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I'm not sure but I'm thinking about having sex with my bf. But i don't want my parents to find out. What if I'm at the doctors and the ask if I'm sexually active and my parents are there for some weird reason. How do I keep them thinking tht I'm a virgin (link)
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Tell the doctor no, you aren't sexually active. There is no law that says you have to be truthful to your physician (though I don't recommend anyone ever lying to their doctor for obvious reasons). If you need a test for pregnancy or std's or birth control you can always go to Planned Parenthood.
Also, medical records are at least supposed to be private, but the amount of confidentiality available to patients, especially minors, varies by state.
As for whether you will have sex with your boyfriend, just remember that your life is your own and you shouldn't live it to please anyone other than yourself. That is because everyone's sensibility is different and so what makes one happy will likely differ from the person next to you. Also make sure that you act so as to keep all your life options intact, which means using BOTH birth control and condoms, in this case. Don't be bulldozed or emotionally blackmailed into something that may lead to disaster or you don't want to do. Sex is great, but not if it will result in negative consequences. Like all things in life, it has to be managed properly so as to ensure that no ill will arise from it.
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what type of prom dress color would i look good in, or at least give me some pics for advice.
This is how i look like:
-asian -long black hair -dark brown eyes (my eyes are kinda small) -very tall and skinny -my intrest is animals, romance, art
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White, pink, powder blue or red would probably look good on you. Have fun!
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My mom gets really angry really easily. I'm her only daughter and i'm 16 and she treats me like i'm disposable.
Like today she found out that I missed school because the power went out and screwed up my alarm clock last night.
I told her what happened and she refused to believe me and made up all sorts of crazy delusions in her head about what she thinks really happened. She started screaming and cussing me out and telling me that she's going to call social services and have them come take me away because she hates me so much and that she thinks i'm a complete failure.
Every time anything go's the least bit wrong she go's nuts. She makes up scenarios in her head that never actually happened and lets them build her anger up.
Every single day she explodes about something and always takes it out on me.
She thinks she's the perfect parent though and whenever shes around anybody else she acts positively angelic.
I'm always being accused of something and I never get a say in the matter. If I try to explain myself she slaps me and tells me to shut up.
Yet she'll go on an on about how I abuse her trust and how she's the perfect parent and that I don't deserve her.
I really think she hates me.
She always insults me and belittles everything I do. Nothing is ever good enough for her and every day I come home from school to a pissed off mother who stresses me out the point i've thought about calling DCF.
She's even gotten angry to the point she pushed me down the stairs and hit me with a pan.
I'm in all honors classes with A's and B's and i've never been to the discipline office for anything.
I don't know why she thinks i'm such a horrible monster but she does and it drives me crazy.
What can I do about her?
I can't live with my dad because he lives in a really tiny 1 bedroom apartment with 13 cats and a 12 hour job. He barely has enough money for himself and his pets so he wouldn't be able to take care of me.
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First, recognize that both of your parents have psychological problems and are basically incapable of being psychologically stable adults.
That means you are going to have to suck it up and basically manage your own life and pretty much ignore the shenanigans of your mom and dad. You are definitely not a bad person, so don't let your wacko mother steamroller you into a bad self-image.
Step back, relax, plan out how you are going to ultimately extricate yourself from this hell you're in and make a happy life for yourself. That means getting ready for college and then leaving home once you can enter university. And again, don't listen to the negative messages they give you.
Good luck. I feel for you.
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A friend of mine and myself spent the night last year after she broke up with her (on again/off again) boyfriend. Because she was my friend, I guess I assumed that there may be something more long term there and was a little dissapointed when she got back with her boyfriend the following week when I got back from a trip. But I handled myself well and got over it.
A couple of months later, same routine. Again I just let it go, telling myself... "first time, shame on you, second time shame on me".
Things went on, and we remained rather good friends, however the last time she broke up with her last boyfriend, I was the one to help her through it, she was really crushed. Before I knew what was up, I fell for her. I tried to deal with the emotion but was unable to, and subsequently told her. At first she seemed flattered and interested, then all of a sudden the old boyfriend is back in the picture, I am told I am delutional about some aspects of her ever showing interest, and kicked to the curb.
One of the things (which I am comfortable telling) is that I read interest from her was us playing footsie for 15minutes. She insists that I initiated the game and she imediatly declined...
love may scew the flow of time but... c'mon.
Things did escalate beyond that.
I need unbiased advice, I am emotionally caught up in this mess and I feel more and more that this "friend" should take a hike. I am worthy when no one else is around. It feels like this time broke the camels back.
