Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Ok so I know I have asked before but I am freaking so I am going to ask again. My boyfriend and I have dry humped but fully clothed. (Him: boxers, cacies(sp)Me:Pad,Underwear, jeans or korderoy pants.)Well my period hasn't come but it should be anyday now.(I think I am having light cramps but not sure) I am a bit late. I have never had intercourse. Is there anyway that I might be pregnant if he has gotten a quater sized wet spot on on his pants but he never like...ejaculated?
Help..
~ELI (link)
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No. There is absoulutely NO WAY you could have gotten pregnant. So relax!
The sperm needs to enter right into the vagina, and cannot pass through all the clothing you were both wearing.
Your probably just irregular. Nothing unusual for teens. Changes in your body and hormones can easily throw off your schedule.
But if your planning on having sex, please, use protection. Don't get a scare like this again.
-DearAbby92
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Latelyy, ive felt really like... sadd. Like i feel like i just want to cry or something. But reallyy, there is no reason. Ive been havin a really good weekend and have had a lottt of funn, theres nothing wrong.. I seem to get this way a lott, like theres periods i just feel really sad for no given reason, I was diagnosed with mild to medium depression, but i thought i got past that. This summer was rough, the one person i look up to, my dad, i actually saw him wackin off to another women over the comp and we lost our whole relationship throughout the wholee summmerr.. didnt talk or look at each other, and i was scared of him.and everynight i would remind myself of my dad cheatin on my mom, and i was the only one who knew but i couldnt say anything or they would get a divorce that would be even more hard. My best friend who is older than me, was extreme suicidal, i delt with calls every other day of him sayin I OD'd and im gonna die i love you.. me and this kid spent day and night together the whole summer. At the beginging of the year i started high school, lost alll of my best friends because of this girl who turned them against me... My neighbor died, we were so close.. i lost my first boyfriend i was actually in love with. My best friend talked to a FAKE guy over long distance relationship.. come to find its a girl we know that is one of our friends cousins, she went out with him for 9 monthss! We got calls every now and then sayin he killed himself, we were really close... then we realized that he was fake...
Ive been better, ive gotten myfriends back,my dads relationship with me has been better, hes stopped--atleast i think. We never talked to that fake person again.. my friends still suicidal, but much better... im over that guy, found another not together but talkingg. My neighbor is gone, and yess i miss her. but Things have gotten better and as of 2007 startin ive decided to put it behind me.. But theres this moments when i flash back, remember all that shit.. whenever i get like thiss.. and it makes me sooo anxious and scared..
I cried myself to sleep everynight of 2006 almost.. sounds weird but i just cant cry anymore, i just feel really sad sometimess, and it puts me down.
any clue or advice to whats going on, im sick of feeling this way (link)
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Im so sorry for your losses. I am also happy this is a better year for you, but obviously, you cannot just move right past these issues and struggles you have been through. It seems as if you have physcially delt with these problems, but not mentally. These things are still in your head, still paining you.
How to get over it? It's not an easy thing. There is no sure way to deal with it. But talking about it always helps. Confront the people that caused you pain, and just talk through it. Tell them exactly how you felt, and that you just have to get this off your chest. Let it go.
Write in a journal. If you can't talk to these people, like the friend you lost, you can pretend to. Have conversations and say exactly what you want too. Write down how you feel, how you felt, and what you want and don't want. If it's in your head, put it on paper.
Talk to a professional. A guidance counselor, a therapist, even a trusted teacher. An un-biased person is always easiest to talk to. Someone who is trained to help you.
Maybe you've fallen back into depression. Relaspes aren't uncommon. Check with your doctor. Get the help that you need. This is the time to take care of yourself, honey. Don't let other people's troubles harm you.
I wish you all the best, and if you ever need to talk, drop me an email. I am ALWAYS here for you.
-DearAbby92
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so i was getting fingered by this guy and after he's like "your pussy's so wet"...that's good right? (link)
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Yes, it's good lol. It means you've "cummed" kind off, and the more your enjoying sexual contact the "wetter" you will become.
