it but then i dont. a friend of mine who is older then told me it taste nasty and has a lot of taste of salt.. is that true?? if so how can you change the taste?? we r not plannin to have sex in the theater we r arent even goin to have sex at all... bc i am a virgin but what should i do?? if i back out of doing it how can i tell without making him think i hate his dick or stuff like that.. thanks! and me and this close friend are plannin to hook up on friday!!

p.s.

can someone give me some tips on giving head/ blow jobs and not websites

the taste varies from guy to guy.
the only way you can change the taste is by using a condem or flavored condem (its wise to use one because you dont know where hes been if you know what i mean)

ok ..if you back out simply tell him you areent ready (the truth)..he wont think you hate his dick..he will konow your just not ready and thats perfectly fine

tips:
ok i know yuou dont want websites but talksexwithsue.com is an awwesome website and on it heres what it says:

to first get your tongue on the penis and drool so the penis is wet and lubricated (this makes it easier to go up and down on )
keep in mind the most nerve endings are on the first few inches of the penis..so if you can only fit a couple inches in your mouth thats ok..just take your hand and grip the penis around the base while the tip is in your mouth, and coordinate your movements where you slide your hands up and down the base the same time your bobbing your head

i think the website can help you out more than i can so if this info wasnt enough..check out the website because its great! sexproject.com is good

i hope what i said helped though?
-melissa

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ok so this yr im a freshman & the 1st day i have to bring EVERYTHING! i mean biders books supplies, gywm clothes, gym shoes,,its ridiculous! whats the best way to get it all there without lookin lik a total nerd in front of my new school?!?!

buy a sports bag maybe..i mean its not nerdy to have a sports bag..especially if yuo play sports lol and even if you dont its ok!

in your sports bag you can bring your gym stuff ..in your book bag have your scchool supplies and put them in your locker. its not like your going to walk in with glue sticks and lose leaf in a groccery store bag..you will be carrying your supplies in your bookbag like everyone else so dont worry!
-melissa- :)

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sometimes i seriously just cant sleep...is it bad for an almost 15 yr old to use sleeping pills?
any suggestions on what type (if its not bad)?

a friend of mines mom uses sleeping pills..and from seeing her on sleeping pills all i can tell you..is that sleeping pills dont seem so good. i mean the body becomes so dependant on the sleeping pills..and my friends mom used to always call my mom when me and the friend used to chill .. all crazy and high sounding "..oo please drive my dauggter home..i just took my sleeping pills"..bla bla
so based on my experiences with my friends crazy mom..i wouldnt suggest sleeping pills at all..your body will become dependant on them..not healthy. i would try doing other things like putting the tv on mute ..listening to music..look up sleeping tips online and you will find a bunch of ideas to try and make you sleep better..but i dont suggest sleeping pills

i hope this helped
-melissa- :)

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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...

ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do?

listen sweetie, you need to tell your parents, the authorities,a friends parents, a relative.. some trusted adult right away! Yourr putting yourself at more danger by NOT tellin anyone. you need to tell someone so this asshole can be locked up..you can get an order or protection out on him..and you need to get this asshole locked up so this never happens again

please listen to us and tell somebody!

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ok this might be long but i really need advice
ok this summer i went to an over night camp for about 5 weeks and i hooked up with a guy that is 3 years older then me. we kissed and held hands and sometimes he would touch my breasts and my ass and put his hand down my pants But one night it went a little to far and we had sex then the next day he broke up with me then he left to go back to his home and i was still @ camp Then all the guys at camp were asking me outa nd stuff and it made me feel special but then this one guy asked me out lets call him bob. I really like bob alot so i went out with him and stuff then one thing led to another and stuff and we had sex and it was so good but that was my last week at camp so i went home me and all my friends always hung out @ this ark down the street from me and stuff And then ppl started asking me if i wanted to come over to their house for the night and this kid that hangs out with us letrs call him dan started to grab my but and my breasts then they all come over to my hosue and everyone left exept dan and he came one to me and started to un zip my pants and shit and i ened up giving a blowjob...then 2 nights ago i slept over my friends house because my parents were gone for a night and they didn't trust me so i was in the guestroom and i guess it was about 2am and her older brother came into my room only in his boxers and i was just in my see thru thong with no shirt on and he started dto kiss me and touch me and said take off my thong and i did *because her brother is hott) and then we had sex it was the best! and then the next morning he came into the shower with me and we had sex agian and then he told everyone and now im called a Slut but im not really Am I? and boys touch my ass and breast and try to put there hands down my pants but i don't know...if i am a slut pllz give me ways that i can not become a slut. Thanx

