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My boyfriend has never gone down on me, what can i do?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost four years, I am 18 and he is 22. We were each others first, and we started having sex around 6 months, we did it at the park, in this secret hidden area since we couldn't do it at each others home's or anything well anyway I think a girl going down on him was always his fantasy so the second day we tried sex he made me go down on him and I gagged a lot but he loved it and then I tried him going down on me but he would go down and then up and stare at it and he had this face of like confusion and kind of disgust I'm clean shaven and I have good hygiene and since then I never brought it up since I thought he was disgusted by it but recently this year I started feeling it was so selfish because I go down on him at least two times a day I just feel like its so selfish because he gets the pleasure out of it and I get nothing, that's his favorite thing to do always he doesn't go a day without it and its been four years and I started bringing it up this year and he's like "oh I will" and "okay babe I will" and one day he tried it and he stopped like after three seconds and I was asking him if I was nasty or what? and he said he didn't know what to do and felt like he didn't know what he was doing.and I dk what to tell him to do because I've never had that done to me. I don't understand how HE can't know because he watches p*rn a lot and I know in the p*rn videos the guys who down and them zoom in and crap :( (porn is disgusting to me I gag when watching it so I don't know wanna watch it) and I really want him to do that because the face he makes and the pleasure he gets when I do it to him I want to feel that too and my friends say its the most pleasurable thing ever and I can only imagine cause once he kisses me in that area even on my legs I feel so amazing and I just wish he would go down on me, its my fantasy too:( what can I do? or how can I persuade him or do I have no hope?
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The greatest thing about sex is learning about your partners likes and dislikes. Communication is key to everything in life including sex.
You need to tell your bf you feel left out with his not wanting to go down on you, for whatever his reason is. Tell him how it feels when he kisses your leg and how you would love it if he continued all the way up to the center of your being.
Tell him you are willing to learn more about what he would like in bed if he is willing to show and teach you; as you are to show and teach him. I believe if you are both open in you communication with each other you will have a better sex life.
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Show him where your clitoris is. Then tell him to lick it and suck it (gently) while putting two fingers inside of you and rubbing the upper wall of your vagina just inside the opening (the G Spot).
I think he's just afraid of looking incompetent more than anything else. Believe me, the first time he gets you off orally he will feel like a champ and want to do it all the time. I actually personally prefer going down on a woman than having her go down on me. The vagina is a beautiful thing.
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I concur. this dude needs to get over his fear of screwing up and dive in. personally, I think the dude's a tool for not doing it. I'm of the opposite opinion to him, I love going down on girls. but like every other guy, I had to start somewhere, so I just moved my tongue in every configuration and pattern and had my girlfriend tell me what she liked. the only time trial-and-error doesn't work is with hand grenades.
-Gunner
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Yeah I would say he's a selfish pig. He's getting all the fun without putting any effort into pleasing you. There is no reason why he can't practice on you twice a day. Tell him he can practice on you for 5 minutes before he gets serviced. Let him start off slow and tell him to finger you while he's licking on you. I don't have much time right now, but please feel free to ask me anything. I hope this helps and good luck.
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