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Ok I just learned that Saying "Oh My God" is like really disrespectful to the bible but the problem is I cant exactly stop saying it. Today I was talking on the bus for like 10 minutes and my friend was like "You just said oh my god 17 times" I was shocked. I say it all the time. How do you break a habit like that?? (link)
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Substitue it with a new saying. "Oh my gosh" maybe. Or "Oh crumb." There are lots of funny sayings you can use.
Have a word jar. Everytime you say that bad phrase, put a certain amount of money in and have a trustworthy friend (who wont take your cash and go shopping) to keep it so you cant get into it. After you've gone a month without saying the word, take the money and put it towards a nice reward like a mani or a pedi.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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I am 20/male in college. In one of my classes there is a girl that I like that sits across the room. Every once and awhile we will make eye contact for a few seconds but neither of us really smile. So how can I tell if she's interested or not? And how can I approach her if we sit on opposite sides of the room? I think we are both really shy and might just be in some sort of standoff or something. (link)
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You'll never know unless you ask!
Next time your eyes connect, smile! If she smiles back, a real genuine smile and not a forced one in politeness, she might just be attracted to you.
If so, wait for her after class (when she is away from her friends) and strike up a conversation. If that goes well, ask her out for coffee and maybe to review notes. Get a cell phone number, and your in!
Or if you'd like to know a little more about her first, ask around or do a search and see if she has a myspace or facebook. Pretty much everyone does, and its a good way to get some background information.
But be sure she doesn't have a boyfriend or anything, first :)
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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My husband and I are trying to have children, but I hate the smell of my vagina after he ejaculates in me. I know I can't douche or anything because there is supposed to be SOME bacteria there, but what can I do to eliminate the smell? We were both virgins prior to getting married so neither of us have an STD. (link)
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There are many different reasons for this odor, but the only way you can know for sure why and how to get rid of it is to see your Gynecologist. And I don't believe douching will harm you at all or get rid of all the bacteria.
Good luck and I hope you are able to bring healthy children into the world!
-DearAbby92
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How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone? (link)
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Jealousy is the green monster no one likes.
If your with a guy, you have to be confident that the guy likes YOU and you only. He wouldn't be putting effort into a relationship with you if he did not. Just remember, he chose you, not some other girl.
If it really bothers you, calmly talk to your boyfriend. Make it clear your not over obsessive, just worried and a little hurt. He'll assure you that he's yours and no one else's.
But don't blame it on him or become to tempered, because that hurts many relationships.
Learn to trust your guy and harbor your inhibitions. Writing in journals and listening to music is a good way to vent, or sometimes just screaming into a pillow relieves anger.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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okay so my boyfriend is coming over next weekend
and were gonna be in my room.. alone
any fun stuff we can do.. like not sex though
because im not ready to go that far yet
were gonna like watch a movie and stuff
but whats some stuff that guys like you to do?
like were probably gonna end up like on my bed or something (link)
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It all depends on your age and maturity.
You sound relatively young, so there is some negatives.
-All parent's are protective, and yours might be just outside the door listening.
-Rushing into something is never a good thing. Start slow and move with what your comfortable with, and he is comfortable with.
-You'll find that snuggling is just as amazing or even better than "activities" you could do together.
-Bad reps. If you go a little to far, you might be branded as the school slut. That is never good.
Whatever you do, follow your heart. If it's meant to be, things will come naturally.
-DearAbby92
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ok 18/m
shes 17
going out 4 months
then she tells me she loves her x
we break up
2 days later she comes back cryin sayin she made a mistake blah blah blah
wants me back blah blah blah
doesnt want him or ne1 else blah blah blah
i ask her if she has even kissed any1 else. she says no
i say ok
we get back together
Then i find out through trusty lil myspace that in those 2 days she fucked a 20 year old and lied about it.
Confronted her. She admited it. Shes crying over it. Shes givin me all the "im so disgusted in myself, i hate myself for it blah blah blah"
i cant take this pain anymore, every time i look at her i break down cuz i picture her and him.
But i also cant walk away from her. I love her.
And i also cant go on a break with her, becuase im to afraid of what she will do if shes not with me cuz i cant trust her whatsoever anymore. HELP (link)
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First off, I want to say I understand you. Not to your full extent, but I know what it feels like to be lied and fooled by someone you love most.