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Dude, one of the worst aspects of women is that they are often emotional vampires. You're a nice guy, so you allowed yourself to get duped into wasting all kinds of time on a girl you secretly hoped to claim for your own even when it was clear she had you on the dreaded "friend list" (which means you will never, ever see her naked).
This means that you gotta man up and start ignoring her. The perverse thing is that often times the best way to get attention from a woman is to completely give her the cold shoulder. Nevertheless, by continuing to allow her to suck up your time and emotions you look like a needy loser and she won't respect you at the end of the day and neither will any of the women who know her. So she has to be nixed from your life, dude. Sounds cold, but reality is what it is.
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So I have this friend, he's a really nice guy and a good friend but I really can't see myself with him. He likes me alot and does really cute things for me like brings me flowers and my favorite candy when I'm sick and always asks me on dates like in cute ways and I go on the dates with him cause I do like hanging out with him, but I told him I don't wanna be more than friends. Ever since I told him he still does cute things for me and asks me on dates and everything. Is he just being a good friend or does he not get it? He says he loves my personality and finds me easy to talk to and stuff and hopes that something would "spark" but I just can't see it and I told him that but he's still acting the same...what should I do? He's such a nice guy I don't want to hurt him but then again I can't force myself to feel something for him. (link)
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Yeah, this guy has glommed on to you and will keep this up until you firmly tell him just what the "friend list" (the gulag archipelago of male-female interactions) really means.
If you can't take the bull by the horns and do the deed yourself, have a friend tell him what the 411 is. Remember, guys are dumb when it comes to understanding the signals from women.
Unfortunately, a lot of "nice" guys pull crap like this because they believe you will ultimately come around when, in fact, the continued attention on someone who has no intention of allowing him to see them naked only makes him look like a needy dork. Someone would be kind by giving him a reality check so that he doesn't repeat this behavior in the future with some other woman.
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how do i tell him to tell his best friend to stay out of are relationship?? (link)
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This is weird because the problem is usually that the girl has her friends around too much when the guy wants to be alone with her. Most guys find their girlfriend's friends annoying generally anyway. I actually broke up with one girlfriend, in a substantial part, because her idiot friends were just around too much and I'm not the kind of guy to suffer fools gladly.
So if you tell your boyfriend that his friend needs to stop getting in the way there is nothing wrong with that. This is for the guy to handle anyway. If the boyfriend has a "bros before hos" attitude then you will either have to just put up with it or find a new partner.
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Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]
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First, at your age, the relationship with your boyfriend is unlikely to amount to much. Your chances of marrying him are pretty much nil. Therefore, the stake you have in this relationship isn't that great. So if you don't want to have sex then don't do it.
Look at it this way: teens have very poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That also brings with it a good bit of ignorance and insecurity. For you, what you need to do is take control of your life. You are the only one who can live your life and you have to conduct it according to what makes you happy. Therefore, it is unnecessary to make this a big drama. Just tell your boyfriend no and if he doesn't like it tell him to hit the road. Everybody, including you, will respect you for sticking to your guns. If it ain't right for you it ain't right, period.
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so like, im a guy and all right, and im really young, im about to turn 20. not that it matters with this question
but for some reason, often, whatever i eat turns up in my shit, and its nasty.
like a month ago, i ate cotton candy icecream at Cold Stone and my shit was neon blue. And yesterday i had Chipotle and this morning when i went to shit there was corn in the shit and some bits of salsa. n kits kinda nasty i mean, you know. And it wasnt even digested corn or chewed corn... it was like fresh from the fridge corn. Like it was perfect. And last week my roomate cooked brocolli and carrots and when i shitted there were litttle sprouts in the shit. I mean, i dont have diarrhea or anything, my shit is fresh, but for some reason, whatever i eat turns up in my shit. I didnt wanna look at it to see what was wrong, so i took my digital camera and me and my roomate took a pic of it with our eyes closed. So i uploaded it on my computer and zoomed in on the delicious stuff in the shit to see exactly what it was. And me and my roomate were like thats gross dude.
Is tehre something wrong with me or my diet, or is it like some kind of disease. Because im not fat or anything, i work out alot with my roomate and all the girls check us out... so i dont think its my health, but im not sure........ (link)
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Troll.
