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Not Over Him Yet?
I liked this guy for four years in high school and it was really complicated becasue he liked me in the eighth grade and I hated him then because he would tease me but beginning of high school, I started liking him. Just before grad we started talking at parties and conversing but it was all cut short when we both graduated.
In high school, my crush was really intense. My other friends went through crushes but I always seemed to have this weird bond with him and I couldn't move on.
After high school, I put my little girl crush aside since there was no chance of us seeing each other again because I don't know any of his friends and even though I still liked him, I tried my best to get over him and I thought I was over him.
Two saturdays ago, at three in the morning, I was dropping a few friends off and I saw his car leave the street and I followed him (I think we live around the same side of town). My heart started beating so fast and I honestly started shaking. I passed him because he wasn't going fast enough and I wanted so badly for him to see me. Eventually, he ended up in front of me again and I followed him until he turned into another street then I moved on.
I can't stop thinking about him just because I saw his car and back of his head in his side window. Now I don't know what to do. I'm totally crushing on him again, daydreams and all. I thought I was over him, I saw him once in September and I was a little freaked but it was still early. I don't know what it is about this guy, I've been meeting so many boys since I've graduated and none of them have this impact on me. I just can't stop thinking about him and I've tried soooo hard to get over him but I feel like crying. It isn't fair, I'm just trying to move on with my life and he shows up out of nowhere and leaves me in pieces. I'm such a wreck. What do I do?
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I'm just reiterating what everyone else said:
Tell him. You're out of high school, you're practically considered an adult, and what do you really have to lose? Like you said, you don't see him anymore. If you tell him and he doesn't feel the same way, you won't really see him around, so he won't affect you too much.
I know it's really hard to work up the nerve to do so, but it will be worth it in the end.
Good luck. =P
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aww. This is so sad. I know what your gowing through. I feel the same way. Just so you know your not alone.
I think you aren't crushing anymore. You are truly in love!. And when you're in love you just can't forget about someone so easily(trust me).I think you should follow your heart. Look for him. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he feels the same way. Tell him that you haven't found anyone so great like him. Tell him that you still think about him after all this time. You might never be able to tell him how you feel. Don't put yourslef down. Look for him. If you really love him and want to be with him. Until you don't honestly tell this guy how you feel you won't feel better.
So I think you should try your best leave all your pride behing your shyness..all that bad stuff that's not letting you guys be together. Look fot him tell him how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same way then you will feel better. Becuase you told him how you feel. Anyway would you want to be with someone that doesn't feel the same way about you
I really really truely hope that this works out you sound like you really love him. And in this world we need more people like you becuase I think love is overdue.
Please please let me know how it worked out I really would love to know. Just drop it by my inbox. Hope I helped<3
Xoxo johanny
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i know what you are going through, i had an intense crush on this one guy since 6th grade, i had a feeling that he could've liked me back, but nothing ever came of it. now, i've graduated college, moved out of my home state, married and bought a house, and i am 25 years old, and even to this day i wonder where is he now? what does he look like now? how is his life working out now? not, that i have ever really tried to find him, but i suspect that after this long it would be nearly impossible.
if your heart truely desires to be with him then you can attempt to do something about it. in the area that you last saw him, maybe there is a church nearby, or a store, or resturant nearby. get to know the area that he frequents. take up jogging that area, just frequent that area as much as possible and if you "run" into him by "accident" just pour on the charm... maybe even try to ask him on a nonchalant date... if he thinks that you are stalking him then it could ruin your chances, if you come right out and ask him out, you might be scareing him off (men like to think that they are the 'manly' ones) so don't make it a date just make it a 'get together'.
and if you do all that you can do to run into him again, but it never happens, or maybe you do and he isn't interested then you need to make an atempt to get on with your life.
good luck!
I hope i helped.
you are still young and your crush is still fresh in your mind... i would just let thing
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It doesn't sound like you have a crush. It sounds like you are seriously head over heels in love.
There's obviously no more getting over him. If it's been that long since you've seen him, something in your heart is obviously holding onto him.
So what can you do?
Go find him!
It shouldn't be that hard, with the internet, old friends and family, and a good phone book, finding a person can be a piece of cake.
Find this guy, and make it perfectly clear how you feel. (don't scare him by yelling "I'VE ALWAYS LOVED YOU!" though) Ask him to go out on a date with you. Do something! You can't afford to beat around the bush when you could lose him.
You won't feel any better til you do this.
And if he doesnt feel the same way about you, you can atleast know you followed your heart. And now you can calm down, and truly get over your crush.
But if it does work out....
It's like a fairy tale!
A believer of superstition and believing in things you don't nessacarily see, it sounds like you two were meant to be, so really you just have to go for it. No inhibitions, no worries.
Good luck and please let me know how it turns out,
-DearAbby92
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