It's crushing.
You should not have to endure this girl's roller coaster of ups and downs, but love is holding you back.
But she's young, immature, and doesnt know what she wants in life just yet.
Theres only one way to confront this problem, and thats head on. You and your girl need to sit down and talk, and both of you must truly listen to each other. No distractions, no beating around the bush, just honesty.
Tell her the pain you feel, and the love you feel. Tell her you can't trust her, but cant bear to lose her. Tell her EXACTLY how much you love her. If she really sees how truly devoted you are to her, of course she'll want to be faithful if she is really in love with you.
Make it clear the only way you will work is if she is honest and devoted, and that you wont take her lies or her playing with your heart any longer.
But if shes just holding to you to have a back up guy and is not commited to you fully, she is not worth any of your heart.
Tell her to be honest and speak from her heart, because it is the only way you two can move forward.
This is something to make or break you two. Either you are fully commited to love each other and are both completely honest, or nothing. That is the only way your heart can heal.
There is nothing love cannot overcome. So remember these words.
Forgiveness-Commitment-Renew-Honesty-Devotion-Truth and Complete Love
If your relationship cannot have all of that, than it isn't worth it.
I really hope that helped.
Best of luck to the both of you,
-DearAbby92
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17/female:
I'm having a confusing problem...
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months (1 year in March). And for a while now I've been kinds thinking like where is our relationship going? Things aren't the same as they were in the beginning and I feel like i'm getting "bored".
I was rushed into the relationship because he fell for me straight away, so I guess I kinda went along with it and then grew to like him later on and hence why we stayed together.
Anyways I went away on holiday with my college to barcelona for a week, and Me and my friend were hanging out with these cool and REALLY good looking guys (that came with us but we haven't really spoken to before because we were new). She told me that she thinks one of them liked me but I thought she was just making things up and I just brushed it off thinking that he was only being friendly.
However when I came back from the trip, I get a text from him saying that he likes me and wants to go out with me. I told him I have a boyfriend and he's still interested.
The problem is that I really like him and I think that he's SOOOOOOO good looking and has a nice personality (really caring etc..). And i'm already going off my boyfriend so what should I do?
Should I dump my boyfriend and see what happens with this guy or what? Because even if I do dump my boyfriend I wouldn't just be doing it to go out with this guy.
Please help, sorry its so long! (link)
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Love can be so confusing, cant it?
This is something you REALLY have to think through, and my advice won't solve your problem, but I hope it will help guide you.
You have to really think about this. Do you LOVE your boyfriend? Really, love him? When you think about him does your heart flip or your stomach flutter? Do you get a warm feeling? Or do you just feel friendship?
But you can't base anything on this new guy either. You say your bored, so your heart is seeking out excitement, not nessacarily a new partner.
Could you imagine life without your boyfriend? Do you feel special in his arms?
If your just bored, there are many ways you can add excitement to your relationship. Don't throw away something you've invested in for a year just because your bored.
Talk to your boyfriend before making rash decisions. Does he feel the same way? Than it sounds like you both could use a break. Taking time apart could show you that it was good to break up, or that you truly love each other.
So really, listen to your heart. Dont hold on just to hold on. But don't let go just for an aqquaintance and because your kind of bored.
Hope that helped.
Best wishes
-DearAbby92
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I ahve never used a tampon and im 15 1/2 and i dont know when i ever will.. I play varsity basketball and its hard but i deal with it...
Does that mean im really "tight" and that fingering would probably hurt more because i havent used tampons yet?
Thanks. (link)
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For me and my friends, putting a tampon in was a struggle at first.
But once you get the hang of it, its really simple.
I found the easy way to insert a tampon is by lying down so you are relaxed and finding the correct spot for the tampon to go in with your fingers. Than lead the tampon into that area until the applicater is fully in and your fingers are just outside the vaginal opening. Than push the rest of the tampon in with the applicator wand until it is fully in and the wand tip is also just outside or slightly in the opening. Than remove it, and you should be good! You might have to push the tampon in further, but other than that, you've done it right as long as the string is hanging out of the vagina. Get up, move around, and feel the freedom it gives you. You shouldn't feel it at all, actually!