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My boyfriend and I have great sex. The issue is, he has trouble making me come quickly. While I myself can take care of it in 10 minutes, it takes him anywhere from 15 minutes to 30, or 40. Not an issue for me. But he has ADHD and gets bored, and feels like he dosent have the energy. But he dosent want to never get me off and just think of himself, so sometimes, hard on or no, he will avoid sex entirely due to the fact that he dosent have the energy to try to get me off. This really hurts my feelings and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do about it. I told him that fine, I will just take care of me, just lets have sex, and I'll take care of me afterwards. Advice? Comments? (link)
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The ADHD is just an excuse. He's lazy and selfish. Get a new boyfriend. The time it takes you to orgasm during intercourse isn't that unusual. So it's not your fault. Don't blame yourself here.
The best part of sex, to me, is when she is enjoying it. If she isn't, I'm not liking it, either. And I never, ever turn a girlfriend down for sex because I know how they will often take the refusal. Besides, even if I'm tired, I find that once I start going to it the fatigue disappears and I get totally into it.
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so ive been chatting this kid that goes to my friends school and we were supposed to meet up but we couldnt. and the next time i see him i want to wow him or whatever. i think he likes me he thinks im pretty and shit. and i rly dont want to be single anymore. i am really god at giving advice to my girlfriends on how to get a guy and go out, and it alwayd works. so for me i know them but if you guys know any tips can you say them please thank you. Also just in general what are some ways guys get attracted to girls and like them. Just some tips thanks (link)
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Guys are pretty simple. The mistake that most women make is that they expect men to think as they do. The main things you need to be are low maintenance, nice, accessible time and placewise and don't overthink. Because guys are pretty dumb in picking up signals from women you have to be pretty obvious. Touch him a lot on the arms, playful slaps on the ass, putting your body against his and compliments would be good for starters.
The best thing, of course, is just to ask him out, but most women don't want to do that because they want the guy to be risking rejection rather than themselves.
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my mom wont let me get my belly botton peircered so i did it my self now i can't find a belly ring any where and i dont have any money (link)
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Not getting a belly piercing isn't going to have any effect on your life and getting one isn't going to make you cuter. Have a sense of proportion. Don't stew over trivialities.
When you're old enough to work get a job and you can pay for the piercing for yourself. Until then, just relax.
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what are the disadvantages of masterbration ?
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There isn't any disadvantage for females unless she is using vibrators all the time. Some women report that after using them a lot it makes it harder for them to orgasm with fingers or via oral sex.
For males, if you do it too much it can lead to a kind of desensitization that causes an inability to ejaculate before the female's lubrication dries up during intercourse or before her jaw gets sore during oral sex. In other words, the ejaculation just takes too long. So it's not a good idea, for example, to spend hours each day masturbating to porn. All things in moderation.
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So I've been with this new guy for a few months now, about 4 really, we are both 19, and hes the sweetest guy I've ever dated. He treats me amazing! I am really falling in love with him I already do love him as a person because he is just so amazing and admirable and a genuinely nice person (you don't find many out there), he told me he loved me the other day and he always tells me how amazing I am and beautiful, etc etc. Everything is going wonderful, except he has a small problem. The first four times we tried having sex, he came prematurely. Within the first 3 to 5 minutes. This frustrated him, because he said he never had this problem before. Thing is before I met him, he used to be very much overweight, and he has lost all of it the year before I met him. He is extremely skinny and has gained a lot of muscle instead. He looks very good now. For some reason though, he couldn't last. He also said he never masturbated because when he was losing all that weight, working out replaced masturbation. He hadn't done it in over 7 months.
Then, one night we came home after both having been drinking, and he lasted a veryyy long time, which made me think, okay, hes over the nerves that may have caused him to do that the first few times, and now it will be fine. After that he lasted a decent amount for a few times. Recently though, he's starting to get this problem again, and its becoming a serious issue because of how upset its making him. He isnt able to last for more than 5 to 10 minutes maximum, sometimes less than that. He gets extremely sad and frustrated and sex is not even enjoyable for him, and in turn me. I reassure him it's okay all the time but of course, him being a guy, hes not going to believe me. I keep telling him that we need to do it more and more to practice and hes going to get better at it, but hes convinced he has a problem. The other night, I was going to tell him that I was there for him and we'd work through it together and when I said "I want to tell you..." he interrupted me in a sad voice and said "that my penis is useless..." I was in such shock I'd never heard him say something so detrimental to himself before and of course I corrected him and assured him but he kept saying "don't keep trying to say its okay, it's not okay"
I don't really know what to do, I told him maybe he can go to the doctor or something but he said he doesn't know what the doctor can do really. And I really don't know what to say to him to make him feel any better about it because this is a sensitive issue for guys. He keeps saying he wants to make me happy and I keep telling him he does, all the time. But he still feels shitty about it. What can I do, or what can he do, so we can fix this problem? (link)
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Well, he could always blame the situation on you for being too hot *lol
Actually, what we have here is a vicious cycle. The more he tries to suppress the urge to cum the more likely the trigger will be pulled before you reach orgasm.