yeah your most definately A SLUT!
there are some pretty obvious signs that your a big slut..here are just a couple:

-you take off your thong for a guy because hes hot..HMMMMM (cough) SLUT
-you have sex with these guys just for the thrill of doing it! there was no connection..you just
had sex with these guys who came on to you..
- your EASY yes, thats right..the guys come on to you because they know your easy and they want some ass

how do you not be a SLUT anymore?
learn to say NO you slut!

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This really isnt a question but i feel that people should watch. Its a lil graphic but nothing that wouldnt see on tv. All of this is real and please take the time to watch and remember what happen on that day
This is a 9/11 tribute and i hope the moderators dont delete this before visiting the site.
http://www.fdnylodd.com/BloodofHeroes.html

i agree that we must never forget. thank you for posting that.

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i have like horrible sleeping problems...like sometimes i dont even fall asleep till almost 3 in the morning. does anyone have any like tips or something to help me fall asleep?


thanks ♥

listen to radio, don’t take day naps, sleep in comfortable clothes, listen to silence, think about your favorite things, eat turkey for dinner, total silence and darkness, relieve stress, don’t eat or drink after 8pm, find a routine, cuddle a pillow, brush your teeth, rub your temples, plan tomorrow, aroma linen spray, email, putting puzzles together, doing cross-words, searching the internet, downloading music, call a friend, driving, writing, paying bills, doing school work, eating well-balanced meals, active during the day, emptying your bladder before you go to bed, taking a long-hot shower, putting your kids to bed, humming, playing solitaire, drop your body temperature, say your prayers, calm bedroom colors, have a security object like a blanket, mute your TV, try solving riddles, soft linen fabrics.

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HERE ARE SOME WEBSITES TO CHECK OUT

http://www.digital-doc.com/sleep.htm


http://www.stanford.edu/~dement/howto.html

http://www.mikedangelo.com/health/articles/sleep/

wow those are a lot of suggestions!! lol i hope this helps !!

much luv,
melissa :)

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I like this guy. I dont know him that well, but theres a connection and I really like him. The thing is he is super popular and extremley good looking. ALL the girls like him, and he usually dates just "hot" girls with zero personality. I'm not exactly pretty...or even attractive at that but I have an awesome personality. He is awesome and deserves way better than the girls he dates. Is there any way I can get him to have the same feelings as me? Will being his friend help?

yes being his friend will definately help because he will get to know you and see your awesome personality. unfortunately, a lot of guys (and girls) dont see past looks..they want the looks and its funny how the people with the lamest personalities get the great guys. im like the "girl with the good personality but the horrible looks." some people have looks..and some just dont..im one of those who dont ..and its hard sometimes because im just a "great friend" to guys ..they dont see me as something more. well dont worry because if this guy doesnt see how much of a great person you are and how you would make an awesome gf, its his loss sweetie..there will be guys who really like you for who you are, and those are the guys you desserve :)

if there was some way to MAKE a guy get the same feelings as you, nobody in this world would be lonely..sweetie, reality is he has to get to know you and start to like you back on his own. just be yourself and if he likes you, he made the right choice ..if he doesnt..its his loss and you have to keep in mind there are guys out there who are really going to like you..you just have to wait for him..im waiting for that guy for me..and a lot of girls are waiting..so its not only you waiting

i hope this helped
-melissa-

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wherever i go, i call my boyfriend before i go and tell him or he makes me feel bad

whatever i do, i call my boyfriend and tell him before i do it or he makes me feel bad

when we fight, i am given all the blame

if i want to hang out with friends, i can, but he makes me feel bad

if he is stressed out, i am feeling bad because hes telling me what i try is not enough and i should always put him before me

hes needy, and he knows it!