Removing can be difficult too. When the blood has leaked onto the string, its time to remove the tampon. One common mistake is pulling the string down instead of outward, which doesnt help. So relax, dont get tensed up, and pull the string outward. If it doesnt slowly slide out, and seems stuck, don't worry, it might not be fully absorbed and not ready to come out. But do not leave a tampon in for more than 6 hours, you run the risk of contracting TSS. (I find you can last a lot longer, but I wouldn't push this rule for the safety and health of yourself)
Though there is a 89% chance you are just having difficulty, 2% of women can not physcially wear a tampon. Problems could be genetic, or because of your hymen or many other things. Practice truly makes perfect. If you find a tampon impossible, check with your doctor. What the doctor says is the best advice and the one that should be followed (no matter how right I think I am sometimes :)
And thats it! Really, it's much simpler than it sounds.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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13/f
are there any ways to speed up your period or something so it doesn't last as long? or any ways that will make it less painful? i'd like to be able to go to my school dance this friday but i can't dance if i have cramps [which i usually get] & feel wet. thanks for any advice. (link)
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There's no one or anything that can speed your period up aside from mother nature, and she gives no one special treatment.
Some birth control pills make it possible to skip periods and make them shorter, but deffinitely wouldnt take effect by this Friday.
But, you can make your period much less painless and less of a hassle than it has to be.
Do you use tampons? If not, I suggest you do. Pad's feel like diapers and are a constant reminder that you are menstrating. You don't even feel a tampon if inserted correctly, and you can totally forget the "joy" of being a woman for a couple hours.
As for cramps, you can take Advil or Tylenol to help cramps, but for other PMS symptoms medication such as Midol or Pamprin might be better. All work well from what I've heard.
For your dance, you might want to wear a tampon and a panty liner for extra protection. Remember to bring plenty of extra's with you, and bring PMS relief pills along as well.
Don't let this ruin your big night. Be happy you have your period, it's a sure sign that you are healthy and maturing properly. It helps me to think of my favorite female singers and dancers, knowing they have to get on stage in front of a ton of people with there periods. They manage, so why can't I?
I hope that helped, and I hope you have a great time at your dance.
-DearAbby92
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I am 5 ft tall, weigh: 115lbs, 29 yrs old. My body is SO unproportioned!! I am very thin around my arms, neck, chest and stomach area, but have LOTS of FAT on my legs!!!! It drives me NUTS! If you were to look at just the bottom half of me, I swear you would think I am overweight!!! Can someone please tell me if there is anything I can do to lose fat ONLY on my LEGS???? (link)
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Different people's bodies store fat in different areas. Obviously most of your fat is stored in your legs. But this can be helped!
Go to the gym. There are tons of classes (like step classes or cycling) and machines (like my favorite, an eliptical) that focus solely on your legs. There are usually trainers there too, and you can ask them for help if needed.
Eating correctly is also a key part. How are your eating habits? If they aren't the best, trade in junk food for some vegtables or fruit. Use the food pyramid to your advantage. I find that weight watchers food is pretty good, and I perfer it to the normal junk food.
Running is really the best excercise you can get (even though I really hate it) so see if you can walk to work instead of driving.
A little hard work and a few changes in your daily life can really add up to a better you.
Good luck,
-DearAbby92
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Okay, well Im 16. I'm 5'6 and 130lbs. The doctor tells me my weight should be 140 for my height and that Im actually underweight, but at the same time, all my weights concentrated in my stomach, hips, and thighs, so I think I'm on the chunky side. Anyways, I just recently started going to aerobics class and trying to eat healthy. I want to lose 10 pounds, like within 2 weeks if possible. Does anyone have any suggestions. [starvation and pills and puking aren't something Im interested in]. I want to lose weight and keep it off. Thankss (link)
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I think your going at this the wrong way.
From your description, you don't sound overweight at all. Your tall, and 130 isnt a huge weight.
Look in the mirror. Really look. Do you REALLY look chubby?
If your doctor says you aren't, than you probably aren't.