Fortunately, there are a couple of ways to deal with this:
1. Give him a handjob or a blowjob or a combination to completion as part of your foreplay. This will desensitize him somewhat once he gets hard again. Then you have him eat you to orgasm, by which time he will probably be ready for penetration.
2. The trick is not to think to oneself about putting off cumming, but to just empty your mind completely. Have him relax so that his body is limp but yet his penis is still hard. He should make his mind blank. He inserts the penis and then starts to thrust while his mind focuses on nothing. It's like he becomes a fuck machine. His muscles should be completely limp as he does this. Then after you've cum, he can turn his brain back on and cum himself.
This takes a little time to completely get used to, but it works.
He obviously wants to please you. But he just needs to relax. Good luck to the two of you.
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20female Joe 19. This might be a little long but I'll return the favor! :)
So I've known Joe for about 5 years now. We used to be close but we have grown apart over the years. We still see each other but not every day like we used to.
Anyways, basically there is a lot of sexual tension between us. We flirt a lot, but we have never done anything. Seriously I would have sex with him in a second. That sounds kind of slutty but it's true. Please don't say anything about you shouldn't have sex with your friends, etc.
So here are some examples of what he does when we're together. Tell me if you think he's into me or you think he's joking around.
So we went to the casino tonight with my two cousins, Joe and his friend. Me Joe and his friend were in the back seat on the way there. First, Joe goes to put his seat belt on and purposely grabs my butt and I just look at him and he smiles at me. Then at the casino i'd be on the opposite side of him and he would be staring at me and I'd catch him and then he'd wink at me and then start kind of laughing. Then he'd ask what I was doing tonight and at the same time I said "Not you ;)" and he said "Me?" and we both started laughing. I would of said "you" being serious but I sort of panicked. Then on the way home we were messing with my Ipod seeing what song we wanted and he was like here let me pick one, and I was still holding it but basically his hand was over mine kind of holding it. THEN we were sitting in the car and i layed my head on his friend cause we were tired and i stretched my legs on Joe and he put his hand between my legs and started rubbing the outside of my vagina through my jeans (for like 30 sec) and then he just left his hand there for about 5 min but then when his friend left and we were still in the car i was laying all the way down with my legs still on him (his hand wasn't on me anymore) and he had the chance to do whatever he wanted but he was playing some dumb game on his Ipod. And then he was like alright I think it's time to go home, and he left.
Just at times it seems like he doesn't really want me, because it seems like he has chances but doesn't take it. When he touches me I don't push his hand away or anything. But when he asks or brings up sex or something I freeze up. And I know a lot of the times he's like joking around when he says stuff like that, but is being serious about it too. But then other times he does all that stuff and will touch me and everything.
Do you think maybe I'm giving him mixed signals? I feel like he is giving me mixed signals. And to be honest, I would be like let's go and start making out with him and whatever but I don't know if that's what he wants! I'm too afraid to make a move, I want HIM to. But I never know if he's being serious or joking. I'm almost 98% sure he would hook up with me, but then there is that 2% that has doubts. What should i do, am I not putting myself out there enough? The only time I have brought up sex with him was in September when I texted him and he was like "you wanna have sex with me?" And I was like "Haha i don't know if you can handle it though ;)" And he was like "Oh please! Yes i could!" But nothing ever came from that. So I feel like if we're together one of us has to make a move, rather than planning it out or something awkward. I feel like we're both too afraid to make a move, in case the other one doesn't feel the same.
How can I put myself out there, and maybe make a subtle move on him that's not really obvious but would get things going? And we're usually always with friends, so it's hard sometimes. (link)
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You're definitely giving him mixed signals. Next time he makes a move, kiss him. Or tell him to do that again, or don't stop, or whatever. Or just jump on him, rip your clothes off and have a good hot sex session. There is nothing dirty or slutty about a woman wanting sex. Stop listening to counterproductive and sexist messages. Your life will be better for it.
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I was watching criminal minds one night & in the episode they said something about woman who have problems because they don't have a father figure present. . . Is there some kind of name for that? Such as a disease or something? Cause I thought they said a name for it but I can't remember. . .