if im happy spending time away from him and im w/ friends, he feels bad and makes me feel bad

but he says nothings ever his fault, he cant help it if he feels bad

i am the one who has to do EVERYTHING!, because he used to do things for me in the beginning of our relaitonship but now if i dont do it, he makes me feel bad.

im always made to feel bad.

ok wow i see what you meant when you said you were feeling tied down..this is NOT a healthy relationship at all! you have to break up with him..this is not healthy..you shouldnt have to get the blame all the time and you shouldnt have to call your bf and tell him what you do and stuff like that..this is a verrrry unhealthy relationship...definately not good. this stuff is unhealthy whether your a teenager or 50 years old! it doesnt matter the age..its still NOT a good relationship

so i think you should get out of this relationship because its controlling and its too much.!

-melissa-

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how should a normal healthy teen relationship be? how much should you see eachother? what kinda things should u do, where should u go? what are some bad things to do w/ your boyfriend? is fooling around a bad idea? ive been w/ my bf for 11 months.... but i feel too tied down, like im married....

ok a healthy teeen relationship should consist of the following (in my opinion)

1. trust in your partner that he/she is not cheating:

i have seen too many teen relationships consist of this "dont hang around her, your going to end up cheating on me.." or "i bet you cheated on me with him.." there is no trust there and that isnt healthy

2. a balance between friends and your bf/gf:

for example: hanging out with your bf all the time and totally not hanging out with your friends is really not healthy. i have seen friendships get ruined over people who are with their bfs and gfs soo much that they neglect their friends

3. a healthy relationship is not an obsessive one:

o man, obsessive relationships are no good! i have had friends who have been in these obsessive relationships where the girlfriend is always calling and being a pain!

OK i would say during the summer time seeing each other 2 times a week is a good number..but when it gets to be 6 or 7 times a weeek thats a bit much because time should be spent with friends also. but for one on one time ..2-3 times a week on average (sometimes less sometimes more) is good

things you shoould do:
i think it should be a balance between having fun sexually and non sexually. a relationship with just making out and doing stuff isnt so healthy

doing things like
-going to the park..or amusement park
-going to the movies
-hanging out just having fun (without sexualness)

some intamacy should be included (the level of intamacy is between you and your bf) but there should be some handholding, kissing, and afterr that its your choice
fooling around and being intimate is a good idea not a bad one! being close and intimate is healthy. how intimate you get is between you and your bf

feeling tied down like your married isnt good..how do you feel tied down? if you feel things are getting too serious, try getting less intimate and focus on having more fun doing more activities and maybe only kissing or something..if you want to talk about how your being tied down..inbox me if you want

i hope all this helped!
-melissa-

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i am going to be going away for a week to aruba and that means : no cell phone service.. i might be ablt to talk to my boyfriend somedays but maybe not. i am going to miss him so much and i want to do soemthing special with him before i go, im scared he`ll cheat=( even thought i doubt he wont it still makes me scared.. anything sweet i could do?.. i was goin to right a note telling him how much i cared and stuff and sneak it in his wallet but is there anything we could do the night before? thanksss♥

aw the wallet idea sounds really sweet you should totally do that!
ok there are tons of stuff you can do the night before::
-have a campfire ..a romantic one you kno? you can cuddle in a blanket or something and roast marshmellows in your backyard. maybe invite some friends too if you want
-go to the mall and hang out..maybe see a movie and get somethin to eat
-watch movies at one of your houses and cuddle on the couch :)
-maybe go out with a bunch of his friends somewhere like bowling or the mall..then later it can be just the two of you watching movies or having a campfire or something..this way you can include both time for him to hang with friends one more time and then also hang out with you too.