Maybe your just self concious. Before making any rash decisions that can harm you, ask a friend. Tell her to honestly tell you if she thinks you are overweight. If she says no, than maybe you should talk to somebody about your body image. Like a guidance conselor, or a parent, or someone who can help you.
There is absoulutely nothing wrong with asking for help.
But after that, if you still think you need to lose weight, maybe you can take a different approach. Gain muscle where fat is. Joining a class was a good move on your part.
Your two week limit though was not. Weightloss is not a fast process, and trying to rush it can just harm you. Don't push yourself to far.
No matter what weight you are, you must learn to love your body. This is imperative no matter what. You can never be really happy, no matter what size you are, if you don't love yourself. So don't stress over imperfections. Encourage yourself to do better. Discover your talents, and focus on that. Just appreciate your body and take care of it.
That's it for my long and boring answer :)
Good luck,
-DearAbby92
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I liked this guy for four years in high school and it was really complicated becasue he liked me in the eighth grade and I hated him then because he would tease me but beginning of high school, I started liking him. Just before grad we started talking at parties and conversing but it was all cut short when we both graduated.
In high school, my crush was really intense. My other friends went through crushes but I always seemed to have this weird bond with him and I couldn't move on.
After high school, I put my little girl crush aside since there was no chance of us seeing each other again because I don't know any of his friends and even though I still liked him, I tried my best to get over him and I thought I was over him.
Two saturdays ago, at three in the morning, I was dropping a few friends off and I saw his car leave the street and I followed him (I think we live around the same side of town). My heart started beating so fast and I honestly started shaking. I passed him because he wasn't going fast enough and I wanted so badly for him to see me. Eventually, he ended up in front of me again and I followed him until he turned into another street then I moved on.
I can't stop thinking about him just because I saw his car and back of his head in his side window. Now I don't know what to do. I'm totally crushing on him again, daydreams and all. I thought I was over him, I saw him once in September and I was a little freaked but it was still early. I don't know what it is about this guy, I've been meeting so many boys since I've graduated and none of them have this impact on me. I just can't stop thinking about him and I've tried soooo hard to get over him but I feel like crying. It isn't fair, I'm just trying to move on with my life and he shows up out of nowhere and leaves me in pieces. I'm such a wreck. What do I do? (link)
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It doesn't sound like you have a crush. It sounds like you are seriously head over heels in love.
There's obviously no more getting over him. If it's been that long since you've seen him, something in your heart is obviously holding onto him.
So what can you do?
Go find him!
It shouldn't be that hard, with the internet, old friends and family, and a good phone book, finding a person can be a piece of cake.
Find this guy, and make it perfectly clear how you feel. (don't scare him by yelling "I'VE ALWAYS LOVED YOU!" though) Ask him to go out on a date with you. Do something! You can't afford to beat around the bush when you could lose him.
You won't feel any better til you do this.
And if he doesnt feel the same way about you, you can atleast know you followed your heart. And now you can calm down, and truly get over your crush.
But if it does work out....
It's like a fairy tale!
A believer of superstition and believing in things you don't nessacarily see, it sounds like you two were meant to be, so really you just have to go for it. No inhibitions, no worries.
Good luck and please let me know how it turns out,
-DearAbby92
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so the problem is that I AM A GIRL and i hate other girls. i can't stand them. i think their so weird and discusting. and i am a girl myself. and i only have guy friends. and i only like guys.
seriously i think guys are the only normal creatures in this world. and it makes me so angry hearing girls talking about girl stuff. it's just SO anoying. and when they scream cause they are so excited over something. it always makes me pissed. and seriously i am obsessed with guys. i dress like a guy , i act like a guy a lot , and i only have guy friends , and i am so crazy about guys haha
and i don't get myself.
is this behavior normal? or am i a weird person? (link)
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Your a TomBoy!
I would say you were perfectly normal, but there is no such thing as normal when it comes to teenagers. But there is nothing WRONG with you. There is nothing wrong about the other girls either.
Most older girl's have been through it. Getting excited over little things, shrieking at the top of your lungs, wearing tons of pink, and smearing on lip gloss. It's a normal stage. Maybe you've skipped this stage, and have matured a little earlier than the other girl's. Whatever the reason is, there isn't anything wrong.