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Some women have what are called abandonment issues. What that sometimes lead to is a preference for men who aren't all there emotionally, or even physically, for them, since many women re-enact their relationship with their fathers in their intimate lives. Some women may need therapy for this.
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im 18 female and i cant seem to find any way to pleasure myself. Ive tried fingering myself and touching myself but its not pleasant to me at all :( the only thing that seems to give me any sort of pleasure is 'pillow sex' where you basically rub yourself against or ride a pillow. Even then i cum but i can never have an orgasm. Im worried that (being a virgin) that the first time i have sex or let a guy finger or go down on me that i will be left with a very embarrassing situation, and that i wont be able to orgasm in any form of sexual activity. I do however know that a large percentage of women arent able to have orgasm through penetration, and that it usually involves foreplay to make a them orgasm. But i dont know if even that will work on me! Im also worried when the time comes that the guy im with will ask me how i can get him to pleasure me, and i wont know!
help :(
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The main thing is that you don't feel obligated to orgasm for somebody else's benefit. The orgasms are FOR YOU. Yeah, the guy will be focused on getting you off (if he is a considerate lover) because sex is the most fun when she is enjoying it.
So just relax and take your time. Play with your clitoris. Sometimes it can take a few minutes for you to get off. Use your index fingers and rub it in circles or rub it underneath your fingers or whatever feels good. You can also put a couple of fingers inside you and rub the upper wall of your vaginal canal just inside the opening. You will initially feel an urge to urinate, but that will soon be replaced by much more pleasant feelings.
There is nothing evil or dirty about this. Take deep breaths, let your body go limp and focus on the sensations from your clit.
Good luck. You have plenty of time to work this issue out. So take whatever time you need.
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Why does it seem like guys are not as insecure of their bodies as girls are? It seems like guys will just get naked right in front of people like nothing, when I don't feel like girls would do that (I know I wouldn't and I am a skinny girl) (link)
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The media and advertising tells men that their bodies (mostly in the area below the waist) are ugly and are not to be exposed under any circumstances, no matter how buffed they are. This is further fueled by homophobia So I don't think guys are nearly as willing to get naked in public as you think. Yeah, they'll take their shirts off or wear shorts, but that is about it.
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Will it be awkward if my vagina is all hairy when i have sex? What if his isnt? What do i dooo! (link)
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The only awkwardness is him getting hair in his mouth when he goes down on you. Otherwise, not awkward at all. I personally prefer a shaved vaginal area, but others have a preference for full on bush. Whatever floats your boat.
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost four years, I am 18 and he is 22. We were each others first, and we started having sex around 6 months, we did it at the park, in this secret hidden area since we couldn't do it at each others home's or anything well anyway I think a girl going down on him was always his fantasy so the second day we tried sex he made me go down on him and I gagged a lot but he loved it and then I tried him going down on me but he would go down and then up and stare at it and he had this face of like confusion and kind of disgust I'm clean shaven and I have good hygiene and since then I never brought it up since I thought he was disgusted by it but recently this year I started feeling it was so selfish because I go down on him at least two times a day I just feel like its so selfish because he gets the pleasure out of it and I get nothing, that's his favorite thing to do always he doesn't go a day without it and its been four years and I started bringing it up this year and he's like "oh I will" and "okay babe I will" and one day he tried it and he stopped like after three seconds and I was asking him if I was nasty or what? and he said he didn't know what to do and felt like he didn't know what he was doing.and I dk what to tell him to do because I've never had that done to me. I don't understand how HE can't know because he watches p*rn a lot and I know in the p*rn videos the guys who down and them zoom in and crap :( (porn is disgusting to me I gag when watching it so I don't know wanna watch it) and I really want him to do that because the face he makes and the pleasure he gets when I do it to him I want to feel that too and my friends say its the most pleasurable thing ever and I can only imagine cause once he kisses me in that area even on my legs I feel so amazing and I just wish he would go down on me, its my fantasy too:( what can I do? or how can I persuade him or do I have no hope? (link)
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Show him where your clitoris is. Then tell him to lick it and suck it (gently) while putting two fingers inside of you and rubbing the upper wall of your vagina just inside the opening (the G Spot).
I think he's just afraid of looking incompetent more than anything else. Believe me, the first time he gets you off orally he will feel like a champ and want to do it all the time. I actually personally prefer going down on a woman than having her go down on me. The vagina is a beautiful thing.
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Will i cu nyself while shaving my vagina? (link)
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Use a brand new razor and some pre-shave cream and it's pretty unlikely. You might get some skin irritation or little red bumps, depending on how sensitive your skin is. The bumps go away, though.
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