if you would like more ideas feel free to inbox me and i will see what i can think of

i hope this helped! :)
-melissa-

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I grew up beliving that cheating was wrong, but the more I really think about it and the whole idea of sex, I've come to the conclusion the sex is more or less just expressions of how two people feel about each other, where at that moment in time or together as a couple, but when alot of people cheat they end up telling the other person, most say b/c they feel guilty.... my question is .. DO you think it's wrong of me to think and say "why tell the other person to make urself feel better and hurt them?" to me telling the our person is just selfish, thinking about urself. What's ur thoughts?

hm, i definately see your point but i think cheating is being selfish enough..because your going behind the other persons back to have fun and afterwards coming home to the person you cheated on. i think just the idea of cheating is selfish, ya know? i mean at least if you tell the other person your bringing what you did to the table and (if you want to) say your willing to do something to fix it...or end the relationship because the person did cheat...

the subject can go back and forth from your valid point, to the point that cheating in the first place is selfish . i think releasing it is something perfectly human..living with the guilt isnt whats natural to us..

my opinion is that cheating is just wrong, and if you do cheat..telling the person will set you free..is it selfish? yeah it comes off as sounding selfish but i think if i had someone who i really cared about aand i cheated, i would end up telling

we're all different, and this is just my opinion.

thanks for the question, it made me think :)

-melissa-

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Okay.. guys can have orgasms right? I mean you dont hear if it often so I'm not sure how to go about pleasuring him. How can I get my boyfriend to have an orgasm? We're not ready for sex yet but .. are there any certain things I can do? Any tips would be really appreciated.

OK yes, they do and a great sex expert who explains the males g spot perfectly is sue johanson

www.talksexwithsue.com

the "g spot in males is called the "a spot"
to pleasure it you would have to (well you should) put a condom or glove on your hand and with your pointer finger you insert it up his anus (this is where the a spot is located) and when you feel somoething smooth, thats his prostate..if you massage it GENTLY it will feel extrrrremeely pleasurable.

go to that website for specifics

(use lots of lube for this because without lube it would probably hurt)

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Is it abnormal that i am extremly turned on by watching a guy jerk off? It's gotten to the point where i constantly encourage my boyfriend to jack off just so i can ask him about it? anyone else share this same interest?

its totally not abnormal! o gosh there are so many weird fetishes out there!! this is not weird at all..there is nothing wrong about being curious and stuff ..
if me and a bf ever got serious and stuff, sure i can totally see myself wanting to watch him and ask him about it..learn new things and stuff

-melissa- :)

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Im 14 about to b 15..whats a good way to have a b-day party n December.. My b-day is In the later December after Christmas PLEASE HELP!

ok well i dont know what your budget is but here are some suggestions:
- have an indoor pool party at a hotel or resort.
-rent out a party room and have a dj and stuff
- go bowling/ rollerskating with a bunch of friends
- go to a nice restarant with close friends then have a sleepover
-go skiing for the day with a bunch of friends
-go to a spa with close friends and get massages and etc.

if you want more ideas inbox me with more details like your budget and stuff

i hope these ideas helped
-melissa-

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ok so theres this guy and i like him so much and i know theres probably nothing i can do but...i need to, i have to, i hate being without him...its crazy and it all happened so fast and i dont know what to do...but look...i like him he likes me but he doesn't want a relationship...id like one, because i want that commitment. i want him to be mine and only mine....you know...what do i do !?!?! help please please help..

pleease take it from me and dont get into this..it will only lead to hurt feelings. the two of you arent on the same page as far as relationships go, so i KNOW how hard this is, but you should move on from him and keep it just good friends.
just my opininon but then again i didnt listen to anyone when they gave me this same advice..so sometimes we have to find out for ourselves you know? well there is my 2 cents.i hope this helped you out.

-melissa-

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