I have a lot of good guy friend's too, and they are really cool.
But it's important to find a balance between the two sexes. Even guy's have some 'girlness' in them. So don't totally reject the other girls already. Maybe try to understand them a little bit, and see if they will make the effort to understand you.
This phase will pass and quicker than you think. Teenagers grow at an alarming rate, and these girls might even get through this stage in a month or two (but on to another lovely stage)
So don't sweat it.
If your happy with your life right now, than there is nothing wrong with you.
Lots of Love,
-DearAbby92
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Like ive never made out with anyone, but i have a feeling or something i might soon at the movies.
Can someone explain to me how to
.. how to start
what to do
and how to end
like im not sure
and please dont just tell me to follow the other persons lead.
thank you
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Making out. Scary stuff!
But it's really not that hard. It should come naturally to you if your really into it.
I don't recommend doing it in the movie theatre though. Sticky floors, rude staff, and the not so lovely atmosphere isn't very romantic. Also, there is more of a chance you'll miss the person's lips in the dark.
But if you are set on it:
-Fresh breath is a MUST!
Popcorn breath? Yuck. Don't eat to much of it, and pop a few mints while you can.
-Hair tends to get a bit messy if you two get well, really into it. Best option is a chic pony tail.
-Sit in the back. Don't be noticed. Nothing is more embarrasing than getting caught by an employee.
-Lip gloss. Get's preeeety messy, so don't pick a majorly sticky one. Get a easy sliding one with a fun flavor, that both you and your guy will like. Vanilla's been a wide known favorite.
Now your ready to make out.
Start simple. Light kissing, than slowly but steadily moving forward if your partner responds. Press your lips agaisnt his and move in and out lightly, and even suck his lips a little if your daring. Once it gets deeper, add some tongue! Many guy's ask for permission to "french" you by licking your lips. If so, part your lips slightly so his tongue can enter. Move your tongue slowly and gently in and out and around his mouth. Even slide yours agaisnt his. Remember, breath in between all this! If you want to get a little wild, nibble on his lip. This is kind of dangerous though, because biting to hard isnt fun.
Things really should go naturally, so don't worry to much. And if they don't, maybe there isnt a connection between you two. Or maybe you need practice. All can be fixed!
But don't get pressured into anything you don't want to do. If you aren't ready to make out, than dont. Nothing is worse than regretting doing something to soon. Saving your first kiss for something special is a great memory to have for your whole life, so don't risk that just because your friends are all doing it first, etc.
Ending is easy. Once you both feel like you've had enough, just slow down and go back to the begining. Simple light kissing. Pull back slowly, open your eyes, and give him a look that will knock him off his feet.
Remember: Slow and seneous. Fast pecking like a jack hammer is a BIG turnoff.
If your really nervous, try practicing. It might sound geeky, but grabbing a pillow and puckering up can really help.
The guy might just be as nervous as you are, so don't worry about being perfect. Be you.
Whatever happens, relax and enjoy it!
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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i recently got into a modeling agency and i was sooo excited! i was really afraid that i would be in a group wiht gorgeous girls & that they would really intimidate me.. but then wehn i went to my first class the girls i saw were like, relaly not that pretty. in fact they were uglier than most of my friends, who were all either average lookng or prettty. sorry if this sounds REALLY shallow, but why the heck would the modeling agency choose ugly people (this is john roberts & barbizon people!) ..i mean some of them weren't even UNIQuE looking!? sooo then i didn't feel that special for getting into the program b/c ugly people got in too..but whyy do they choose those kind of people? (link)
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Not to be a downer, but this modeling agency isnt very exclusive. I saw a ad for it on this page, actually.
It's like where in the mall somebody comes up to you and says you can be a model, and you end up paying a ton of money for headshots and such, and really your the one who got ripped off.
and take a look at runway models. a lot of them, are not ideally attractive to most people. But models are meant to showcase what they are wearing, not be godesses. cept the Victoria's Secret models, whom I envy deeply hehehe.
Anyway, many many many models are chosen for their personality and not just their looks, because how they walk and talk always shines through, even in their pictures.
So don't worry about those other girls, and try your best as a model. As cliche as it sounds, beauty is skin deep. So smile, let your personality shine, and never give up on your dreams.
-DearAbby92
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I wanna know if my crush likes me for sure this time. ok this is what he does. he stares at me all the time and when he does it looks like his eyes are bigger and he always hold the stare between us. then he always asks me whats up and he'll ask me questions he already knows and talks to me like everyday. he fids excuses to be by me or talk to me. he flirts with me sometimes. he'll tease me every once in a while. and he gets louder when im near him. also i dont know if this means anything but he'll talk to me all the time but when hes with his friends he gets like all nervous like this one time my friend anf i were walking down the stairs and Evan was walking up the stairs with his friend Ben and as we passed eachother i taped him and said,"c-ya" and he went in a quite shy voice,"c-ya" he always gets nervous when me and him are around his friends. he talkds to me rarely infront of them. so what do you think. thanks alot!! also my friend told me that these guys at school are trying to get him hooked up with this one girl sam. i think its a rumor because they never talk anymore. i think he used to like her but a long time ago. i would watch them and it seemed like it but now they dont talk at all. do you think i should worry about it?? thanks again!!
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Sounds like you've got a crush-ee on your hands!
He shows a couple common symptoms of the "love bug".
But don't get to excited just yet. Boys are confusing, and sometimes have no reasoning for their logic. He might act different to you for MANY other reasons than love. He might just think your a little loony.... but lets not get into that!
So if you want to be positive, ask his closest friends to ask him, or have one of your girlfriends ask him. He might be close-lipped and want to keep it to himself, but alteast try to get some background information.
If you really want to know, talk to him in private. Hint at the feelings between you two, and see if anything comes up.
If your not sucessful, don't give up. Love, even puppy love, needs to be handled carefully and is rarely a fairytale.
Best of luck!
-DearAbby92
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i always feel like my mom likes my sister better. just because shes the perfect A student and nice and quiet and not crazy and hyper and procrastinating and rebellious like i am. i get good grades i dont do drugs i'm a good kid but me and my friends can get really hyper sometimes thats IT. and i tend to argue alot (my mom's genes..) so basically i do some "bad stuff" as a teenager such as talk on the phone too much, stay up late during sleepovers, etc... stuff EVERY teenager does! even including my perfect sister (who btw graduated high school now). and my mom picks on me soo much for all these little things while my sister..she didn't even care b/c my sister got perfect 98's while i get like..93's and procrastinate!??? i can't stand my mom i told her this but she just won't listen to me, what do i do? i'm not going to change myself just to please my mom because come on i'm not some crack addict but i asked my mom and she was like "yeah change". what do i do????? (link)
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I have been in the same boat. My mom would always nag nag nag about my grades, about my habits, and even about every single thing I did sometimes. She would flip over nothing.
But, trust me, she does NOT love your sister any more than you. Thats not how love works, it's easy to make plenty of love to go around and doesn't need to be spread thin.
Have you really listened to what she says? After while, I block what my mother says out and just think I am automatically right. But my mom usually has a point, even if a small one. She just wants the best for you. Im guessing your sister is older. That means she's out of your phase and is hopefully a responsible adult. You really can't compare. Even a year can be a huge difference.
Your mom is just trying to say, she wants you to try harder and do your absoulute best. If you really deep down know you are doing your best, than make that clear to her.
But can you improve? Really, improve? There is ALWAYS room for it. So you are a procrastinator like myself. Work on it. Things will be better for both of you. If you give a little and your mom gives a little, things will be so much easier.
So what you need to do is sit down one on one with your mom. No one else in the room to bother you. Especially not your sister. CALMLY tell her that what she says and does hurts you, and that you WILL try harder. Ask her not to compare you to your sister, because you are both uniquely special. Maybe your sister is the organized one, but maybe your the creative one?
Mothers aren't perfect and they aren't mind readers, so you have to make what you think perfectly clear.
See if you feel better after all that. If you still feel that your mother loves your sister better, why not talk to your school guidance counselor? Just talking it out can be loads of help.
Good luck and lots of love,
-DearAbby92
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